Be A Better You
The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney. As a young adult, I met a man who I believed was the love of my life. We got married quickly and brought three kids into the world. But something was wrong. I was miserable. And I blamed myself for all the problems in our marriage. What I didn't know, was that I was being emotional abused by who I believe is a narcissist. I decided it was time to break free and step into the person I was always meant to be — confident and free to live the life I’ve always imagined.
I escaped, and I turned my personal story of transformation into a memoir. And now I coach women all over the world to help them transform their pain into empowerment, experience peace and joy, and start living life like never before.
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Be A Better You
Ep 221: You Know They Were Toxic, So Why Do You Still Care?
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You know the relationship was unhealthy. You know they hurt you. You know you deserve better. So why do you still care?
If you've ever found yourself thinking about a toxic ex, missing someone who treated you poorly, or feeling confused about why you're not "over it" yet, this episode is for you.
In this episode, we're exploring one of the most frustrating parts of healing after emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, toxic relationships, and heartbreak: caring about someone you know wasn't good for you. We'll talk about why caring doesn't mean you should go back, why it doesn't mean you made the wrong decision, and why these feelings can continue long after you've gained clarity about what happened.
You'll learn:
- Why you still miss someone who hurt you
- The difference between love, attachment, "trauma bonds," and more
- Why your nervous system craves familiarity, even when it's unhealthy
- How hope, potential, and fantasy can keep you emotionally attached
- The hidden thing that keeps many women stuck
- What it actually looks like to heal after a toxic relationship
If you've been searching for answers about why you still love your ex, why you can't stop thinking about them, why healing feels so difficult, or why part of you still cares despite everything that happened, this episode will help you understand what's really going on beneath the surface.
Healing isn't about pretending you never cared. It's about understanding why you cared, what you're truly attached to, and learning how to choose yourself without carrying shame for the feelings that remain.
🎙️ Ready to stop feeling stuck? Apply for a free Root Cause Call through the link in the show notes and discover the subconscious patterns, nervous system responses, and emotional loops that may be keeping you attached to the past.
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*Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)