Be A Better You
The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney. As a young adult, I met a man who I believed was the love of my life. We got married quickly and brought three kids into the world. But something was wrong. I was miserable. And I blamed myself for all the problems in our marriage. What I didn't know, was that I was being emotional abused by who I believe is a narcissist. I decided it was time to break free and step into the person I was always meant to be — confident and free to live the life I’ve always imagined.
I escaped, and I turned my personal story of transformation into a memoir. And now I coach women all over the world to help them transform their pain into empowerment, experience peace and joy, and start living life like never before.
Episodes
160 episodes
When Seeing the Good in Others Becomes Self Abandonment
If you’ve ever obsessed over someone’s potential while ignoring the patterns and reality, this episode is for you.We’re unpacking a hard truth today: sometimes, “seeing the good” is a trauma response and self-abandoment...and it causes more...
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From Religion to Resonance: Reclaiming Joy, Spirituality & Self with Wendy Harvey
In this episode, I’m joined by the radiant Wendy Harvey, a trained hypnotist, certified quantum coach, and spiritual healer who helps overthinkers and people-pleasers move from stuck and drained to empowered and aligned.Wendy grew up in ...
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What I Actually Do Every Day to Heal, Grow, and Stay Free
Most people think healing happens in therapy sessions or with a magic breakthrough moment.For me, it didn’t.It happened in the daily moments nobody saw — the choices, the habits, the mindset shifts I practiced over and over until they b...
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How to Finally Manifest What you Deserve and Desire
Still feeling stuck, blocked, or like manifestation just isn’t working for you—no matter how much inner work you’ve done? You’re not alone… and you’re definitely not doing it wrong.In this episode, I’m breaking down the real reaso...
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10 Signs Your Nervous System Still Thinks You’re in That Relationship
You left the relationship—but your body still hasn’t.In this powerful episode, I’m walking you through 10 signs your nervous system still thinks you’re in that emotionally abusive relationship, even if it ended weeks, months, or years ag...
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Why Shrinking Yourself Attracts the Wrong People
If you’ve ever felt like you have to tone yourself down, stay quiet, or be "easier to love" in order to keep people around—you’re not alone. But here’s the hard truth: shrinking yourself doesn’t protect you. It actually attracts the wrong
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Becoming Abundant: Healing Money Wounds & Unpacking Financial Abuse
In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with money mindset and manifestation coach Victoria D’Ambrozio for a powerful conversation on healing your relationship with money. We dive into the stories and beliefs we absorbed in childhood, how they ...
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Rumination Relief is Possible For You
If your mind won’t stop replaying old conversations, checking their socials, or wondering what you did wrong — this episode is your gentle interruption.Rumination isn’t about logic. It’s about emotion, protection, and an overwhelmed nerv...
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Unlocking Healing & Purpose Through Human Design with Adriana Keefe
Have you ever felt like something inside you was meant for more, but you just couldn’t access it? Maybe you’ve felt disconnected from your true self—like society, trauma, or past experiences have shut you down.Well, today’s guest knows e...
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10 Signs it Wasn't You, It Was Emotional Abuse
If you’ve ever walked away from a toxic relationship thinking “maybe I was the problem,” this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air. In this powerful and eye-opening episode, we’re unpacking 10 subtle signs it wasn’t you — it...
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Am I The Toxic One? Understanding Your Defensive Reactions
Have you ever looked back on your relationship and thought, “Was I the problem?” Maybe you manipulated conversations to avoid conflict, withheld things to protect yourself, or even lost your temper—and now you’re questioning if you wer...
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How to Feel Safe in Your Body After Emotional Abuse
After experiencing emotional abuse, it can feel like your body is stuck in survival mode—constantly scanning for threats, even when none exist. In this episode, we’re diving deep into how to reconnect with safety in your body by addressi...
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Reclaiming Your Power: Why Seeking Validation Keeps You Stuck
Have you ever felt amazing when someone compliments you—only to feel completely crushed when they criticize you? That’s the trap of external validation. When your worth is dependent on what others think, you give away your power—allowing...
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Neural Plasticity in Action: My Real Life Story and Tips to Change Your Brain
In this special episode of the 'Be A Better You Podcast,' I share with you the fascinating world of neural plasticity, the brain's remarkable ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. This concept isn't jus...
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How to Avoid a Narcissist: Shifting Beliefs and Energetics that Make You Vulnerable
Have you ever asked yourself, “Why do I keep ending up in toxic relationships?” If you’ve experienced narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, or felt trapped in trauma bonds, you might believe you’re somehow attractin...
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3 Common Beliefs Keeping You Stuck (and ways to shift them)
Have you ever felt like no matter how much time passes, you’re still stuck in the same emotional loops? Maybe you’re doing all the “right” things, but the past still weighs heavy, and healing feels just out of reach.The truth is, it’s no...
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What No One Tells You About the Healing Journey
Healing from emotional abuse isn’t as simple as “moving on.” If you’ve ever felt stuck in post-separation abuse, trapped in the cycle of rumination, or like no matter how much time passes, the pain still lingers—this episod...
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Radiate and Rise: Turning Pain Into Power
Have you ever felt like you’d never escape the emotional pain of narcissistic abuse, emotional manipulation, or post-separation abuse? Like the weight of your past will always hold you back?In this powerful episode, ...
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Smear Campaigns: How to Protect Your Peace When They Attack Your Character
In this episode, I dive into the exhausting and painful reality of smear campaigns—when someone spreads lies to damage your reputation. Drawing from my own story I share what I call the “Ten Pages of Hate” from my upcoming book Rad...
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My Top Tips to Communicating with a Narcissist
Today, we will be diving into the challenging topic of how to communicate with a narcissist. If you are dealing with a narcissistic ex-partner, family member, or co-worker, you know how stressful and draining these interactions can be. But fear...
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How to Deal When the Abuse Continues Post-Separation
Leaving an abusive relationship is supposed to bring peace, but for many, the abuse doesn’t end—it evolves and often ramps up. In this episode of The Be Better You Podcast, we tackle the reality of post-separation abuse and provide act...
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You Can't Love People Harder Into Loving You
In this episode, we dive deep into the emotional trap of believing that if you just love someone harder, they’ll finally love you back the way you deserve. Whether it’s over-giving, trying to fix someone, or sacrificing your needs to keep the p...
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Setting Intentions for Emotional Healing in 2025
Setting clear intentions is the foundation for effective emotional healing. Without them, you risk wandering aimlessly, unsure of your direction. In this episode, I’ll walk you through 5 simple steps to create a powerful intention that...
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The "V" Word
Were you victimized in the past? Maybe you are still being victimized. In today's episode I am sharing some very important insights with you regarding victims. You have my utmost sympathy and compassion if you are or were victimized by an abuse...
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How ‘Knowing You Know Nothing’ Can Transform Your Life
Have you ever been so sure you knew something—only to realize later you were way off? In this episode, we dive into the timeless wisdom of Socrates and his famous quote, “The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.” We’ll expl...
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