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(#100) Feeling Stuck? How to Move Through Fear, Freeze & Comparison with Compassion

• Rae The Somatic Coach • Episode 100

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Feeling stuck, frozen, or like you're falling behind? You're not alone. In this milestone 100th episode, Rae shares a warm behind-the-scenes life update + 5 powerful mindset shifts and somatic tools to help you move through emotional stuckness with compassion, clarity, and momentum.

Whether you're navigating a big life transition, feeling creatively blocked, or just caught in a loop of comparison and freeze, this episode will support you in regulating your nervous system, reconnecting to your power, and taking aligned action (even if it’s tiny!).

💛 In this episode, Rae shares:

  • A cozy life + creativity update (books, cacao, painting, and porch dreams 🌞)
  • The #1 somatic truth about feeling stuck (hint: it’s temporary)
  • 5 tools to gently shift your energy and get out of your head
  • How movement and micro-actions spark momentum
  • Why stuckness might actually be a precursor to a breakthrough
  • The real reason you're not “behind” and how to reframe it

If you've been craving a soft, grounded push forward, or just some cozy somatic inspiration, this is your sign to tune in.

💌 Sign up for the Somatic Healing Newsletter to access Rae’s free breathwork + meditation resource library and stay connected to her latest offerings.

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Disclaimer: Please remember that the information shared on this podcast is intended to inspire, educate, and support you on your personal journey. It does not substitute for professional mental health advice. I am not a psychologist or medical professional. If you are experiencing distress, mental health challenges, or medical conditions, please seek help from a qualified professional.

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Welcome back to the podcast. If you are new here, I'm Ray. I'm a somatic coach and breath work facilitator. And if you aren't new here, welcome back. I'm so glad that you are tuning in to today's episode. Episode 100, here we are. Started the podcast about two years ago, and now here we are. Fast forward two years. I can't believe it, episode 100. So I am really grateful and thankful so much that you are here. I really love creating these episodes for you. And for today, I'm going to share a few behind-the-scenes life updates, and then we're going to dive into the topic of feeling stuck and what to do when we're feeling stuck, and kind of like a few different perspective shifts on this topic. So if you have been here, or even if you're new here as well and you want to support the show, uh, you can subscribe and leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. That is what helps the most when it comes to reach and growing my podcast. So let's dive into today's episode. So a little behind the scenes here, I am recording this episode. It's Wednesday morning. I have my cup of cacao with me here. Um, I use or cacao. I love it. And I just am like about almost finished with it. So I'm feeling really good. And I'm kind of having a slow day today. So I'll definitely go in for, you know, a walk later. I'll be reading a bit. And I have been reading a bunch lately and I love it. I remember when I was little and my Nana would bring me books from the library, and there was just no better feeling than sitting with her snuggled up on the back porch and getting lost in a book. And for that reason, I really want like a I call it like a Florida porch, but it's basically a screened-in porch. I really want one of those. It's just like so nice. But anyway, I just finished uh reading Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo. It's a fiction book. Highly recommend if you're into those. And it might be my favorite book of the year so far. Although there are more months to go, so that might change, of course. But I think what I really liked about it the most was kind of this chip on Evelyn's shoulder, the main character, which might sound odd, but I think it is healthy for us to have some examples of other options outside of, you know, good girl syndrome or people pleasing. And so I just really loved like her attitude, like you go girl. And another book that I'm loving that I also highly recommend that is not that is nonfiction, it's self-help. It's called uh It Begins With You by Gillian Turecki. And I love this book so much because it really just brings you right back to yourself. It is about navigating romantic relationships, but I think a lot of it applies to platonic relationships as well, and just really applies to like every facet of life. I think that, you know, it talks a little bit about the inner child, it talks about relationships with our parents, communication, boundaries, codependency. It's a really easy to digest book. It's not very wordy, which I love. And I don't usually read self-help books all the way through. I might like read a chapter, put it down, pick it up again when it speaks to me. But this book I could not put down. I just I really thought it was great. It was so simple, and it's something that I've been even like using in my work with clients. So definitely gonna be on my top five reads for this year, but that is another thing that I've been enjoying. So, two things that are inspiring me right now. The first is creating art. So I've been painting a bunch, and I recently took a drawing class a few weeks ago, and I'm taking another one starting next week. So it's just been really fun. I've been having fun with it, growing in a new way, letting myself be imperfect. I'm so much not a painter by any means, but yeah, creating new things, and it's been really nice. And I'm also toying around with the idea of creating some sort of vlog on YouTube. I think it would be fun to create some long-form content, and I think that's also why I love the podcast so much because I can, you know, speak and create, and I don't have to worry about like a one-minute timer running out, or I don't have to worry about it like sounding a certain way or looking a certain way. It's like my own little world over here in the podcast. So I think creating maybe some vlogs could be fun. Uh, so that we'll see what happens. I don't know. But those are a few life updates, a few behind-the-scenes things that I'm really enjoying right now, and that is what I have for you. So let's dive into today's topic. I'm sharing some perspective shifts with you around the feeling of stuckness. And we've all been there, myself included. And what's great about it is that we're never actually really stuck. It feels so real in the moment. It feels like maybe we're trying everything, no matter how much we think or plan, we just like can't move forward. And when especially when we're really like in it, things on the outside can appear that we don't have a choice or that again, things will like never change. But that is not the case. That is not, in fact, true. And these are some perspectives, some tools that I'm gonna share with you that are gonna be really helpful um when it comes to navigating this feeling. So the first is to pause. So pause and remember that you are never truly stuck. Stuckness and that feeling often comes from either fear or overwhelm. It is a state, an emotional state, a feeling, and you have full space and autonomy to change, to pivot, to grow in a new way, to shift. And so the first thing is really reminding yourself okay, this is a feeling, this is temporary, let's pause. What can we do from here? The second is to shift your state. So oftentimes our body and movement can change how we feel. So this is like your opportunity to like use your tools, right? Like use the tools that we've learned on the podcast here. You'll use the tools from your toolkit, add to your toolkit. But this is like use your tools, you know, go for a walk. You can dance it out if that's your thing. You can take a shower to shift your state. You can call a friend, you can change your environment, like physically get up from where you are and go to a different place. And notice how that will shift how you're feeling. That's going to shift how you feel in your body, that's going to shift how you're feeling in the mind. And that in itself will help to move through this feeling of stuckness. The third is to ask yourself, uh, what are you really needing right now? So feeling stuck can often mask other things that maybe we're not seeing. So it can be kind of this feeling of stuckness is coming to the surface because really we're feeling exhausted or a fear of failure, or a desire to grow or pivot in a new direction. And so there's some uh hesitation there. And can you turn inwards towards yourself instead of turning away from yourself? And see yourself with compassion, see yourself with uh understanding, with curiosity instead of judgment, because oftentimes this pause and this moment can feel unsettling, it can feel scary, and so turn towards yourself with an open heart, with compassion, and asking, what are you really needing right now? And then number four is take one tiny action. So this doesn't have to be a huge, huge thing. It can even build on number two, where it was uh shifting your state. Take one tiny action. So when you are feeling stuck, it's not always about the big thing that is going to create a shift. It can be one small thing, a phone call, a practice, five minutes of breath work, scheduling an appointment, like taking care of yourself. A few weeks ago, I was experiencing this, and I just had this moment where I remembered and I was like, oh wait, I have so many other options right now than this feeling that I'm feeling. And I know exactly how to get to those better feeling thoughts. Like I have those tools, I have that information. And it's so, it's so funny how these things can happen. Like this feeling can just come in, and it's like taking that one small action will bring more clarity and that will create momentum, and that will bring you closer to more understanding around either what's coming up for you and/or a better feeling thought, a better feeling, a better thinking, you know, whatever it might be. But taking one tiny action is really helpful and will create that momentum. And then the last perspective tool thing that I will share with you is that reminding yourself and knowing that you are not behind, quote unquote. So feelings of stuckness, it's like we're in that freeze response. Our nervous system is like, ugh, you know, overwhelmed, feeling fear, and that can cause comparison because we're looking outwards, like our perspective and our view is not serving us, right? So it's it's when oftentimes this feeling can cause some comparison feelings. What's actually happening is that this feeling is often leading to a breakthrough, it's leading to a change, growth, a pivot. So something new is forming, and right before something new is forming, our nervous system can be like, oh, frozen, freeze, stuck, uh-uh, uh. And we can also be gentle with ourselves through this process. We can be honest with ourselves, we can trust it, and that's really what it's an opportunity for trusting yourself, knowing that you are never truly stuck. There's no such thing as being behind, and it is it is uh an illusion that's happening. So coming back to this episode in that moment, if you're feeling any kind of stuckness, any kind of need to pause and shift, listening to these five steps and really walking yourself through this process with trust and gentleness and compassion. All right, and that is what we have for today's episode. If you would like to stay in touch, you can sign up for the newsletter in the show notes. And yeah, I hope you have an incredible rest of your day. I hope you have an incredible rest of your week, and I will talk to you soon. Thank you for being here and tuning in to Somatic Healing for Wellness Focused Women Podcast. If you were moved or inspired by today's episode, please take a moment to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. It truly helps the podcast grow and helps more people find me on their healing journey. Make sure to check out the show notes to sign up for the monthly newsletter, links to more resources, opportunities to work with me, and ways that we can stay connected. If we aren't already connected on social media, head over to Instagram to follow me at Ray the Sematic Coach. Send me a DM. I'd love to connect with you, and I answer each note that comes in. I am so happy you're here, and I cannot wait to talk with you on our next episode of the podcast.