Mums Mini Series: Trust Your Instincts

Join us as we kick off a special mini-series on Reconnect Sisterhood focused on the essence of motherhood. In this episode, we dive into the vital theme of "Trusting Your Instincts."

Explore the modern parenting landscape where information is abundant, and expert advice is just a click away. Natalie shares personal experiences, acknowledging the value of insights from experts and the power of social media.

In the midst of the chaos of parenting, we emphasise the importance of finding a balance between external guidance and innate maternal instincts. The episode encourages mums to trust themselves, slow down, and recognise the unique connection they share with their children.

Tune in for a powerful reminder that amidst the wealth of advice, "You know best. Trust your instincts." Subscribe for more insightful mini-episodes on Reconnect Sisterhood.

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Transcript

 Hello and welcome to the podcast. So today we are going to do the start of a mini series and this mini series is all about you mums out there or those who are about to become mums.  So I'm just going to get straight into this. So in today's episode, we're going to be talking about trusting your instincts. 

So, I know we live in this modern society in which we can access anything at our fingertips. And as a mum myself, I use Dr. Google as much as the next person, even when I know that it's not helpful.  But what I'm trying to say is that we have so much information that sometimes  what I see is people forgetting to trust their own instincts. 

Now, what do I mean by this?  There are some amazing child psychologists out there, clinical psychologists, people who  work a lot with children who have so much information to share. And I am so grateful for it. There are people who I follow like Dr. Becky, who I think is absolutely amazing.  The holistic psychologist, some really, really great people out there giving.

Fantastic advice, and not just advice, this is research based advice.  Now,  that's great, but sometimes we can become so oversaturated with advice that we stop trusting ourselves.  So, for instance, if you are a mum whose kid is going through a developmental  leap, and you are feeling despair, and you don't know what to do, and you're trying the gentle parenting approach, and Everything is kind of up in the air. 

You can go to Instagram and you can basically learn all about what you should do.  Now,  that's great. But when, the reason why we generally go to these people to try and find out these things is that we feel like we're lacking knowledge or we're feeling a little bit out of control  and whilst it is great to go there normalise that yes, I'm not, I'm not the only mum who feels like this because I've actually got someone there validating my experience,  I'm not the only one, this is normal for my kid to be doing this and Here's some steps and things that you can do.

Sometimes we can get so focused in on those steps that we forget about validating the normal. We forget about, actually, we know our kids best.  Most of the time, we know our kids inside and out. We know, I mean, I'm a mom. I literally know my kids inside and out, which  nobody told me before I became a mother.

But yes, I have been there catching the poo, doing all those things, um, with them. And I can tell you when my kid is sick. I can tell you when my kid generally needs something from me. I can tell you when my kid is just having a meltdown for having a meltdown. Um, but it doesn't mean that it's easy. It's not easy.

It's the hardest job.  I really,  I will die on that hill and say that, you know, being a parent is the hardest job in the world.  Um, but  sometimes because we have so much information, we're not trusting ourselves. We're not trusting what we know already.  So what I would say is to use.  this information that's coming in for you to validate your experience.

Yes, to learn a bit, but also to slow down, trust yourself, trust how you are communicating and really thinking about, okay, well, what do I feel is the right thing in this situation?  There's always going to be someone with an opinion and someone who says, yes, this really works. Every single time with my child, et cetera, et cetera, that works for them and their child.

They are two different people, two different personalities, two different cultures, you know, everything is different. And whilst yes, we can generalize some of them, I just want you to remember that  you do know best. You do know yourself, you know your child.  If you're anything like me, you get this. Real sense of, ah, something doesn't feel quite right here. 

And sometimes we don't have to react immediately. We don't have to find out exactly what it is and get it diagnosed or whatever those things are. Sometimes we can sit back, obviously, in an emergency situation. Always, always trust your instincts and get the help if you need to.  But not everything needs to be reacted to.

And sometimes we can slow down and just pay attention and sometimes things can play out.  But what I really want you to do is to really notice that you do know best. You can trust your instincts. It doesn't have to be what someone else says.  As much as all this information is in the world and as good as it is,  trust you. 

Okay, I'm going to be back with another mini episode very soon. Okay, take care. Bye bye.