MM Ep 29: Be The Coffee Bean

We share the coffee bean story to show how inner change can transform the environment around us. Through simple practices and steady self-development, we move from wilting or hardening under pressure to shaping the space we’re in.

• the coffee bean metaphor explained
• why change starts from the inside
• moving from carrot or egg responses to transformation
• practical self-development practices and mentoring
• building growth like a staged community project
• how inner shifts influence words, posture, and presence
• small repeatable habits that create lasting change

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Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome And Coffee Bean Idea
• 0:35 Carrot, Egg, And Coffee Lesson
• 1:16 Self-Development As The First Step
• 2:07 Building Yourself Like A Community
• 3:05 Inner Change Radiates Outward
• 4:08 Final Challenge And Close

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:00

Welcome to Mindful Moment. Thank you for taking time to join me today. I was listening to an interview a few weeks ago, and the person being interviewed was talking about be the coffee bean. And he kept referring to be the coffee bean. I was like, what's he talking about? So finally, the interviewer asked this person being interviewed, What do you mean by be the coffee bean? And so he he shared a story about somebody had shared the story of be a coffee bean to him and how it changed his life. And basically, it goes like this. If you put a carrot in hot boiling water, what happens? The carrot gets soft. If you take an egg and you put it in hot boiling water, what happens to the egg? It gets hard. If you take a coffee bean and you put it in hot boiling water, what happens? It changes its environment. It becomes coffee. So the challenge he kept saying was be the coffee bean. Be the person that changes your environment. And we may look around our environment and go, there's no way I can change any of this. But all you have to do is be the coffee bean. And what do you have to do to be the coffee bean? To be the coffee bean, what does that mean? It doesn't mean that you're you have to go change someone else. It means that first the change has to come from you. You have to be the one, you have to first become a coffee bean. You might be a carrot, and when things get rough and thing, I mean you just kind of just kind of wilt. Or there's been so many things in life that I mean you just have turned into that egg that has been you just hard. So to change from a carrot to an egg, that takes some internal work. That takes some work on ourselves. Are we do we have a mentor? Are we, you know, scouring through YouTube? Are we reading books? What are we doing to improve ourselves for self-development? Because development, if we talk about development of a community, a development, we see houses being built. There's some houses that are completed, almost done. There's some that the slabs are going down, some of the dirt work is going down, plumbing is working, frames are up, they're all different stages. But in that community, it's development. And we have to do that same thing for us. We have to have self-development. We have to develop all the different parts, and all the different parts of us, physically, mentally, spiritually, may be at different points. Just like that development in that community, there, all that is in different points. But eventually all those are going to be completed and you're going to have a community. Same thing is true with us when we do self-development. We work on those things and they all are at a different point. Now, unlike that community that the house is being built, we're never fully self-developed. Because when we develop, we can it brings us to a new level of thinking, a new level of idea. So we go, ah, and we go looking for new ideas, new thoughts, and we start creating new concepts. We start changing the way we think about things, the way we want to live. And when we start changing us on the inside, that radiates because we become the coffee bean, and that starts irradiating out. And that starts affecting the people that we come in contact with that we have conversations with because now our conversation's different. It's how it's it changes because just the way people see it's because maybe we walk a little more upright, we're a little more confident, we have a smile on our face. So whether it's verbal, nonverbal, we start to change those around us because we have changed. They notice something different. They might ask, they might go, you know, he always looks happy. I'm gonna try putting a smile on my face today. You know, I had that conversation, and words are different. His words are different, her words are different. I'm gonna start using some of those, and I really like that concept that they shared with me. And so we start changing our environment. We are the coffee bean. So I challenge you to be the coffee bean, but to be the coffee bean and change your environment, you first have to become the coffee bean. You have to change from the inside out. So that's my challenge to you to be the coffee bean and change the world around you. Thanks for joining me on this week's Mindful Moment. I look forward to seeing you right here next time on Mindful Moments.