Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
This isn’t a breakup pep talk. It’s a full-body recalibration for women navigating life after divorce. Dear Divorce Diary is a podcast for women dealing with grief, loneliness, anxiety, anxious or avoidant attachment, and identity loss after divorce — especially when quick fixes, positivity, and spiritual fluff no longer work.
I’m Dawn Wiggins, therapist, coach, and homeopath, and this show goes where most divorce advice won’t: into your nervous system, your unspoken grief, your buried rage, and the parts of you that shut down just to survive.
Through honest conversation, somatic tools, EMDR- and IFS-informed work, and nervous-system support, each episode helps you feel instead of perform healing — and rebuild safety, confidence, and self-trust from the inside out.
You’ll hear raw solo episodes, real voice notes from women in the trenches, and intimate conversations with experts who don’t just talk about healing — they embody it.
If you’re tired of being told to “move on” while your body is still bracing, this podcast is your place to land. Your nervous system already knows the truth — it just needs a space that can hold it.
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
Ep. 300 - Day 6: Feeling Like an Outsider After Divorce | Christmas Cards & Comparison
Today's convo is about a specific kind of holiday pain after divorce...
the Christmas cards knowing exactly how to **send you.
The smiling families.
The matching outfits.
The quiet comparison that starts to creep in and makes you feel like you no longer belong to the world you used to be part of.
In this episode, Joy and I talk about:
- Why Christmas cards trigger comparison so deeply after divorce
- How performance culture keeps women disconnected from themselves
- The grief of rebuilding your life in truth while others appear “settled”
- Why comparison pulls you off your own healing path
- What it means to shift from me vs. them to me vs. me
- Why becoming yourself can feel lonelier before it feels better
We also offer a simple, creative practice for working with the cards themselves...not from bitterness, but from transformation (well maybe a little from bitterness) as a way to reclaim your power and your perspective.
This episode isn’t about pretending the comparison doesn’t hurt.
It’s about choosing not to let it delay your becoming.
If the Christmas cards have been making you feel like an outsider this season, come hang with us!
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Capacity builds in connection. Hugs ❤️
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
Hi, love. Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and build back your confidence. I'm your host, Don Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer, and divorcee. Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce. Welcome to day six of the 12 days of divorce Christmas, or the 12 days of becoming her again. Today we are talking about the Christmas card spiral, where you see everybody's curated performance-based posturing, and they're all smiling in their cute coordinated outfits, and you are feeling like crap because that is not how your life looks today, and it feels completely out of your control, and you feel like you don't know where you belong, and like an outsider in the world of like normal family life. You can access the full episode by becoming a premium subscriber, which is just five dollars a month. Scroll down to the show notes and click the link where you'll get your very own individualized RSS feed for your podcast app. You can find more at mycoachdawn.com
