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Sit & Talk: 6 Truths You Need to Hear
We share six hard truths that move dreams from ideas to visible results. We trade the myth of perfect timing for action, courage, and small habits that compound into real change.
• dreams are personal responsibility and need action to become vision
• stop waiting to be discovered and take initiative
• push yourself when comfort stalls progress
• act without permission and trust internal authority
• start before you feel ready and learn on the way
• small daily actions create compounding change
• growth happens outside the comfort zone
“Kick your own ass is going on the wall.”
“What are one of those truths that you can implement and apply to your life? Remember, it can be small.”
Welcome to Sit and Talk. Thank you so much for joining us today. We are getting ready to join our live virtual sit and talk. I just wanted to welcome you here on the podcast for joining us as we get ready to join our live group. Sit and talk with sit and talk. We're just going to have a little conversation, have some QA, and share some thoughts about today's topic. So again, thank you so much for joining us, and let's get started with our live virtual meeting for sit and talk. Today we're going to talk about six truths. Truths you need to hear. Kind of like the hard truth. These are some things that are kind of some hard truths, but they're the things that we need to hear. And again, as I tell you many times, as I read through these and looked over them getting ready for this week's talk, there's things that I need to hear too. So as I as I tell them, just like if if you listen to every one of these this week, what is there? Three or four. I think we do two walk-in talks. It's I think three or four, something like that. Anyhow, if you've listened to them all, that's how many times I've said them. And that sometimes that's how many times I need to say them. Not for you to hear them, but for me to hear them. Because just as equally important for me to hear as it is sometimes for you to hear. So the first one is the one of the truths we're going to talk about that we need to hear is that your dreams are your responsibility. Sometimes I don't really remember my dreams very much at night. And so Kim will say, Did you remember a dream? I'm like, No, I I don't remember. I I know I dreamed, I just don't remember what it was. And so, like, she'll tell me about her dream, and it'll be all this detail. But could I could I know her dream? Like, if she woke up and said, Tell me my dream, I don't know what it is. So the the same is true with our own dreams. We have to be responsible for those. What did you do as a kid when you got in trouble in school when you're just kind of had your hand up and just looking off out the window? What'd they say you were doing?
SPEAKER_00:Daydream, daydreaming, daydreaming.
SPEAKER_01:And so that's really what dreaming is. Your dreams are your responsibility. So what you do with them are your responsibility. So, in other words, nobody gives, we don't have to wait for anybody to give us permission to go for our dreams. We don't have to wait for anybody to discover us. You know, what if I mean we see we watch TikTok or reels or anything like that? Aren't there a really a lot of talented people that sing, tell jokes, speak, some very talented people that do that. And they may not have a record deal, they not may not be on a speaking circuit, but they're very talented. And they're not waiting to somebody to come to their house and knock on the door and say, Hey, I don't know you, and I just stopped by here randomly. I bet you can sing. That just doesn't happen because it's our responsibility. So if we have a dream, a dream is really good. And it's our imagination, we use it. But for a dream to actually do anything, what does it need? What's the difference between action? Yes. So the difference between a dream and a vision is action. A dream will will not get us anywhere unless we apply action. And when we apply that action, it gives us a vision. I'm gonna so lighthouse church. They are they have a they want to expand. So I'm sure that's been a dream for a long time. The church has been a dream for a long time. You know, they probably had that idea, but what makes it a vision? A vision, as I've seen on Facebook and talked to care of, is that they have a plan for it, they're putting into action, they're doing things to make this a dream a reality. And so a dream is just in our mind. I can't, you know, when Kim tells me her dream, I don't really know what it looks like or anything like that. But the vision, as the church did as Lighthouse did, they put out what is this new space and building gonna look like? What's the vision? And so it goes from a dream just in my head to now it's it's reality. It is, you can see it, you can touch the picture, you can look at it, you can feel where the uh people are gonna go in, where people are gonna park, all those things because it was a dream, and then it was followed by action, drawing, having events, raising money, all the things for it creates a division. If if it stays, and that's our responsibility, you know, there's a lot of things that we may never change because we're waiting on somebody else. I'm waiting on somebody else to discover this great thing or this thing that I have. But the truth is that they're not in no one's coming. It's up to us, it's our responsibility. You know, Don Wade, if you if you don't watch him on TikTok, Kim's dad, he sings, he writes all these great songs, and they're the funniest things, and you should go listen to them if you don't. But they're just really funny. And if he just kept picking it and doing it in his lawn chair out under the tree, and nobody ever, I mean, he didn't do anything with it, nobody's gonna say, Hey, I heard you from across the state. It's not gonna happen. You gotta do those things that put that into action. So our dreams are our responsibility. We can go on and on and on, and we can talk about different ones you've had that are still a dream, but yet it's your responsibility to do something with it, not to just leave it there in your brain. Dreams are what the imagination does of things to come. Then the next thing, when we talk about dreams, our responsibility, you need to kick your own ass. So, in other words, a lot of times we let ourselves off easy, and sometimes we need to be a little harder on ourselves when it comes to certain things. If you have kids, most are I think everybody has kids. Was there ever a perfect time? That no, but but I I bet some of you might have said, Well, I'm gonna wait to have till the perfect time to have them, and then you just that never happened, so finally you go, Well, I'm just gonna wait, and then you decide, okay, we're gonna have it, so we're gonna wait. Here's the perfect plan. Is there ever a perfect plan? Have you ever waited for the perfect time and had the perfect plan and it worked? Probably not. Has there ever been a perfect moment? Have you ever gone, I'm gonna wait for this perfect moment? You you see those sometimes when a guy's gonna propose to a girl and he's waiting for the perfect moment. And usually the best thing about it, if it goes viral or something like that, is when it totally messes up, when something totally goes wrong, but it's still great because it makes it makes it right. So we have to stop waiting for that perfect time, the perfect plan, the perfect moment. Because we can sometimes the perfect plan waiting for that kills our dream because we haven't figured it all out yet. So we have to take those risks because those rewards come to those who take the risks. I was thinking about things today, and I was there's some thoughts I had, and they're contrary to what I think some of the the thoughts and notions are out there. And then it came to me, I thought, okay, is that me just being weird and dumb? Or there is there really something to it? So sometimes that's the that's what we what we're nervous about. What if everybody else is right? And I'm just my brain is I'm just way off. I'm just totally wrong. What if Martin Luther King thought that when he gave a I have a dream speech? What if he said, this is not way the way people are thinking? If I say this, what's gonna happen? I'm probably not right, so I probably shouldn't say it, but he took the risk and changed things because of what he did and the steps he took, which was risky. And we talk over and over about people that that took risks and not playing it safe, and that is when we see some real changes happen. Think back in your life. When you take a risk and you get out of your comfort zone, isn't that when some changes start to happen? But also it's kind of scary because we have to think is that maybe just being out there in left field, or is there something really to this? So sometimes if we if we want change, we have to be the hero of our own story. Usually when we watch a movie, and there's usually I love I call them shoot 'em ups, where it's it's fighting and shooting and all that. And there's always a hero. There's always somebody that comes and saves the day. One of my favorite movies is, and it's all three of them, is Taken. Um, has everybody seen Taken with Liam Neeson? Yeah, and his daughter gets taken, his wife gets taken. I mean, he saves everybody. He's just, you know, when he says I have a certain set of skills, and then I mean it's downhill from there. And that's and what if you're that hero? What if you say, I have a certain set of skills, and I'm gonna be the hero of my own story? And his just happened to be some that were fighting and guns and all that. Yours might be smarts, you might be um the way you communicate, the way you talk to people, um, the gifts you give, how you make people feel, whatever it is. You have to become that hero of your own story. Because we go back to our dreams, our responsibility, we don't we shouldn't wait for somebody else to come. Maybe there's never going to be a hero. So we get to be that hero of our own story. And the next one is the third one is we don't need permission, we just need to take action. So when we take that dream from a dream to a vision, we need to take action. We don't need somebody to say, okay, now look, this is the perfect moment, and I think you have the perfect plan, and it's the perfect time. Do it. I know sometimes it would be really easy if somebody would tell us that, but sometimes we just need to take the action. So we we don't need to wait around for the that external validation, we're waiting for somebody around us, you know. It's kind of like I think you know, we say, you know, and we've talked to people that say, hey, God spoke to me. And I've never heard the voice. I gotta say, I've never heard the voice. And I'm always like, hey, God, if you're gonna speak to me, I need a really big frying pan, and I need you to whack me with it. But sometimes is what it is, he's given us all we need to make that decision, and sometimes that is the voice, and sometimes we know enough, we're smart enough to make that choice in the right manner, and so we don't always have to wait for another individual to inspire us or to give us the green light or give us permission. We just need to do it, and really, because if you're the hero, the when we see a hero in anything, don't they like know it all? I mean, I mean, Liam Neeson, he knows how to talk all different languages, he knows how to drive, he knows how to shoot a gun, he knows how to fight. I mean, he told his daughter how to find him, you know, halfway across the city, all those things. And that's what we are. We have those things, we've been given those things, those abilities, those special set of skills to be able to be our hero. And we have to rely on that, that we can be our hero. And and the people that really when we're that are successful, we they we realize that they realize that the success and happiness and control comes from an internal force, which is who you it all comes from you, it doesn't come from other people because who knows you the best? You you and we talk about that three-white letter word a lot. You why o you very important. So just need to we don't need permission, we need to take action. The next one is if you don't how many times have you not felt ready for something and didn't do it? And didn't do it, and didn't do it all the time, probably a lot. I bet if I said, you know, how many, you know, I bet not feeling ready for something and not doing it, you've probably done that way more than not feeling ready for it and did anyway. So, you know, at the uh old city pool, if anybody remembers the high diving board, it was as tall as the sky. It was as tall as the sky. And if you remember the old diving board, it was as tall as the sky and as sketchy as all get out. I mean, I can't believe you know anybody didn't dive from that thing or get anything from that pool. But I mean, that thing looked it looked way high, and I can't tell you how many times I walked to the edge of that diving board and turned around and walked back. Walked to the edge of it, turned around and walked back so many times until one day I still wasn't ready, but I just jumped off. And you know what happened? Landed feet first. I probably can't cement not on the cement. I probably know because I mean I stepped off and held straight. I mean, like I wasn't about to budge. I wasn't about to budge, and probably made a big splash, and and you know, but that's think about that when you're not ready to do something. It's really going to the edge of the diving board that is sky high and taking a step off. You know, and that's what it looks like to not feel ready, but do it anyway. Because sometimes we're never gonna be ready. We we tell ourselves, oh, we're gonna be ready, we're gonna be ready. Um, I think next week on on Mindful Monday, we're gonna talk about feel good avoidance. And feel good avoidance is what we do when we go, okay, I'll do it next time. Next time I'll do it. When in actuality, we're just doing that self to make ourselves feel better at the moment, we're never gonna be ready. We're never gonna be ready to do it. There's never gonna be a moment where this is the perfect time, the perfect moment. We're just never gonna be ready. And and we're and the thing is when there's something that is about like every time I went off that diving board, I don't care how many times I did it after I took that first step, I felt nervous before I started. Because I thought, what if this time I hit the cement? What if this time it goes wrong? What if this time I go so fast that I break my legs when I hit the concrete at the bottom? Even though it's 10 foot deep in water, and what if? So always, and that's a lot of times what we'll feel is we'll feel nervous before we start. And you know, if you don't feel ready, do it anyway because you won't have all the answers. Again, going back because there's no perfect plan. Have you ever started something that had all the answers? 100%.
SPEAKER_00:I would like to.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, we'd like to, but sometimes I think that stops us from asking people or talking to people because what if I don't have all the answers? So, what if you don't? I mean, now we live in a day and age where you open your phone and go, well, let me check that out. Or you ask, uh what was that? Was that let's make a deal where you could phone a friend? I don't remember what that was.
SPEAKER_00:You wanted to be a millionaire?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, who wants to be a millionaire? You could phone a friend, that was one of your options because they didn't know, and and we're no different if we don't have to have all the answers because there's some things we don't know, and guess what? If we don't have the answers and we go find an answer, we learn something new. So now we had a new opportunity to learn. And when we don't have all the answers, guess what? We're gonna we will mess up something. We'll mess up. You know, I didn't ever feel ready to ride a bike. I fell off, scraped my knees, I got back on. I messed up a bunch riding a bike. I messed up a bunch dating. I messed up a bunch being married, I messed up a bunch on my diet. I messed up a bunch on figuring out how to train for a race. I mean, the first time I did a 5k, I've told you before. How do you train for a 5k? I don't know, let's just run three miles every day. Surely that's the way you train for it. Well, there's much better ways, but but I know not to, I mean, I know now there's more effective ways, but I had to start anyhow and mess up because guess what? When you mess up, you go, oh, well, that didn't work. Now I know not how not to do that. So if you don't feel ready, do it anyway. Go to the edge of the of the that high diving board, look over, see the water, close your eyes, hold your nose, and take a step. Because I tell Kim all the time, if you jump off a cliff, you can learn how to fly on the way down before you hit the ground. I mean, her and I are not of the same mindset, we are different, and that is okay. And the next thing is big changes happen with small actions. I shared with everybody last week or earlier this week on a walk and talk that I think that was on Tuesday morning, that I was having a very challenging morning, and the camel that kind of almost broke the camel. The hair, the hair, the straw that broke the camel's back, was my phone fell, and then I couldn't get it hooked back up to the music. Like something was messed up with the connection. I kept trying, and we're starting class late, and I was starting to get frustrated. I came within a thought, literally a thought, of throwing my phone across the gym. Now, mind everybody's on a treadmill, but because of some small daily actions I've taken over the last seven or eight years, there was a big change there. Because at that moment, just like if you have some anxiety, you think worst case scenario, in the in that second, that worst case scenario, you've already taken it to I'm crossing the street and I'm dead. Within a millisecond. So, in that millisecond that I had that thought, I thought of all the things that were gonna go wrong. One, I break my phone, I could probably break a window. And what kind of example would I be sharing with everybody? Because if I'm an orange and you just squeezed me, orange juice is not what came out. What I talk about is what came out was apples, apple juice, and that's bad. Because we want whatever when we're ever squeezed should come out when we're stressed, should come out with what we are, and so I thought all about that, and I found a solution, and I didn't throw my phone. It wasn't the best solution, it wasn't what I wanted. I was still irritated, but because of those small actions of the way I think and do things made a big difference in that moment. So that's a big change because I probably would have lost it in that moment, which would have been really bad. But that that's kind of the point of how small daily actions can make big changes, and that's with the way we react to people in exercise, diet, relationships, all those things. But all we have to do is one thing that moves us in the direction. And if it goes back to our dreams, what's one thing that can move you into your direction of your dream? We've talked about being a millionaire in 30, 28 days. You put that penny, you pick that penny up and you put it in the jar. The next day you put two pennies in the jar. But you get my my meaning is those small actions. And the last one is if you're outside your comfort zone, guess what? You're doing it right. Because have you ever grown and experienced anything really special and amazing inside your comfort zone? You probably've probably been the most proud of yourself when you get out of your comfort zone. When you go, man, that was really hard, but man, I did really good. Or that was really challenging. I went up and talked to that person, went into that place, and I did really good. I walked out and I'm still alive. So outside of that is where we really are doing the right thing. Just like when our kids are little and they complain about all their aches and pains, we tell them what it's growing pains. And we expect them to believe us. Your bones are growing, you're stretching. But now, if if you're going, man, I'm really having this tough time and I'm doing this, and I go, Oh, that's fantastic. You have growing pains, you probably wouldn't be so happy with me. But that's what we do to our kids, and that really is a good thing because you're growing into a big, strong adult, just like we tell our kids, you're growing into a big, strong human that can carry so much weight on your shoulders as life goes on. That is amazing. So, outside of our comfort zone is where we have some real growth, and we take those risks and we see those, just like the other week on treadmill, um, everything worthwhile is uphill. That's really what that means is everything you've achieved has never been easy. Everything worthwhile is all uphill. And the top of that hill, you go, Wow, that's awesome! And guess what? As soon as you hit that hill, you're gonna have to start walking up another hill because there's gonna be something else. So, our dreams are a responsibility. We have to kick our own rear, we don't need permission, you don't have to be ready, just do it. Big changes happen by small actions, and they can be in the smallest minute. But next week in walk and talk, sit and talk, we're gonna talk about moment shifts in a moment, which which will really talk about small actions, and then outside of your comfort zone is where we grow. Any any so the challenge is you know, what are one of those that you maybe can resonate with, and is a truth that you need to hear that maybe you can implement this week in a little part of your life. Uh, so any any thoughts, comments, or questions about our six truths.
SPEAKER_00:Are you gonna post those truths somewhere? Like, are those gonna be in a message or something?
SPEAKER_01:I can.
SPEAKER_00:That would be great.
SPEAKER_01:I'm gonna make myself a note because otherwise I will forget.
SPEAKER_00:And can we please put kick your own ass on the wall? I'll put it on that.
SPEAKER_01:Can we put her notes? Kick your own ass is going on the wall. We got we got several. I like that. We got several. It'll go right after and go. Well, the first one will be and go. The second one is kick your own ass. Yeah, I like that. So, yeah, so any other thoughts, comments, or questions?
SPEAKER_00:Well, I needed to hear this today. Thank you very much.
SPEAKER_01:You're welcome. Good, good.
SPEAKER_00:What's the homework?
SPEAKER_01:The homework is what are one of those truths, and I'll send those out. It's gonna probably be tomorrow. What are one of those truths that you can implement and apply to your life? And remember, going back to number five, it can be small. Don't think about big, think about small and compounding interest to make a big difference. So, any any other comments or questions? Kelly's talking to I don't know who, not us. So, everybody have a great evening. And if you have any questions, comments, just let me know. Thank y'all.