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Episode 195: The Narcissistic Hoover Season & How to Combat it

Allison K. Dagney Episode 195

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It’s officially Hoover Season — that magical time of year when toxic exes suddenly remember you exist and send a “Merry Christmas ❤️” text that derails your entire night. If you’ve ever felt your heart drop, your stomach twist, or your brain spiral from one message… this episode is for you.

We’re breaking down why narcissists and emotionally abusive partners love the holidays, why they come back during December, and what their sudden “I’ve changed” or “I miss us” messages actually mean (spoiler: it’s not love). You’ll learn the psychology behind hoovering, how to decode the emotional bait, and why your nervous system reacts even when you know better.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:
 ✨ The 6 flavors of holiday hoovering and how to spot each one
 ✨ How to decode the “Merry Christmas 🎄❤️” text without spiraling into fantasy
 ✨ Why YOU feel the emotional pull even when you don’t want them back
 ✨ How nostalgia, loneliness, and old trauma bonds get activated this time of year
 ✨ A powerful reframe: they’re not reaching out because they value you — you’re a dopamine hit
 ✨ The 3-step Hoover-Proof Protocol to take your power back and protect your peace

If you struggle with no contact, boundary-setting, or emotional guilt when a hoover hits, you’ll hear exactly what to do — and what NOT to do — so this season doesn’t suck you back into a cycle you worked so hard to leave.

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Helpful extras:
🎧 Listen to Episode 19 for deeper boundary work
📦 Grab the free Survivor Starter Pack for the hidden gem “How to Stay No Contact” audio

This year, you get to be unavailable for manipulation — and fully available for peace.


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