Somatic Healing for Wellness-Focused Women

(#85) Grounded Change: How to Self-Regulate and Move Through Life Transitions Without Overwhelm

• Rae The Somatic Coach • Episode 85

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Thinking about a big life change — starting a new job, moving, or beginning a relationship? This episode is your gentle guide to navigating major life transitions with more clarity, groundedness, and self-trust.

✨ In this episode, Rae shares a somatic approach to life changes, inspired by fresh waves of creativity after an expansive trip to Scotland (spoiler: Isle of Skye & Edinburgh magic!). You’ll hear practical steps, embodied questions, and supportive tools to help you move through any transition feeling anchored in your truth.

In this episode you’ll explore:
 🌱 The Facts
 🌱 The Possibilities
 🌱 Your Nervous System
 🌱 Support (Without Outsourcing)

🌱 Takeaway: You can move through big changes from a grounded, safe place. When you trust your inner compass and honor what’s true for you, there really are no “wrong” choices — only lessons and expansion.

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Disclaimer: Please remember that the information shared on this podcast is intended to inspire, educate, and support you on your personal journey. It does not substitute for professional mental health advice. I am not a psychologist or medical professional. If you are experiencing distress, mental health challenges, or medical conditions, please seek help from a qualified professional.

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Speaker 1:

Welcome back to the podcast. If you are new here, I'm Rae, I'm a somatic coach and breathwork facilitator, and if you aren't new here, welcome back. I'm so glad that you're tuning in for today's episode. So some life updates before we dive in. I did just get back from Scotland a few weeks ago. It was absolutely amazing. I highly recommend it.

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Uh, the first half of our trip we did of isle of sky, which is like the scottish highlands, and we got to go on a bunch of different hikes. We went on a little bit of a boat tour. We got to see all different birds and animals out in the water and we went on this one hike through what's called the fairy pools and it was like every few feet was a different waterfall and it just felt like pure magic. It just like the landscape there looks so surreal, really just so beautiful. And then the second half of our trip we drove back from Isle of Skye back to the city, uh, to Edinburgh. And in Edinburgh we got to do more. You know that city, city life. Um, we, our hotel was in such a perfect spot, which was really nice. We were central to everything, um, so, yeah, highly recommend Scotland. If you need any recos, just reach out.

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And while was there, I got a few waves of creativity. You know, while I was traveling and on my trip, travel specifically can be super expansive for me. I love it. I think it's nice to like shake up the day-to-day routine and see what comes through, and so this podcast episode was one of those ideas. Whenever I get a creative hit, I like to keep just like a note section in my phone and then I kind of just yeah, just write down like all my ideas, and then some of them stick and some of them I just forget about. But this episode is one of those ideas.

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So something that I talk a lot about with my clients a lot is, you know, big life transitions, like making big life changes. It's like things might even be going really well, but you know that something needs to shift, something needs to change, and so I thought that today it would be fun to chat more about how to navigate those big life changes, what it might look like, and I tried to just, you know, break it down in a way that would be supportive, easy to digest and fun. So let's dive in, shall we? So, when it comes to big life changes, we're talking like getting a new job, leaving an old job, starting a relationship, ending a relationship, moving to a new place, buying a new car, getting married, having a baby. We're talking about pretty significant things that can happen in our lives, that are sometimes predictable, sometimes unpredictable, sometimes our choice and in our control, and sometimes out of our control, but either way, they require something from us. So, in that, whatever it's calling forward in us, it can bring up emotions, it can bring up fears, it can bring up hard conversations, relational dynamics. There are so many things that can come to the surface when we start to consider a change and a big life shift. And so four things that I think are important to consider before taking the big leap forward into whatever it might be that is happening in our lives. That's what I broke it down into today.

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So the first one that I want to chat about with you is really being able to sit with the facts, being able to start with what is real and what is tangible and what is really going on in this big life change, in this moment of what might be coming up for you. So that could look like checking in with your finances. That could look like checking in with any contracts that you might be going on. If you need to consider debt, if you need to consider timing, for example, if you are looking to transition from one job into another job, do you have a non-compete? Do you have a debt that you need to take into account? So you can't really just quit one job. You need to line up another job, like really being giving yourself a moment to just kind of sit and be with what is real, what are the facts and this isn't about listening to fear. It's not so much like these are all the reasons why I can't make this change.

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It's not about that. It's about asking yourself what is real, what are the facts, what needs to be honored here before I can move forward. An example that I can even share for myself is there was a time where I took on another job, like a second job, because I had some debt that I wanted to pay off. So I highly recommend doing that. It really allowed me to get real with myself and what was stressing me out and what was important to me, and allowed me to sit with the facts of what was happening in my life and ultimately, it allowed me to feel more grounded in my choice and in the change, I felt like I was anchored in what this pivot was really all about. And so how might that translate into what you're looking to change? Whatever that big leap forward is, whatever that big change is, how can sitting with the facts of what's coming up for you, how can that serve you? What needs to be honored here before you are able to really move forward?

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And then the second factor to consider is what are the possibilities here? So you are not stuck. You are never, ever stuck. That is it. We like to think that we're stuck. We believe that we're stuck because of our emotions and our fears and what's going on in our lives. But you are not stuck. So what is possible here? Can you create some space for creativity? So I'm using the job. I mean, I'm using the example of looking for a new job, but any example that might apply for you. Are there creative solutions here? So that might look like reaching out to your network. That could look like, uh, taking on a part-time job to bridge gaps between jobs. Um, what is what becomes possible for you if you allow yourself the freedom to be creative with a solution to this new change?

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And then the third factor that I want to share with you is considering the nervous system, considering the body and the conversation. So big changes can stir up nervous system responses, they can put you into the freeze, the fight, the flight, the fawn. They can create urgency. Again, that sense, that feeling of stuckness might be present. So it's like something needs to change and something needs to change right now and that can trigger, like a nervous system response.

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So, really tuning into the body, tuning into your experience, what do you need right now and what does your body need right now? What, what might bring you a sense of comfort, a sense of safety in a time that can feel unsettling. Do you need a plan? Do you need a timeline? Do you need time to self-regulate and build trust with the unknown? To self-regulate and build trust with the unknown, do you need more support from your friends, from your family, from your partner, and allow this check in with the nervous system and check in with the body to help you to stay connected to your inner knowing, to your inner compass and make choices from a place that feels really aligned for you.

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Because again, we're starting with that first factor, which is grounding. You're going to feel grounded in the facts. The second, which was you're going to feel creative in the possibilities, you're not stuck. And then the third is you're going to check in with your body and you're going to stay connected to your body and you're going to stay connected to your intuition and your inner knowing, because, in the end of the day, you know, you have an idea, you have a knowing that is going to support you through predictable or unpredictable big life changes. And then the fourth factor to consider is really maintaining contact with your support system.

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So, do you have people in your life your friends, your family, your partner to lean on through a big life change? Can you be honest with them about how you're feeling? And if you don't because that can be a reality for some people too their support system can feel kind of rocky. Can you build one that can look like reaching out to someone that you trust, or building trust with someone new, a counselor, a therapist, a coach, whatever that might look like to help you feel more supported?

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And I disclaimer here as well if you do have a history with people pleasing or like outsourcing your truth, so you can like leaning on that support system you can go into like, well, what do you think? What do you think I should do? What can? What's your advice? You can go into, like that advice overwhelm, where now your inner knowing feels all like muddy and confused because you've taken on everybody else's opinion of what you wanted, what you want to change or what you want to do.

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So if you're, you know, looking for a new job, they're like oh, you've been in the industry for 20 years, why would you change? Now? It's like, well, that's because your inner knowing is telling you that you want to change. That's why it doesn't need to make sense to anybody else. So if you have a history of like outsourcing your truth and your wisdom, definitely being mindful with that when you are leaning on your support system as well, ultimately, yeah, you want to make an informed choice for you and you know I'm a believer that there's no wrong choice. There's definitely, of course, like lessons and things that might make sense when we like hindsight is 20-20, of course, but if your inner knowing is speaking to you and wants to make a change, I don't think there's like a wrong choice. It's just a matter of coming up with a way that would really feel supportive for you and feel like your nervous system can handle it and you have the support in place and you're yeah, you're not stuck. You can always pivot and change. So invitation here what would be the decision I would make if I deeply trusted myself?

Speaker 1:

So to recap the four factors to consider before taking the leap forward, making a big life change the first is, yeah, getting real with what the facts are. What is true here, what is tangible, what is real. The second is leaning into the possibilities, creating space for creativity, for possibility for change, for freedom to be creative. The third is considering your nervous system, checking in with your body. What do you need to bring a sense of safety? What does your body need? Does that look like a timeline plan, time to regulate support? And then the fourth is maintaining contact with your support system, asking for support, leaning on the people around you and continuing to still trust your inner, knowing, although people are there to support you as well, you can move through big transitions from a grounded and safe place, but you can also. You can trust your inner knowing when things get shaky. You can also receive support from those around you when life transitions happen.

Speaker 1:

So if you are looking to make a change, maybe you're looking to start a new job or quit your old job or start a new relationship or move across the country or buy a new car or get married or have a baby. And yeah, we're talking about changes that are pretty predictable and unpredictable too, but, uh, they can bring up some significant things in our life with these big changes. You know emotions, fears, uh, hard conversations, relational dynamics can shift finances. You know big things in our life. So, considering these four factors whenever those moments arise for you. So that is what we have for today's episode, as always.

Speaker 1:

Thank you so much for tuning in. If anything here landed for you and you find that you're going through a big life transition, I did recently update my website to show an option for somatic therapy. So if you are in New York state, I now accept insurance for somatic therapy, and if you're not in New York state and you still want to check out some options and offerings for the ways that we could work together, I did also update my website to include somatic coaching and somatic breath work as opportunities for us to work together If you are moving through a big life transition. I have got you. So thanks so much for tuning in for today's episode. I can't wait to chat with you next week. I hope that you have an incredible rest of your day, an incredible rest of your week, and I will talk to you soon.

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