Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
This isn’t a breakup pep talk. It’s a full-body recalibration for women navigating life after divorce. Dear Divorce Diary is a podcast for women dealing with grief, loneliness, anxiety, anxious or avoidant attachment, and identity loss after divorce — especially when quick fixes, positivity, and spiritual fluff no longer work.
I’m Dawn Wiggins, therapist, coach, and homeopath, and this show goes where most divorce advice won’t: into your nervous system, your unspoken grief, your buried rage, and the parts of you that shut down just to survive.
Through honest conversation, somatic tools, EMDR- and IFS-informed work, and nervous-system support, each episode helps you feel instead of perform healing — and rebuild safety, confidence, and self-trust from the inside out.
You’ll hear raw solo episodes, real voice notes from women in the trenches, and intimate conversations with experts who don’t just talk about healing — they embody it.
If you’re tired of being told to “move on” while your body is still bracing, this podcast is your place to land. Your nervous system already knows the truth — it just needs a space that can hold it.
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
Ep. 304 Day 10: Why You’re So Hard on Yourself After Divorce (Especially on New Year’s Eve)
New Year’s Eve has a way of turning self-criticism up to full volume after divorce.
The comparisons.
The sense that you should be further along.
The quiet question of what’s wrong with me that this still hurts?
If you find yourself being unusually hard on yourself today, this episode isn’t here to tell you to “think positive” or try harder.
It’s here to explain why this happens—and what your nervous system is actually doing when self-doubt takes over.
In this episode, we talk about:
- Why divorce retrains your nervous system to scan for failure instead of progress
- Why pride and self-validation feel uncomfortable or even unsafe for so many women
- How New Year’s Eve amplifies comparison, loneliness, and internal pressure
- A simple practice to help your system start noticing what is working
This is not about forcing confidence or pretending you’re okay.
It’s about understanding why self-criticism shows up when safety feels fragile—and how to interrupt the spiral without shaming yourself for being in it.
🎄 This is Day 10 of the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas—short, steady episodes designed to support your nervous system during one of the hardest weeks of the year.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
Hi, love. Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and build back your confidence. I'm your host, Don Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer, and divorcee. Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce. Hi, love. Welcome to day 10 of the 12 days of divorce Christmas. We are very excited about this one because this one is really, really about stepping into becoming her, right? This woman that you dream of embodying. And so today we are going to talk about being proud of yourself, letting yourself feel proud, even if no one else sees it. And we know you struggle with this because we can read your mind. Just kidding. Um, because we watch the women in our coaching program really struggle with this, and a couple of them really, really, really profoundly. And so most women are so insanely hard on themselves that it can be really, really, really debilitating. And so one of the choices, the very intentional choices we have to make is you can access the full episode by becoming a premium subscriber, which is just five dollars a month. Scroll down to the show notes and click the link where you'll get your very own individualized RSS feed for your podcast app. You can find more at mycoachdawn.com.
