Be A Better You
The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney. As a young adult, I met a man who I believed was the love of my life. We got married quickly and brought three kids into the world. But something was wrong. I was miserable. And I blamed myself for all the problems in our marriage. What I didn't know, was that I was being emotional abused by who I believe is a narcissist. I decided it was time to break free and step into the person I was always meant to be — confident and free to live the life I’ve always imagined.
I escaped, and I turned my personal story of transformation into a memoir. And now I coach women all over the world to help them transform their pain into empowerment, experience peace and joy, and start living life like never before.
Episodes
218 episodes
Ep 216: Crystals & What They Actually Do for Healing (w/Guest Christine Luken)
What if the clarity you’ve been searching for isn’t something you need to figure out… but something you can learn to receive?In this episode, I sit down with Christine Luken, Financial Dignity Coach, a Crystal Wisdom Co...
Ep 215: Chemistry Isn't Always a Green Flag (Especially After Abuse)
You feel the spark. The pull. The butterflies that make it feel like this could be something real.But what if that “chemistry” isn’t actually a good sign?In this episode, we’re breaking down why intense ...
Ep 214: Your Dreams Are Opening a Door You’ve Been Ignoring
Most people dismiss their dreams as random noise… but what if they’re actually one of the clearest ways your subconscious tries to reach you?In this episode, I sit down with spiritual guide and dream worker Maelle (known as Oneiraya — “q...
Ep 213: It’s Not the Coping Mechanism—It’s What You’re Trying Not to Feel
If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns you know aren’t serving you—whether it’s alcohol, emotional eating, overthinking, or constantly seeking validation from someone—this episode will change the way you see it.In today’s episode...
Ep 212: The Science of Healing After Emotional Abuse (Interview on The Survivor’s Playbook)
What actually happens in the brain after emotional abuse—and why can healing feel so difficult even when you know the relationship was unhealthy?In this episode, I’m sharing a conversation from my recent appearance on Chantal Contorin...
Ep 211: The ‘Ick’ That Won’t Go Away: Emotional Residue After Toxic Relationships.
If you’ve ever felt like you’ve done the work to move on from a toxic or emotionally abusive relationship—but something still lingers—this episode is for you.In this powerful conversation, we’re breaking down the “ick” that won’t go away...
Ep 210: Why Smart People Stay in Toxic Relationships
Have you ever looked back at a relationship and wondered, How did I stay so long when I knew something wasn’t right?In this episode, we’re unpacking a powerful truth that many people struggle to admit: intelligence does not p...
Bonus EP: You Have a Story… So Why Haven’t You Told It Yet? Guest Author Heather Hutzel
If you’ve ever thought, “I could write a book about my life…” but don’t know where to start—this episode is for you.In this powerful conversation, I sit down with author and storytelling coach Heather Hutzel, who has writ...
Ep: 209 Co-Rumination: The Healing Habit That’s Secretly Hurting You
Venting can feel good in the moment—but what if constantly talking about your pain is actually keeping you stuck?In this episode, we’re diving into the hidden dangers of co-rumination—the cycle of repeatedly discussing problems, b...
Ep 208: Your Spicy Brain Is Not Broken: How to Work With Your Mind, Rewire Your Beliefs, and Become Unstoppable
In this powerful episode of The Be a Better You Podcast, we dive deep into neurodivergence, neuroplasticity, and what it truly means to work with your brain instead of against it — especially when you're recovering from emotional abuse, narciss...
Ep 207: “Who Do You Think You Are?” - Getting Out of Imposter Syndrome
Imposter syndrome after emotional abuse looks like doubting your memory.Minimizing what happened. Feeling dramatic for having boundaries.Questioning whether it was “really that bad.”In this episode, we unpack how emotional abuse...
Episode 206: Why You Thought You Were Crazy in Your Relationship (But You Weren’t)
Have you ever walked away from a relationship wondering how you became so confused, reactive, or unsure of yourself? In this episode, we unpack why so many emotionally intelligent, self-aware people end up questioning their own reality in unhea...
Episode 205: Reinforcement Strategies to Break the Trauma Bond
In this episode of the "Be A Better You Podcast," we're diving deeper into the journey of breaking trauma bonds, offering advanced strategies and practical tools for healing. Building on discussions about identifying and challenging harmf...
Episode 204: How to Read People (and yourself) Accurately After Emotional Abuse
After emotional abuse, it’s common to either distrust everyone or to rely too heavily on words, promises, and explanations. In this episode, we talk about how to rebuild discernment by learning how to read people accurately—through patterns of ...
Ep 203: Subtle Signs You Were Emotionally Controlled (That Don’t Look Like Abuse)
Many people don’t relate to the word abuse—not because nothing happened, but because emotional control often doesn’t look dramatic, obvious, or cruel. In emotionally abusive or controlling relationships, the most damaging patterns are ...
Episode 202: Why Trauma Bonds Feel Stronger After You Leave
Leaving an emotionally abusive or toxic relationship doesn’t always bring the relief you expect. For many people, the trauma bond actually feels stronger after it’s over—bringing increased rumination, anxiety, longing, and confusion th...
Episode 201: Emotional Sobriety: Detoxing From the Highs and Lows You Got Addicted To
If you’ve ever caught yourself missing someone who made you anxious, small, or constantly on edge… this episode is for you.Because what you’re feeling is withdrawal, not a personal flaw.After emotionally unsafe, narcissistic abuse...
Ep 200: What 200 Episodes Taught Me About Healing (Why Ease Matters More Than Effort)
Two hundred episodes in, certain truths become impossible to ignore.After years of conversations, client work, and pattern-spotting, one thing is clear: people don’t struggle because they lack insight, discipline, or desire to change. Th...
Ep 199: A Matchmaker’s Perspective: Dating After Abuse (with Tina Joy)
Dating after emotional abuse isn’t about learning better lines or spotting red flags faster. It’s about understanding what gets activated inside you when intimacy returns.In this episode, I sit down with Tina Joy...
Episode 198: Your Solution to Why You Can't Stick to it Past 2 Weeks
Ever notice how motivation feels strong for about two weeks and then suddenly disappears?If you’ve ever told yourself “I just can’t stick to things” or “I always fall off,” this episode is going to flip that belief on its head.B...
Episode 197: Actionable Steps to Unblocking Your Path to Success
Welcome to The Be A Better You Podcast, where I am exploring empowering women to break through their subconscious blocks that hinder personal growth and success. In this episode, we explore the hidden barriers that hold us back, from fear-based...
Episode 196: The Secret to Following Through to Be A Better You!
The New Year is soon! So let's dive in to being a Better You.Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in life — spinning your wheels, starting over and over but never following through? Maybe you’ve tried to eat healthier, save money, be a bet...
Episode 195: The Narcissistic Hoover Season & How to Combat it
Free Starter Pack with "how to truly stay no contact" https://www.radiatenrise.com/survivor-starter-packIt’s officially Hoover Season — that magical time of year when toxic...
EP 194: Holiday Trigger Season: Why You Feel Pulled Back Into the Past & How to Ground In the Present
If the holidays hit you harder than any other time of year, you are not alone — and nothing is wrong with you. In this episode, we’re digging into why December activates old emotional wounds, resurfaces trauma you thought you healed, a...
Episode 193: Stop Trying to Rescue Everyone - The Holiday Savior Complex
If December turns you into everyone’s emotional paramedic, this episode is your intervention.We’re unpacking the Holiday Savior Complex, that sneaky trauma-driven pattern where you over-function, over-give, manage everyone’s...