Ep 199: A Matchmaker’s Perspective: Dating After Abuse (with Tina Joy)

Dating after emotional abuse isn’t about learning better lines or spotting red flags faster.
 It’s about understanding what gets activated inside you when intimacy returns.

In this episode, I sit down with Tina Joy, and we go far beyond surface-level dating advice. We talk about what really happens when someone starts dating again after a narcissistic or emotionally abusive relationship—and why so many people feel confused, triggered, or afraid even when nothing is “wrong.”

We explore:

• What to focus on before dating again after abuse
• How to tell the difference between real red flags and old wounds getting activated
• Why emotionally intelligent, self-aware women are often told they’re “too much”
• How abuse distorts self-worth—and what it takes to rebuild it
• The green flags that actually matter when you want a healthy, emotionally safe partner

And honestly? We talked about a lot more than we planned—because this conversation opened doors.

This episode is for anyone who wants to date again without losing themselves…
 for anyone who doesn’t want to repeat old patterns…
 and for anyone who wants connection without chaos.

Tina Joy is a literal joy to talk to—grounded, insightful, and refreshingly real. Tina is a distinguished Relationship Coach and Matchmaker known for her success in guiding high-profile clients toward meaningful connections. She has curated transformative relationship strategies for over 200,000 individuals, leveraging a blend of personal insight and sophisticated matchmaking techniques.

In addition to her coaching prowess, Tina has a vibrant background in entertainment as a successful actress, bringing a unique perspective on personal charisma and storytelling to her coaching practice. Her career also includes significant achievements as a Special Events Coordinator, where she skillfully managed high-profile events, TikTok Branded Live-streaming Host, and as a Personal Trainer/Stretch Therapist, crafting tailored wellness programs for diverse clients.

With a powerful combination of coaching expertise, VIP matchmaking, and a dynamic presence from her acting career, Tina offers a compelling perspective on creating impactful relationships and navigating high-profile environments. She is an ideal guest for podcasts exploring elite coaching, relationship dynamics, matchmaking and the intersection of entertainment and personal development.

Connect with her: https://www.instagram.com/iamtinajoy/