352. Divorce Recovery Isn't Just Healing or Understanding. It's Learning to Surrender.

You've done the therapy.
Listened to the podcasts.
Read the books.

So why are you still hurting?

In this special episode, Dawn shares why understanding alone isn't always enough to create change—and why true healing sometimes asks us to lift our gaze beyond ourselves.

As someone with a history of religious trauma, Dawn never expected prayer to become part of this podcast. But after years of healing, she discovered that there are moments when insight, effort, and self-awareness reach their limits.

Sometimes healing requires surrender.

Not giving up.
Not checking out.

Trusting that you don't have to carry everything alone.

Whether you call it God, Creator, Love, Source, or something else entirely, this episode offers a simple prayer for the woman who is tired, overwhelmed, and ready to receive support.

Take a breath.

Lift your gaze.

And remember:

I trust that I am not walking alone.

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Transcript

Why Bring Prayer Into Healing

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We're doing something a little different today in full acknowledgement that I am someone who has experienced a lot of religious trauma. But I've asked Joy to pray with us. And I want to share why we're introducing this new format from time to time. Don't worry, we will not become a religious podcast. That's not a thing. The three of us come from different backgrounds and have taken different paths in our healing journeys. But there is one thing that we have all agreed on that at some point information wasn't enough, understanding wasn't enough, trying harder wasn't enough. That each of us eventually reached moments where we had to lift our gaze beyond ourselves and trust that there was something bigger helping carry us forward. Call that God, call it Creator, call it the universe, call it love, call it the wisdom that connects all of us living things. The name

Prayer As Relationship Not Rules

SPEAKER_01 0:55

matters less than the posture, the willingness to look up when life has brought you to your knees. Prayer at its heart is relationship. It's a conversation with something greater than ourselves. A moment of remembering that we do not have to carry every burden alone. So wherever you are today, in your car, on your walk, doing the dishes, lying awake, wondering what comes next, we want to invite you to borrow our faith for a few moments. Take a breath, lift your gaze, and receive today's prayer.

SPEAKER_02 1:34

Hi,

Welcome To Dear Divorce Diary

SPEAKER_02 1:35

love. Welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and build back your confidence. I'm your host, Don Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer, and divorcee. Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce.

SPEAKER_00 2:05

Creator,

A Prayer For The Messy Middle

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for the woman listening today who is tired, tired of repeating patterns, tired of missing him, tired of being strong, tired of knowing better and still finding herself doing the same shit she promised she wouldn't do. Would you meet her here? Not at the finish line, not when she finally gets it all right, here in the messy middle, in the loneliness, in the confusion, in the moments when she reaches for what hurts because she cannot yet feel the safety of your presence. Remind her that she is not weak because she longs for connection. You created her for connection. Remind her that the ache that she feels is not proof she needs to go backwards. It is proof that she was made to love and to be loved. When she is tempted to abandon herself for a bullshit moment of relief, help her remember that peace cannot be found in another person's text message. It cannot be found in their validation or their attention or their choosing. The peace she is searching for has always lived deeper than that. Give her the courage to stay with herself. Give her the wisdom to reach toward people who can walk beside her. Give her humility to be witnessed when shame tells her to hide. And when she cannot see the next step, help her trust that you can. For the woman who feels behind, remind her that healing is not measured by perfection. For the woman who feels foolish, remind her that grace exists for days exactly like this. For the woman who feels alone, surround her with the people she needs and the courage to let them in. And tonight, when she lays her head down, may she release the need to figure everything out. May she release the need to be stronger than she is. May she release the belief that she has to carry this by herself. May she remember that asking for support is not weakness. May she remember that being witnessed is not failure. May she remember that healing has never meant to happen in isolation. And may she rest in knowing that she is held. Amen.

Breath And Trust Mantra

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Now I want you to close your eyes and take a very deep breath and repeat to yourself: I trust that I am not walking alone.

Where To Find More Support

SPEAKER_02 5:02

You can find more at mycoachon dot com.