Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
This isn’t a breakup pep talk. It’s a full-body recalibration for women navigating life after divorce. Dear Divorce Diary is a podcast for women dealing with grief, loneliness, anxiety, anxious or avoidant attachment, and identity loss after divorce — especially when quick fixes, positivity, and spiritual fluff no longer work.
I’m Dawn Wiggins, therapist, coach, and homeopath, and this show goes where most divorce advice won’t: into your nervous system, your unspoken grief, your buried rage, and the parts of you that shut down just to survive.
Through honest conversation, somatic tools, EMDR- and IFS-informed work, and nervous-system support, each episode helps you feel instead of perform healing — and rebuild safety, confidence, and self-trust from the inside out.
You’ll hear raw solo episodes, real voice notes from women in the trenches, and intimate conversations with experts who don’t just talk about healing — they embody it.
If you’re tired of being told to “move on” while your body is still bracing, this podcast is your place to land. Your nervous system already knows the truth — it just needs a space that can hold it.
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
Ep. 322 - They Only Hear Me When I’m Angry: Codependency, Suppressed Rage & Healthy Conflict After Divorce
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Hi love.
Have you ever felt like no one listens…until you lose it?
You ask calmly.
You explain clearly.
You regulate yourself.
And nothing changes.
But the moment you explode? Suddenly, everyone’s paying attention.
In this premium Behind the Mic episode, Tiffini, Joy, and I unpack the dynamic that hit a nerve in the office this morning:
Why do some systems only respond to anger?
We talk about:
– The pattern of suppressing anger to be the “good girl”
– The breaking point where suppression turns into explosion
– Why some partners (and kids) only respond when you’re dysregulated
– Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the war between your Manager and Firefighter parts
– The Anacardium pattern: “Everybody breaks.”
– How codependency is rooted in the refusal to feel
– Why leaning in feels scarier than leaning out
– The guilt that comes when you stop over-functioning
– Parenting from regulation instead of control
– And how to break generational suppression before it reaches your daughter’s Saturn return
We also explore a powerful truth:
Codependency isn’t just “doing too much.”
It’s:
“I don’t want to feel.
And I don’t want you to feel.”
And when feelings are suppressed long enough, rage becomes the only available language.
This episode is raw.
We talk about screaming fights.
Throwing clothes in the yard.
Village parenting.
Undoing 20 years of over-functioning.
And what it looks like to assume goodwill instead of defending.
If you’ve ever thought: “They only hear me when I’m angry,”
This conversation will help you understand why.
And more importantly, how to stop needing to break to be seen.
Welcome to Panel Rant Thursday.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
