Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
This isn’t a breakup pep talk. It’s a full-body recalibration for women navigating life after divorce. Dear Divorce Diary is a podcast for women dealing with grief, loneliness, anxiety, anxious or avoidant attachment, and identity loss after divorce — especially when quick fixes, positivity, and spiritual fluff no longer work.
I’m Dawn Wiggins, therapist, coach, and homeopath, and this show goes where most divorce advice won’t: into your nervous system, your unspoken grief, your buried rage, and the parts of you that shut down just to survive.
Through honest conversation, somatic tools, EMDR- and IFS-informed work, and nervous-system support, each episode helps you feel instead of perform healing — and rebuild safety, confidence, and self-trust from the inside out.
You’ll hear raw solo episodes, real voice notes from women in the trenches, and intimate conversations with experts who don’t just talk about healing — they embody it.
If you’re tired of being told to “move on” while your body is still bracing, this podcast is your place to land. Your nervous system already knows the truth — it just needs a space that can hold it.
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
310. Divorce Anxiety & Overwhelm: A Guided Reset for Letting Go Without Falling Apart
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Exclusive access to premium content!If you’ve been holding yourself together because it feels like the only way to stay functional, this guided reset is for you.
Divorce anxiety and overwhelm don’t come from weakness or lack of coping skills....they come from carrying too much responsibility for too long (often without enough support).
This Thursday, Premium Healing Tool offers a gentle, body-based reset designed to help you release internal pressure without forcing calm, bypassing fear, or risking emotional collapse.
You won’t be asked to relax.
You won’t be asked to stop worrying.
And nothing needs to be “fixed.”
Instead, you’ll be guided through a slow, contained experience that helps your body learn something new:
What it feels like to let go a little without falling apart.
In this episode, you’ll be supported to:
- Stay with anxiety without fighting it or trying to push it away
- Work with overwhelm in a paced, grounded way that respects your nervous system
- Use a simple butterfly tap to reduce bracing and internal tension
- Explore—without pressure—what your system believes would happen if you stopped holding everything together
- Experience relief while staying intact, present, and in control of your own pace
This is not about calming down or making anxiety disappear.
It’s about helping your body recognize that you are SAFE TO HEAL.
Even a few minutes of this kind of contact can soften the grip of overwhelm and change how much your system believes it has to carry.
You can return to this reset anytime anxiety spikes, responsibility feels heavy, or rest feels unsafe.
Nothing needs to resolve.
Nothing needs to be perfect.
Staying with yourself is the work.
We’re with you.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
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Stress-Less Flower Essence
You've been caring so much for such a long time. Now, from a place of curiosity, not pressure. This is how we unwind this sense of feeling unsafe or in danger all the time. We own the process of curiosity. What are you afraid of would happen if you stopped? Check with that part of you that feels anxious. What is she afraid would happen if she stopped? And just notice what she shares with you. It may be words or images, it may be nothing at all. There's not a right or a wrong answer here. Just notice the tone of the fear. Just notice the weight of responsibility this part of you has been carrying.
SPEAKER_00:Finding your breath.
SPEAKER_02:That gentle tapping. And just acknowledge to this part of you. Let's do it together. Hi love. Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and build back your confidence. I'm your host, Don Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer, and divorcee. Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce. Before we begin, just know nothing is wrong with you for needing this help and support. This is the medicine that helps you shift into the ability to trust, into the ability to let go, into the ability to welcome in peace. So take a moment before you even take a breath. Just settle into where you are. No need to relax. It's not time for that yet. Just take a moment to notice and be where you are. In your seat, in your body. Just reach for a little more awareness of you in this moment. You don't need to relax. You don't need to calm down. Just notice that you're here. Now you can reach for a breath if it feels available. If not, that's okay too. And now I want to bring your attention to the part of you that feels anxious. The part that has to control everything. The part that says what if? And keeps scanning and planning and bracing. You do not need to make her go away. You do not need to understand her yet. Just let her know that you see her. Just acknowledge. I notice you love. Add a breath here. And I'm gonna teach you to do a butterfly tap. As you sit with this part of you that feels anxious, just noticing and acknowledging. I want you to place your hands across crossways on your chest, like you're gently hugging yourself, hands on opposite shoulders, holding your shoulders in your hands, and I just want you to begin tapping left hand, right hand, left hand, right hand, left hand, right hand. Just you in this part of you that feels very anxious. There's nothing to change or fix or do other than be, feel, notice, and tap. As you're tapping and staying with this anxious part, notice how it feels in your body. Is it tight? Is it restless? Is it heavy? Is it buzzing? Is it numb? There's no right answer. But I want you to know this part of you isn't afraid for no reason. She may be holding the fear of falling apart, the fear of losing control, the fear that if she stops worrying, no one else will step in to catch her or the things she's responsible for. You might quietly acknowledge to her that it makes sense that she's here. You might quietly acknowledge that she's been trying to keep things from getting worse. Beautiful job. If it feels good, keep tapping. If it doesn't feel good, relax that down. Feel free to pick it up again at any point in this series. Now let's just check in with the part of you that believes that worrying is what keeps you safe. That staying alert or hyper-vigilant is what prevents collapse. That if you rest, something bad will happen. If any of this resonates, just acknowledge it and breathe. And if it would feel good to tap, do that butterfly tap. Left, right, left, right. You've been carrying so much for such a long time. Now from a place of curiosity, not pressure, this is how we unwind this sense of feeling unsafe or in danger all the time. We own the process of curiosity. What are you afraid of would happen if you stopped? Check with that part of you that feels anxious. What is she afraid would happen if she stopped? And just notice what she shares with you. It may be words or images, it may be nothing at all. There's not a right or a wrong answer here. Just notice the tone of the fear. Just notice the weight of responsibility this part of you has been carrying. Finding your breath, that gentle tapping. And just acknowledge to this part of you. Let's do it together. It's me and you. It's me and you. And anyone else we invite in to support us in this healing journey. I would love to be on the team. Staying with a gentle breath, tapping if it feels good. And notice if anything shifts, releases, or stays stuck. Any of the above are beautiful and perfect responses. When you're ready, let all of it go. The tapping, the breath, the awareness, and just release. Let your arms drop, maybe sigh it out, and maybe bring your attention back to something soft in the room. You just spent some time connecting with a part of you that feels hyper-vigilant. And just in that connection alone, you did healing work. Before we move on, before you shift back to your day, take a moment to bring some gentle motion back into your body. Maybe roll your shoulders, roll your neck. Ooh, you know what I'm into lately is rolling your rib cage around one way and around the other way. This is going to activate some energy in your sacrum and through your heart center. It's a fluid movement through your core. So maybe just rolling through any part of your body that feels good, stretching your fingers, your toes, let out another sigh. You made it through this moment, love. And you will not be here forever, but you don't need to rush away from it either. This is what it feels like to meet your anxiety without fighting it, and to let your body know she's not alone anymore. So carry that with you as you go. And remember, you can return to this episode anytime you need. We love you so much. Peace.
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