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Ep. 302 - Day 8 - Divorce, Holidays & New Years: Why Recreating Traditions After Divorce Backfires

My Coach Dawn Season 4

In this Day 8 episode of 12 Days of Divorce Christmas, Coach Tiffini joins me to unpack what actually happens inside your nervous system when you try to bring old traditions into a new life after divorce...especially in this in-between week between the holidays and the New Year.

Through an IFS (Internal Family Systems) lens, we talk about the protective parts that step in when traditions carry grief, memory, and expectation. Not because you’re doing it wrong—but because your system may not feel safe enough yet to repeat what once belonged to a different life.

This isn’t about mindset.
 It’s not about trying harder.
 And it’s not about forcing yourself to “make it meaningful.”

It’s about understanding why recreating traditions after divorce can backfire—and how to stop fighting the resistance long enough to listen to what your body is actually asking for.

If the holidays after divorce feel emotionally confusing, muted, or harder than you expected—especially as New Year approaches—this episode will help you make sense of that without judging yourself or rushing the process.

Your nervous system is doing exactly what it’s designed to do.

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SPEAKER_00:

Hi, love. Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and build back your confidence. I'm your host, Don Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer, and divorcee. Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce. Hi, love. Welcome to day eight of the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas. This episode is special because Coach Tifferdoodle is going to walk us through what is blocking us from rehabbing our holiday rituals. Today we are talking all about holiday rituals, rewriting them, and really making this holiday season your own in a new and different and special way based on who you are becoming, who you are stepping into. And so Tiffany has a very clear picture of what blocks us from me being able to do that from an IFS perspective. And she is gonna walk you through that. You can access the full episode by becoming a premium subscriber, which is just five dollars a month. Scroll down to the show notes and click the link where you'll get your very own individualized RSS feed for your podcast app. You can find more at mycoachdawn.com