Let That Shift Go
Welcome to "Let That Shift Go," a podcast hosted by siblings Lena and Noel. Join them on their journey of self-awareness as they delve into meaningful conversations about the human experience.
Lena and Noel have decided to break free from the confines of private discussions and bring their heartfelt, and at times, humorous conversations to the public. They believe that we are all going through the trials and tribulations of life, and it's comforting to know that we're not alone.
In each episode, Lena and Noel will explore various aspects of being human, sharing personal stories, insights, and lessons they've learned along the way. From navigating relationships to dealing with challenges, they'll offer a refreshing perspective on life's ups and downs.
Through candid and authentic conversations, "Let That Shift Go" aims to create a safe space for listeners to relate, reflect, and find solace in the shared human experience. Lena and Noel invite you to join them as they embrace change, growth, and let go of what no longer serves them.
Tune in and be part of a community that celebrates the beautiful messiness of being human. Get ready to let go, laugh, and discover that you're not alone on this journey. Welcome to "Let That Shift Go" podcast!
Let That Shift Go
Stuck on the Starting Line: Breaking Free from Analysis Paralysis
Noel and Lena explore how to overcome analysis paralysis and break free from overthinking that leaves us stuck on the starting line. They share personal experiences with getting caught in decision loops and offer practical strategies to move forward with confidence.
• Analysis paralysis occurs when we become overwhelmed with thoughts that stop us from moving forward
• Common causes include fear of failure, perfectionism, connection to childhood dynamics, and people-pleasing tendencies
• Learning to trust yourself can be a game-changer for making decisions without endless rumination
• Understanding that no decision is permanent relieves the pressure of making the "perfect" choice
• Checking for bodily sensations of expansion (yes) versus contraction (no) helps bypass mental loops
• Setting decision deadlines (like 24 hours) forces action instead of endless information gathering
• Alignment means having thoughts, words, and actions that support what you truly want
• Sometimes you just need to start "ugly" or imperfect rather than waiting for perfect conditions
Try something imperfect this week. Start ugly, start scared, but just start. Don't be scared, but just start. When you're in doubt, just zoom out and then take one tiny step.
Hello and welcome to the Let that Shift Go podcast. I'm Noel.
Speaker 2:And I'm Lina.
Speaker 1:And this is where we talk about the good, the bad and all the shift in between.
Speaker 2:We just talk mad shift.
Speaker 1:Let's get into it. And on this week's episode, stuck on the starting line.
Speaker 2:Overthinking, analysis, paralysis and how to shift out.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but first let's get into these skin deep cards.
Speaker 2:All right, let's do it.
Speaker 1:You want me to go first?
Speaker 2:You go first.
Speaker 1:All right, what would you say has been the hardest thing to forgive me for?
Speaker 2:Oh hardest thing to forgive you for. You know, honestly, I don't have anything that has been hard for me to forgive you for Well that's a good thing.
Speaker 2:Like to be completely honest, there just isn't. I would say, maybe the time you chase me around with a butcher knife when we were kids. But then I look back I'm like that was I, that was completely my doing, of locking you out of the house and taunting you through a glass door, you know? Yeah, so that isn't really I need to forgive myself. So there isn't anything that has been hard for me to forgive you for.
Speaker 1:Well, you know what? I'm glad that there isn't like a right, like a go-to answer for that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think there, I think there isn't.
Speaker 1:That would be really tough, because, no matter what, the hardest thing for me to forgive you for is leaving me.
Speaker 2:Oh man, that hurts. Don't hit me in the gut like that.
Speaker 1:I didn't even know.
Speaker 2:And I lived my whole life thinking I had left you.
Speaker 1:Oh, miscommunication to the fullest. So what's your question?
Speaker 2:What do you think has the greatest influence on our relationship?
Speaker 1:What has the greatest influence? Probably pain.
Speaker 2:In what way?
Speaker 1:Um, I don't know, I sometimes I feel like people or friends or, you know, family that I've been in, like I don't know. You see movies where people get into difficult situations or life-threatening situations and they become closer because shit gets real. Oh yeah, so I think, it kind of forced us to grow up early and as little kids look at each other and go. The adults are crazy. You know what I mean.
Speaker 2:Nobody's looking out.
Speaker 1:Let's not follow them. I think we had some. You know what I mean. So I think I think pain is probably what you know probably brought us close together. Is that what the question was?
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's been one of the greatest influences on our relationship has been pain.
Speaker 1:I hate that. That's it.
Speaker 2:But you know there's that would. Pain is such a great influence on any relationship, even the relationship you have with yourself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because, listen, the pain is where the growth is right. What do they say about working out? No pain, no gain, whatever that silly phrase is Right. And you know, just like I learned some very tough. You know lessons through relationship. You know from my son or from my wife like there's tremendous pain in that, though. Yeah.
Speaker 1:And then I grow from it. Like you know, it's the pain, is where I grow, and in a lot of cases that does bring me closer to the person. Yeah, that's true, if I did it right. Yeah, I hope you know what I mean.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and in your case.
Speaker 1:I did I hope.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you did.
Speaker 1:It sounds like I did because you couldn't even remember something I know. I so let's jump into this topic stuck on the starting line.
Speaker 2:If you've ever felt stuck choosing the perfect plan, the right words are the best time. This episode's for you. Yeah check, check, check? Well, the first question is what is analysis, paralysis, and I think it's something that many people are challenged by.
Speaker 1:Some people will put labels on like I got OCD or I just can't get you know what I mean Like all these things that I say ADHD, but you know, whatever, whatever the diagnosis you give yourself or whatever the thought is, yeah. It's simply when you become overwhelmed with thought that it stops you, in your tracks, from moving forward. Right? So analysis, paralysis, paralysis by analysis, because you're just constantly overthinking every step.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and there's the. The main reasons that it happens is there's this fear of failure, fear of making the wrong choice, perfectionism. Hello, inner critic right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, logan said something to me the other day and he was like dad, you know, one thing that was tough is like I have a hard time like getting something wrong, because you and mom were so like strict on us, like we had to get it right, and I was like you know, I'm sorry for that Cause we were kind of perfectionist, you know what I mean. We, we expected the best and we tried to. Just really we thought that was the best way at the time, you know, and he really finds himself kind of locked into that paralysis and it was because of something that we parented it was the dynamic in the family that we taught him a fear of getting something wrong, like don't do it unless you're going to do it right.
Speaker 1:Only you know if you're not going to do it right, don't do it at all.
Speaker 2:Well, that's that connection to childhood dynamics.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:The people pleasing hypervigilance, so sometimes even you know, or even being able to just trust yourself. Like how many times were we taught? Even as you know young people like you can trust yourself. Even if you get this in a way that you perceive as wrong, it's still okay.
Speaker 1:And.
Speaker 2:I don't think that's a message that many of us got.
Speaker 1:No, like I learned something. I was 40 today years old, or 49 years old, when I learned my in therapy last week and it was such a simple concept and she said, noel, one thing I know about you is that you always try your best to make things right you know, and you're going to stand with integrity and try to do the best things with love and now, right and so, if that's the case, why do you put so much energy into worrying about every step of your day and all the things?
Speaker 1:Because I really I get into this paralysis by analysis, because even with that work, like I'll sit at a job and I'm looking at plumbing and I'm like, oh, I don't want to get there and if I cut this, then I'm like you know, and sometimes I just I'll spend 30 minutes just trying to plan out what I'm going to do when if I would have just took the saw and cut here, cut there, and I just know because I trust myself. I'll figure it out.
Speaker 1:And the point being is that if you know like by nature, I'm a fixer and I know my integrity is that I'll try my best to make it right, then stop worrying so much about making a mistake. And when she told me that it was like a watershed moment and it sounds so simple, but I never took the step to put that first in my thought process and my thinking of how I'm going to approach this job. I'm always very analytical and I'm trying to be pragmatic, figure out like, okay, we're going to do this step, this step, this step, this step, all these things, and that does have some validity. Right, that's a. That's a good thing to do sometimes, but it's not necessarily necessary all of the time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, cause you start applying it to even the smaller things in your life or the bigger decisions in your life. Yeah, so the bad thing is, if you were sitting there and you're trying to figure out how to fix something and you're just like I just can't do it, you know, I just can't trust myself in making this decision, and then it doesn't get fixed, nothing happens, you know. So I mean, physiologically or psychologically, there are, there's an activation in the prefrontal cortex, which then can stimulate your sympathetic response which is your fight or flight?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so this is more of the fight flight. Freeze, fawn, fawn is when you're just like, oh, I just can't, I'm just going to go sit in the corner. You know, I just can't do anything so it actually can feel like a trauma response or fawn can also be like acquiescing to everything or like people pleasing.
Speaker 1:That's also. That's not always because I didn't go sit in the corner. I fawned in a way that I was people pleasing.
Speaker 2:So you're or even relying on someone else to tell you.
Speaker 1:I don't know that that was always in alignment with me, but I can see that that that would make sense, and maybe it was I, just I haven't been able to really think about it in that way yet.
Speaker 2:But you're probably right you trust other people's judgment more than you trust your own.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's easier that way.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:Because then it's, you know, a plausible deniability.
Speaker 2:Less responsibility, less responsibility.
Speaker 2:Yeah, the problem is that, well, you know, you get into periods of your life where you're trying to make bigger decisions and you're just not able to make a move, like I know. For me, you know, changing jobs, right, like if I just kept overanalyzing and kept trying to figure out, well, if I do this and then I do that, I don't know, no, no, no, no, maybe that won't work out so well, what if I do this and I could be stuck there for years, decades, right, just in unable to make a move.
Speaker 1:I think a lot of people you know think about making a decision to change career or find something or find purpose, and I, but sometimes it's not the right move, right. So how did you know, like the paralysis, like this thinking about things, wasn't just being mindful? How do you know the difference between being discerning, or you know being mindful or just going? You know what I mean, like the difference between being discerning or you know being mindful or just going. You know what I mean, like the difference here.
Speaker 2:How would you say For me, you know, it was a process of learning to trust my gut and trust my own intuition. Um, and then, eventually, what I found was this realization that I was never going to be stuck with, whatever decision I made.
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2:And I think that's where there can be a lot of paralysis. It's like well, if I do this, then that's it.
Speaker 1:There's like a foreverness to it, yeah, and it's like, actually, that's not true.
Speaker 2:But it took a while for me to realize. As I was moving into doing my own business and creating different offerings, it was like, well, I got to offer this and this and this is how I'll do it and this is what it'll look like. And it's like, well, yeah, it could just look like that for now, but it's okay If you change your mind. It's okay If you're like you know what it's evolving into this, that's okay. So I think it's. It's just really knowing you're not stuck. You're not stuck with whatever decision that you make.
Speaker 1:I know when we're when I was young, trying to think about like career goals and stuff like that it seems so permanent Like if I choose to be this, it's forever.
Speaker 2:Well, I think that's how we saw a lot of our parents. Yeah. You know, like we saw our parents move into a career and then that was it. They went into that until they were like 17.
Speaker 1:So they died there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and part of it. They were miserable. Probably you know, but there was never this like permission to just be able to change your mind.
Speaker 1:See, I looked at that as like loyalty and commitment and, like you know, stay the course kind of a thing. I really I idolized that growing up.
Speaker 2:So if you idolize it, then it would be even harder.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like there. There there was something to the loyalty. So if you idolize it, then it would be even harder If you get to the place where you're doing all those things because of that.
Speaker 2:whatever you thought, Because of that story.
Speaker 1:That story, but you still feel unfulfilled like you did, right. That's what I'm kind of getting to is this. And then it's like okay, how to know the difference between just like eh and like no? This is a real pull that I need to go. Yeah. You trusted your gut and I think this is kind of what I was saying earlier is just knowing that if I make a decision, it's okay, I can fix it and it's not forever, right Like that's what this is. It's a plan and simple that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it was really being able to trust myself and that it took a while for me to get to that place, and for me it was somatically, you know, is like what does a yes feel like, what does a no feel like?
Speaker 1:Well, talk about somatic. What does somatically?
Speaker 2:Somatically, meaning just feeling into your body. So you know how many of us have had a decision to make and you knew what your gut, you know when they say trust your gut where you're like I know that's the right decision. But then you analyze your way out of it Right and you do the different thing that actually just you know on paper made more sense. And then later you're like that was definitely not the right decision for me. So through a series of doing that I mean I'm going to be 53 now and you know many times of having done that, trying to analyze it, doing the most rational thing, and then later realizing that really was not the best decision for me, you know, is to go okay, how, how can I learn to trust my inner, knowing you know my gut feeling and how can I even to trust my inner, knowing you know my gut feeling and how can?
Speaker 2:I even test that and maybe start making decisions there where maybe on paper it doesn't make sense, but something about it just feels right.
Speaker 1:Is there a difference between choosing with your mind and choosing with your heart? Like an egoic choice and a heart choice?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think it is. I think the heart has its own brain.
Speaker 1:Because you know something about this. You know talks about making a choice based off of alignment, just discerning whether or not it's in alignment with your choices right.
Speaker 2:I think for me that has been the biggest game changer is just the word alignment.
Speaker 1:I didn't know what alignment meant for me.
Speaker 2:What does it mean? I didn't know what alignment meant for me. What does it mean? Thoughts, words, actions need to line up with whatever it is that you have said is the thing that you want for yourself. That's your peace, that keeps your peace.
Speaker 2:So for me, that's the easiest way to make a decision is, I realize I ask myself what do I want? So, when it came to the job or came to not just a job, but how did I want to spend the rest of my time serving? In what way? What felt? What's most aligned?
Speaker 1:Yeah, because a flight nurse was such a, you know, low totem pole helping people.
Speaker 2:No, that was a very I knew what that want and then I put every thought, word and action to get to that point and that worked.
Speaker 2:Thought, words, actions, everything lined up with what I wanted, which was I want to be a flight nurse. Well then it changed and I was okay with it. Changing for numerous reasons is to serve people in this way, is to help them connect with their body, realize what their triggers are, you know, and do so in a way that brings me into a place of abundance where I still get to spend time with my family, da-da-da-da-da right. So now every thought, word or action needs to line up with that, and I can trust that. But if I got stuck on, well, but you know, this detail is not right, that detail is not right.
Speaker 1:But also consider this because what we want is also temporal, because what I wanted five years ago- is not the same what I want now. So, that being said, like you have to have grace through all of it right, Because that's why you're not going to be stuck Knowing that I wasn't the same person or had the same wants and needs five years ago. Yeah, I can already guarantee, five years from now it will have shifted again.
Speaker 2:It'll be different.
Speaker 1:And. I hope it's better. Right, but knowing if I, if I continue to move with integrity for myself, whatever that means, my truth, then I don't. I think it'd be it becomes easier to take that step, that first step, not being stuck on that starting line.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, well, that's the thing. And bringing it back to how it shows up, not only in work, which is what we're talking about here, but how it shows up in relationships, how it shows up in your healing work. Recently, I had someone reach out who was just like I don't know what to do. I know that there's all these different, you know ways that I can, you know, find healing right, working through trauma or depression or anxiety or whatever it is, but I don't know what to choose, and I don't.
Speaker 2:I don't know if I'm going to choose wrong you know, and it's like okay, well, you're in this state of anxiety, you're in the state of like wanting to be better but not knowing how. And now you're inundated with possibilities, but instead you just don't choose anything, because it's like well, if I choose that, what if it's the wrong thing?
Speaker 1:Humans do best with minimal choice.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, I hated Baskin Robbins. Baskin Robbins with 31 flavors put me into a pit.
Speaker 1:That's why In-N-Out is so successful.
Speaker 2:You want this or you want that.
Speaker 1:What do you?
Speaker 2:want. But that's the thing you can get stuck, even within your process of healing. You're like should I try breathwork? I don't know, maybe it's meditation, I don't know, maybe it's this book. Why don't you just start with one thing, just take a step. No-transcript, so we can stay stuck in that way.
Speaker 1:And if you're comfortable with that, that's your familiar right.
Speaker 2:Yep.
Speaker 1:Yep, Then you could choose to be avoid yeah you can absolutely choose to shift out, but how?
Speaker 2:How do?
Speaker 1:you shift out that. Right, there is the question. So let's get into the sauce of it then.
Speaker 2:Yep. I think the first step is the one we talk about all the time.
Speaker 1:Self-awareness.
Speaker 2:That's the first move, and it's asking yourself, you know, am I just gathering information or am I avoiding a decision? Yeah, you know what, though?
Speaker 1:You can gather information. It's like you ever seen those people who go to school forever. That's what happened. I kind of feel like that, Right Like that. I mean, I kind of I'm forever trying to learn, sometimes, you know, just to avoid things. Yeah.
Speaker 2:So avoiding a decision versus gathering information. And then you know, I think also it's just noticing your physical responses when you're spiraling in thought, right, and how good does it feel when you actually just say, yep, that's what I'm going to do, and you just do it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Because sitting in the in the resonating feeling of like depression and continuing to like continue that loop and spiral. It's proven science that that's that the neural process is not going to lead to you to out of that. It's going to stay Cause whatever you focus on grows it's going to.
Speaker 2:You're going to be stuck in a loop.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you're going to be stuck on the loop. So you got to find a way, telling yourself more and more.
Speaker 2:You don't know what to do. You just don't have enough information yet. So, let me watch 47 YouTube videos, let me consult my Oracle deck, and then I'm going to call my mom and then maybe I'll send the email.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's right Before everything has to be lined up.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and sometimes you just got to start ugly. You know, you just got to just do it. I mean, I remember when we were thinking about doing this podcast and we're like well, what do we call it? And then, well, what equipment do we get? Oh, there's like 15 mics. I didn't even know what mic to get. Oh, my gosh, how do we? So we could have been stuck in that process.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and then I worried about like what it was going to sound like and if I was going to be able to talk or all these things and we thought, well, let's not put it out to the world yet, and let's just do it for us. We had all the excuses and it was never going to come out unless we-. Just did, it Did it and we looked at each other and we said this year we're going to do one, two, three go, we're just One, two, three go.
Speaker 1:One. It's like we're two little kids, you know standing at the edge of the, you know at the public pool, at the you know 10 foot diving board, and we're looking at each other and we're like, fuck, I don't want to do this shit. And we're looking at each other and it's just an obligated obligation to each other.
Speaker 2:Yeah, just go.
Speaker 1:It's one, two, three go. It's an obligation to yourself. Really. Yeah, you know what I mean. But that's what we did with this podcast and I think it was the thing that kind of broke us, you know, broke the ice and gave us the ability to get off that starting line.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's the thing. I think a good way to do it too is just to set a decision deadline.
Speaker 1:Yeah, give yourself like what 24 hours 24 hours.
Speaker 2:I'm going to give myself 24 hours to choose between X and Y, not A, b, c, d, e, f, g, you know, just pick the two most. If you have things that you're choosing from, pick the two that feel the most aligned and then give yourself 24 hours to pick which one of those you're going to do. Okay.
Speaker 1:So I've got something like I was talking to you about, like stickers on my truck. So I've got something like I was talking to you about, like stickers on my truck. So I've got this cyber truck that is the most hated truck in America. And you know, I wasn't in a line. I didn't know what Elon was. I was, I'm into cars and trucks and stuff like that and the same, and what I save on the vehicle happened to be in alignment with me, so cool. Now it's, it's the worst thing. And I'm kind of stuck in a position where now I have this vehicle, I can't afford to lose like $50,000 and just dump it right now. So I decided, okay, what I'm going to do is I'm going to put some stickers on my truck, because I'm getting literally like middle fingers all day long, so twice a day, that's enough to trigger me all day. So, anyways.
Speaker 1:I put sticker on my truck spread love and awareness, kind of a thing, and Tesla stands. Put sticker on my truck, spread love and awareness, you know kind of a thing, and tesla stands together. Everyone supports love and awareness. That's what I made tesla say. Well, my son happens to be have a different opinion and he's very triggered by the tesla thing and he has both of his parents have cyber trucks. So, you know, we have quite a bit of a conflict.
Speaker 1:So I got he was asking me and telling me his opinion on the truck, and so I've been thinking well, you know, I really want to make him feel heard, but I, right away I was like you know what I'm going to make him feel heard? And then I started to think about it. I should have gave myself some time, like 24 hours, to make this decision, because I right away jumped into, like you know, people pleasing and doing that. And now, as I think about it, I'm like, yeah, he wanted me to change it, to say something else. That was, you know, funny, funny. And I thought, well, I don't want to bring you know humor to it, cause that's what I used to always do, and I'm trying to change that about myself and I hope you would respect that about me.
Speaker 1:I it's not that I ignore what's going on with Tesla, cause I have concerns about what's. I just can't get behind vandalizing people's trucks because they're not the people that bought it. That's what it was, and I just tried to have that discussion with him and I was stuck on what to do. But now I was kind of like ruminating and I kind of did give myself I'm going to give myself 24 hours, 48 hours, to make a decision on it and I really feel like I'm doing something more in alignment with myself rather than people pleasing and doing some I was all scared about. I didn't know.
Speaker 2:That's usually our first reaction.
Speaker 1:I don't want to put something that somebody is now going to ruin my truck even more and trigger somebody else. I'm just trying to stay neutral because it's it's so offensive when people do. I know that this truck offends other people, I get it, but it's not me and it's what I'm trying to communicate. And so I've been stuck in this decision. What do I do? Take it off, and then, you know, do something else and not support my son and all these things. But what really it really comes down to, and what I decided even most recently, is that I have to decide with my heart, what's more in alignment with me.
Speaker 1:And so this decision, actually I was kind of stuck in it and today I've kind of just with this discussion, kind of I'm decided I'm moving past it.
Speaker 2:So you kind of felt into that somatic cue. So it's like which option gives you that sense of expansion and which option was giving you the sense of contraction?
Speaker 1:Yeah, that is the clue. That was the clue. Yeah, it was.
Speaker 2:I think if, simply if you were going to decide between those two things right, close the 20 tabs that are open, just pick two. I'm going to do this or I'm going to do that. Now feel into your body which one gives you a sense of, like expansion and which one feels like, uh, like a contraction. That, to me, is your biggest indicator.
Speaker 1:And it's hard to get to a. You need to get to a still place in order to do those things right.
Speaker 2:Yeah Well, and you have to have some level of awareness around what you're feeling in your body, like how many of us are constantly distracting, constantly avoiding just being able to sit still, you know.
Speaker 2:So I think there's a there's a value in being able to recognize the sensations that are happening in your body and being able to go oh yeah, that feels like full body yes, that. And if it's not a full body, yes, it's a no. So for me, that's been one of the biggest, the easiest ways for me to make a decision. And then giving myself permission to say you know what, I'm okay with that decision-making process and whatever comes from that I'm okay with. And even if it turns out to be not the best one, I can change it. And then it's like, wow, there's just this release of tension over having to make the right decision, the decision that pleases everyone around me, that pleases your son, pleases my mom, my dad, whatever, my group of friends.
Speaker 1:Yeah, logan was afraid to make a wrong choice because if he did I was like God dang it.
Speaker 2:There's disappointment.
Speaker 1:Yeah, right away. He didn't have any grace to make a wrong choice, which is what trained him to be like I am. That's the way I was raised.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so maybe giving yourself permission to make a wrong choice and to know there really there really isn't one. If you feel aligned with the decision that you're making, that's enough. Like you don't need to over justify it, you don't need to over explain it, it's just like this is how I'm doing and I'm trusting myself.
Speaker 2:And if it ends up being something that maybe wasn't optimal, then I can always change it. You know, and there'd be a reason for that There'd be some learning that I'm going to take with me from having made that decision that maybe doesn't look like the right one to everyone else around me. So, more so, just being able to make a decision, just being able to make a choice and then let it go. It's that one, two, three go. Do it ugly, do it wrong, do it.
Speaker 1:Just do it, though, don't get stuck on the starting line Do it with integrity and know that you're you'll do what it takes to make it right. Or, you know, do your best. You can only do your best. That's all you can give.
Speaker 2:Like it's like is this your best? Yes, that's enough.
Speaker 1:That's enough.
Speaker 2:That's enough, that's enough, that's enough. If we could teach our kids that, oh my God. But you got to emulate it for yourself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's how you teach them is doing it yourself. You got to be the example, because whatever battles we don't fight, they will.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, well, what if we do a little mini breath work session?
Speaker 1:Yeah, let's do some 10, 20, 30.
Speaker 2:Yeah, all, 10, 20, 30. Yeah, all right, let's do it.
Speaker 1:I think this is a good subject to really just kind of feel into the body. Yeah, this is an opportunity to feel into the body If it's safe, if you're not driving, if you're in a place, if you're driving, maybe pause this and wait until you're in a place where you can do this.
Speaker 2:Come back to it. Come back to it. If you're stuck in that swirl of overthinking, this breathwork can be your bridge out of your head into your body, because that's where clarity lives.
Speaker 1:Find a comfortable seat or lie down.
Speaker 1:Close down your eyes gently pull over whatever that looks like breathing, finding your breath, just finding your breath, just finding your breath awareness, noticing how you're breathing, not changing how you breathe, but just noticing how you're breathing right now, relaxing the shoulders, the arms, belly, all the way down, waist down into your hips, your legs, your knees, all the way down to your toes, relaxing. And in a moment we're going to go for 10 deep breaths in and out of the mouth, full into the belly, into the chest, into the head, full, deep breaths in and out of the mouth. And after the 10th breath, we're going to hold that neutral with the breath out and follow this. We're going to do it together. We'll go to 20 after that and 30 again. Don't worry about how fast or slow, just go with it. We're going to start in just a few moments. Find your breath, relax into it. Let's go In. Three, two, one, let's get it.
Speaker 1:First, 10 deep breaths. You're almost there and now we're going to hold, holding, relaxing into the breath, straighten your spine, and in a moment we're going to go for 20 breaths in and out of the mouth, full, deep breaths. Let's get it, let's go. That's one, that's two, keep going, keep going, keep going. Full, deep breaths in and out of the mouth, belly, chest and head, relaxing the breath out, relaxing the jaw. Keep going. We're almost there. We're getting to that 20th breath. Keep going.
Speaker 1:And on that breath out, we're going to hold and hold and hold 20 seconds. Hold here 15 seconds, 10 seconds. Let your jaw soften, let your shoulders drop, let your belly loosen. You don't need to figure anything out right now and now. We're going to go for 30 deep breaths In and out of the mouth. Let's go, get curious, go Deep, full breaths In and out of the mouth, relaxing the breath on the way out, all the effort on the inhale. What if you can go just 10% deeper? Let's go Now. I want you to hold, letting that last breath out, holding. We're going to hold for 30 seconds here, relaxing, keeping the spine straight, asking ourselves gently if I weren't afraid, what would I do next? We're almost there. You're stronger than you think.
Speaker 2:And now let your breath return to a natural rhythm. Just place a hand on your heart and another on your belly and bring your awareness inward. Drop your attention below the neck. And if you let go of fear, what would you do next? And just listen, not from logic but from your body, the first whisper, the gentle, pull the quiet, knowing that's your truth. Take one more breath to seal it in, inhale deeply, exhale completely, let it all go. You don't need all the answers, you just need the next step. You're safe to move forward. One breath, one choice at a time. And when you're ready, gently blink your eyes open. Welcome back.
Speaker 2:Shake out your hands, feel the ground beneath you. And here's the invitation Try something imperfect this week. Start ugly, start scared, but just start. Don't be scared, but just start. When you're in doubt, just zoom out and then take one tiny step.
Speaker 1:All right, that's been another episode of Let that Shift Go podcast. I'm Noel.
Speaker 2:And I'm Lena. Let us know what your questions are and we'd love to use them on a future episode. Or check us out on Insta at Let that Shift Go, or visit our website, serenitycovetomeculacom.