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• Summer • Episode 86

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Kick your ass into gear with this ep! 

• Exploring the importance of taking immediate action 
• Sharing a personal experience of planning an in-person event 
• Overcoming fears of rejection and failure through action 
• Building momentum through small wins 
• Initiating connections and building friendships in adulthood 
• Encouraging listeners to take initiative in their aspirations 
• Understanding the energy wasted on procrastination 
• The concept of an action board for motivation 
• The need to shift from planning to practical steps 
• Final push to act now rather than waiting for a perfect time


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Welcome to the Make Some Gains podcast. I'm your host, summer Venowitz, and this is a space where I'll be cutting through the bullshit and stripping away the filter. My aim is to help you reframe your mind, question the norms and push you to achieve new levels of success. Through raw conversations. I'll open up about my personal experiences, my ideas and my struggles. I want to empower you to live up to your full potential. Let's go make some gains.

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The reason why you are poor, stressed, ugly, sad, is simply because you have not taken the action to make yourself not those things. Most people are too busy sitting anticipating planning the action that they never actually get to taking the action itself, and that's exactly why it feels like you keep coming up short with all of these goals and all of these areas of life. So if you want to get richer, you want to get hotter, you want to be happier and you want to feel more fulfilled, you need action. You need to go out and take the action that is going to get you to that goal. I'm going to give you an example from my own personal life. So this past weekend, I hosted my first ever in-person event. It was a Galentine's event, and this all started I think two months ago. I sat in my hairstylist chair and she was someone who hi Emily, if you're watching this. I noticed that she was a baddie. I noticed that she had an interesting functioning brain. I vibed with her. I knew that the people that she was friends with and pulled in would definitely have that same vibe, and so I came up with the idea. I'm like why the heck we we, as we're talking we realized people really are craving this in-person connection, this in-person friendship. It's so hard to find as an adult. And so I came up with this idea to create this in-person event. And maybe it started out as this monthly event type of thing, but this was December, and so we said let's plan our first one for January. Let's then do a Galentine's event and that first freaking event in January. We planned that day. We set in stone this is the date, the people that we're going to invite, and even that first one you would look at it from the outside and it would be a bomb Like three people showed up. We sat there in this weird circle thing and talked about our feelings and it wasn't necessarily the vibe that I was imagining or picturing and we easily could have given up, then we easily could have said all right, this is a bust. We tried, we failed, but we persevered, we continued.

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We planned the Galentine's event and I'm going to tell you, I was shitting my pants the entire time. I had no idea how to fill it, how to plan for it. I'd never run an in-person event before, but I know if I set the goal in my mind and I take the action, the aligned action, that will get me to that goal right. We had the goal is to get 10 people, and so I think we filled like five spots pretty, pretty easily right away. And so what are the actions that I can take to fill those other spots? It's having conversations with people in person, it's calling upon my local community that I have, it's posting on social media and all we filled all 10 spots, every single spot that we had planned to fill. We filled. Everybody that I invited showed the fuck up. And this is huge. This is huge for me Because, coming from my background, being me, I have a fear of rejection, I have a fear of failure.

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I have in the past I'm not going to speak that into existence I have had a fear of rejection, a fear of failure, a fear of friends not showing up for me because of past experiences that I've had. But I decided this time around to take control of the narrative, and that didn't come from screaming affirmations in the mirror. That came from taking the action, taking the aligned action. No matter what, no matter how many no's I got, no matter how uncomfortable I got, it came down to taking that action. Not talking about it, planning for it, prepping for it, but taking the action. So this Galentine's, it literally it could not have gone better. The only thing was there was a blizzard the day of, and other than that, it was literally perfect. Cherry on top, I could not have had it gone any better than it did. And so, when it comes to wanting to turn these goals and these dreams into your reality, you need need less thinking, less waiting for the right time, less making sure that it feels like the right vibe, and you need more action.

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We actually, the first January event, we actually we thought of the idea. Emily brought it up. She said maybe we should just push it off to Gal Galentine's. That could be a better way to kick it off. And I thought about it for two seconds and I said no, we need to full send, do the thing, get the date on the calendar and just take the action and from there, from there, then we can get the ball rolling and get them, get the momentum. So so, emily, um, or planning, so planning, right, we're planning the event the next day and our idea came to fruition. But we easily could have um, thought of the idea to right, start this in-person event and we could have waited on it, we could have sat on it, we could have planned on it and planned for it, but that wouldn't have done shit for us.

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I saw a quote the other day and it said it takes just as much energy to avoid a task as it does to do the actual task at hand. And that is so incredibly powerful and so incredibly true. Think about how much mental energy is pissed away, thinking, planning, anticipating the action, and then we never actually take the action and all of that energy could have gone towards taking the actual action. So I have some examples, even from recent client experiences. So a big theme among my world, my clients worlds, is we want more connections, we want more friends, we want more like deep, like you're my bestie for the resty and as an adult it's. It's not as easy as when you were five years old in kindergarten, sitting next to your best friend in class and riding the bus. Right. We don't have that as adults, and so we have to go out and take action.

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So, instead of right sitting and thinking and dwelling on how lonely you feel and crying about all the friends that you've lost and how it used to feel so much different as a teenager and missing those times, and and sitting in all of those memories and eating ice cream and crying, take that energy and go out and make a friend today. Text an old one, find a new one. Where do you go? Do you go to the gym? Do you go to the grocery store? Do you go to the hair salon? Do you get your nails done? Where can you go out and make a connection? And when I say make a connection, I mean take your fucking head off, your eyes off of your phone, look around. There's baddies all over the place. I promise you spark a conversation.

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Give someone a compliment, ask them where are you from? Are you from here? Do you have an Instagram? Can we connect? Can I have your phone number? Would you want to go get coffee sometime? Would you want to lift sometime? Would you want to go grocery shopping sometime? Numbers Would you want to go get coffee sometime? Would you want to lift sometime? Would you want to go grocery shopping sometime? The simplest things, right. You could take all of that energy that you would normally sit and dwell and feel lonely and cry and feel all the feelings. And take that energy and go do something effective with it that adds to your life.

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Have you been thinking about doing a marathon, running a marathon, right? Instead of sitting and researching all of the top tier products and planning and prepping and mapping out your route and stocking all of the best marathon runners for three months straight, sign your bitch ass up for one tonight. Go on to the website and find a marathon. Sign up for it. Get your ass outside for a run today. I don't care how cold it is, right, don't wait till spring. Don't wait till you're 30. Don't wait till your kids are older. Now, bitch. Now, now or never.

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I actually had a client who she came to me and she's like I think I'm gonna sign up for a triathlon and I said, sweet, she's like I want to talk to this person and this person and make sure that I figure out you know which one is best, and figure out the training program. And I said, no, sign up, find one, does not matter, they're all the same. Sign up for one and then start training for it and then get the action going. So you have to get the ball rolling, you have to build momentum, you have to get these quick little wins, these quick little hits of dopamine that get you going. And you have to stack proof in your own mind, right? If you've never ran a day in your life and you're like I want to sign up for a marathon, of course your brain is like well, we need to do all this research, we need to get prepared, we need to figure out what the fuck we're doing. But I guarantee you it's far more effective to get your freaking pennies on. Strap those fuckers up, get outside, go for a five minute run, right. That's going to stack far more proof in your minds that, holy shit, I am capable, I can actually run far more than sitting and thinking about it.

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So you have to get this ball rolling, you have to create this proof and what I've been doing, right, because I'm on this journey, too, of creating a different life for myself constantly. I'm constantly growing, constantly evolving, and something that I've been doing is taking pictures and I add them to this thing that I call my action board. And for me there's something about these pictures. Like I took pictures of the Galentine's event that's all in there. I took pictures of even Logan's little Valentine's note that's in there. I've been doing gymnastics, which we know. I threw pictures and videos of that in there. I throw videos of me just feeling myself, of me and my dog having the best time, and it's my action board. It allows it all to. There's something, like I said something about visuals, where when I look through this action board, it serves as proof in my own mind like I'm doing it. I'm doing the thing. I'm doing it.

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A vision board right? We've heard of this before where you plaster pictures onto a board. It does nothing for you if you don't take action right. The fucking picture of Europe. It'll sit there all year long if you don't book the fucking ticket to Europe. The picture of the influencer's body that you want on your vision board, it's just gonna fucking sit there while you eat Cheetos and do nothing for you if you don't take the action right. What are the actions. Eat cleaner foods, get your body moving Fucking, read some books I don't know Whatever that looks like for you, right? And then snap right how much more effective is that you take the action? You snap the pictures, you add that to your action board, rather than just this fucking foo-foo vision board of things that you've never done, you've never tried and you're probably never going to try because you're not taking action on them. So adding these cute little pictures of other people's lives and other people's successes, it's a cute, fun little idea, but it does nothing for you if you're not taking the action in your own life. So I guarantee, if you nail this one thing down of taking action, you'd be less poor, less stressed, you'd feel less ugly, you'd be less sad and you would become richer, hotter, happier and far more fulfilled.

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So I want you to think what is that goal that's been camping, just fucking tents up fires, going people around that campfire in the back of your mind? What is that goal in the back of your mind that's sitting there? It's been bothering you. You keep saying, oh, someday, someday, someday, we'll do it. Nothing comes from someday thinking fuck that, get that out of your vocabulary. It's not someday, it's today, it is today. So when, when is someday right? We say someday, when is that? If it's not today, is it when you're 40, 50, 60, 70, 80 years old? Right, eventually you're gonna get there. You're gonna look back at 80 and be like what the fuck was I doing? I kept saying someday, someday, someday. No, it's now.

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I don't care how scared you are, I don't care how unprepared you feel, I don't care how much is going wrong in your life. I don't care how much is going wrong in your life, I don't care how much of a wrong time it feels like. It doesn't feel like the best time. Jump off the fucking bridge, do it now. I got a comment. She's back. Yes, she fucking is. You can thank me later, like after watching this and you going and jumping off the bridge and doing the thing that is again camping in the back of your mind for years straight. How many years, right? How many years? How many days, how many months, how many years have you been saying someday, someday, someday, someday? Too many, too many. If it's one day, it's too many.

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So if you are the woman who you know that you have it in you, right, like you're not a weak ass little bitch. You know you're strong, you know you have it in you. You've proven it to yourself, right? Whether that's in school, whether that's with sports, whether that's with your kick-ass career that you have right, you have this proof. Maybe you need to go and add that proof to your action board, ozzy lay down. Maybe you need to go and add that proof to your action board, ozzy lay down. Maybe you need to go and add that action, right? Take pictures or proof from sports, from school, from your career, of you being a boss-ass bitch, and take that. Slap that on your action board to serve as proof for your, your own mind, right that you can.

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Right now you're having hesitancy with whatever, what other area, whatever other area that it is that you are trying to pursue whether it's the marathon, whether it's the friendships, whether it's your health and take that momentum from other areas of your life and channel that into this area of your life. But if you are like shit, this feels so hard, I feel so much resistance. I've been trying on my own for the last few years and it's not working. And you're wanting, you're craving a space with women who are going to force you to push your boundaries, with women like me who literally force you to raise your standards, take the action and hold you accountable, then, badass, revolution is for you. Let's fucking go. I hope that even if you don't join, you take something away from this episode. I love you all so freaking much. Let's fucking go.