Be A Better You
The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney. As a young adult, I met a man who I believed was the love of my life. We got married quickly and brought three kids into the world. But something was wrong. I was miserable. And I blamed myself for all the problems in our marriage. What I didn't know, was that I was being emotional abused by who I believe is a narcissist. I decided it was time to break free and step into the person I was always meant to be — confident and free to live the life I’ve always imagined.
I escaped, and I turned my personal story of transformation into a memoir. And now I coach women all over the world to help them transform their pain into empowerment, experience peace and joy, and start living life like never before.
Episodes
202 episodes
Episode 201: Emotional Sobriety: Detoxing From the Highs and Lows You Got Addicted To
If you’ve ever caught yourself missing someone who made you anxious, small, or constantly on edge… this episode is for you.Because what you’re feeling is withdrawal, not a personal flaw.After emotionally unsafe, narcissistic abuse...
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Episode 201
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Ep 200: What 200 Episodes Taught Me About Healing (Why Ease Matters More Than Effort)
Two hundred episodes in, certain truths become impossible to ignore.After years of conversations, client work, and pattern-spotting, one thing is clear: people don’t struggle because they lack insight, discipline, or desire to change. Th...
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Ep 199: A Matchmaker’s Perspective: Dating After Abuse (with Tina Joy)
Dating after emotional abuse isn’t about learning better lines or spotting red flags faster. It’s about understanding what gets activated inside you when intimacy returns.In this episode, I sit down with Tina Joy...
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Episode 198: Your Solution to Why You Can't Stick to it Past 2 Weeks
Ever notice how motivation feels strong for about two weeks and then suddenly disappears?If you’ve ever told yourself “I just can’t stick to things” or “I always fall off,” this episode is going to flip that belief on its head.B...
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Episode 198
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Episode 197: Actionable Steps to Unblocking Your Path to Success
Welcome to The Be A Better You Podcast, where I am exploring empowering women to break through their subconscious blocks that hinder personal growth and success. In this episode, we explore the hidden barriers that hold us back, from fear-based...
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Episode 197
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Episode 196: The Secret to Following Through to Be A Better You!
The New Year is soon! So let's dive in to being a Better You.Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in life — spinning your wheels, starting over and over but never following through? Maybe you’ve tried to eat healthier, save money, be a bet...
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Episode 196
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Episode 195: The Narcissistic Hoover Season & How to Combat it
Free Starter Pack with "how to truly stay no contact" https://www.radiatenrise.com/survivor-starter-packIt’s officially Hoover Season — that magical time of year when toxic...
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Episode 195
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EP 194: Holiday Trigger Season: Why You Feel Pulled Back Into the Past & How to Ground In the Present
If the holidays hit you harder than any other time of year, you are not alone — and nothing is wrong with you. In this episode, we’re digging into why December activates old emotional wounds, resurfaces trauma you thought you healed, a...
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Episode 193: Stop Trying to Rescue Everyone - The Holiday Savior Complex
If December turns you into everyone’s emotional paramedic, this episode is your intervention.We’re unpacking the Holiday Savior Complex, that sneaky trauma-driven pattern where you over-function, over-give, manage everyone’s...
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Episode 193
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Episode 192: Stressmas - How to Reduce Holiday Stress for You and Your Kids
Today I am shedding light on the unique challenges faced by abuse victims and survivors during the holiday season—dubbed "Stressmas." As the festive spirit envelops many, those navigating abuse often find themselves in heightened stress, facing...
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Episode 192
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Episode 191: Doing Positive Affirmations Wrong is Wasting Your Time
In this eye-opening episode, we unravel the intriguing complexities behind the world of positive affirmations and why they so often don’t work. We explore the profound impact of subconscious communication, emphasizing the transformativ...
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Episode 191
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Episode 190: The Truth About “Doing the Work” (and Why You’re Still Stuck)
Have you read all the books, journaled your heart out, listened to the podcasts, and done all the work — yet still wake up anxious, triggered, or doubting your worth? You’re not broken. You’re just trying to heal with the wrong tools.<...
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Episode 190
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Episode 189: When Healing Feels Like Betrayal & Letting Go of The Guilt
Have you ever felt a wave of guilt the moment you finally laughed, smiled, or felt a spark of joy after abuse? You’re not alone. For many survivors, healing can feel like betrayal — especially when your kids, family, or others are still struggl...
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Episode 189
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Episode 188: The Lone Wolf Trap & Why Healing In Isolation Isn't Working
After emotional abuse, solitude can feel like safety. You tell yourself, I’m fine on my own. I don’t need anyone. But what if that fierce independence—the “lone wolf” mindset—is actually what’s keeping you from healing?In this e...
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Episode 188
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Episode 187: The Hidden Costs of Emotional Abuse
The wounds of emotional abuse aren’t always visible. Survivors often carry scars that the outside world can’t see—feelings of isolation, anxiety, self-doubt, and the deep loss of identity. These are the hidden costs of emotional abuse, a...
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Episode 186: The Cycle That Keeps You Hooked: Love Bombing & Trauma Bonds
“Why didn’t you just leave?” It’s the question survivors of abuse hear the most—and the one that causes the deepest shame. The truth is, leaving an abusive relationship isn’t simple. The reason is something called the cycle of abuse...
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Episode 185: Unusual Signs of Emotional Abuse You’ve Probably Never Heard Of
Most people think abuse has to be physical or obvious to “count.” The truth? Some of the most damaging forms of emotional abuse are subtle, confusing, and hard to explain—yet they leave deep scars.In honor of Domestic Violence ...
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Episode 184B: Proof That Healthy Relationships Do Exist with Michelle Lentz
When you’ve lived through emotional abuse, the very idea of a healthy, loving relationship can feel like a fantasy. Maybe you’ve never experienced respect, true friendship, or kindness in a partner. Maybe you’ve been told—through words or throu...
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Episode 184: Gaslighting, Coercive Control and Minimization
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and in this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—pulls back the curtain on 3 key ways emotional abuse presents it...
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Episode 183: Navigating High-Conflict Divorce: Strategies to Protect Your Peace & Power with Chantal Contorines
Going through a high-conflict divorce can feel overwhelming, isolating, and downright scary. In this rapid-fire episode of Be A Better You Podcast, host Allison K. Dagney sits down with Certified Divorce Coach Chantal Contorines to ans...
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Episode 182: Mini Series 4: Why You Should Be Angry About It
Do you feel guilty for being angry about what happened to you? Survivors of emotional abuse are often told to “forgive and forget,” or they fear that expressing anger will make them just like their abuser. But here’s the truth: your anger is no...
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Episode 181: Mini Series 3: Why You Shouldn't Have Left Sooner
Do you beat yourself up with the thought, “I should’ve left sooner”? Survivors of emotional abuse often live with deep regret, believing they wasted years or failed themselves and their children by staying too long. But here’s the trut...
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Episode 180: Mini Series 2: Why You Couldn't Have Known Better
Do you replay your past and think, “I should’ve known better”? Survivors of emotional abuse often torture themselves with regret, believing they failed by not recognizing the truth sooner. But here’s the reality: you couldn’t have know...
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Episode 179: Mini Series 1: Why You Shouldn't Have Seen The Signs
Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “I should’ve seen the signs of abuse”? If you’ve been replaying your past and blaming yourself for not noticing the red flags, this episode will bring you relief and clarity. The truth is, you could...
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Episode 178: Struggling With Indecision & How to Build Self Trust
Struggling to make decisions after emotional abuse? You’re not alone. Survivors often face crippling self-doubt, fear of making the “wrong” choice, and the exhausting cycle of second-guessing themselves. In this episode of Be A Better You P...
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