Welcome to the Mind Body Project Podcast. After over a decade in the health and wellness industry, erin realized that our bodies change only short-term unless our mindset changes. for long-term success, both our mind and body are forever linked. We are continually building up new ideas and tearing down old ones in our construction zone we call our mind. After this podcast is over, make sure you give it a like and a share and please subscribe and review this podcast. I would now like to introduce you to your host, the man connecting your mind and body to create a limitless life, erin Zegler.
Aaron :Welcome back to the Mind Body Project. Thanks for taking a little time to join me today. How many times have you wanted you know, i've been training for 16 years and I've had clients, hundreds and hundreds of clients over those years and you know they may come, they want to lose weight, they want to gain muscle, be more functional, fit, whatever their goal is and said you know, i'll do anything, i just want to be healthier, i want to lose weight. I said, okay, great, and so I'll suggest some things. And they'll say, oh, i can't give up that. I really I love that. Oh, i don't know.
Aaron :And I always think to myself, you know and I've been guilty of this over the years that and I've said this and I think quite a bit. But how many times have we wanted things but say I'll do anything but that, and we're talking about in good terms, we'll use weight loss, for example? I've had clients that come, you know, i'll do anything. I'm just so tired of being overweight. You know I spent. You know I'm in my 30s, i'm in my 40s, i've been overweight my whole entire life. I'm tired of it, i'm tired of being overweight. I say, okay, here's what we need to do. We need to eat better. You know, give them a food plan. We need to exercise. Here's our exercise plan those things, oh well, I don't really have time to meal prep.
Aaron :You know I can't do that, I'm really busy. I usually eat out a lot at lunch because I'm just so busy. My kids are in sports and we're gone every night and I'm just busy, i can't do that, okay. So my question is then you want to not be overweight and you'll do anything but that. You'll do anything but meal prep. And is what we're saying is, when we say that, well, i'll do anything but that, i'll do anything, but I don't have time to walk, i just don't have time to do that, what we're saying is oh, i'll do anything, but by my actions say that I don't want to make it a priority. Because when we say I don't want to do that, i'll do anything but that, that means that we're saying, yes, i want to be successful, i want to hit my goal, but I'm not willing necessarily to go all in, i'm not willing to sacrifice two hours on a Sunday to meal prep for the week to make me super successful. I'm just too busy for that. So then you're not really willing to do anything, not to. You know, there's some things that you should say well, i'm willing to do some things, But when we say that I'll do anything but that And again we're talking about good things. I'm too busy to do that meal prep. I'm too busy to do that exercise. I can't do that. I'm so busy at work. I don't have time to find a better job. I can't do that. I can't go out and search jobs, you know, i just can't do that. I can't improve myself, i can't add value to myself, i can't learn new things. You know, i just all the reasons I can't do that.
Aaron :When we say, you know I'll do anything but that, that is the thing that is holding us back. I'll do anything but meal prep, maybe. That meal prep and not doing that, not taking the time to do that, is that thing that is holding you back. I'm so busy at work. I want a new job. I, you know I don't really like my boss. I'm not really happy with the people I work with. They just, you know they keep asking more and more of me. But I just don't have time to go find another job. Because, why? Because being in that job where you don't necessarily like the people you don't get along, your boss you don't like they're asking too much of you. Even though you don't like it, you are comfortable with it. So when we say that I'll do anything but that That is the thing that gets us out of our comfort zone, and staying in our comfort zone is the thing that holds us back. And think about if you have a big circle and you put that the word, that right on the other side of that circle, inside that circle, is our comfort zone, it's our happy place, it's whoa. It feels good. Now have a good day. I hope that helps. Tommy serb. Tommy serb, Our comfort zone doesn't always mean it's a good place.
Aaron :There's things in our comfort zone that are bad, that aren't good for us, whether it's an addiction, whether it is emotional abuse, physical abuse, overeating, you know, not enough sleep inside, that is all is would be in our comfort zone. Now why would you say, wait a minute, but I'm not comfortable about that? No, you may not be, you may not like that, you may not like that. You overeat, and then you feel horrible about yourself. But then the next night, the next day, you find that you're doing it all over again, because that's a pattern you're used to And whether it's a good thing or bad thing, whether we like it or don't like it, we know what to expect in our comfort zone. We know what happens in our comfort zone.
Aaron :One of my favorite movies is Saw Shank, redemption, love, that movie I don't know how many times I've watched it over and over, and, over and over again. And one of the older guys he gets out and he's been in the institution in all of his life And he has a problem readjusting to the outside life and because he had been institutionalized his whole life, he was surrounded by bars, surrounded by bar bar. He gets out of prison And I think this was in the. It was made in the 40s or I mean it was to look like it was 40s or 50s, something like that, and he's more unhappy on the outside of the prison than he was on the inside. Why is that? why is that the case? Because every day he knew what to expect on the inside, surrounded by those bars, surrounded by that barbed wire, and we may not see a physical fence with barbed wire around us, we may not see a physical bars around us, but many of us would find ourselves in that prison, that invisible prison, because that we might call our comfort zone, because in that he knew when he was going to get fed, when he was going to go to bed when lights turned on. He had a routine inside that comfort zone. Doesn't mean that he couldn't go outside of those walls, but he had created a comfort zone. He knew what was inside. He got out He didn't know what was on the outside. When he went in, it was horse and buggy. When he got out, there were cars In it. He talks about the world's moving too fast. So we may not always like what's in our comfort zone, but we stay there. We stay in those behind that fence with Barbaro because we know what's behind there. We don't know always what's on the other side of that fence and that bar bar And not knowing that because that is on the other side keeps us in that invisible prison. That is what is holding us back.
Aaron :What if I get a new job and I become successful? I don't know what that looks like. What if I get a new relationship? I don't know what that looks like. I don't know how that feels. What if I get out of this relationship that is emotional or physical, abusive? What does that look like? Where do I go? I don't know what that looks like. I've spent the last 10 years like this. What does that? I don't know, and it's easy to look from the outside and go. Why wouldn't you just come out? Why wouldn't you just cross over and do that thing that is going to get you out of your comfort zone and change your life?
Aaron :He got out of prison and it changed his life. He was a free man, but yet he felt like in the social media. He felt like he wasn't a free man because he didn't know how anything worked out there in the free world. And we have to realize that when we're in our comfort zone and we have to look at that and say what is the thing that is holding me back? What is it that I want And what is it about that? What is holding me back? I said I'll do anything but that. Why is that holding me back?
Aaron :Go back to meal prepping. It's because I don't want to have to plan out my grocery list. I don't want to have to go online or go to the store and get all those things. I don't want to have to spend the time making them. I don't want to have to spend the time measuring to, weighing all those things. You know, i'm just too busy for that.
Aaron :Well then, you're going to find that you're going to keep staying in your comfort zone because doing something different and the change is right outside the comfort zone. It could be two lines right next to each other. The two lines right next to each other. One is your comfort zone and inches away is freedom. Is that change? Just like on the Shawshank Redemption, that fence with barbed wire? I mean, how thick is that fence? Not very thick at all. That is what's holding back from imprisonment and freedom For us. We don't have that physical fence. We can step across the line. We can step across that comfort zone line. We don't know what's out there, but we can step across and grab that thing that could forever change our life. And you know what? It's possible that you grab that thing and it doesn't change your life. You grab that thing that you thought was so scary and was going to make all the difference and it doesn't. But you know what that does. If it doesn't. You grab that thing, i'll do anything but that.
Aaron :And then that leads to something else Meal planning, meal prepping. You do that and you start doing it and it's made some changes, but not any big changes. But then you realize you know what. I can even tweak this more. Now I can start. You know, i've had some success with it. I can start helping other people and you know what? Now I have a community of people that are meal prepping and we're holding each other accountable and now I'm just making huge progress and I'm helping other people make progress, and then they're helping other people and that thing may not work out quite like you thought, but it leads to other things. And then through that we had a community and I met somebody else and they taught me some new exercises and they taught me some new ways of thinking, some different things to do and some new science, and I learned some new things about all these different things, about my physiological issues and gut biomes and all that kind of stuff. And now you know, i've done all these things.
Aaron :That all started because I stepped across the line and decided I was going to do that thing, that I said I'll do anything, but that I want success. I really want success. I'll do anything but that. And when we say that that isn't the case, we have to be honest. And again we're talking about the good things that are good for us, but we just don't want to do them. We want to have success, but we want to say, we do, but we don't want to put our action behind our words. And I've said over and over and over, time and time again, that we can think differently, that's great, but also to think differently for anything to change. We can think differently all we want, we can visualize ourselves crossing that comfort zone line, doing that thing, but it's not going to change anything unless we put action behind it.
Aaron :When we take action, action speaks louder than words. We can speak all we want and everybody rah, rah, rah, good, good, good, but eventually you keep speaking with no action. People are going to be like mm-hmm. Yeah, i've heard this before. Mm-hmm, yeah, we'll see where this goes. We all know those people. We may be one of those. Yeah, that's it, it doesn't go anywhere. Action speaks louder than words.
Aaron :Action is what takes you across your comfort zone line into doing that thing that you said you'll do anything but that, and that is the thing that could change your life forever.
Aaron :So I encourage you to catch yourself next time you say I'll do anything but that. And when you hear but that, that's the thing you need to do, that's the thing you need to go after, that's the thing you need to say I'll do everything plus that And that will take you out of your comfort zone and towards your goals, and I would love to help you achieve and get to that thing. You can go on my website, erendeglercom. I'd love to connect with you via text email, my blog, my weekly email, podcast, all sorts of things coaching, personal training, all those wonderful things you can find there. I'd love to connect with you anyway to help you go from your comfort zone and reach outside your comfort zone. It's just an inch away, just a line away, and grab that thing that will change your life forever. Thank you for taking a little time to join me today. It's time my wife came every night before I go to bed. It's bomb of the night, double A out.
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