Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

Ep. 260 - Why People-Pleasing Wives Struggle After Divorce (and How to Break Free)

My Coach Dawn Season 4

Peace-keeping wives keep everyone happy—except themselves. Divorce forces the silence to break, and that’s when real healing begins.

You’ll Learn

  • The hidden cost of people-pleasing in marriage.
  • Why peace-keeping creates burnout and quiet resentment.
  • How to reclaim your voice and your boundaries after divorce.

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So many women spend years smoothing things over, avoiding conflict, and carrying the weight of everyone else’s comfort. But in divorce, silence doesn’t protect—it suffocates. In this episode, I uncover the silent epidemic of peace-keeping wives, why it feels safer to appease than to speak, and how to finally let your truth breathe. Real recovery isn’t about keeping the peace—it’s about finding your peace.

Breaking free from people-pleasing is essential to post-divorce healing.

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Hi love. Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave and build back your confidence. I'm your host, dawn Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer and divorcee. Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce. I'm starting to understand.

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Maybe it wasn't just him and I don't mean I was awful or anything, but I think I might've been toxic in my own way, not the screaming or cheating kind, but in a way where I sort of disappeared. I kept quiet, I went along with things. I told myself I was being easygoing for a lot of years, and now I'm not so sure. Maybe I was abandoning myself and calling it love, maybe I thought being needed was the same as being loved. And now, all these years later, I'm only just now connecting the dots.

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In today's episode, we are going to witness the woman who wrote this, who has been married for a very long time and has lost an identity and an understanding of where she fits anymore in our society, who values youth and beauty and virility over and loyalty and abiding. We're going to talk about the kind of grief that goes so far beyond the loss of a marriage or a role, but around an identity what happens when we divorced ourselves from ourselves before we got divorced? You can access the full episode by becoming a premium subscriber, which is just $5 a month. Scroll down to the show notes and click the link where you'll get your very own individualized RSS feed for your podcast app. Dear Divorce Diary is a podcast by MyCoachDawn. You can find more at MyCoachDawncom.

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