#262 Healthy Relationships

We map what real healthy relationships look like across romance, family, friendships, and work. We share clear red flags to avoid and green flags to build, plus a journaling prompt to shape better habits starting today.

• Defining the ideal end goal for healthy relationships
• Mental journaling prompt for clarity and action
• Debunking media myths around romance and persistence
• Pillars of communication, respect and equal voice
• Trust as transparency and emotional safety
• Balancing independence with closeness
• Consent, boundaries and zero aggression
• Common red flags that erode connection
• Everyday green flags that strengthen bonds
• Personal reflection on vulnerability and repair

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Transcript

Format Update And Listener Requests

Mental Journaling Prompt: Your Healthiest Bond

Media Myths Vs Real Relationship Health

Core Pillars: Communication And Respect

Trust, Openness, And Safety

Independence Without Losing Yourself

Intimacy, Consent, And Boundaries

Zero Tolerance For Aggression

Red Flags: Control, Guilt, And Denial

The Four Horsemen And Stonewalling

Green Flags: Appreciation And Balance

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Welcome to the Universal Radio Networks podcast. My name is Gujit, and in today's episode, we are discussing healthy relationships. It's really important to know what an ideal healthy relationship looks like because that's what we're always marching towards. It doesn't always have to be perfect. We just have to know what the end goal is and work every day to have that end goal with all of our relationships. This doesn't mean just romantic, it can be with your friends, with your family, with your coworkers. Healthy relationships make the world go round because if there is anything we can't do, it's do it alone. So we're gonna get into it right away here. February is kind of been a rare month. I've been on air three times bringing you really interesting topics. We talked about domestic views, we talked about body image, and now we're talking about healthy relationships. So this is kind of one-off. Let me know if you guys enjoy having the three well-being Wednesdays from myself in a month. Let me know if you'd like to see more, if you'd like to see less, and you felt like two was enough for you guys to get through in a week. Because let's be honest, we're all busy, can't listen to everything all the time. And our podcasts are entirely available for you on Spotify. So check them out, or you can follow us on Instagram at the Universal Radio. So today's topic, we're talking about healthy relationships. And this is kind of an interesting one, and I'll tell you why. It's because not everybody has healthy relationships modeled for them. So I think it's kind of fun to start off with healthy relationships and recognize that it's an ideal. We don't always have to be at a healthy relationship in order for that relationship to be worth something to us. We have to want to continue to strive and make that relationship as healthy and as beneficial to both people as possible. And it doesn't just mean romantic relationships. We can apply these sane learnings to coworker relationships, friendships, family members, like anybody who's a person or person that you have a relationship with that matters to you. Definitely use some of this information today. As always, we start off our episodes with a kind of question. It's a gratitude question, and I've been kind of struggling with the name for a while, but I realize it's kind of like a mental journaling prod. That's kind of what we do because it can be gratitude-based, it could be um anything to do with like your personal goals, but it's not always necessarily just a gratitude exercise, right? Because it's not always been about being thankful and grateful, and that is something that we do need to practice. But I've also asked different kinds of questions. So I've kind of settled on deciding that they're called mental journaling prompts, just questions that I can ask you and you can think about. So the question I have for you today is what would you define as the healthiest relationship in your life at this moment? And what makes it the healthiest relationship in your life at the moment? What could you add to your other relationships to make them as healthy as the one that first came to your mind? So think about who it is that you have this really healthy relationship with. Think about what it is that made it come to mind. Is it because a person respects you? Is it because a person doesn't judge you? Is it because you really trust them? What makes that the healthiest relationship? And on the other side of the coin, what could you add to the relationships that maybe didn't come to mind but are just as important to you? What would you change with those relationships to make them healthier? To make them as healthy as possible is the first one you thought of. This is kind of an interesting question. Uh, because healthy relationships take many forms. So we're gonna talk a lot about what makes a healthy relationship. We're also gonna talk about relationship red flags and green flags. So maybe that'll kind of help you along this journaling prompt exercise here. It can always be kind of difficult to tell what a healthy relationship looks like if you've never really seen one. And that is unfortunately the truth for a lot of people. Just because it's something that we hear about and talk about doesn't mean it's something that's clear to us. Because if I'm being honest, even in just popular media, a lot of what we see isn't healthy. That whole like him following her and like convincing her to love him or like bothering her like day after day to go out on that first date and then they live happily ever after. Like that stuff does not really fly in real life. It's very, very different. In fact, a lot of it is like weird stalking and manipulative behavior, but that's something that we only have a lens on if we have an actually healthy relationship to compare it to. So popular media is for sure not the best indicator of what makes a healthy relationship. But you know what? Some things do indicate a healthy relationship. That's communication, it's trust, it's independence, and it's safe intimacy and romantic intention. Also, a lot of absence of violence or aggression. I'll get to that one later, but that's a big one, okay? No violence, no aggression, no exceptions. When we talk about communication in a healthy relationship, we can say healthy communication is so important, open communication is so important until we're blue in the face. But what does it actually mean to have healthy communication? Well, I'm here to tell you healthy communication is about respecting and listening to each other, even if it's a difficult conversation, even if you have different opinions on a topic. If you're talking about something that's important to you, for example, I find it really exhausting that you don't do the dishes because I come home from work and it's the first thing I see and it puts me into a bad mood when I walk into the house. If the other person says, Okay, you're being sensitive, that is not healthy communication. If the person says, Okay, I understand how that upsets you, I can do better to do the dishes, or I understand how that can be upsetting and how that impacts your mood, I find it really difficult to get the dishes done when I'm also rushing off to work. That is healthy, okay? Poo-pooing on it and being like, okay, you're being sensitive, or like, fine, I guess I'll do everything, I guess, is not healthy communication. And it's okay if that's your first reaction to something like that. Having a healthy relationship and knowing all these things mean you can work towards them. If you don't know what a healthy relationship is, then how can you ever strive towards it? How can you ever work towards it? How can you ever work towards having a healthy relationship with your loved ones? Healthy communication means being comfortable having a tough conversation, listening without judgment, and sharing your perspectives as if they're equal. Even if your partner is talking to you about something that they may know less about than you, for example, if you did a business degree and your mom or dad or aunt or uncle is talking to you about business things and it's contradicting some of the things that you have learned at school, but they're speaking from their experience, you should still listen without judgment and give their opinion equal equal weight. It's not like they're designing policy or anything like that. They're just trying to have a conversation at a family event, treat it with respect and be kind. You don't have to duck on them. Also, they should treat you the same way. They should be kind to you as you share your experience. With all the considerations with healthy communication, when it comes to healthy positive relationships, it can be difficult to remember everything. So don't worry if you don't. This will all be up on our Spotify as well, so you can be able to listen then. Talking about healthy communication, you gotta be comfortable having a tough conversation. Listening without judgment and sharing perspectives with equal weight is idle. You have to feel that you're respected and that you respect the other person just as much. It's important to take initiative in sharing how you're feeling, on top of being a good and active listener. It's not always on one person to be sharing and carrying that load of having these conversations. You should also be doing your equal share in opening up the floor to have difficult conversations. Being respectful and speaking kindly, even during disagreements, is of the utmost importance. I cannot stress it enough. With that, we have to think about trust. Trust is a very, very big part of healthy relationships because without it, how can you rely on a partner? How can you love them? How can you share in your life with them? So trust varies from person to person. We may have different levels of trust with our family, then with our friends, then with our romantic partner. But the biggest thing that I can tell you is don't keep secrets. Always assume trust, be open with people, give them the opportunity to understand you and to be open to all sides of you. So it's important to try not to keep secrets, especially with parent-child relationships. I've been there where it's just sometimes easier to keep things secret than it is to talk to your parents because of their reaction. And that is unhealthy communication and it's not conducive to a healthy relationship. And with time, these things can change. No relationship is ever cemented the way it is. They're always ever growing, ever changing. We're different people every day, and we're in different circumstances every day. So the way things are now aren't how they have to be forever. And trust is important in all relationships, and there's a different level of trust when it comes to romantic relationships, and that is infidelity, right? Cheating, it's a big concern, it's really hurtful, and it's devastating to learn about. But in relationships, it's important to assume trust. That's the baseline. Always assume that trust is there, that monogamy is there, if that's the nature of your relationship. If someone really wants to cheat or go outside the scope of your relationship in a dishonest way, then no amount of keeping tabs on them, hounding them, chaining them to your side will prevent it. If someone is inclined to cheat in a relationship, they will find a way, no matter how much you do to try and prevent it. Because every, I don't know, man, it's just like a thing with cheating. You can't you can't prevent it, unfortunately. It doesn't make it any less devastating for people, and it doesn't make it any less important to have that level of trust in order to have a healthy relationship. Trust isn't also just about infidelity and cheating, it means that you trust the people in your life, and this is also not just for romantic relationships, means you trust the other person to not physically or emotionally hurt you. That physical and emotional safety in their presence that's assumed, that is also a big part of trust. And it's not something everybody thinks about often, but it's a really cool one that this person will not hurt me. And I trust them to not do that. When it comes to healthy relationships, being independent is vital. I mean, all of the things that I've mentioned so far are vital, but independence is a really tricky one because it's a hard balance. Being able to trust your partner and rely on them can feel like you're reducing your independence, but also fully trusting and fully relying on your partner can make you lose all of your independence. So, how is it possible to manage this fine line? Relying on each other for support is natural, but maintaining your identity as unique individuals is also important. That's why some parent-child relationships where there's too much interdependency can be unhealthy. And let's be honest, we've all seen it that kid who, even in grade five, is still having their mom do the most basic things for them all the way up until high school, even sometimes. And there's nothing necessarily wrong with it. If that's the nature of your relationship, that's the nature of your relationship. But we're not aiming for the nature of a relationship, we're aiming for a healthy relationship. So having your own identity as a unique individual is important. Having your own friends, connections, interests, and hobbies outside of that relationship is important to remember that you are your own person and that you're not the sum of just one of your relationships. This is especially vital, I find, for young kids when they get into their first relationships in high school and university. You just become so obsessed with each other because you're just so in love. Everything about it is new and exciting. And this person becomes your everything. Next thing you know, you want to do everything together. You're texting each other all the time. You want to know everything about them, you want to share everything that happens in your own life with them. And that's really fun and exciting, but eventually it makes it makes it difficult because you kind of lose pieces of who you are. It's also really important to remember in romantic relationships, specifically, we're gonna talk about intimacy now. Intimacy is a healthy part of romantic relationships, and it's important to feel safe and communicate during these experiences. You want to be honest about your feelings around physical affection and intimacy, whether it's as serious as the things that you do in your bedroom, or as minor as this is how I like to show physical affection in public, or I prefer not to. You should never feel pressured to do anything you don't want to around intimacy. And likewise, you should never pressure anyone else to do something. If they express discomfort, just take a step back, let them do their thing. And expressing discomfort means that you can have a discussion around it. Like, why is this that's something that makes you uncomfortable? How can we work around that? Well, this is what I would like. Is there a way that we could kind of manage both of our needs at the same time? Feeling heard and having your boundaries respected are probably the sexiest thing that you can do in the bedroom. All right, respect each other's boundaries and remember, pressuring and guilt tripping is not cool. Another thing that people often get wrong about healthy relationships is that they should never have any violence or aggression. You should never use harsh words or make mean or make mean comments and absolutely no physical violence. This type of violence can occur in different forms, so there should be never any screaming, yelling, name-calling, grabbing, or hitting. And it's not like healthy relationships don't usually have these things, and there's an exception here and there. It's like, no, healthy relationships never have these things. No name-calling, no grabbing, no pushing, no pilling, no pulling, no confining them to rooms or not letting them out of cars. Those are things that just don't exist in healthy relationships. We're gonna talk about red flags, all right? And red flags is a term that gets thrown around a lot, and I have heard of some pretty crazy red flags. So if you have some interesting red flags that you have in your relationships, I'd actually be really curious to hear them. You can DM us some suggestions at the Universal Radio on Instagram. I'm curious to see what are your relationship red flags? And to make you feel better, I will share one of mine with you. Um, I'm trying to think, what would be a good relationship red flag to share? Okay, I personally find, and this probably isn't the biggest relationship red flag, but I find hypocrisy really, really, really big red flag. Because to me, it shows me that they don't have a lot of self-awareness. If they say that they hate when people do this, but then they do that really often, it's just like ding, red flag. This person is not self-aware. They're not able to analyze their own actions, and therefore, if I ever explain to them, hey, this thing that you do really upsets me or really hurts me, I prefer if you didn't do it, they might not have the foresight, the self-awareness, the ockle, if you will, to understand what it is that they're doing upset me. And it's just a lot of work, and I don't want to do it. So I find being a hypocrite a big, big, big red flag. There's a bunch of different red flags that contradict healthy relationships, one being lack of compromise. This is a big one, especially for all you ladies out there. I don't know if you get the same messaging as I do, but my family, my parents always tell me that being able to compromise is number one the most important thing in relationship. And a lack of just means that someone isn't gonna be able to work with you. They're not gonna be able to understand or want to make changes in order to make the relationship work. Sometimes you do have to make compromises, and that's a-okay. And I do find that if you're the one always compromising in a relationship, take a step back and maybe wonder am I always the one compromising? Are they compromising because they don't want to? Or are they not compromising because I don't give them an opportunity to compromise? Are you always the one who's people pleasing, bending over backwards to make things work? In a way, you can see it as robbing somebody an opportunity to learn how to compromise. You're taking away their opportunity to meet you where you're at, to compromise with you, to show you that they care about the things that you care about. They listen and they hear you. So you don't always have to be the first to compromise, let me tell you. The more I think about it, the more there's actually a lot of relationship red flags. And it's just about having that balance. And you know what? This this may be a controversial opinion, okay? But I am in no means a mental health professional. But I think if you read down this relationship red flag list and you think, hold up, I kind of do these things, I'm gonna let you know that's okay. Are you willing to learn? Are you willing to improve yourself? If yes, then it's totally fine. But if you read down the list of these relationship red flags and you're like, I do that, and honestly, it's okay because my partner does XX and Y and Z and this other thing. In that case, that's not good, my friend. You might be the red flag. And if you feel like you're doing any of these, I think they should break up with you. If it was a romantic relationship, I think they should break up with you. If you're the one doing the red flags and you're not willing to learn and you're not willing to improve, because come on, man. There's a reason these are relationship red flags. But if you do feel this and you're like, oh yikes, I've kind of done this before, then learn from it. Be better. Come on, we all can. And let's be honest, none of us are perfect, none of us have ideal, healthy, perfect relationships all of the time. All right. We can learn from them. So I'm gonna prattle off some of the different relationship red flags we have here. I talked about lack of compromise. We also have subtle control, and that's strongly encouraging someone to do something a certain way, dress a certain way, get a certain haircut, behave a certain way, speak a certain way. That subtle control of trying to manipulate and change the other person, not cool. Guilt tripping or any sort of coercive behavior that pressures someone into something, red flag. Having a confrontational attitude, red flag. Remember, you're a team. You work on things together, you love each other ideally, whether it's your friend, your family, maybe even your coworker. Maybe you love your coworker. Don't be confrontational with them, and they should not be confrontational to you. Unreasonable statements about how much they deserve or what they deserve, that's not for you to decide. Feeling as though the whole world is against them all the time, that victim mentality can be really, really hard to be around. Denying their behavior, not trusting you, not having respect for your feelings. This is a big one. Sarcastic comments downplayed as jokes. Making sarcastic comments about you and then saying it's fine, it was a joke, you don't get it, you're too sensitive. That's not cool. Gaslighting with the side of sarcastic comments, boo, straight to jail. Extreme jealousy, the silent treatment. Silent treatment is a big one because that's so neat. That's shutting people out, and it's actually, if you're familiar with the Gottmans, they're this couple that studies relationships and divorces and relationship breakdowns for like their entire lifespan. And one of what they call the four horsemen of a relationship bound for doom, for breakup, for a split spill, is silent treatment stuff. That whole just Shutting down, not engaging. How can you have a healthy relationship if you're shutting down every time there's confrontation? You're not engaging, you're not being respectful, you're not feeling connected to them. So silent treatments, boo, bad. If you do them, work on it. If someone does it to you, talk to them about it if you feel comfortable. If they do it to you and you're like, I'm sick of this, create for well-being Wednesday told me it's a red flag and you want to break up with them or you want to block them or stop being friends with them. I don't care. Do what you want. I'm not this is not advice by any means. Do what you want. I'm just giving you the information. You do what you want with it. Lying, huge one. Uh statements like if you loved me, blah blah blah blah blah. Bad. Bad, bad, bad, bad, bad. So the last red flags I want to share is interrogations about your day and your whereabouts. Where were you? What were you doing? Who were you hanging out with? Red flag. Boo. Gaslighting. This is a super common one. Twisting somebody's perception of reality of like, what do you mean? I was I was at home all day and no, you weren't. I saw your location. You were here, you were at you were somewhere else. You were at somebody's house. No, I wasn't. I was at home all day. It's like, but I literally saw you on SnapMaps at somebody else's house. I don't know what you're going on about. I think you're tripping. How can I be tripping? I literally saw you on snap maps at someone else's house. I didn't make it up. Come on now. You know you're sharing your location with me. What's up with that? I don't know why you're freaking out over nothing. I actually don't think you you saw me.

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Shared Values And Conflict Skills

Honesty, Empathy, And Self-Confidence

Safety As The Ultimate Measure

Personal Reflection And Vulnerability

Wrap-Up And Social Callouts

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I'll be honest, I was kind of lame. Gaslighting at the end there. My roleplay fell apart a little bit. Okay. Um, but gaslighting, super hot cool and very manipulative. Very, very, very, very, very manipulative. Makes a person feel like they're going crazy. Cause, like, what do you mean? I saw with my own two eyeballs. How are you gonna lie to me? Cruelty towards other people. Now, this is kind of a controversial one. The way they talk about other people is how they might one day talk to you. If they are always talking smack about their friends, their family, their classmates, their coworkers, their whoever and whatever, that is potentially how they might speak to you one day. So cruelty towards others, something to watch out for. Not taking responsibility for your own actions, kinda lame. Showing disrespect towards former partners. Some of y'all might not like hearing this, but that is a red flag. If they are always talking smack, if somehow they are the victim of all their past relationships, it's something to check in on. It's a little bit worrying. Those are all the relationship red flags I came up with. This is based off of a list I found from this national organization that supports people escaping domestic violence. And it's not necessarily for domestic violence relationships, it is for all relationships. Because a violent relationship is just an unhealthy relationship that continued on. But I think we can change a little bit more of a positive, posy vibes, positive attitude thing. We're gonna talk about relationship green flags, because you need to know what it looks like to be treated well, just as much as you need to know what to avoid. So one of the big ones is appreciation. If your partner, your family member, your friend is always showing you respect and value and expressing gratitude often. Gold star, green flag, heck yeah. If you have a cousin who is always thanking you for giving them advice, always thanking you for helping them out with things, and they show you respect and value, that is an amazing cousin. Keep them around, they're fantastic. Having balance between friends and hobbies and having happiness in both those things, being happy together, but also being happy apart is a green flag, not just for yourselves and for the other person, but your relationship as a whole. It means that you're not reliant on each other for your happiness. And it also means you're continuing to grow and develop as individuals, which means that when you get back together and see each other, you can share those things. For example, friends that are always spending time with each other and they're like best friends, and you know that they're inseparable. They unfortunately, and it can be hard to do sometimes, still need to maintain friendships outside of each other. They need to have hobbies and interests that they don't always do together. Because even in a friendship, you need balance. In a healthy relationship, some other green flags include commitment. And this is more so in a romantic relationship, but think invested in your partner in the relationship and giving that relationship adequate time and energy. Of course, this still relates to family member relationships and friendships. If you have a grandparent and you want to show that you're committed to them and have a healthy relationship with them, you have to invest time into a relationship with them. Give it your adequate amount of time and energy. If you find that you're not getting as much time to spend with your grandparents as you want to because work is in the way, school is in the way, you have friendship obligations, your boyfriend and girlfriend wants to see you. It might be time to reevaluate your commitment to that relationship and see if you're carrying your deal with a bargain. Is it enough for you to feel good about yourself, if feel satisfied that you have showed adequate commitment to your grandchild, grandparent relationship? Then hell yeah. Green, green thumbs up, green flags all the way. Commonality is a big green flag in relationships and all relationships. Having important goals, beliefs, and values that are shared with this other person, that's kind of vital. It means that you're gonna align more. It also means that conflict is gonna be a little bit more smooth and frictionless because at the end of the day, you have the same goals, beliefs, and values. And that is everything. It looks it what it's what drives us. It's our North Star. Conflict resolution, being able to take responsibility for your actions and work as a team to solve problems. It's me and you versus the world, not you versus me and the world is watching. Effective communication ties in with that conflict resolution piece. You want to be able to communicate your own needs and wishes. And at the same time, you want to be able to hear the other person's needs and wishes and respect those. It's easier said than done. And trust me, almost all of the content I share in my shows is easier said than done, but it doesn't mean it's any less important to work on, it doesn't mean it's anything less than what we want. Because again, it doesn't have to be perfect, it just has to be a little bit closer toward the end goal, a little bit better than it was yesterday. If you think that some of these green flags aren't existing in some of the relationships that are important to you in your life, that's okay. As long as we know what an ideal relationship looks like, and we know what we need to do to work towards that, that's a-okay. No pressure, no shame in this, nothing, nothing in this world is ever perfect. So why should we expect ourselves to be? Why should we expect our relationships to be? We should just be committed to bettering ourselves all the time, all day. Empathy and honesty is two other big green flags in relationships. Being able to take your partner's perspective, whether that partner is your partner in work, classmate, schoolmate, cousin, uncle, aunt, doesn't matter. If you can take that person's perspective, understand their feelings, even if you don't agree with them, but just understanding how they feel, it helps you understand why they think the way they do, why they say the things they do, and it can help make your conflict resolution even smoother. Honesty is also important. It means your actions are lining up with your words and you're saying what you're believing in. The thoughts and feelings you express are genuine. This other person can rely on your words, you can rely on their words because they're honest with you. There's no need to hide anything. It's transparent, it's honest, it's open, it's beautiful. The last green flag that I want to talk to you about today is self-confidence. This is one that I think gets really lost, especially in a lot of couples that start when they're younger or with parent-child relationships, with relationships between a person and their family, between a person and their friends. And it gets missed really, really often. And it's kind of sad that it does because it feels like the most basic thing that you could want out of a relationship. And that is feeling comfortable being yourself in that relationship. Now, there is a case to be made for having different people bring out different sides of ourselves, and that's a-okay, but it's kind of strange if sides of yourself just fully disappear when you're with your parents. It can be really uncomfortable to have whole parts of your personality, your life experience just erased. Now, think about how exhausting it is sometimes to talk with coworkers where you don't feel comfortable or safe enough to share all of your life with them. Think about how exhausting that is. Think about how much lying you do. Think about how uncomfortable it can be when you share something with a coworker that you didn't intend to share, because our private lives and our business lives are separate. But feeling comfortable being yourself in the relationship is a massive green flag. And if you notice that that's not happening, then maybe it's time to think about it. What's going on? Why we feel uncomfortable? And nothing expresses self-confidence and comfortable being yourselves as artistic expression does. Arts is a great way for self-expression. And one of the cutest little relationship trends I've seen in a while is where two people sit across from each other and they draw each other. And I've seen it done between friends, I've seen it done between siblings, I've seen it done between romantic partners. I just think it's kind of cute. Like you put so much effort into like looking at the other person and loving them so much that you're inspired into artistic expression. It's kind of cute, no? Now I've said it before and I'll say it again. These green flags are a lot. And it's okay if you feel like none of these or some of these or most of them fit into your relationships, but maybe not all of them. That's that's okay. It is a learning process. The relationships that we'll have in 20 years are probably not the relationships that we're gonna have now. And if they are, hopefully they're just getting better and stronger as we get older and better and stronger. It's important to kind of relieve some of that pressure off yourself and just remember that ultimately a healthy relationship is about feeling emotionally and physically safe with someone. Do you feel emotionally safe when having disagreements? Do you feel emotionally safe talking about things that are important to you with them? Do you feel emotionally safe being honest and transparent with them? And are you doing your part into making sure that other people feel emotionally and physically safe with you? Are you providing a non-judgmental space for them? Are you giving added weight to their perspectives and treating them as important as your own? Some things to think about. But I am gonna loop us back to that question and I want you to think about it. What would you define as a healthiest relationship in your life right now? For me, I would probably say my friend Rabia, she also now works at the Universal Radio Station. She has a very fun lifestyle slash intellectual slash analysis type show where she talks about all different things going on in the South Asian PW music scene. She is wonderful, and I think she might be the healthiest relationship I have in my life at this moment. And the second question of our mental journaling prompt is what makes it the healthiest? And I'd have to say I always feel like myself around her. I'm never hiding parts of who I am. I share with her the good, the bad, and the ugly. I share with her the things that are the most embarrassing to me, the most scary to me. I share what I love about myself with her and I share what I dislike the most about myself with her. I tell her everything and I do it openly and honestly. And she always treats me with respect. She always makes sure I feel heard and that my perspectives matter, even though she's so much smarter than me and so much cooler. She still makes me feel like I matter, guys. And that to me is the most heartfelt piece of that relationship. And when I think about what I could add to my other relationships to make them as healthy as this one that came to mind, because if you remember that was a third part of our mental journaling prompt, is what could you add to your other relationships to make them as healthy as the ones that first came to your mind? And for me, I think that's vulnerability to be just open and honest and transparent and trust that I will feel heard. Because the reason why I feel so open about all the different parts of me with my best friend is because she has done her job in making me feel like those parts are heard and respected, even though they may not be my favorite parts of me. And I don't think I do that with everybody because not everybody is able to provide that same mentally safe space for me as my best friend does. And I think that's something I can work on. I can do things like continue to be a non-judgmental listener, continue to treat my friends and my family's perspectives as important as mine. And I can be vulnerable and I can lead with vulnerability by being open and transparent with all these people and hoping that they respond the same way, that they see me being vulnerable and they see that as an admirable trait. If you have any input, let us know what you'd like to hear about next on Wellbeing Wednesdays with Gerj. Shout us out on Instagram at the Universal Radio. Stay up to date because you don't want to be out of style and too late. Thank you for everyone who tuned in. Stay up to date with our podcasts and on our socials at the Universal Radio and stream us wherever you get your podcasts. You can always pay attention to our Instagram. We always post when a new podcast is out there. My name is Grigit, and keep turning it up with us.