Be A Better You
The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney. As a young adult, I met a man who I believed was the love of my life. We got married quickly and brought three kids into the world. But something was wrong. I was miserable. And I blamed myself for all the problems in our marriage. What I didn't know, was that I was being emotional abused by who I believe is a narcissist. I decided it was time to break free and step into the person I was always meant to be — confident and free to live the life I’ve always imagined.
I escaped, and I turned my personal story of transformation into a memoir. And now I coach women all over the world to help them transform their pain into empowerment, experience peace and joy, and start living life like never before.
Episodes
188 episodes
Episode 186: The Cycle That Keeps You Hooked: Love Bombing & Trauma Bonds
“Why didn’t you just leave?” It’s the question survivors of abuse hear the most—and the one that causes the deepest shame. The truth is, leaving an abusive relationship isn’t simple. The reason is something called the cycle of abuse...
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Episode 185: Unusual Signs of Emotional Abuse You’ve Probably Never Heard Of
Most people think abuse has to be physical or obvious to “count.” The truth? Some of the most damaging forms of emotional abuse are subtle, confusing, and hard to explain—yet they leave deep scars.In honor of Domestic Violence ...
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Episode 184B: Proof That Healthy Relationships Do Exist with Michelle Lentz
When you’ve lived through emotional abuse, the very idea of a healthy, loving relationship can feel like a fantasy. Maybe you’ve never experienced respect, true friendship, or kindness in a partner. Maybe you’ve been told—through words or throu...
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Episode 184: Gaslighting, Coercive Control and Minimization
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and in this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—pulls back the curtain on 3 key ways emotional abuse presents it...
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Episode 183: Navigating High-Conflict Divorce: Strategies to Protect Your Peace & Power with Chantal Contorines
Going through a high-conflict divorce can feel overwhelming, isolating, and downright scary. In this rapid-fire episode of Be A Better You Podcast, host Allison K. Dagney sits down with Certified Divorce Coach Chantal Contorines to ans...
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Episode 182: Mini Series 4: Why You Should Be Angry About It
Do you feel guilty for being angry about what happened to you? Survivors of emotional abuse are often told to “forgive and forget,” or they fear that expressing anger will make them just like their abuser. But here’s the truth: your anger is no...
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Episode 181: Mini Series 3: Why You Shouldn't Have Left Sooner
Do you beat yourself up with the thought, “I should’ve left sooner”? Survivors of emotional abuse often live with deep regret, believing they wasted years or failed themselves and their children by staying too long. But here’s the trut...
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Episode 180: Mini Series 2: Why You Couldn't Have Known Better
Do you replay your past and think, “I should’ve known better”? Survivors of emotional abuse often torture themselves with regret, believing they failed by not recognizing the truth sooner. But here’s the reality: you couldn’t have know...
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Episode 179: Mini Series 1: Why You Shouldn't Have Seen The Signs
Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “I should’ve seen the signs of abuse”? If you’ve been replaying your past and blaming yourself for not noticing the red flags, this episode will bring you relief and clarity. The truth is, you could...
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Episode 178: Struggling With Indecision & How to Build Self Trust
Struggling to make decisions after emotional abuse? You’re not alone. Survivors often face crippling self-doubt, fear of making the “wrong” choice, and the exhausting cycle of second-guessing themselves. In this episode of Be A Better You P...
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Episode 177: Self Love Hack: A Powerful and Quick Manifestation Trick
Today's episode gives you a quick hack towards Self Love! If you've struggled with showing or feeling love for yourself, this trick can help you. It uses a fun visualization exercise you can do anywhere anytime to help strengthen your brain tow...
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Episode 176: Why Nothing Changes When You're Trying So Hard
Are you working so hard to heal but still feel stuck in the same painful cycles? In this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, Allison breaks down why nothing changes when you’re “trying so hard.” You’ll learn why affirmations, journalin...
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Episode 175: Creating Peaceful Co-Parenting with Maria Natapov
In this episode, I sit down with Maria Natapov, step-parenting and co-parenting coach, and facilitator of the BeH2O® framework, to explore how parents can work together — even after separation — to give their children the best chance to thrive....
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Episode 174: The Hidden Impacts of Emotional Abuse — And Why You Don’t Have to Live With Them Forever
Are you struggling with the hidden effects of emotional abuse — like chronic fatigue, anxiety, brain fog, or constant overthinking? In this episode, Allison shares how emotional abuse impacts the body, memory, and relationships long after the a...
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Episode 173: Two Women. Two Stories. One Message: You Can Heal.
In this powerful and deeply personal conversation, Allison and Laura open up about their journeys through — and out of — narcissistic and emotional abuse.Laura Richards is an international podcaster, #1 bestselling author, and speaker de...
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Episode 172: Why You Can't Stop Worrying and 4 Steps to Stop
If you constantly feel anxious, overthink every outcome, or worry about the people you love as a way to “keep them safe,” this episode is for you.In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the truth about chronic worry—how it shows up in...
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Episode 171: 10 Signs You Were The Mirror Not The Partner
In this powerful episode, I’m breaking down 10 signs that you weren’t actually seen or loved in your past relationship—you were used as a mirror for someone else’s wounds. If you’ve experienced narcissistic abuse, especially at th...
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Episode 170: The Dangers of Agreeable AI and How To Use it to Help Not Harm
In this episode, we’re diving into something that’s not talked about enough: the dark side of using AI as your go-to for emotional advice, relationship reflection, and healing support. While artificial intelligence can be a powerful tool...
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Episode 169: Who Am I Without My Pain
In this powerful episode of The Be A Better You Podcast, emotional healing coach Allison K. Dagney explores a question that haunts many survivors of narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, trauma, betrayal, and divorce: Who am I withou...
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Episode 168: 10 Ways Defending Yourself Keeps You Trapped: When Survival is a Cage
In this insightful episode of The Be A Better You Podcast, emotional healing coach Allison K. Dagney dives deep into the hidden ways that self-defense mechanisms, developed after emotional abuse and trauma, can keep you stuck.Di...
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Episode 167: Hidden Ways You Abandon Yourself (and How to Stop)
If you send a text, please include your name and number or email if you'd like a reply.Are you constantly second-guessing yourself… staying silent to “keep the peace”… or pretending you don’t care so you won’t feel disappointed?Th...
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Episode 166: Healing Childhood Abandonment and Rejection Wounds
Note: Texts sent from this platform do not share your phone number or contact info with us. If you want a response, please include your contact info.Are you tired of feeling like you’re always the one left behind in love, friend...
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Episode 165: Why Guilt and Regret are Keeping You Stuck
You might think that holding onto guilt and regret shows how much you’ve grown or how much you cared. But what if those emotions are actually keeping you stuck in the past?In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the lie...
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Episode 164: The Thoughts You're Ashamed to Admit After Abuse & Why They Make Sense
If you’ve ever thought,“She’s better than me.”“Maybe I caused the abuse.” “I hope he suffers like I did.” “What’s wrong with me? I can’t stop thinking about him…” Well, you’re not alone. And you...
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Episode 163: The First Thing You Should Do to Recover From Emotional Abuse
You’ve tried journaling, therapy, cutting contact, reading every book on emotional and narcissistic abuse healing and yet, you still feel like you’re stuck in the same emotional loop.In this episode, I’m revealing the ONE THING that most...
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