279. Single in a Couple’s World: Healing the Lonely, Left-Out Feeling After Divorce

Have you ever noticed the world is built for couples?
 Dinner for two, “plus-one” invites, family discounts — even the way people glance at you when you’re alone after divorce. It can feel like every billboard is whispering: you don’t belong.

In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, Dawn, Coach Tiffini, and Producer Joy get brutally honest about what it means to be single in a couple’s world. They unpack:

💔 Why loneliness after divorce isn’t weakness — it’s your nervous system’s signal for connection.
 🧠 How your attachment style (anxious, avoidant, or disorganized) shows up when you’re alone.
 💸 The “silent tax” of singleness — and how to shift from scarcity to self-trust and abundance.
 💡 Why healing your attachment style requires more than talk therapy — and how tools like EFT, IFS, and homeopathy can rewire safety from the inside out.

Plus, in this week’s premium episode, the ladies guide you through a custom EFT tapping sequence for loneliness — a real-time way to calm your body, feel safe again, and start reprogramming attachment patterns.

If you’ve ever felt invisible, resentful, or just plain tired of a world made for pairs, this one’s for you.

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

Chapters

• 1:35 The World Built For Couples
• 2:05 Show Intro And Promise Of Tools
• 2:38 Attachment Styles Behind Single-Life Pain
• 5:07 Hosts Reconnect And Set The Tone
• 5:54 Anxious And Disorganized Coping After Divorce
• 8:33 Social Micro-Rejections And Loyalty Tangles
• 10:39 Identity Shocks And Not Feeling Whole
• 12:19 Don’t Date Until Attachment Starts Healing
• 13:59 Financial Fallout And The Silent Single Tax
• 13:59 Fear Of Repeating Relationship Patterns
• 15:08 From Scarcity To Creative Earning
• 18:10 Grind, Rest, And Refusing Breadcrumbs
• 20:10 Myth Of Happier Couples And Companionship Cravings
• 22:53 What Loneliness Is Asking You To Do
• 24:24 EFT, IFS, And Nervous System Rewiring
• 26:15 DIY Healing: Tapping, Meditation, Homeopathy
• 29:50 Premium Tapping Session And Workshops
• 31:53 Closing And Where To Find Us

Transcript

SPEAKER_03: 1:35

Have you ever noticed the world is built for couples? Dinner for two, plus one invites, family packages, and even the way people look at you when you're alone. After divorce, it's like every billboard and social feed seems to be whispering, you don't belong. If you've ever felt invisible, resentful, or just plain tired of a world made for pairs, this episode is for you. Hi, love. Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and build back your confidence. I'm your host, Don Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer, and divorcee. Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce. We have a jam packed up for you today. We're gonna talk about how being single in a couples world doesn't just sting in the moment in that post-divorce, you know, pre-recoupled season. It's it's actually pulling on all the old attachment echoes that your body still remembers. So whether you have an anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment style, like that is part of what this single in a couples world thing is. We're gonna unpack that. We're also gonna look at the financial fallout of being single. Why does it seem like couples get a discount on life while singles pay full price? And what does that silent tax do to your sense of worth? And then towards the end of the episode, we are gonna look at loneliness as a single, as a nervous system signal, because there's something here that is very clearly your nervous system calling for you to take a specific action. Loneliness is your nervous system's compass, pointing you towards developing a kind of connection where you can finally exhale and feel safe as a single person. So you're definitely one gonna want to hear through to the end where we talk about some of our favorite ways to understand your nervous system's compass and fill its need. Ladies, good morning. I feel like we have been on recording hiatus, and now here we are together, and it feels so nice. How are you this morning?

SPEAKER_01: 3:56

It's sweater weather, and I'm so excited. It is freezing here, and I'm in this big delicious sweater, and I'm very happy about that.

SPEAKER_02: 4:05

Listen, my soul shines in this weather. Like I can breathe deep, like I'm made for cold weather, so I'm I'm here for it. And I'm super excited to be here. It's been, I do feel like it's been a hot minute since we have been recorded, recording.

SPEAKER_03: 4:22

Yay! We are coming in with fresh energy. We have launched our recent cohort, the destiny cohort of a different D-word, and so we've got our women rolling, and we've been behind the scenes cooking up some stuff for the podcast, our premium subscribers, all kinds of good stuff, right? So, but now we are back with fresh content. So let's dig into being single in a freaking couple's world, and specifically through the lens of our attachment style, right? So for me as a primarily anxious attacher, I can also, I really was disorganized, right? But I think as a single person, what stood out was anxious attachment. It was so hard for me to be single, like so hard. And um I would very often, I would like leave lights on all the time in the house. So it felt like I was coming home to like a lit house. I would buy myself flowers, I would sleep with my dog, I would, you know, I I think, you know, while I advocate for group therapy and Al-Anon and all those things, I would guess that I filled my life up with all of these healing modalities with all these other people who were healing, so I never had to feel alone. I could always go to a meeting or call someone or pop over to somebody's house. That was just sort of the understanding, right? And so I think all of that was probably my attachment style and coping with being single in a couple's world and just like surrounding myself with other people that were also single and in pain and you know, wanted to be with me as much as I wanted to be with them. So, what about y'all? What are your what are your observations, right, of the women we work with, of your own lived experiences, of this how attachment style shows up when we're single and sort of confronted with couples everywhere?

SPEAKER_01: 6:13

I struggled being alone for a long time in the very beginning. Um, anytime that my daughter was going to her dad's for the weekend and I had all this space to fill, if I didn't have plans from the time I dropped her off till the time I picked her up, I would get extremely anxious. And so I had entourages of friends, um, you know, guys that I would hook up with, like whatever the case may be, like anything to fill the time. Because sitting alone to me just felt extremely scary. But then that disorganized part came in, and so I wanted everything, but then it was almost like when the time would come to start getting ready, I had this resistance around being around people. And I'm just like, well, fuck, now I just want to stay home because like the thought of having a conversation or talking or having to come up with energy to even put makeup on was just like daunting to me at times. So it was this very much push and pull in the first couple of years post-divorce of I need everyone around me versus pushing everyone away.

SPEAKER_02: 7:13

It's like a million micro rejections all the time. It's like it's constant, um, you know, like even in the grocery store where you you shopping for one. Right. You can't buy one chicken breast, like you have to buy one. It's very um constant.

SPEAKER_01: 7:33

Um then I remember like when my couple's friends that I won in the divorce, because let's be honest, like everyone wins and loses friendships, right? So that's the whole thing. But it's like I almost felt like when I got together with those couples' friends and we would go out, I knew the husbands were still in contact with my ex. And so it's like I felt like I had to perform and act like everything was okay, right? Yeah, because if not, he was gonna run back and like tell everything, and it was just so exhausting. So exhausting.

SPEAKER_03: 8:06

Also that desire to win, right? Like, I want to win at this. Like, I can't I can't have you tell him anything negative.

SPEAKER_02: 8:13

Wait, what about there's also there's also let me let me just let me just say this because there's also a level of I don't know if it's for everybody, but like when you still have those friends, to me, it was almost like, but they're choosing him and he did the XYZ, like you're betraying me by being his friend, or the family members that still talk to him, or the we you know, like it was almost like if you if you're kind to him and you're loving to him, regardless, you're not choosing me and you're not being loyal to me.

SPEAKER_01: 8:49

Like so yeah, like that reminds me if anyone out there watches Vanderpump Rules, you know, and like that whole thing with Ariana and Tom, there was an episode where she like flipped out um after he was caught cheating, you know, or whatever, and was basically like, I cannot, I don't want to be around anyone who's friends with him. Like, I can't. So if you're friends with him, you're not friends with me. And it was kind of like, whoa, because I feel like that was like the extreme of it. But yeah, I feel like there is this resentfulness around you knew that this happened in my world and everything blew up, so how can you even stand to be in the same room as him? Type of energy.

SPEAKER_02: 9:26

We have right, we have a lady, and it was there we have a lady in our cohort that was um that is dealing with that, and it they they had a very pleasant amicable divorce. But at what point does that separation start getting fuzzy in terms of like family, the family and the loyalty, right? Because I mean they it it naturally starts happening, but it's it gets icky, it gets icky.

SPEAKER_03: 9:54

Well, have I ever told you ladies? I'm sure I have what my mother said to me when we were finally getting divorced. This just like sums up all of my attachment issues and why I've told the story. Like I was sitting on my sofa in our marital home before we sold it and whatever, going, like, when am I gonna be a person again? Like, because I didn't feel like a person as a single woman, right? I didn't feel whole at all. I didn't feel I felt like my identity was lost, right? Which just tells you like how much work I had to do. But my mom was like, We love you, Dawn, but like we love him more. She actually said that. She actually said that. But like she's the queen of saying really weird stuff like that. And I just like that's that's the thing, right? It's like I've never been enough on my own has been the perception or the takeaway. And so, yeah, being in a relationship was at the time, right, always felt safer to me. So being single in a couple's world, like even the frickin' arc, right? They went on two by two, like none of us would have made it on the arc as single women, you know, unless they included us to be eaten, right? Like we would have been the animals they ate.

SPEAKER_01: 11:07

I would have gone on with a cat. That would have been me. I just would have been carrying a cat with me. And they should have just let me think with my cat. Like, it's fine. We're a couple. This cat's my soulmate, it's fine. This is my soulmate cat.

SPEAKER_03: 11:21

Yeah. So, you know, for all of our listeners who are feeling all the feels and all the resentment and all of the just like this isn't fair, and all of the loneliness and the physical aching, right? Do you guys relate to that? Like the physical aching of being single at night in a house by yourself. Yeah, like this is not just about being single. This is about attachment style. And if you don't know yours and haven't dug into that, and if you don't have a strategy for healing your attachment style, which PS cannot be done in talk therapy. That's not a thing. You cannot recover your attachment style in talk therapy alone. Just know that that is part of the mission right now during this season in life. And we do not recommend over here. Oh, why am I playing bad cop all of a sudden, ladies? We do not recommend dating really much at all until you've really started to shift fundamentally from a subconscious nervous system place to your attachment style because otherwise, you are going to attract subconsciously the same style of partner. I heard this super cool reel recently, which was Gabor Mate guesting on someone's podcast, talking very plainly about we attract partners with the same level of trauma resolution as ourselves. So when we have not put in the work to do trauma resolution in the realm of attachment style, we're just gonna keep repeating the same relationship shit over and over and over again.

SPEAKER_01: 12:48

Yeah. And I think that's the biggest fear among divorced women is ending up divorce number two, three, four. And look, we work with women who have multiple divorces under their belt, and there is a theme. Like, regardless of whether they say, Well, this guy wasn't like this guy, when we dig into it, uh, fuck yeah, he was. And you were the same person that chose him. Yeah, like all the time. He might have been in another type of clothing or hiding behind a college degree or a great job, but very, very similar type of guy.

SPEAKER_03: 13:16

Yeah. Okay. Well, let's stop being Debbie Downers, maybe. Let's talk about the financial fallout. Um, or I'm gonna highlight here the perceived, there is a fallout, right? The financial fallout as being like a single person, right? It's like you take a hit on your taxes, you take a hit on your financial, your vacation planning, you take a hit on your, you know, household management. It's like so intense that that financial fallout. And it feels like as a single woman, there's some sort of silent tax, right? But let's look at how women tend to interpret that sort of financial fear in this season being single and how they tend to loop around there not being enough and fears that they can't create the same abundance or that everything is too expensive. What would you ladies say to women who really, really struggle to believe that they can be financially abundant as single women because it's maybe feels so tight all the time and so stressed all the time. And it really literally is maybe paycheck to paycheck, and you haven't gotten a handle on your money yet, and everything just seems more expensive and you're overwhelmed by it all the time. I know I just said we were gonna stop being Debbie donors, but like let's give them some hope.

SPEAKER_01: 14:32

Yeah, like I would say there's there's always a way out, right? Like when I first separated money was when I tell you that I was making$10 an hour supporting my daughter under very minimal child support.

SPEAKER_03: 14:43

It's a very different time.

SPEAKER_01: 14:44

Oh my God. Like we didn't dollars an hour doesn't cut it today. No, and like we were broke, like we were broke. Um, I had no savings. Like it was a very, very scary time for me. And slowly, slowly I built. I will tell you that I've never been as broke in my life as I was in my marriage. Um, just because of his, yes, because of his irresponsibility around finances. However, there was always a thing, and so I'll tell you, like for me, when I even when I went to buy my first home post-divorce, somebody said, Why are you buying a four-bedroom home? And I said, Well, because I'm gonna rent out two of my bedrooms.

SPEAKER_03: 15:23

And I did an entrepreneurial spirit right there.

SPEAKER_01: 15:26

And I rented out what I had. I was able to pay off my student loans that way, and within a few years, I didn't have to have two roommates. I ended up keeping one roommate with me for 10 years. She was this beautiful woman, she was 70 years old, she traveled more than me. Like she became our surrogate grandma. Um, we cooked for each other, we celebrated holidays together. My point is there is a fucking solution for everything if you start looking beyond your circumstances. The scarcity. Yes, that's right. Like, quit accepting what the world is giving to you. Like, it's gonna drop a million fucking dollars in your lap, ladies. Like that shit's not gonna happen.

SPEAKER_03: 16:01

Well, they might.

SPEAKER_01: 16:03

I've never seen it happen. If you manifest it, that would be great.

SPEAKER_03: 16:05

That's it. But to manifest abundance, you have to believe that it's possible.

SPEAKER_01: 16:10

And I you have to be ready to receive, right?

SPEAKER_03: 16:12

What ready to receive, right? Two things. Number one, you have to stop believing that you're that you're dependent on anyone else other than you and God to generate, right? Everyone else is is playing a part in your in your story, right? So you and God together can co-create anything you need, and you have to be ready to let it in.

SPEAKER_01: 16:36

Yeah. And I think that's the biggest issue is that we're so stuck on I can't, I can't, I'll never have, I won't, I can't do this. You know, and and you know, at some point, like, and I'll talk about this at some point on the pod, but there was a period of time where he lost his ability to pay child support to me. And instead of sitting in a corner and giving up, I worked a full-time job and I cleaned condos on the weekend and I did photography at night. And my child slept in a photography studio for three months straight while I was editing at night. And I would literally work until midnight, 1 a.m. And then we would go home and I would get her up for school at six. I grinded my fucking ass off to be able to provide us a life. And so when women tell me, Oh, it's too hard, I can't, I can't, I'm always broke, I'm always this, it's because you are not willing to step outside of it and you are basically settling for the shit that's being given to you. Like that's your energy. That's your energy.

SPEAKER_02: 17:35

Reach it, Tiffany.

SPEAKER_03: 17:37

Yeah, but there is also this like, um, well, I think you have to work so hard also uh for it because there is a need for us to also listen to our bodies and like to sleep. Yeah, yeah, right. Yeah, and I do think that sometimes it's I think women get really overwhelmed and stuck in that um I need money and I need sleep and I don't know which thing to pick.

SPEAKER_01: 18:05

And I'm not saying it was always easy, I'm not saying that there weren't nights that I didn't collapse behind my bedroom door and have a complete meltdown, or that I was tired, or that I went off on my kid because I didn't get enough sleep the night before, right? Like it was a process, but what I'm saying is if you accept the situation that you are given and you settle, you will never have anything more. If you settle for the breadcrumbs of life, whether it's from shitty men or shitty jobs or whatever it is, you will always stay stuck in that space.

SPEAKER_02: 18:35

It's a whole victim mentality of my life is happening to me and not I am the CEO. I'm making my life mentality. Yeah. Yeah. I know I am friends with this woman whose husband, you know, pieced out. She had two small children, and she started just cooking in her kitchen and selling it under like a little white tent at markets, um, food, uh Thai food and selling it at markets just and now she has this big beautiful food truck and she's killing it, and she's now supporting her family by just something that she inherently loves doing w loves to do. And um when you can take the ball by the ball, the bull by the balls, I think is what it is, you know, and like CEO your own life. It's that's where the magic happens and where you get to have anything you want.

SPEAKER_03: 19:31

But the the thing that's required there is a unremarkable belief in self and a remarkable belief that the universe is gonna have your back. Because all these things require leaps of faith.

SPEAKER_02: 19:43

Reprogramming, right? Like you gotta reprogram that shit. You know, like you gotta do the hard work and you gotta dig in and like why am I stuck in this moment? Because that's not the way that God intended our lives to be. Like, no, but God did not intend you to be small or to be like sharing a cup of right, a cup of soup for your entire family, because that's what you have in your kitchen. Like, that's not the that's that's never the plan.

SPEAKER_03: 20:07

Universe isn't on a budget.

SPEAKER_02: 20:09

No, no, the universe.

SPEAKER_01: 20:13

Yeah. But I think what made me sad too, or just kind of like when I would go out, or things that I want to notice, is like when you go out and you notice all these other couples out for dinner. I'm like, really look at them because nine times out of ten, everybody's on a phone. You know what I'm saying? And so then that started showing me too when I started watching how couples interact. And I'm sorry, like the best place to watch couples' interactions is at Disney World because everybody's fighting. Interesting. Yeah, well, sure. Everybody's fighting. We're tired, we spent a million dollars. And our kids don't care, like they don't appreciate anything, they just want to go back to what's the city. They want to play with a box, yeah, you know. But like my point is then when I started to shift, it made me want to protect that because then I saw all these examples of couples that I did not want to be like at all.

SPEAKER_02: 21:03

Like I want to myth of ones, right? Yes, it is, right?

SPEAKER_01: 21:07

And even when some of these women, like I would challenge you because I do this in our cohort, and then they're like, Oh, when you tell me that you miss the vacations you took with him, you miss all the romance. Do you really really reflect on that for me? Because I think what you're missing is companionship. It's not him, it is companionship that you are missing.

SPEAKER_03: 21:26

It's it's the absence of not having to feel lonely. Yeah. Right? Like, yeah, yeah, but it's not necessarily unique to this particular person you were like smitten with, right? It's just pain relief, right? Because in his absence, there's pain, there's loneliness that has existed probably since you know the beginning of time for you. And so when he's present, it it's like a drug, right? It removes that ache or that pain. And so it's pain relief, not partnership.

SPEAKER_01: 21:53

Mm-hmm. Yeah. And it's like, do you really miss him as a partner, or do you just miss having somebody? And nine times out of ten, when the women dig into it, it's they just miss having somebody there, knowing that their ex would have made the situation ten times more stressful than it needed to be.

SPEAKER_03: 22:12

So what do we do with all this loves? Because this whole when we have comparasonitis, right? And we look at ourselves as single women and we're like, oh, but look at these folks, and when can I have that? And um, I just need someone to hold me. And these are all very real sensations, right? Our nervous systems are barking, saying, like, something's wrong. Alert, alert, alert. What do we do with it? And I think that we talk about a lot of really important, you got to do the work around here, right? But what is the work? So I get home, I let's say I'm doing it all beautifully, and I scheduled time with my friends, and I made plans, and I'm boss babing it, and I'm doing all the things, but then I get home at night and there's like a rupture, right? Like I'm crying, I'm lonely, I'm aching. It's really it's our nervous systems asking for something.

SPEAKER_01: 23:08

And that's why I feel like IFS work is so beautiful because in those moments, what so many people, when they are hitting those moments of loneliness, they are seeking external validation and external relief from either a hookup or a glass of wine or a hit of weed, whatever it is.

SPEAKER_03: 23:28

Well, there are so many women who get married to their wine bottles during divorce. Yes, it becomes their new best friend, their new partner, their new like ride or die. Yes, the wine.

SPEAKER_02: 23:38

Because that's what's socially acceptable. Like you get to like it's cute to have a glass of wine on social media. You know what I mean? Like it's it's very, I feel like it's very the the drug that is status, yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01: 23:55

Yeah. When really in those moments, and I tell the women who we work with, in those moments, what needs attention is something within you, and you're the only one that can provide that and soothe that.

SPEAKER_03: 24:06

That's cute. That's right. So one of one of our favorite tools that we use around here is EFT tapping, right? Which is where we actually follow certain tapping points around the face and head and body that helps release when we are in that feeling, it helps release the pain that we're experiencing, right? And when you can unburden yourself from that pain a little bit at a time, you build your resilience, you build your strength, you feel less and less lonely, your sense of self, your sense of worth, your identity gets stronger and stronger. So, what we're doing for our Thursday episode this week for premium subscribers is we have a custom EFT tapping sequence just for you. Ladies, if you didn't know, now you know the three of us are gonna tap it out together in the Thursday episode. And so it's like literally something you can do when you get home at night, you're so sad, you can't seem to make the feelings go away, right? So here's something you can do in real time to really reprogram your subconscious mind, release some of those feelings, and start to shift your attachment style, right? Because loneliness and that feeling of not being whole, that is the the attachment style echo. And so the more you can do, the more frequently you could do things like IF um IFS and EFT tapping, the more you're actually rehabbing your attachment style, which gets you more and more ready to date and do it from a different place. Joy, I know you use a lot of EFT in your healing journey, Tiffany. Not as much? Yeah, not as much for me. Yeah, I feel like I EFT'd the shit out of myself for years.

SPEAKER_02: 25:40

Yeah, because it's something that you you don't have to depend on someone else to, it's a modality. You don't have to depend on it's not it's not therapy, it's not EMDR in in the traditional sense. Like it's um, I could get my three small children to bed and sit in my bed in a safe, comfortable place and EFT the shh out of my out of my, you know what I mean? Like out of my trauma, out of my brain, out of my emotions. And and I got so good at it, like I could be at a stoplight and just be, you know, just be ruined. I had m basically memorized the sequence that I was doing at the time. I did um emotional, emotional pain, healing from emotional pain was my my jam because it was it was empowering for me to be able to take charge and not have to wait for my two Tuesday appointment with my therapist or wait for whatever it was, you know what I mean? Like I could I could do it by myself. So I did love me some EFT. I mean it's very, very, very empowering to be able to handle yourself, you know.

SPEAKER_01: 26:44

And I feel like we all have our favorite tools over here. Um and newsflash, by the way, to our listeners, this is not a job where you come in during the day and you're allowed to be mentally off. That should have called out on the carpet very clearly, right? You're allowed to be mentally off. Yes, we're just gonna address it. You need to talk about your mental offness here.

SPEAKER_02: 27:04

Um, you don't get to dissociate or hide in the organization. Right, right. It's called out quick.

SPEAKER_01: 27:10

It's a very transparent team. But we all have our favorite tools, you know. So, you know, Joy's a big EFT. Obviously, EMDR was a big part of my healing journey. IFS is my obsession. Um, for me, it's meditation. It's meditation and grounding in nature is kind of the thing that sets me off.

SPEAKER_03: 27:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01: 27:28

Um, that's the thing that really makes me feel present. And I have so many clients that in those moments too, they just want to reach for a tool, a tool, a tool, a tool. And sometimes they don't like me, but the answer is sit with it. Sit with it and let the emotion move through and see what comes up.

SPEAKER_03: 27:45

And they don't like that answer. Yeah, I don't think most people know how, right? To sit with it and gotta have something. And I and I'm getting off on a tangent here, and then I'm gonna pull it back on track. But we are so used to feeling a feeling and then telling ourselves a story about that feeling. We attach a belief or a meaning to that feeling, and then we're no longer feeling, we're thinking about the feeling, and now it's no longer moving through. So I really believe that it's a skill to just be able to sit and feel a feeling without attaching a label or a story to it, and to be able to identify where you feel it in your body. I was not able to do that until post-homeopathy. And I think that's why I'm so obsessed with homeopathy because I could not effectively or consistently move emotion through my body until I had those pathways more open. So now I can sit with a feeling and just be like, oh, this is just a sensation. It's like if I burned my hand on the stove, I wouldn't need to tell myself a million stories about why my finger's burning. I would just know, right? And it's just like, oh shit, that hurts. But when it's emotional pain, we really start to get into a narrative about where it came from and why it's there and why it's never going to be gone and why it's always gonna be this way or why it can never be a different way. It's like it's exhausting how much we tell ourselves, but it's really because we're trying to distance ourselves from just feeling. And I do think that's one of the reasons why EFT is so effective because it validates the pain, right? There's a narrative that goes through EFT that there's a that it validates the pain and it helps us to stay in it, right? Because that's what needs to happen is we need to be able to feel it in order to unburden it. And so while we're tapping, it gives us something to do while we're feeling, it keeps us focused on needing to experience it. And then, you know, very often there's a release at the end. It's very cool. So if you have not been doing EFT consistently, strong recommendation because it is a free give or take, right? Maybe the cost of a five dollar subscription every month way for you to, like Producer Joyce said, take charge of your healing.

SPEAKER_01: 29:49

And I will second what Don said, like post-homopathy, I'm able to do so much more from a sit-still grounding. Even I was never able to manifest pre-homeopathy, I was never able to meditate properly because my mind was always going a million miles an hour. So post-homeopathy, I've been able to really sit with myself, and and those feelings don't feel so heavy anymore. It's just kind of like in and out. Like, oh, there it is. Okay, there it is.

SPEAKER_03: 30:18

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