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On Attachment
Join relationship coach Stephanie Rigg in On Attachment, where she delves deep into all things attachment theory, love, relationships & intimacy - sharing her wisdom and experience to help you start making real changes in your life & relationships.
Episodes
199 episodes
#199: How Our Early Imprints Shape Our Lives & Relationships with Lael Stone
In this episode, I’m joined by educator, speaker, and author Lael Stone to explore the powerful role that early imprints play in shaping the stories we carry — about ourselves, others, and the world around us.We dive into how our earlies...
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Episode 199
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#198: What Anxiously Attached People Need to Thrive in a Relationship
When you have an anxious attachment style, it can be hard to know what you actually need to feel secure — especially if past relationships have left you second-guessing yourself or trying to manage your anxiety by suppressing your need...
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Episode 198
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21:59
#197: What Avoidant People Need to Thrive in a Relationship
In today’s episode, we’re exploring what avoidant attached people actually need to feel safe and secure in a relationship — and how partners can support that without self-abandoning.Avoidant attachment is often misunderstood — labelled a...
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Episode 197
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21:39
#196: How & Why We Self-Abandon in Relationships
If you deeply fear abandonment, there’s a good chance you’ve also been abandoning yourself in quiet, subtle, and painful ways.In today’s episode, we’re exploring how fear of abandonment often leads to patterns of self-abandonmen...
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Episode 196
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19:08
#195: Two Simple Principles for a Healthy Nervous System
In today’s episode, I’m sharing two key principles for building a truly resilient, balanced nervous system — and why one without the other tends to keep us stuck.We’ll explore:Why nervous system health isn’t about being relax...
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Episode 195
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11:04
#194: When You Don’t Feel Like a Priority in Your Relationship
If you often feel like you're fighting for a place in your partner’s life—like you’re always waiting to be chosen or noticed—this episode is for you.This is one of the most common experiences for people with anxious attachment: that pers...
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Episode 194
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18:49
#193: The Gifts of Anxious Attachment
While it’s easy to focus on the struggles of anxious attachment — overthinking, people-pleasing, fear of abandonment — there are also real gifts that often go hand-in-hand with these attachment patterns. When held with awareness and intention, ...
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Episode 193
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12:15
#192: Boundaries vs. Ultimatums
In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the subtle (but important) differences between requests, boundaries, ultimatums, and dealbreakers. While these words are often used interchangeably, they carry different energies — and understanding those dif...
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Episode 192
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20:39
#191: Pleasure, Rest, & Feeling Good in a Culture of Chronic Stress
In this episode, we're exploring why so many of us struggle to access pleasure, rest, and a felt sense of wellbeing — especially in a culture that glorifies productivity, self-sacrifice, and chronic stress.If you've ever felt like slowin...
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Episode 191
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21:16
#190: How to Stop the Anxious Spiral
If you find yourself spiralling into anxiety — overanalysing a text, catastrophising worst-case scenarios, or feeling like your nervous system is in overdrive — this episode is for you.Today we’re talking about how to stop the anxiou...
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Episode 190
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20:25
#189: Why Anxiously Attached People Struggle with Jealousy
Jealousy is one of the most common—and most shamed—experiences for people with anxious attachment. In this episode, we’re exploring where jealousy really comes from, how it manifests in relationships, and why it makes so much sense through the ...
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Episode 189
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20:59
#188: When Your Relationship Feels Stuck (& What to Do About It)
Feeling stuck in your relationship? Like things are off, disconnected, or just… heavy? You're not alone. Relationship ruts are common — and they're often more about what's bleeding into the relationship (stress, burnout, life overload)...
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Episode 188
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20:46
#187: Is It Better to Heal While Single or in a Relationship?
Whether you’re single or partnered, you might find yourself wondering: Am I in the right place to do this work? There’s often an unspoken belief that there’s a “best” time to heal — and that if we’re not doing it in the ideal condition...
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Episode 187
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24:37
#186: When Life Hasn't Gone to Plan
We all have visions for how we thought life would unfold — timelines we hoped to follow, milestones we expected to reach. So what happens when life doesn't go to plan?In today’s episode, I’m speaking to those moments of disappointment, g...
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Episode 186
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21:32
#185: How Caretaking Impacts Our Relationships
REGISTER FOR MY NEW FREE TRAININGMany of us are taught that taking care of the people we love is the ultimate expression of devotion. But ...
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Episode 185
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21:30
#184: Understanding the Power Struggle Stage of Relationships
Most relationships move through a phase where things start to feel harder than they used to. The spark has dimmed, tension is bubbling beneath the surface, and it feels like you’re constantly clashing or misfiring. This is what’s often called <...
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Episode 184
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26:45
#183: How to Be a Better Partner
When we think about improving our relationships, we’re often focused on what isn’t working — what our partner could do differently, how we’re not getting our needs met, where communication is breaking down.But in this episode, I...
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Episode 183
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22:19
#182: What to Do When Your Partner Doesn't Want to Work on Themselves (or the Relationship)
One of the hardest things to face in a relationship is feeling like you're growing and evolving, while your partner seems simply unwilling to meet you there. Maybe you’ve suggested therapy, brought up recurring issues, or shared books and podca...
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Episode 182
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22:38
#181: The Demonisation of Avoidant Attachment (& Why It Has to Stop)
In today’s episode, I’m diving into a topic that’s both close to my heart and foundational to how I approach this work: the widespread demonisation of avoidant attachment — and why we need to stop doing it.It’s all too common, especially...
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Episode 181
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26:39
#180: 5 Hard Truths About Healing Anxious Attachment
Healing anxious attachment is a life-changing journey — but it’s not always easy. While moving toward secure attachment can bring more ease, confidence, and healthier relationships, it also requires confronting some uncomfortable truths along t...
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22:39
#179: Why You Struggle With Self-Trust
Self-trust is something we all want, but many of us struggle to build it. If you find yourself second-guessing your decisions, over-preparing for worst-case scenarios, or feeling like you can't rely on yourself, you're not alone. In...
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Episode 179
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15:40
#178: When Your Partner Isn't Meeting Your Needs
It’s painful when you feel like your needs in a relationship aren’t being met. Whether it’s emotional intimacy, quality time, affection, or communication, this can lead to frustration, loneliness, and resentment — especially if you’ve voiced yo...
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Episode 178
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20:27
#177: How Social Media Exacerbates Anxious Attachment
Social media can be a minefield at the best of times, but if you have an anxious attachment style, it can amplify relationship anxiety in ways that feel overwhelming. From overanalysing who your partner follows to spiralling over why they haven...
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Episode 177
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23:22
#176: Conscious Dating: How to Raise Your Standards & Date from Self-Worth
In today's episode, we're talking all about conscious dating and how you can raise your standards and date from a place of grounded self-confidence and self-worth. Many anxiously attached people struggle a lot with dating, experiencing anxiety,...
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Episode 176
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23:32
#175: Perfectionism & Anxious Attachment
In today's episode, we explore how perfectionism intersects with anxious attachment and impacts our ability to form secure relationships. We examine how the drive for perfection often stems from attachment wounds around unworthiness and creates...
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Episode 175
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18:04