The Overfunctioner-Underperformer Dynamic: Doing Too Much and Feeling Like You're Not Enough

This is about the Overfunctioner-Underperformer Dynamic, where one partner consistently carries the majority of the load, while the other partner fails to show up in a way that truly progresses and deepens the relationship.

We’re not blaming the person “doing less” or sympathizing with the person “doing more” — I’m pulling the veil back so you can see the inner workings of what’s happening in this dynamic and I’m giving solutions for what to do about it.

Mentioned videos —

8 models for Self & Relational Development: https://youtu.be/tLHS3kaacgo

SER Model: https://youtu.be/mOwCXoETFxc

👩🏾‍🏫 Conflict in Couples Workshop: https://taylorchandler.as.me/schedule/7f693168/?appointmentTypeIds[]=88471947

👉 Interest form to work with me: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/cpvug08L

💻 Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/

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⏰ Timestamps:

00:00:38 What are Relationship Dynamics?

0:02:37 The Capacity Problem

00:04:28 Three domains of capacity

00:11:24 Solutions for the O-U Dynamic

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