Episode 179: Mini Series 1: Why You Shouldn't Have Seen The Signs

Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “I should’ve seen the signs of abuse”? If you’ve been replaying your past and blaming yourself for not noticing the red flags, this episode will bring you relief and clarity. The truth is, you couldn’t have known—because abusers hide the warning signs on purpose.

In this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, host and subconscious reprogramming expert Allison K. Dagney explains why survivors of emotional abuse aren’t meant to spot the red flags early, how abusers use love bombing and manipulation to keep you from recognizing the truth, and why your kindness, trust, and hope are not flaws—they were exploited.

You’ll hear trauma-informed insights, relatable real-life examples, and powerful mindset shifts to help you release the shame and stop asking yourself “why didn’t I know better?” Instead, you’ll learn how to reframe the belief that you missed the signs and start rebuilding trust in yourself.

If you’ve ever Googled: how to stop blaming myself for abuse, why I didn’t see the red flags, signs of emotional abuse I missed, why I stayed so long, or he seemed so perfect at first, this episode is for you.