Be A Better You
The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney. As a young adult, I met a man who I believed was the love of my life. We got married quickly and brought three kids into the world. But something was wrong. I was miserable. And I blamed myself for all the problems in our marriage. What I didn't know, was that I was being emotional abused by who I believe is a narcissist. I decided it was time to break free and step into the person I was always meant to be — confident and free to live the life I’ve always imagined.
I escaped, and I turned my personal story of transformation into a memoir. And now I coach women all over the world to help them transform their pain into empowerment, experience peace and joy, and start living life like never before.
The views and opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect my personal views, opinions, or professional positions.
Episodes
235 episodes
Ep 229: Healing Blind Spots No One Talks About
Have you ever felt like you're doing everything "right" to heal, but somehow you still feel stuck?Maybe you've read the books, listened to the podcasts, gone to therapy, or spent countless hours trying to understand what happened in your...
Bonus EP: Finding Safe Friendships After a Toxic Relationship (with Dr. K)
Leaving a toxic or emotionally abusive relationship often means leaving behind more than just one person. It can leave you questioning your judgment, feeling isolated, and wondering if you'll ever be able to trust people again.In this ep...
Ep 228: A Troll Tried to Silence Me & Why This Matters for You
What do you do when someone publicly criticizes you, questions your mission, or tries to shame you into staying quiet?In this episode, I'm sharing a recent experience with an online troll who challenged not only my work but my decision t...
Ep 227: The Skill Nobody Ever Taught You: Disappointing People
Have you spent your life trying to keep everyone happy? Do you feel guilty setting boundaries, saying no, or making decisions that someone else might not like?In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, Allison explores why di...
Bonus EP: Designing the Life You Love with Lyndsey Kampen
Today's episode features guest Lyndsey Kampen. Lyndsey shares her personal story with us about her experience with toxic relationships and how she overcame them to design the life she loves. She is a designer by trade and experience so designin...
Ep 226: The One Thing You're Avoiding That's Keeping You Stuck
Have you ever felt like you're doing everything you possibly can to move forward... but somehow you still feel stuck?Maybe you've convinced yourself you just need to work harder, learn more, or push through a little longer.But wha...
Ep 225: Are You Growing From Adversity...Or Staying Stuck
Have you ever wondered why you've been through so much, yet still feel stuck in the same emotional patterns?In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, Allison explores a powerful distinction that completely changed her heal...
Bonus EP: What We Can Learn from a Narcissistic Mother After Death
In this special episode, I'm joined by author Carole Murphy to explore an experience that changed the way she views life, grief, and healing. After the loss of her mother, Carole sought answers through a channeler, leading to a conversation tha...
Ep 224: The Things You Don't Expect After Leaving a Toxic Relationship
The Things You Don't Expect After Leaving a Toxic RelationshipMany survivors believe leaving a toxic relationship is the finish line.But for some, leaving is the moment the abuser realizes they are losing access to control—...
Bonus EP: Breaking Through Your Financial Limits with Money Mindset and Manifestation Coach Victoria D'Ambrosio
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Ep 223: The Hidden Grief Nobody Talks About After a Toxic Relationship
Have you ever found yourself wondering if you wasted the best years of your life on the wrong person?Maybe you've replayed old relationships in your mind, imagined different outcomes, or found yourself thinking, "What if I had made a dif...
Ep 222: The Real Reason You Replay Conversations for Hours Afterwards
Do you replay conversations in your head for hours after they happen? Do you find yourself analyzing texts, worrying that you said the wrong thing, wondering if someone is upset with you, or constantly trying to figure out what other people are...
Ep 221: You Know They Were Toxic, So Why Do You Still Care?
You know the relationship was unhealthy. You know they hurt you. You know you deserve better. So why do you still care?If you've ever found yourself thinking about a toxic ex, missing someone who treated you poorly, or feeling confused a...
Ep 220: Why You Keep Mentally Fighting With Your Ex (or your Abuser)
If you’ve ever caught yourself mentally arguing with your ex while driving, showering, trying to sleep, or folding laundry… this episode is for you.In this episode, we’re talking about the exhausting mental loops that so many women exper...
Ep 219: Loving Someone’s Potential Is Keeping You Trapped
If you keep finding yourself waiting for someone to change, holding onto the “good parts” of them, replaying their promises in your head, or wondering whether you’re giving up too soon…this episode is for you.In this powerful episode of ...
Ep 218: When Your Ex Turns the Kids Against You (Guest Lisa Johnson BTGO)
Parental alienation as a broad concept is one of the most painful and misunderstood experiences a parent can go through—especially after emotional abuse, divorce, or separation.In this episode, I sit down with Lisa Johnson of "Been There...
Ep 217: The Story You Make Up About What Everyone Thinks of You
Why do you always assume you did something wrong in relationships? Why does your mind immediately jump to “they must be thinking something bad about me” when someone pulls away, doesn’t respond, or seems off?In this episode, we break dow...
Ep 216: Crystals & What They Actually Do for Healing (w/Guest Christine Luken)
What if the clarity you’ve been searching for isn’t something you need to figure out… but something you can learn to receive?In this episode, I sit down with Christine Luken, Financial Dignity Coach, a Crystal Wisdom Co...
Ep 215: Chemistry Isn't Always a Green Flag (Especially After Abuse)
You feel the spark. The pull. The butterflies that make it feel like this could be something real.But what if that “chemistry” isn’t actually a good sign?In this episode, we’re breaking down why intense ...
Ep 214: Your Dreams Are Opening a Door You’ve Been Ignoring (Guest Dream Worker Oneiraya)
Most people dismiss their dreams as random noise… but what if they’re actually one of the clearest ways your subconscious tries to reach you?In this episode, I sit down with spiritual guide and dream worker Maelle (known as Oneiraya — “q...
Ep 213: It’s Not the Coping Mechanism—It’s What You’re Trying Not to Feel
If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns you know aren’t serving you—whether it’s alcohol, emotional eating, overthinking, or constantly seeking validation from someone—this episode will change the way you see it.In today’s episode...
Ep 212: The Science of Healing After Emotional Abuse (Interview on The Survivor’s Playbook)
What actually happens in the brain after emotional abuse—and why can healing feel so difficult even when you know the relationship was unhealthy?In this episode, I’m sharing a conversation from my recent appearance on Chantal Contorin...
Ep 211: The ‘Ick’ That Won’t Go Away: Emotional Residue After Toxic Relationships.
If you’ve ever felt like you’ve done the work to move on from a toxic or emotionally abusive relationship—but something still lingers—this episode is for you.In this powerful conversation, we’re breaking down the “ick” that won’t go away...
Ep 210: Why Smart People Stay in Toxic Relationships
Have you ever looked back at a relationship and wondered, How did I stay so long when I knew something wasn’t right?In this episode, we’re unpacking a powerful truth that many people struggle to admit: intelligence does not p...
Bonus EP: You Have a Story… So Why Haven’t You Told It Yet? Guest Author Heather Hutzel
If you’ve ever thought, “I could write a book about my life…” but don’t know where to start—this episode is for you.In this powerful conversation, I sit down with author and storytelling coach Heather Hutzel, who has writ...