Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
This isn’t a breakup pep talk. It’s a full-body recalibration for women navigating life after divorce. Dear Divorce Diary is a podcast for women dealing with grief, loneliness, anxiety, anxious or avoidant attachment, and identity loss after divorce — especially when quick fixes, positivity, and spiritual fluff no longer work.
I’m Dawn Wiggins, therapist, coach, and homeopath, and this show goes where most divorce advice won’t: into your nervous system, your unspoken grief, your buried rage, and the parts of you that shut down just to survive.
Through honest conversation, somatic tools, EMDR- and IFS-informed work, and nervous-system support, each episode helps you feel instead of perform healing — and rebuild safety, confidence, and self-trust from the inside out.
You’ll hear raw solo episodes, real voice notes from women in the trenches, and intimate conversations with experts who don’t just talk about healing — they embody it.
If you’re tired of being told to “move on” while your body is still bracing, this podcast is your place to land. Your nervous system already knows the truth — it just needs a space that can hold it.
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
Ep. 320 - Brené Brown’s Shame Question That Changed My Divorce Healing Forever
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One line from Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart hit me like lightning during my own post-divorce unraveling—exposing the exact shame trigger I’d carried for years, the hidden identity fueling quiet resentment, self-criticism, and that exhausting push-pull of “too much” versus “not enough.”
In this powerful episode, I take you straight into the moment it landed (page 30, in the section on resentment), share the raw, tender answers that flooded in when I texted the question to my inner circle (“weak,” “bitch,” “lazy,” “fake,” “unmotivated”…), and walk through my own vulnerable evolution—from “too much or not enough” to fully owning “too much” as the big, intense, storm-cloud-and-sunshine truth of who I am.
Through a trauma-informed, spiritually grounded lens, we explore:
- How this single sentence stem reveals our deepest unwanted identity—the shame elicitor Brené says is the most powerful trigger.
- Why resentment after divorce often stems from failing to claim what we need, and how naming the fear (“It’s really important for me not to be perceived as…”) cracks open the door to radical self-acceptance.
- Somatic practices to locate the trigger in your body (that chest tightness, belly clench, or heat rising) and meet it with fierce compassion instead of more judgment.
- The spiritual invitation: transmuting the exiled parts (your intensity, your darkness, your bigness) into medicine—because divorce isn’t just loss; it’s the sacred threshold to reclaiming your full aliveness.
This isn’t passive listening—it’s an embodied exercise we do together. I guide you to answer the question in real time, feel what surfaces, and begin pouring love exactly where you’ve withheld it. The more we love the vulnerability we’ve feared, the clearer we become about who belongs in our next chapter… and who we lovingly release.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
A Fresh Approach To Post-Divorce Healing
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The Question That Opened Us Up
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SPEAKER_00Hi, love. Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and build back your confidence. I'm your host, Don Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer, and divorcee. Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce. I was deep in Brene Brown's book, Atlas of the Heart, when one line slammed into me like a truth bolt. It lit up the exact shame trigger that I dragged straight out of my divorce. It was a hidden piece that kept my resentment simmering and my real self on mute. So I quickly texted it to my inner circle in like a text frenzy. And the answers that they sent back to this question that I read in her book were raw. Tender as I'll get out. And my answer to the question ripped me wide open in the best way. Today we're gonna dive into this exercise together. I'm guiding you right into the question, sharing what poured out for me and my people, and holding space for you while you name your own and send it back to us. No shrinking, no fixing. I want you to feel it, I want you to pour compassion on it, and I want you to send it to us. You can access the full episode by becoming a premium subscriber, which is just five dollars a month. Scroll down to the show notes and click the link where you'll get your very own individualized RSS feed for your podcast app.com.
