Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
This isn’t a breakup pep talk. It’s a full-body recalibration for women navigating life after divorce. Dear Divorce Diary is a podcast for women dealing with grief, loneliness, anxiety, anxious or avoidant attachment, and identity loss after divorce — especially when quick fixes, positivity, and spiritual fluff no longer work.
I’m Dawn Wiggins, therapist, coach, and homeopath, and this show goes where most divorce advice won’t: into your nervous system, your unspoken grief, your buried rage, and the parts of you that shut down just to survive.
Through honest conversation, somatic tools, EMDR- and IFS-informed work, and nervous-system support, each episode helps you feel instead of perform healing — and rebuild safety, confidence, and self-trust from the inside out.
You’ll hear raw solo episodes, real voice notes from women in the trenches, and intimate conversations with experts who don’t just talk about healing — they embody it.
If you’re tired of being told to “move on” while your body is still bracing, this podcast is your place to land. Your nervous system already knows the truth — it just needs a space that can hold it.
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
Ep. 297 - Day 3: Going to the Holiday Party Alone After Divorce | How to Prepare Without Losing Yourself
Welcome to Day 3 of the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas...also known as the 12 Days of Becoming Her Again.
Today we’re talking about one of the hardest moments after divorce: going to the holiday party alone.
The explaining.
The questions you don’t want to answer.
The way your body tightens when you walk into a room where you used to belong as part of a couple.
For many women, this isn’t just social anxiety — it’s identity grief.
You were someone’s wife.
You had a role.
You had a place.
And now you’re figuring out who you are without rehearsing strength or pretending you’re fine.
In this episode, Joy and I walk you through how to prepare for being single at the holiday party in a way that actually supports your nervous system — instead of leaving you depleted before you even arrive.
We talk about:
- Why your brain naturally rehearses what you don’t want to happen
- How that rehearsal increases anxiety and self-protection
- A simple journaling practice to shift from fear to preference
- How to decide how you want to feel — without trying to change other people
- Practical grounding tools you can use before and during the event
- What to reach for when you feel yourself starting to disappear
This episode isn’t about performing confidence.
It’s about staying in Self.
You don’t need the night to go perfectly.
You just need a way to stay connected to you while you’re there.
And we’ll walk you through that — step by step.
🎄 ABOUT THE 12 DAYS OF DIVORCE CHRISTMAS (WITH CTA)
The 12 Days of Divorce Christmas is a daily, nervous-system-first series created to support you through one of the hardest seasons after divorce.
✨ Days 1, 2, and 9 are available on the public feed.
✨ The remaining days — including deeper grounding tools and preparation practices — are available inside Dear Divorce Diary Premium.
Inside Premium, you’ll get:
- Full access to all 12 days of this series
- Episodes that help you regulate in real time (bathroom breaks, car moments, before-you-walk-in tools)
- Monthly premium workshops for grief, anxiety, loneliness, and identity rebuilding after divorce
If this episode helped you feel more prepared, more steady, or less alone — the rest of the series is there to keep supporting you through the moments that don’t get talked about out loud.
Join Dear Divorce Diary Premium to access the full 12 Days of Divorce Christmas.
Or stay with us here today — and know you’re not doing this wrong.
You’re learning how to do it as you.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and l
Hi love, this is Dawn, and you're listening to Dear Divorce Diary with my coach Dawn, where we explore the post-divorce life and you, the woman who lives it. We cover everything from trauma during and after divorce to feeling like a stranger in your own life and the new frontier of life as a single woman. Cozy in for the conversations you've been longing to have about this new life. Welcome to day three of the 12 days of Divorce Christmas. AKA the 12 Days of Becoming Her again. Today we are addressing what to do when you have to go single to the holiday party. Oh Lordy B, there are that whole scenario is fraught, right? Like maybe it's the first time you're out on the scene single, and there's feels like there's so much explaining to do. And maybe you already had social anxiety, but it was easier when you had a person. And maybe you just are feeling all the feelings, and it's just really hard to be in the holiday spirit. Like maybe well, there's a million reasons why being single at the holiday party is hard. And today we're gonna walk you through how to prepare for that. You can access the full episode by becoming a premium subscriber, which is just five dollars a month. Scroll down to the show notes and click the link where you'll get your very own individualized RSS feed for your podcast app. You can find more at mycoachdawn.com
