344. Divorce & Kids: The Nervous System Toolkit We Wish We Had Sooner

Divorce doesn’t just break hearts.
It impacts nervous systems.

And when your child is struggling after separation or divorce… most parents are left asking:

What do I actually DO?

In this Cocoon VIP episode of Dear Divorce Diary, Dawn, Joy, and Coach Tiffini walk you through the exact body, mind, spirit, and nervous system tools they wish they’d had sooner while helping their own children navigate divorce, grief, emotional dysregulation, attachment wounds, and anxiety. 

This isn’t theory.

It’s the real-world toolkit they’ve actually used with their own kids.

Inside this episode:
– How to help your child identify negative thoughts and emotional patterns
– Why some kids dissociate instead of “acting upset”
– Tools for helping children get out of their heads and back into their bodies
– When boredom is actually healthy for your child’s nervous system
– Homeopathic and flower essence tools the team has personally used
– How divorce trauma can show up as anxiety, clinginess, shutdown, grief, or emotional overwhelm
– Signs your child may need deeper support beyond DIY tools
– Why your own nervous system regulation matters more than you think 

One of the hardest truths in divorce recovery?

Your child doesn’t need a perfect parent.

They need a present and connected one.

And sometimes the most powerful healing tool in your child’s life is a mother willing to do her own work first.

If your child is struggling after divorce and you’ve been wondering where to start… this episode gives you practical places to begin.

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Transcript

Body Mind Spirit Toolkit Overview

SPEAKER_01 0:01

Okay, darlings. As promised, today we are going to talk about the must-have, go-tool, go-to, can't live without them tools. We do and would have used if we could do it all over again with our kiddos. We're going to start with breaking it down for you, body, mind, spirit. That's how we conceptualize working with ourselves, the women we work with in our programs, or our children, is really understanding how the mind and the thoughts we think, the body and the felt sense of safe or unsafe, worthy or not worthy, you know, capable or not capable. And the spirit, which is the non-physical part of all of us that we all have, whether it's soul, wise, mind, the energy that causes us to be alive, right? And how that energy is either in flow state or is not in flow state through our bodies, and how any of that stuck energy in our bodies, in our spirit, leads to dark and twisty thoughts and beliefs, right? So we are here to tackle body, mind, and spirit for our kiddos today. We are going to talk about the go-to tools we use that we keep in our purses, handy in our cars, the things that our kiddos would have pinned on our walls, their walls, or the things that we're constantly talking with them about in order to help them over time build their toolkit, because this is not a one-and-done approach. It is a lifestyle, right? To build in these concepts for them to carry with them. And then we will talk about how to know if these tools even are not enough and when to go deeper. Did I miss anything, ladies? I don't think so.

SPEAKER_00 1:40

Think so.

unknown 1:40

Whoop whoop.

SPEAKER_01 1:41

Some of these things we talk about today, you will be able to access for free on the internet or in your homes. Some of the things are links you can grab from Amazon and have, you know, or or Whole Foods or whatever, you know what I mean? Like easily accessible things that you can pick up and throw in your purse. Some of it requires an appointment with a professional.

Free Tools Versus Professional Help

SPEAKER_01 2:07

Hi, love. Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and build back your confidence. I'm your host, Don Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer, and divorcee. Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce. All right, darlings, anybody feel moved by non-physical energy or the spirit to jump in first.

Homeopathy And Phone Boundaries

SPEAKER_03 2:48

I asked my daughter, what are some tools that she wishes that she would have had back then when she was navigating earlier stages of separation, divorce, issues with dad, things like that when she was younger. Um, and one of the things that she told me, she's now 21, she said that she 100% wishes that she would have had homeopathy as a tool for herself back then when she was younger. She also talked about the fact that she wishes that she would have had less access to her phone, which I think it's a huge thing for kids, especially now, right? In this age of social media. Um, because she she feels like now, even at 21, she struggles with having screen addictions, being able to walk away from her phone and disconnect and put it down. Um, and so, in regards to that too, it's like pairing less phone use with also more mindfulness, being able to learn how to be present with herself without any screens or distractions. So these are some of the things that she's working through as a young adult that she wishes that she would have had when she was a kid, but specifically homeopathy being one of the biggest things that she's noticed has shifted her. And this is a child that has tried therapy. We have tried her on different medications for depression. And again, I'm not anti-pharma. I'm not anti, like whatever works for your kid, works for your kid. What worked for her, though, was not the pharma meds. It was literally the homeopathy, it was really the only thing that shifted her and gave us drastic shifts. A personalized treatment place. Sustain, correct. She's been able to sustain over time and build on.

SPEAKER_01 4:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 4:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 4:28

There are a lot of remedy recommendations we're going to make today that are things you can grab on Amazon that are not personalized recommendations, right? But they're things that most people need or would benefit from. Like literally, most kids, most people, yeah, would need these things. So we're going to give you super entry-level stuff. Yeah. Um, I asked my kiddo the same question and she was like, oh, the remedies. And I was like, Yeah, yeah, yeah. But aside from the remedies. And her answer, while we're going to give you all the things that we know it's it's not just one thing, right?

EFT Tapping And Pain Avoidance

SPEAKER_01 4:59

But her answer was EFT tapping. So the emotional freedom technique where you tap on the various acupressure points in your body, face, head, chest, et cetera, to help move stuck energy. She would often be very, very resistant to doing it, but uh, we just made it like a non-negotiable. We would do it together as a family many, many, many, many, many, many nights when we were sort of in the weeds of recovering her mental health. Um, we would make that EFT mandatory. And um that was her, if she had to pick one thing other than the remedies, that's what she said is EFT. And acknowledging that she didn't want to do it. Like, you know, I identify as um, what generation are we? Not millennials. What's Gen X? Gen X. Gen X, yeah. I have if I had a dollar for every time I said, I was never given the tools, if I had only had the tools. But it's fascinating because we offered our kid all the tools and she still didn't want to do them, right? So human nature is to want to avoid pain. We want the path of least resistance, we don't want to do it. So, you know, bless her heart, uh, it's just like teeth brushing is not optional. Mental health around here is not optional. That's right. Yeah.

Beliefs Feelings And Emotional Scales

SPEAKER_01 6:17

So some other things that um we just embedded in our way of life here is to first identify and acknowledge a negative belief when it's happening, right? The thought world. Like where are their thoughts? What are the themes, right? Things that my daughter has said in the past in moments of distress are I feel like I'm just such a bad person, or I feel like you don't love me, um, or I just feel so alone. These are thoughts or negative beliefs, right? That she has carried into her life. A lot of them came from her father and I, right? Like sins of the fathers that she just inherited, I am sure, even from just pregnancy. And so to be able to catch those negative beliefs and recognize that there is negative programming there. And so to help her recognize that negative programming, we just talk about it, like, oh, I'm hearing that negative belief. So, what that negative thought, right? What do we need to do with that thought? And so over time, we have given her many, many tools, including the emotional guidance scale from the law of attraction, right? We taught her how the law of attraction works, that every thought has a corresponding emotion. And those thoughts and emotions have vibrations, and they're either low vibe, aka dark and twisty, neutral vibe, or high vibe, which is like joyful and light, right? And so we literally gave her printed out the emotional guidance scale, our branded one over here for my coach on. Um, and so that she could look at it when she was feeling some type of way or having a negative belief, she could identify the feelings she was struggling with. We've also given her an emotional feelings wheel so she can identify the feelings associated with the thoughts and she can check in with herself about what feelings she's avoiding feeling because a feeling we can't we can't go from low vibe to high vibe by bypassing feelings. That doesn't work. It just means it's suppressed and it's stuck in your body. And so we had to teach her that to go from low vibe to high vibe, you have to process what you're feeling. You have to feel it, you have to be able to abide with it, you have to be able to sit with it until it can move through. And for most of us who have had trauma or dissociation, which all of our kiddos who have gone through divorce definitely have, it's not enough to just sit with it. It usually needs some sort of somatic assistance in order for them to get into their bodies to be able to process the feelings. So, studying the law of attraction, she has just heard me play it on YouTube over and over and over again, talk about the concepts of tipping up on the vibrational scale and her having that list accessible.

Somatic Regulation Through Movement

SPEAKER_01 9:00

And then when I've seen her struggle to tip up to get her into her body, I often would try box breathing or vagal breathing, and it did not work for my child. So, know that if a tool in particular doesn't work for your kid, that doesn't mean it doesn't work, A, but it doesn't mean quit, find another tool. So breathing and breath work didn't work for my kid. It made her more anxious, more constricted, more not feeling safe in her body. So the thing that I would often have her do, especially at bedtime when Joy talked about this on Tuesdays, where her kids couldn't settle, I would have her do, I would pick a random number of jumping jacks. I would say, give me 77 jumping jacks. And she would do however many. And by the end of it, she was out of her head into her body, and then she could process or feel whatever she needed to feel. So finding the somatic tool that helps your kiddo get in their body so that they can feel their feelings.

SPEAKER_03 9:57

Also echo the emotional feeling wheel. I love it because what it does is it takes our basic emotions when we say, oh, I'm sad, or I'm anxious, or I'm this or that. And it goes three levels deeper, however many levels deeper, right? So it's like they actually can pinpoint what they're feeling. It's like, no, I don't feel just sad. I feel abandonment. I feel like I don't belong. I feel like ready. So it like helps you really dial in.

SPEAKER_01 10:23

Which I think is the precursor to IFS. And IFS is going to be more complex, right? Until you have a teenager on your hands, IFS is probably too complex. But if they can identify their nuanced emotional patterns, they'll be prepped for IFS.

SPEAKER_03 10:37

For sure. Yeah. And the more vocabulary that you can give your kids around feeling their feelings is huge too, because then they feel confident as well to like know how to identify what because most women don't. You know, like you don't know.

SPEAKER_01 10:52

Yeah. And even just naming a contextualized or nuanced feeling calms the cingulate cortex in the brain. It's so soothing to just even be able to identify and name.

SPEAKER_00 11:04

But it's really funny when, for example, they're at school and there's a situation happening at school, and another little girl is acting some kind of way, and mine just pop in. You're just feeling shame. You need to, you need to go process that. So it's like, okay.

unknown 11:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 11:25

Education is changing.

SPEAKER_02 11:26

We are raising the next gen here. Uh-huh. And I also want to remind a lot of our kids.

SPEAKER_03 11:33

Yeah. That somatics, right, too, also has to do with physical movement. So for my daughter, it's just as easy as her going on a hike or going outside on a walk, you know, being by water. Like movement does something for kids. And that's why I think that a lot of our kids are so depressed now because they're on screen so much that they're not going outside and actually moving their bodies or getting times to themselves to be present. And so Right.

SPEAKER_01 11:58

What most children call boredom is an essential tool for living.

SPEAKER_03 12:03

Stillness.

SPEAKER_01 12:04

Boredom is the gateway for mindfulness. And if your children cannot tolerate boredom, there is a major gap in their mental health. Because boredom is the gateway to being able to be in touch in your body, a felt sense of being in your body. It is the the gateway to creativity, to ideating, to, you know, daydreaming to like all the things that allow people to discover what's under the hood and what's possible.

SPEAKER_00 12:33

Yeah. Yep, yep, yep.

SPEAKER_01 12:36

And on the emotional guidance scale, it's the it's the emotional place, it's the vibrational place right before you tip up to the higher vibe things.

Spiritual Practice And Tarot For Kids

SPEAKER_01 12:48

Something we helped we gave our kiddo also was um tarot cards for kids, which did not go over well with her religion teacher at school, but it felt they were kid kid level of appropriateness. So it helped her personalize her spiritual journey. It helped her personalize a way to communicate with a higher power that then we could tie to principles in the religion that we largely recognize in our home, but it allowed her to, you know, step onto a spiritual path. So I'm all for things like that, tools that help kids be in touch with themselves and have spiritual or develop spiritual practices. She doesn't really mess with them anymore, but she's older and she has more capacity to understand other spiritual writings at this point. Yeah. Any other tools that y'all would add?

Journaling Together Without Snooping

SPEAKER_03 13:48

I would say journaling. Journaling is huge for kids because it allows them a safe place to feel like they can get their emotions out. And so if your kid is somebody that can sit down and just start writing, that's great. But I think there's so many tools available on Amazon and online that just kind of gives a simple prompt and allows your kids to just fill the pages. And I think that that's super important.

SPEAKER_01 14:10

And I think, I don't think, I believe that if you sit down and journal with your kids, you will get a completely different result, right? This is not the kind of thing where, you know, um, I would often give our kiddo prompts, but then sit with her, not reading what she's writing, but sit with her and do my own writing, my own doodling, my own coloring. Like we would sit and do coloring together and things like that. Because it's that piece about abiding or witnessing or grounding a space, holding the space for our khdos while they're feeling their feelings that really helps them to drop into their bodies when we're asking them to process what they're feeling.

unknown 14:51

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 14:51

Another thing that's kind of corresponding with that, and this is something that I would add on because I do feel like the journal needs to be a private space for your child to just kind of say and do whatever. But there was this really awesome journal that I got when my daughter was younger, and it the name of it is Between You and Me. And it was for mothers and daughters, and it would just ask random questions. Yes. And so we would pass it back and forth. So it's like we would put it on each other's nightstands, and we didn't do it every day, but it's like when we felt compelled, she would pick a random question and answer it and then put it on my nightstand, and I would have to answer it and then pick another question. Um, and some of them are very lighthearted and some of them are deeper, but I would definitely encourage moms out there too, as a good bonding activity with your kids to do that because we got a lot out of that too.

SPEAKER_00 15:34

I love that. We love a throw uh pillow throw in my pillow throwing, right? Because it's harmless, it's it's not loud, but it can do you can do it easily in indoors versus always, you know, running or whatever. So we're big pillow throwers at my house.

SPEAKER_01 15:54

Excellent. Excellent way to get the feelings out to process. Yeah. Okay. So we want to help them recognize their negative thoughts and negative beliefs. We want to help them get into their bodies so that they can feel their feelings. We want to help them name their feelings. We know that all of these things that we're describing help cut down and reduce disassociation. Um, depending on the severity of the disassociation, will depend on the number of tools or the depth of the, you know, intervention that you need.

Remedies And Flower Essences Explained

SPEAKER_01 16:27

Let's pop into some of the energetic solutions, the remedies that we would recommend that are easily accessible, that you can get on Amazon, that will help with disassociation, will help with grief, shock, you know, the challenges that are very, very unique to divorce, that are accessible, that you could do, that you can add to their water bottles, that you could do when they're with you, that you can, you know, that even if your kiddo is going back and forth, these are things that will very, very, very much change or protect their body minds, right, from this trauma getting stuck in their nervous systems. What are some of your favorites off the top of the head? And that'll fill in the gaps.

SPEAKER_00 17:09

For my girls, um, Posatilla was a big one. A homeopathic remedy. Tell me about remedy for attachment or um bonding, like not feeling secure being by themselves, even if it was like, you know, my my children needed me to sit on the edge of the toilet for them to go poop because they didn't want to be by themselves. My oldest, up until recently, kept the door open anytime she went to the bathroom. Some of that's inherited from my stuff. Some of it's the trauma that they experienced when they were little, but pulsatilla was definitely kind of a game changer for us.

SPEAKER_01 17:43

So the pulsatilla child, just so our listeners can identify if their kid needs pulsatilla or not, because homeopathy works with it has to be a match for your kiddo. So pulsatilla child is the child that hides behind your skirts, right? Is the clingy, often weepy, needier child that cannot tolerate separation. They want to be on your lap all the time, they want to be climbing you all the time, they are, you know, typically sort of softer and milder and um clingy. That's the pulsatilla child.

SPEAKER_03 18:15

In a teenager, in a teenager, would this present as anxious attachment in dating relationships? Mm-hmm. Okay. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:25

Um the second homeopathic remedy is nap mirror, which is like deep grief, deep sadness. It's like the suck and internalized shutdown. Like cerebral, right? Like very just like in their head. So those are my two personal favorite that have I have seen a drastic shift in my children. And the third one, I think Tiffany was mentioned it too as a game changer for her, but it was Aspen by Batch. But you correct me to Batch. So I was trying to make it.

SPEAKER_02 19:00

Both people die on the hill. It's wild, right? But it's a flower essence.

SPEAKER_00 19:04

Yeah. And again, Amazon, it's called Feel Secure. So I would put a little bit of that in their, you know, drops of in their water bottle when they were having their biggest attachment. Um going to school, storms are a big one because we experienced a trauma of a storm, multilayered. So anything that helps them feel safe and secure. There's also if there's feel secure, I believe there's also have confidence. Pine was a big one because confident in their themselves to keep themselves safe, kind of thing.

SPEAKER_01 19:39

So we'll throw a link to the flower essences in the show notes, and then you can sort of scroll through all the ones that are available. They're really gentle, effective. You have to repeat the dose frequently, right? So they're things that you would use for weeks and weeks and weeks in their water bottles, but they are game changers for them having this sense of security that will make it safe for them to feel their feelings so that they can have less disassociation, more groundedness, they can process what's going on for them, right? These flower essences, also, there's one called rescue remedy, which I never leave home without it in my purse. And anytime I'm out and about and somebody's stressed or tense or anxious, I'll offer them. I use the little candy version, but there's also uh the dropper version that you can put in water bottle. It is sort of the flower essence for um just overall stress and nervous system dysregulation. Uh, so rescue remedy is great. There's also a sleep version, so that is can be hugely beneficial. Again, this is one of those things that's cumulative over time. It's so, so, so gentle that you have to really use it consistently consistently to see the difference, but it helps in train the nervous system to release and to relax. So, rescue remedy, game changer for kids that are having to go back and forth. Go ahead, Joy.

SPEAKER_00 20:51

Can I add one more? I just thought of Destin Products Steady, which is our anxiety blend. Our anxiety blend. My middle schooler, you know, we feel very strongly about public school and um, but it has its challenges and it's public public middle school is not for the faint of heart. And so um she actually carries a little bile of that with her for testing or you know, too much, too much stimulation, too much noise in the 1500-person school she goes to. You know what I mean? Like it becomes a lot. And so my little soft-hearted cerebral, um, we joke that she's emo, right? Um, which she isn't, but she's very uh, you know, put her in the woods in a castle in the rain, and she would be living her best life. So very moody. Um I will die on that hill, that that's when it's world steady.

SPEAKER_02 21:52

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01 21:53

Yeah, yeah, yeah. So the pulsatilla child is weak, weeping, clingy. The Nat Mir child is more shut down and in. Internalized has resentment, right? Natmere is one of the most well-indicated remedies for women, men and children going through divorce. Like it is the most well-indicated for stuck grief, grief that has not been able to process through yet. That's nat mirror. Then we have the flower essences, aspen for feeling secure. Star of Bethlehem for grief and shock. Every kiddo going through divorce needs Star of Bethlehem to help process their grief and shock. It's so, so, so gentle. Uh, and then rescue remedy for sort of like daily um stress support. And it comes in a little candy tin or in a dropper.

SPEAKER_00 22:35

It's really, really yellow, it's so pretty.

SPEAKER_01 22:37

Yeah. Most of our, I mean, all of our kiddos really needed individualized homeopathic support to get it all dug

When Support Needs To Go Deeper

SPEAKER_01 22:44

out. And so beyond some of these general products like our steady blend or, you know, the flower essences, how would you advise a mom listening to know if their kid needs more, if they need a homeopathic consult? And we can refer to homeopaths, right? Like if you don't know where to start with selecting a homeopath, we can absolutely be a source of support or guidance there.

SPEAKER_03 23:13

Yeah, I would say for me, we tried a lot of the essences at first, you know, and we kind of started very slow with my daughter. And then it got to the point where, you know, we just needed more and more stuff as more and more stuff came up. So for us, constitutional care was a no-brainer, and it was the thing that transformed her. When I started providing constitutional care for her, I feel like I got my daughter back, who was very withdrawn, you know, in the throes of addiction, things like that, in a very dark and twisty place. Constitutional homeopathy was the thing that pulled her out to the other side to make her have awareness to want to help herself.

SPEAKER_00 23:57

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. I love the way you just said that, Tiffany. Kind of cleared the fog for her to be able to see and sit with herself.

SPEAKER_03 24:08

Gave her more capacity, and that's the goal, right? Our kids need more capacity to be able to heal and do the work just like women. And when you're bogged down with a million distractions, you don't have capacity. You can't possibly have capacity.

SPEAKER_01 24:23

Emotional capacity, right? It's a profound has this ability to facilitate emotional maturation. Right. Have you ever heard of that book, like um Children of Emotionally Immature Parents? It was like a very, very popular book. I want to say like 15, 20 years ago, it like had its little moment in the sun. And I feel like that's so much of what like Gen Xers grapple with is like we had emotionally immature parents, and that's what homeopathy does. It's just like grows people up emotionally in a blink, and it helps with that individuation or that finding your sense of self or identity. Yeah.

Chiropractic And Puberty Remedies

SPEAKER_01 24:59

Something I would add that we do over here is chiropractic care. And I don't want you to miss the boat on that. We actually have an episode in season one where um I interviewed our chiropractor because it has the profound ability to provide nervous system regulation each visit, right? That's what chiropractic does. It provides nervous system intervention. And so don't miss that one as a potential for kids and for adults. Excellent nervous system regulator, helping uh unblock stuck energy in the body. Yeah. So my kid had like a, you know, she has one of those big chiropractic diagnoses she was born with. So we need to be there anyways. But I know that it has been a huge part of her integrating the homeopathic work and clearing the crap out of her body. If you, if your kids have headaches, that is not normal. My kid had headaches all the time, right? Headaches are not normal in children. If they have neck pain or pain in their bodies, including growing pains, growing pains, extreme growing pains, also a sign of a not well-metabolized or a stressed nervous system. Um, homeopathy, chiropractic can address those. But fun fact, for all of you out there listening in TV land, if your cervical spine is not in alignment, you are, I don't even know. I want to make up a statistic here, like profoundly more likely to be dissociated. So especially this atlas, this C1 vertebrae, if it's out, dissociation is eminent. It's very hard to stay present if your cervical spine is not in line.

SPEAKER_03 26:47

I mean, definitely sepia. I know I rave about that all the time. But go get you some sepia, please, for your teenage daughters who are going through their puberty things and their periods.

SPEAKER_01 26:58

Also a puberty remedy, pulsatilla and sepia. So it just depends on how your kiddo experiences puberty. Um, but yeah, the the pulsatilla puberty is a little more dramatic and the sepia puberty is a little more shut down and flat. Yeah. But definitely puberty remedies game changing puberty remedies.

SPEAKER_03 27:21

Because yeah, even for women, even for women, like I used to get ragey. I was a bitch. Like I was not a very nice person during the week in my period leading up. I was either a bitch or I was crying all the time, and my cramps were unbelievable. And when I tell you that this very morning, I got up and went to the bathroom and I was like, huh, my period's here. And I could not believe it because normally like I would feel terrible, but now I don't even know when it's coming. Like if I didn't have the app, I wouldn't know because I have no emotional or physical changes at all anymore. Stress, right?

SPEAKER_01 27:54

That's a well-regulated system, right? Yeah. So there's a lot of conversation in the world about menopause and divorce, right? Like how hard it is to go through perimenopause and menopause and divorce. But it's the same for our kiddos going through puberty. It is one of the most immune compromising moments in a woman's life: puberty, pregnancy, and menopause, the three most immune-compromising moments in a woman's life. And so for our kiddos who are going through, and puberty starts long before they get their periods. Way before they get their periods, right? That immune stress, that extra taxing on the load, the hormones coming online. So if you add divorce to that, like watch out. Yeah. Any other parting thoughts, words of wisdom? How uh did we answer the question? Like, how do you know? Did we fully

Regulated Mom And Closing CTA

SPEAKER_01 28:51

answer that? How do you know if your kiddo needs a consult?

SPEAKER_00 28:55

I mean, I think so, but like to recap it, if if you've done the things that are available, all these things right, and you're still can't quite reach reach your baby, they're not fully present. You can see it, reach out to a constitutional hopath because there's there could be something a lot deeper that these mental emotional level they need, you know, like the the physical, they need a little bit deeper in terms of inherited trauma, inherited stuff.

SPEAKER_01 29:28

And so just like they're all different types of therapists, they're all different types of homeopaths. So please don't hesitate to reach out to us for referral.

SPEAKER_02 29:37

Mm-hmm.

unknown 29:38

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 29:40

We definitely have a trust big network of homeopaths.

SPEAKER_03 29:44

And again, I will reiterate what I said on Tuesday, right? The very preface of this work, ladies, is that you also do the deep work yourself so that you can have the capacity to hold space for your kids to do the deep work without it triggering the fuck out of you because it is going.

SPEAKER_02 30:01

Tiffany, the number one tool your kid needs in their toolkit is a mother doing this work.

SPEAKER_03 30:06

That's yes. A fucking regulated mom. How's that? Step one of the tools. You can't fake it.

SPEAKER_02 30:13

You cannot fake it. You cannot fake it.

unknown 30:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 30:16

All right, darlings.

SPEAKER_01 30:17

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