Episode 171: 10 Signs You Were The Mirror Not The Partner

In this powerful episode, I’m breaking down 10 signs that you weren’t actually seen or loved in your past relationship—you were used as a mirror for someone else’s wounds. If you’ve experienced narcissistic abuse, especially at the hands of a covert or malignant narcissist, this will give you language for the confusion and emotional exhaustion you felt.

We’ll explore how narcissists project their deepest insecurities onto their partners by accusing you of what they’re doing, punishing you for having needs, and gaslighting you into questioning your own reality. These behaviors cause trauma that impacts your nervous system, your sense of identity, and your ability to move forward after emotional abuse or divorce.

This episode goes beyond awareness. I’ll walk you through the trauma responses that keep you stuck in the cycle, like over-explaining, fawning, or playing small and offer shifts to help you begin your healing. Whether you're recovering from a toxic relationship, healing after divorce, or just starting to recognize the signs of narcissistic abuse, this episode will meet you where you are and help you move forward with clarity and power.

If you’re ready to stop being the mirror and start being you, this is where the healing begins.