Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
This isn’t a breakup pep talk. It’s a full-body recalibration.
Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary—the only podcast for women navigating the messy aftermath of divorce who are done with quick fixes and spiritual fluff.
I’m Dawn Wiggins, therapist and homeopath, and I’m here to give you something the divorce advice space rarely does: real healing.
Through somatic therapy, EMDR, IFS, and homeopathy, we go deeper—into your nervous system, your unspoken grief, and your buried rage.
Every week, we hold the tension: the body-based anxiety you can’t shake; the hormonal upheaval no one warned you about; the unresolved longing for identity.
You’ll hear raw solo episodes, real voice notes from women in the trenches, and intimate interviews with experts who do more than perform healing.
Here, you won’t be asked to “just move on.”
You’ll be asked to feel.
If you’re tired of tutorials that leave your nervous system humming and your heart disconnected, hit subscribe.
Your nervous system already knows the truth—it just wants a safe space to embody it.
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
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Dear Divorce Diary: Dedicated to Healing
Exclusive access to premium content!Letting go after divorce isn’t about willpower.
It’s about physiology.
Your body won’t release someone until it feels anchored somewhere safer than the place it’s been clinging.
And that’s why cord-cutting rituals, no-contact declarations, and “I’m done for real this time” moments almost never stick.
In this guided premium episode, we’re not letting go into emptiness...we’re letting go into self-belonging, the only place your nervous system actually trusts.
Inside this practice, you’ll experience:
- a guided drop-in to help your body feel held enough to release
- why your system keeps reaching for someone who once felt like safety
- the subtle shift that makes letting go feel possible, not terrifying
- a “My Body Said No” moment that clarifies what part of you is resisting
- one sentence to use when you feel the urge to reach back out
This is the deeper work:
not forcing yourself to let go...
but giving your nervous system a safer place to land.
Press play when you're ready to feel a real shift, not just think about one.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
Letting go is hard. And too often we keep trying to let go into emptiness and it doesn't feel safe. We don't let go into emptiness. We let go into self-belonging. So because you're here, your body is trying to let go of someone who once felt like safety, even if they also hurt you. Today, in this guided episode, we're growing the roots that make letting go feel safer. Hi, love. Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and build back your confidence. I'm your host, Don Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer, and divorcee. Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce. Because you cannot release what once held you unless you feel held somewhere else, we're going to begin with borrowing my steadiness. So let's sink our breaths. Let's co-regulate in and out. Imagine you and Tiffany and Joy and I, we are all just sitting in your living room together. Breathing, connecting. We're doing this together. You get to lean here with me, with us for a moment. Digging into your breath, dropping a little deeper into your body. Now, with great intention, I want you to put one hand firmly on your heart. Put a little pressure there. Really feel the connection between your hand and your chest. And I want you to press gently into your belly also, one hand in each place. Just a little bit of gentle pressure, sort of like a weighted blanket, right? It's to create contact, connection, to cue to your nervous system, to your mind. I am here now. I am with myself. I am holding myself. I am increasing my capacity to connect with, ground, and anchor myself in this body in this moment. So connecting with your breath, connecting with your body with a real intention, finding a nice deep breath. Even my breath and my body relaxed a little more on that breath right there. You don't have to hold everything by yourself, and you don't have to keep seeking connection and safety from places that are actually dangerous. You are here now. I am here now. Connected with your body, your breath in this moment. Feel the warmth in your hands and in your body. Tap into the life force that's inside of you, the capacity that is inside of you that you have not fully optimized. That's what this is about. Increasing your capacity. Breathe in deep, deep connection. Hand on chest, hand on belly. And now I want you to whisper this, even if you barely believe it. Even if you don't believe it at all, but I want you to say it out loud. I deserve connection that doesn't cost me myself. Let's say it slightly differently. I choose a connection that doesn't cost me myself. Let the words move into your bones while you breathe. I deserve and choose a connection that doesn't cost me myself. Make sure you're saying it out loud. Now I want you to picture yourself, your capital S self that Coach Tiffany would help coach you to be in touch with. Sitting behind you right now, in this moment. So if you need to adjust so that this can feel real for you, adjust. Your capital S self is sitting behind you like a steady, warm, strong, capacity-filled spine. And I want you to feel her hands on your shoulders. She is older, wiser, rooted. She doesn't lose herself for love. She just lets love in. She receives it. Holding your breath, not holding your breath, breathing, staying with your breath, abiding with your breath, deep in, deep out, letting her hold you for a moment. That's who you fall into when you let go of the people who have chronically hurt you. You fall into self. You fall into the capacity to receive love from infinite places. Connection deep within you. And within the world that is just waiting to pour love out onto you, into you, around you. Deep breath in. Deep breath out. Witnessing that capital S self sitting behind you, hands on your shoulders. Now, take a deep breath and repeat after me. I do not abandon myself to keep what I've outgrown. Again, I do not abandon myself to keep what I've outgrown. Because in this moment I am not losing love. I am restoring it inside of me. I am not losing love. I am restoring true love inside of me. I am letting go of a trauma bond. I am letting go of a repetition compulsion. I am letting go of reaching for love in places that actually cause me pain. Feel the pull to the old pain soften ever so slightly. Not because you're pushing it away, but because you are investing in building something safer to lean into. Now with your hand on your heart, your hand on your belly. Capital S selfs. Hands on your shoulders. I now want you to press your feet into the ground. Get a little lift, right? You might feel a little burn, like you might be a little uncomfortable right now. That's okay. We are building something, we're grounding something. Shoulders back, right? Plug your shoulder bleeds down into your spine. Sitting tall, pressing your feet into the ground, connecting with your heart and your core self, having her hands on your shoulders and say to yourself, I am rooted. I am held. I am mine. If this feels uncomfortable, good. That's the point. The old pain feels comfortable. The new love feels uncomfortable. We must practice this over and over and over again. This is a track to save, to revisit, to turn into a practice daily if needed. So pressing your feet into the ground, shoulder blades plugged into your spine. One more time. I am rooted. I am held. I am mine. Really digging into that breath. Adding a hum would be a beautiful choice to ground into this moment, to cue the vagus nerve and the nervous system that this moment is safe to trust. You are retraining your brain into understanding that the old pain is not safety and security. This new way is becoming safety and security. Letting go isn't falling. It's rising into yourself. It is growing roots deep into yourself while your leaves and your branches reach for all that this world has to offer you. You didn't lose anyone. You are finding your way back to you. And we are so proud of the strength that it takes to choose yourself in the quiet moments. I want you to release your hands from your chest and your belly. I want you to wrap yourself in a hug now. I want you to gently rock or twist whatever feels good. I want you to find a deep breath in this holding of yourself. You may even picture your capital S self holding you from behind. If it means finding a yoga flow or sending one of us a DM, notice what you need right now. Not the old urge, the new urge. Be willing to give yourself that thing. If you need to find another one of our tracks to move a little deeper into the next piece of work, do that. If it's time to maybe send us one of your wins that you just did this track, do that. Make a positive, self-healing, self-caring, self-capacity investing choice right now. We love you so much. Peace.
