Episode 125: LOTE: Healing Trauma Responses: Practicing Self-Care and Taking it Slow
Episode 125 of the Sober Vibes podcast, it's Livin on the El-Edge week, which means the Elledge sister are chatting about Healing Trauma Responses. Kimberly and Courtney have an open chat about these responses and tips to take care of themselves during and after the response.
You will experience some trauma response in your sobriety and recovery.
What you will learn in this episode:
- Exploring the Process of Coming Out of Fight or Flight
- The Benefits of Rest and Self-Care for High Achievers
- Healing Through Self-Care
- Recognizing Signs of Fight, Flight, Bond, or Freeze Responses
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Episode 125:Healing Trauma Responses: Practicing Self-Care and Taking It Slow
SUMMARY
Courtney and Kimberly are talking about the show within the show, Living on the Edge, and how to maintain a healthy lifestyle. They then start talking about how they slayed Easter the day before, when they saw an elderly man fall out of his chair and hit his head. They were concerned for his well-being, but Courtney asked Kimberly what she wanted her to do, since she was CPR certified. Kimberly reminded her that she could get sued due to the Stranger's Act, which protects any bystander from being held liable if they cause injury while attempting to help someone.
The conversation is about the legal and ethical implications of giving CPR to an unresponsive person. The speaker explains that a nurse manager taught her that in order to protect herself from any legal repercussions, she must ask the person if they consent to her giving them CPR, even if they are not responsive. She then tells a story about a friend who was going through paramedic training and was traumatized by having to perform CPR on a DOA patient. The overall point of the conversation is to advise listeners to ask for consent in order to protect themselves, even if the person is not responsive.
The conversation is about a traumatic experience that occurred when the speaker and her friend were eating out at a restaurant. She talks about how an elderly man had a seizure while they were eating and how people were gathered around him to help. She explains how she didn't want to jump in and help because she wanted to enjoy her meal, but she was glad to hear that he was okay when the ambulance took him away. She then shares a story about when she was working at a restaurant and had to help an elderly woman who had a stroke. In the end, she explains how it is important to ask for help or permission before jumping in to help someone in a medical emergency.
Two friends had a conversation about an experience one of them had at a restaurant. While at the restaurant, their table was next to a woman who was choking on food. The friend had to help her by doing the Heimlich maneuver and then talk to 911. The friend expressed their disgust at how the other men at the table were standing around clicking their pens instead of helping. The conversation then switched to how the two of them had a nice Easter weekend.
TIMESTAMPS
0:00:00 Conversation on Living on the Edge: Episode 125 - Road to Recovery and Sobriety
0:02:39 Conversation on the Necessity of Asking for Consent Before Providing Medical Assistance
0:04:29 Heading: Traumatic Experience of Breaking a Rib and Assisting a Stroke Victim in a Restaurant
0:09:54 Conversation Recap: A 30-Minute Ordeal at a Restaurant on Easter Weekend
0:11:43 Exploring the Process of Coming Out of Fight or Flight
0:13:52 "The Benefits of Rest and Self-Care for High Achievers"
0:17:44 Healing Through Self-Care: A Conversation on Finding Balance in Life
0:20:16 Conversation on Setting Boundaries and Overcoming Trauma
0:22:05 "Navigating Difficult Situations in Sobriety: How to Empower Yourself and Rebuild Trust with Loved Ones"
0:26:58 Conversation on Self-Awareness and Healing in Sobriety
0:29:01 Heading: Coming Out of Survival Mode: A Conversation on Healing and Coping Mechanisms
0:31:23 Conversation on Growth and Patience After Surviving Difficult Times
0:33:36 Heading: Recognizing Signs of Fight, Flight, Bond, or Freeze Responses
0:38:08 Conversation Summary: Self-Care and Performance in Difficult Situations
0:39:47 Conversation on Trauma Response and Self-Care
0:43:11 Conversation on Taking a Pause and Mindfulness
0:44:51 "The Benefits of Mind Exercise and Personal Development for Sobriety"
0:47:19 Subject: Invitation to Join Private Community and Book Club
HIGHLIGHTS
So you can't just think, I quit drinking and five days later, I should feel better. That's not the way your body's going into detox. Your body then goes into pause and yes, pause. It says it can last up to two years. And could that be the case for someone? Yes, absolutely. But then it might not be the case for you, and it might take you six months, and then you're like, okay, fine. But at the end of the day, it's your nervous system readjusting to a new baseline.
Yeah, 70% of people are dehydrated, but that's the importance too. If you are just quit drinking and drugging, you have to understand because so many people think, well, I'm at day five. Why the fuck don't I feel better? You have to understand the damage in consistent years you did with putting that one substance into your body and then not even putting that one substance of your body into your body, but then all the events that happened to you during that time of active use.
If you find yourself being a little more introverted and just there's a phase where you go into a cocoon phase, and it's your brain just, like, letting your body know that it's safe, and when you just kind of more go inward. And if you're feeling like, hey, I don't like when I hear a lot of people throw around the term, like, depression or all these labels, like, no, your body has been traumatized and in shock for so long that when you stop what you're doing, it needs rest.
Yeah. It's just shocking because there hasn't been any for because I was living the same for years, and. Years and years and engaging in relationships that were the same from relationships from childhood. And so it's all been kind of like I was on loop with the same behaviors, different people, same relationships. So it's just like when you're vibrating higher, and you just don't have patience for abuse or negativity or chaos or the bullshit. For me, I've just been just kind of chilling, minding my own business, and I do just fine keeping it moving.
Yeah, but it goes for anybody in the awareness of not over exerting your energy. And that comes in the process of healing. Because no matter if you come out of let's just say you're in sobriety, you're going to go up and down in waves of healing. And it's not even you could be like, okay, year one, I worked on being use. And then in year three, something's going to come up that maybe let's just say you divorce, you have a parent who dies, you lose a job.