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How to overcome anxiety

Summer Episode 114

Most people are miserable not because life is hard, but because they’re fighting against what life is: uncertain.

We’ve been wired to believe that if we can just plan enough, control enough, or avoid enough, we’ll finally feel safe. But the truth? That gap between craving control and not having it is exactly where anxiety breeds.

In this episode, we unpack:

  • The three ways anxiety shows up when we reject uncertainty:
    1. The Overthinking Loop (mental control).
    2. Control through food, body, routines, or people.
    3. Avoidance (running from uncertainty).
  • Why your brain is addicted to “what if” loops and why they never work.
  • How being free-spirited is simply shifting the story: uncertainty isn’t danger.. it’s possibility.
  • Everyday examples of balancing free-spirit flow with anchor points (values, structure, safety nets).
  • Action steps to retrain your brain and nervous system to trust uncertainty: awareness, nervous system regulation, small doses of exposure, anchoring in values, and building self-trust.

You’ll never eliminate uncertainty. But you can rewire your system to see it as adventure instead of threat.

Life is meant to be an art form. A blank canvas.