Sit & Talk: Who Wants to Be Skinny, Rich, & Happy

We dig into what most people want—some form of fit, secure, and fulfilled—and why knowledge is not the barrier anymore. We define the terms on our own, then show how application, discipline, and consistency turn plans into identity and results.

• defining fit, wealth, and happiness in clear personal terms
• why knowledge access is not the bottleneck
• application as the missing link between goals and change
• discipline as temporary discomfort for future gain
• consistency, compounding, and micro wins
• avoiding comparison and protecting momentum
• a simple challenge to move from knowing to doing

Stop being a knowledge junkie—start applying with discipline and consistency

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Transcript

Welcome And Today’s Theme

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Welcome to Sit and Talk. Thanks for taking a little time to join us today. If this is your first time to join us, each week we just join in our live call as we talk about a different mental conditioning topic that we share and challenge at the end. So thanks for again for joining us on Sit and Talk and let's join the live call.

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That's what it is.

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It's always the best when I uh sign on and everybody's already talking.

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We didn't need you today.

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Didn't need me. As long as we uh see each other.

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We haven't seen them.

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I know it.

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We're all like, here's our friend. How are we? Isn't that what the topic is today?

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It is and happy.

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Oh, and happy. But I'm neither skinny nor rich.

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So yes, we are talking about today. Um actually, I gotta get my notes. Hang on just a second.

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He came unprepared for class to Dr. Valley.

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We caught him off guard. We did, we did.

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Well, I was yes, it just I was I was busy working and then I realized the time, and then it just went that way.

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Yep.

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It happens sometimes.

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Blessings. Blessings.

Defining Skinny, Rich, And Happy

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Blessings, yes. So the the biggest question is since we are gonna talk about being how to be skinny, rich, and happy. Who wants to be skinny? Or if you're not gonna say skinny, you'd say some form of a different huh? Might say smaller, might say fit, might say more compact, might say less fluffy, might say toner.

SPEAKER_01 1:52

All those things, all those things, but don't say unusually skinny.

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But don't say unusually skinny. That if anybody needs to know, if you tell somebody you look unusually skinny, that is not a compliment.

SPEAKER_00 2:04

You mind you guys that you're normally what crystal not skinny.

SPEAKER_03 2:11

Not skinny. Yes. So that's not a compliment. So then rich. How many would like to be rich? And that has all different numbers.

SPEAKER_02 2:26

Yes. The interesting thing to all the numbers, yeah.

What Rich Really Means

SPEAKER_03 2:29

To all the numbers. The interesting thing is they they're talking about interviewing different millionaires. And talking about if you he interviewed a millionaire and said, How much money is enough money? And they said five million. And then they asked somebody that had five million, how much is enough money? They said ten million. And then they asked somebody that had 10 million, how much isn't is enough money, and they said a hundred million. So the point is, is you have to define rich and not by a number. But we often think of rich as a some sort of number. And so then what about happy? How do we say about happiness?

SPEAKER_02 3:15

Like how do you measure it?

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Yeah, how do you how do you measure it? If you tell if you say I want to be skinny, and it has some sort of explanation whether it's fit or smaller, if you say rich, you might say a number or by the people that you're around, something like that. How do you say I want to be happier?

SPEAKER_00 3:38

That's how you feel.

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Yeah, and and that's it, and there's all different ways to that. And so when we talk about happy throughout this year, if you get perfect attendance, you will learn the 12 keys. You will actually get the 12 keys to being happy. And so, I mean, at the end of the year, you'll have the full set of keys. If you get, I mean, unfortunately, if you miss a month, then I mean you're only going to be 11 keys. You'll miss that, maybe that one most important key.

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You're gonna have a whole Snyder set of keys.

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You'll have a whole Snyder set of keys to a life of happiness. So you'll have it. So so probably chances are really high that if we were to pull, you know, anybody, anybody on here before we talked about it, and said, What do you want out of life? Probably a lot of them would fit in one of these three categories: skinny of some sort, rich of some sort, and happy of some sort. So do we have the resources to do any of the three? Yes, where are they?

SPEAKER_00 4:56

Well, it's you and how you define those things.

Measuring Happiness On Your Terms

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Yes, so it's us and how we define them. So if we have if we have those resources available and it's how we define them, then again, how come we're not everybody's not rich, skinny, and happy? Because if you talk to people, probably the a lot of the things they want fall in one of those three categories. And so why wouldn't everybody be that way?

SPEAKER_00 5:33

Which is go ahead, we want different things, huh? We want different things, and how much money I think is good might not be the same amount as you.

Knowledge Is Everywhere, Application Isn’t

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Right, it'll take work, it all means different to each person, it all means different to each person. So if if and and think about this for each of you, what does you know? Well, just use skinny, but you you put in whatever you think that is, if it's fit, if it's a certain body weight, if it's a certain body fat percentage, if it's fit in a certain size clothes, whatever that is, what's that definition for you? And you don't have to say it, I just want you to think about it. If we're say talking about being rich, what is that definition to you? Is it monetary? Is it the people you're around? Is it the experiences you have in life? What defines rich when you think of being rich? And then when it comes to happy, what defines being happy for you? Being around loved ones, being by yourself, having lots of friends, investing in others, serving what defines happy for you? And chances are that we we have no matter what your answer is, no matter what your answer is on being skinny, on being rich, on being happy, we have the resources to get all of those. We actually live in a time that is the most amazing because what happens when you're in high school and you had to write a research paper? What did you have to do? Well, you paid a book that that was in college, not high school. I actually did my homework in in high school.

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Okay. You had to go to the library.

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You had to go to the library. What did you usually pull out?

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The encyclopedia.

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Encyclopedia.

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The encyclopedia. And that could be maybe a year out of date. It could have been maybe a little longer. That's why you always had to use some periodicals, which was a newspaper, a magazine, because they were a little bit more up-to-date. But now, if you have a question and you don't know it, what do you typically do? Google.

SPEAKER_00 7:54

Go on the Android call.

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Yeah, you Google it, you chat GPT it, you have all these different resources. And how long does it take you to get an answer? Seconds. Seconds. You can have 20 questions, and within 10 seconds, you can have the answer to all of them as fast as you could type them. So access to knowledge is not our barrier to being rich, skinny, or happy. Maybe back in the day when we didn't have so much access to knowledge, maybe it was a little slower. Back in the 1800s, if they got news that in a newspaper it might be a month old when somebody read it. So access to knowledge was a little slower. Now we have a speed of access to knowledge. And so one of the knowledge isn't the issue. It's not because we don't know enough or have enough available. Why are we not skinny rich and happy? Is because of application. Application of how do we apply it to our life in the manner we want? It's really easy to know how to make a million dollars. Because you probably can read an article and they say this is how you make a million dollars. Or let's not even say a million dollars, let's say a hundred thousand dollars. And you have to what do you have to do when you read that article or you read that information?

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You have to put that into action.

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You have to put that in action. You can probably scroll through TikTok and look up home-based businesses or some sort of course design, and you can find a gazillion different ways to make money at home. So why isn't everybody making money at home?

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Because of our lack of applying those principles.

AI, Opportunity, And Taking Bets

SPEAKER_03 9:51

Yeah, because maybe it's gonna require you to learn Canva. Maybe, you know, I hear more and more that more millionaires are gonna be made from AI by using AI than there ever has been before. Because AI is very powerful, whether you like it or not, whether you dig your feet in against it or not, it doesn't really matter because it's gonna end up steamrolling over everybody because it is um it's kind of like the World Wide Web when it first dial-up came on. What is this crazy thing called the World Wide Web? Why would I want to buy a dot-com name? And now we look back and go, well, why wouldn't somebody want to do that? And I just listened to an interview the other day with James Woods. Does anybody remember James Woods? He was an actor. I don't even know what remember what movies he was in. But he uh he's not in any movies anymore because he's producing movies and all that because he got blackballed for his politics and all that from Hollywood. But he said he had had some extra money, and in the in the 80s, he invested in this little company called Macintosh. And his investor said, the guy that was investing his money said, You don't want to do that, that's a waste of money. And he said, if you're gonna do that, I'm gonna have to drop you as a client. And so James Wood said, Well, that's fine, you know, but would you please, you know, make this investment? And you know, how much this is how much money I have. He said, I want to buy 13,000 shares. So the guy said, Well, I'll buy them for you, but you're gonna have to find somebody else after that. So he said, Okay. And so he did, and you know, that turned into Apple. And he said, I never sold, never sold a share. And he said, you know, so right now he said, I'm a rich guy. And he used a more looser term language.

SPEAKER_00 11:38

He used more colorful languages, more colorful language than that.

SPEAKER_03 11:40

He said, So I can do whatever I want. Because he took kind of what he knew about that company and he applied it. And that's really and what you know, he didn't care what other people were saying. He's he was like, This is what I want to do. I'm gonna take this knowledge that I have, and I can kind of see where this is going in the direction this this goofy computer is taking, and now we all walk around with one in our hand. And now he's got tons of money because he never sold it, sold a share and he bought it cheap. I mean, all the time it's split and all that, but it's the application, it's how do we apply it? It's kind of like it really bugs me when people say if I did it, anybody can do it. Y'all believe that when you hear that? No, why?

SPEAKER_02 12:28

Because that person's probably a little more motivated than I am.

Why “If I Did It, Anyone Can” Fails

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Yeah, they might be a little more motivated, they might have a little bit more drive, they might be able to understand things a little bit simpler. There could be a gazillion different reasons why just because I did it doesn't mean everybody can do it. Because again, it goes back to the application. Are you gonna apply what you know? And sometimes we have to learn new things. Maybe we want to start a new business, we have to learn something and apply it. Maybe we have to learn about customer service, we have to apply it. Maybe we have to learn about people skills, we have to apply it. Maybe we have to use learn about communication, we have to apply it. So just because knowledge is not the problem, it's how do we apply that? And then do we apply it in the right manner? Whether it's exercise, you know, you know, knowledge, knowing, I mean, any of you being snowed in could have easily within seconds said, give me a full body workout and found the exact thing to do. But and you might have 10 of those saved on your phone and maybe done net never done any of them. You might have 10 ways to make 500 bucks, and you haven't done them. It may be 10 different ways to make me happy, and you haven't done any of them. So it's about it's how do we apply those, and then we then kind of underneath application is our discipline, kind of like Kim said, it's our discipline. What's our first first thought when we see someone fit?

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That was some hard work.

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What if you're not a person that goes to the gym? What's your first thought?

SPEAKER_02 14:18

They were probably just they were made that way, they were made that way. Good jeans, good jeans, thanks for those words because I couldn't come up with yeah.

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Lucky them, it must be nice. It must be nice. If we see somebody that has lots of money, a millionaire, well, that must be nice. We see a movie star, that must be nice. Well, look at them. And the interesting thing is if you watch a lot of people that have money or listen to them or talk or or you listen to their story, it's a lot of work. I'm always impressed by actors when I listen to them about the the amount of depth they go into preparing for a role and how they practice and how they all that they do when they get on screen, it it looks so easy. You know, what if we see somebody that's happy? I mean constantly happy. What do we usually say or think?

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Something's wrong with them.

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Something's wrong with them.

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That's nauseating.

Discipline Over Motivation

Consistency And The Compound Effect

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That's nauseating. They probably don't taking, they probably don't have any stress in their life. We say all those things. But is that really what we believe? If somebody, you know, when you see somebody that's fit, well, you think that's a lot of work. That's challenging, that must take discipline because you've kind of been there, you kind of know. So a lot of them, whether it's any form of skinny fit, any form of happy, any form of rich, they'll probably share a story with you about how challenging it was to get to that point. And that's probably not even the point they want to get. Their happiness may have taken years of therapy. It may have taken years of repairing relationships, it may taken years of failing at different jobs until they found one that made them happy. It may have been years of learning how they learn, how they how they become better students, to know that they weren't just that they weren't dumb. It's they learned differently. So it took years of of getting past that to be happy and embrace the way they are. Maybe we find those that are rich, it was hard. Maybe they threw papers, maybe they sold pens, maybe they signed shine shoes, maybe they've had a bunch of different businesses that failed. I just looked up today about businesses. And within the first five years, 70% of businesses fail. And those that make it 10 years are under 30%. So even that is very challenging. And we go, oh, well, you made it five years, it must be nice. And you made it 10 years. It's hard work and supplying things that you learned along the way. So it so it didn't just happen. We just didn't get this knowledge and do it. It's kind of like basketball players, football players. Yes, they have talent, but they have an amazing work ethic. They shoot basket after basket after basket, they kick ball after ball after ball, they hit ball after ball after ball, they catch ball. It's repetitive. It's that discipline when they have a cold, they don't stay home and go, I got the sniffles. I can't go out today. It is doing those hard things. It's you know, maybe it's working overtime, maybe it's working those 70, 80 hour weeks, maybe it's getting up early on a cold, snowy morning when nobody else wants to get up and you're able to get out. And it's when you'd rather stay in bed, it's staying focused, it's overcoming those obstacles. I mean, her name just slipped me, but she sold her cosmetic company for like a billion dollars, literally a billion dollars. And she's huh?

SPEAKER_00 18:32

Kern.

Micro Wins And Momentum

SPEAKER_03 18:33

Kern, yeah, Jamie Lee Kern. Yeah, she sold her cosmetic because she had rosacea. And and to cover cover that, and one of the one of the investors, one of the people that she was pitching her company to said, you don't have the look for this, because she was overweight, and said you don't have the look for this. And she was down to her last thousand dollars, I think, in her bank account. And the company started, they she found an investor, she started making money and be profitable, and then I think it was Cover Girl or one of those other ones, but she sold it for a billion dollars cash. So all those, so we look at her and go, wow, it must be nice to be rich. But nobody goes, Wow, it must nice, it must nice, it must be nice to know not when you're gonna be able to go to the grocery store again, or that you have to pick pennies from the couch just to go buy some food. Nobody says that must be nice when you could barely walk one mile per hour. Nobody says, Wow, it must have been nice when you couldn't fit into your jeans. It must have been nice when you were so sad you you hid in your closet and just cried and cried and cried. It must have been so nice when you couldn't get out of bed. Nobody says that. Whatever your definitions. Of skinny, whatever your definition of rich is, whatever your definition of happiness is. And when, as I give you those keys to happiness, no matter what your definition is, you'll be able to apply those keys to that definition of happiness. And so we have to have discipline. Doing the hard things. I mean, discipline really is having temporary pain for future outcome, for future gain. It's temporary pain for future gain. And that's really what discipline is about. Knowing that something is gonna be bigger and better if I just sacrifice a little bit. If I just sacrifice a little bit of a harder run now, it's gonna be better later. Somebody is checking their groceries. Price check on aisle two, please. That's so funny. I bet they're the best checker they've ever had. So discipline. We have to have application, we have to have discipline of that application, and then we have to have consistency. It has to be repetitive. Unless you put a nickel in the slot machine, they're still scanning away who's scanning, but man, they are they're getting after it. And they don't even hear us. So that means they're not even listening. How about that? How about that? Consistency. Unless you're going to a slot machine in Vegas and you hit the mega millions, you're not going to get rich. It has to be consistent, it has to be over and over and over. So it happens when we apply our knowledge and our discipline over and over and over. We don't get happy overnight. We wake up and we decide what's going to make us happy. And then we take whatever knowledge that we have that's that makes us happy and we apply that. And we're disciplined in that. We're not going to let anybody steal our joy. We're not going to let anybody steal our happiness. And then we keep doing that because there's going to. And I can't even tell who it is.

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I don't know who it is, but I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 22:33

It might be Carrie. I think she might be. I think I think she's the only one. Maybe Melissa, but it's Carrie.

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Not me. It's Carrie. We all know where it's coming from. It's just Carrie. Anyhow. Here we are.

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We're about to hear Bless Your Heart. Or a Merry Christmas.

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But one time.

The Challenge: From Knowing To Doing

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One time, and you don't live it down. I didn't I didn't know if that if that beep beep at the checkout was Melissa's bluebell going through over and over again. So it has to be repetitive. We have to do it over and over and over again. Because it has a compounding effect. So and and how does that look? Sometimes it means that we find a few extra dollars at the end of the month. We find a few extra dollars at the end of the week. Maybe it means that you're finding more happier moments throughout the day. Over and over and over. Maybe it's you start to go, oh, I didn't have to suck in to button my pants. Oh, I see a little bump on my arm. Oh, I see a little definition here. Oh, I didn't run out of breath doing this. Oh, it's it's all those little things that happen from compounding. Because all those things didn't just happen in one moment, it happened in a compounding effect of being consistent. And so, really, all of those being rich, skinny, and happy, are all within our grasp. We just have to take the knowledge that we have and apply it, be disciplined, and be consistent. So, so the challenge is are you a knowledge junkie? In other words, are you just gaining knowledge and not doing anything with those and though in one of those areas? Because I think those areas kind of cover our life. And so the challenge is if you are, then stop and start applying with discipline and consistency. And thank you for joining us on sit and talk. I look forward to seeing right here next time on sit and talk.