(#119) How to Create a Life with Intention: Core Values, Vision & Self-Leadership

How do you create a life that feels intentional, aligned, and designed by you?

In this episode of Somatic Healing for Wellness-Focused Women, Rae shares 7 powerful tools for creating a life by design — rooted in your core values, personal vision, and authentic self-leadership.

If you’ve ever felt like life is happening to you instead of being created by you, this episode will help you reconnect with your autonomy and intentionally design the life you want to live.

✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why knowing your core values is the foundation of intentional living
• How to clarify your vision for the life you truly want to create
• How to use discernment and stop comparing your life to social media highlight reels
• Why getting support and community can accelerate personal growth
• How to pivot with compassion and grace when your path evolves

This episode is an empowering reminder that you are allowed to design your life intentionally and that clarity, confidence, and self-leadership grow when you reconnect with what truly matters to you.

Whether you’re redefining your goals, entering a new season of life, or simply craving more alignment and purpose, these tools will help you build a life that reflects your values, vision, and joy.

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Disclaimer: Please remember that the information shared on this podcast is intended to inspire, educate, and support you on your personal journey. It does not substitute for professional mental health advice. I am not a psychologist or medical professional. If you are experiencing distress, mental health challenges, or medical conditions, please seek help from a qualified professional.

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Welcome And Intentional Living Focus

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Welcome back to the podcast. If you are new here, I'm Ray. I'm a schematic coach and breath work facilitator. And if you aren't new here, welcome back. I'm so glad that you are tuning in for today's episode. For today's episode, I thought it would be really fun to dive into a few different tips and tools that I've found helpful and impactful for really creating a life that is designed by your own intention, consciously designed, intentionally designed. And yeah, so I figured that is what we would dive into today. So I recently revisited my business core values and I got really clear on what those are. There are five of them. And I'll be updating my website to include a nice little about page, and I'm going to include them on there too. So I feel like that's really what inspired me to put together this list of really creating a life with intention. And when you do that, and it's it's by your own design, it's really incredible what can happen. It's also a very empowering process. So it helps with building that self-knowledge. It helps with really stepping into stronger self-leadership. And that those two things, in my opinion, with self-compassion, is really what creates self-confidence. So that's all what inspired me to put this episode together. And these are my, I believe there are seven of them. These are my seven tips to create your life with intention and by your own design. So the first tip is to know your core values. So as I mentioned, I revisited my core values recently for my business. I also have another set of core values for me, myself, Rachel, and I have another set of core values for work. So you don't need like three separate, separate ones, but you can have them. So any action you want to take, this is a practice and a foundation that you can come back to. Knowing your core values is part of identity building 101. It is the foundation of who you are at your core. And it's a really fun process, too. It's something that you can ask your friends about. You can see how they're living, their core values, which is pretty awesome. You can also see what you have in common, and it's really inspiring to see kind of like to hear about someone else's core values is really inspiring. It's like, oh, that's so cool. It's so like maybe it's like different than yours, or maybe you have some commonalities. It's it's a really fun and cool process, in my opinion. So knowing your core values will empower you, it will give you a strong foundation. It's something that you can return back to when maybe things in life are getting a little rocky, or you just want to like feel a bit more grounded. So this is part of your foundation, it's part of your identity. I'll also mention that something I like to do with my core values is kind of like create a little piece of artwork. Um, you could do this right on Canva, like right on your computer. You could create it yourself. And then wherever you are, kind of like hang it up on that on the wall. So, for example, in my office at home, I will have my core values in a little picture that I made on the wall. In my office at work, I will have my core values in a little picture on the wall. And it's just like a nice way to really revisit and feel connected to like the core and the grounding of what's important to you. And the second tip that I have for you is to know your vision. And this also builds off of that first tip of knowing your core values. But your vision is going to be that representation of what your life looks like when you are living and embodying your core values. So, this is also a really fun practice. This could look like taking a moment to shut your eyes and really feel into what is that daydream? What is that vision? How do you want to be living your life? What does it look like? What does it feel like to you and your body? What is important to you? What are your non-negotiables? What is that foundation that we just talked about briefly? What is that built on? What does your home look like? What does your relationships look like and feel like? So this is also a really, really fun process. This is something that you could do in a guided practice. You could do like a visualization meditation, you could make a vision board, you could make a mood board or a vision board on Pinterest online, you could create a journaling vision notebook. I've done that before too. So there are no rules. This is a fun process, and it's something that also builds off of those core values. And then tip number three is to use your discernment. So this means really remind yourself and check in and remind yourself of your own autonomy, of your own choice to create your life by your design, your intention, your vision, your values. So this could look like not necessarily looking at, you know, the highlight reels that were shown on social media, or even like the influence that we we receive from the people in our lives unintentionally, or what's going on around us. So this is about returning back to that foundation and using your autonomy and your choice to create your life, how you want it to look like. And that also includes taking what lands and leaving what doesn't. So using your discernment around what is, yeah, what is important to you, what you want things to look like, uh, knowing that you have choice and you have autonomy. Tip number four is to have fun and be in your joy and follow your joy. So that means really following what lights you up, following what inspires you, following what feels really good in your body and what excites you, even also what calms you, what helps you to feel regulated, what feels inspiring to you. So this is to you personally, not based on what might work or what excites somebody else. So again, not looking at that highlight reel on social media, it's about doing, finding, embodying what is your unique kind of fun, whatever that is. So if that looks like going out with friends, traveling, learning a new language, creating art, music, dancing, watching a funny TV show or funny movie, hanging out with your friends, going to dinner parties. It could be anything, but following what lights you up and inspires you and what feels really, really good to you, what excites you, and it's not based on what anyone else is up to. And then we have tip number five, and this is create this space and time for yourself to be successful, and this is two pieces. So the first piece is to define what success really means to you. So, what is your personal definition of success? And what's cool about this too is that definition might change. So, like each season of life might have like a different element of what success looks like for you. And that's okay, but it's about checking in and seeing, like, okay, like in this era, this season of my life, what does success mean to me in this moment? And then part two of this would be making space in your life to make that happen. So sometimes life is moving like really fast, and we're all, I'm sure, pretty busy. So, can we make space in our life for the things that are important to us, for the things that connect with all the other things that I've mentioned so far, and that builds on your personal definition of success. And this is going to do exactly that. It's gonna set you up to succeed. So, an example of this might be making space on your calendar so that you can work out or go to the gym, making making space in your life so that you have time to meditate, breathe, and do some journaling in the morning or before bed. If you want to do something like write a book, making space in your life to allow that time. That's gonna take, that's gonna take some time to create something like that. If you want to start a podcast or have a podcast, creating time in your life so that you have some time blocks to allow to make that happen. And sometimes it doesn't mean like adding a big project, it could be, you know, small things, but how can we fit that into your day-to-day so that you feel like you have the time and space to do the things that are important to you? And sometimes when we make space for new things or we just make more space for things we're currently doing, sometimes other things need to be subtracted. And if you are aware of what your core values are, you are aware of what your vision is, you know that you have your own discernment to make those subtractions, you're going to have that that subtraction might just happen on its own, but you're going to have the awareness and the ability to be like, okay, well, this, it looks like in this season of my life, like this thing isn't actually as important to me. So I think I can I can move this one around a little bit. So basically plan it out. Like give yourself the structure, the time, and the space to support yourself to succeed in the things that are really important to you. And tip number six is to get support. So if anything I've talked about so far feels impossible or hard or not exciting, get support. Remind yourself that you have choice. Get to know yourself on a deeper level. I saw a quote a few months ago by M on the Brain. She's big on uh Instagram, she has a podcast, she's a neuroscientist, and I really appreciate her perspective. She has um really cool ways of like, yeah, like shifting your mindset by just putting something in a different perspective. And one of the things that she said a few months ago was that any belief that you have is a limiting belief, and you might as well choose one that's empowering because every belief is a limiting belief, and I find that so it was such like a funny perspective. I was like, oh, that's like a funny way of like looking at it, and I really appreciated that shift. So if there is any resistance to what you want to accomplish, what do you want to create, what your version of success is, if you feel like you need to regulate your nervous system, breathe, find a sense of calmness, connect with your inner child, forgive a parent, whatever it might be to support you in moving forward in whatever it is that you want to accomplish, get support, do what you need to um, yeah, like not be in it alone. And it doesn't necessarily even need to be inner work. I'm thinking, for some reason, I'm thinking of the of the gym and like working out a lot. I don't know why, but that's what's coming to my mind. So if that's the case, can you get a trainer? Can you get a buddy, a workout buddy, like a friend? Um, can you find a gym that you really like or um a class that you really like? Like something, get support, be in community. And then my last tip for today, tip number seven, is to let yourself pivot with compassion and grace. And this idea of pivoting is an opportunity to check in with yourself and yeah, see what really is resonating from all of those other tips that I just mentioned. So, like I personally like I love a good pivot. I think a pivot, I think it shakes things up, I think it keeps things fresh, I think it's inspiring, creates movement, more creativity. But for some reason, as humans, like we're so wired to be resistant towards change. Sometimes we're resistant towards it even when we see it on the outside, like see it in other scenarios where something might change, and we're like, oh no, like why did we why did that happen? Like, we're like, no, no. And then we're in a position where maybe like we want to change something, and that can feel really hard, maybe hard internally for ourselves, or even hard of like, well, what is someone else gonna think? I just changed this thing and now I'm gonna change it again and like change, change, change, right? So, like letting yourself pivot in those moments with compassion and grace and beginning again when you need to, and just continuing that process, like beginning again and beginning again, continuing to grow and change and evolve. And then if you get somewhere and that's not the thing, pivot again. Like if you if you thought that all the things you did all the things to make all the changes, and then you got there and you're like there for a little while, and you're like, oh wait, no, this this still isn't it. It's okay, pivot, pivot again. And there's really like no rules here. Like, you are the one that is creating your reality, you are the one that is creating your life, your intentional conscious life by your design. So you know exactly what it is that's going to click for you, that's what's going to land for you because you're the one in it, right? Like it's your perspective, it's your life. So, last tip let yourself pivot when those moments come with compassion, ease, and grace. So that is what we have for today's episode. I hope that you enjoyed it. This was a fun one to record. And yeah, if you would like to stay connected, uh, you can do that through signing up for the monthly newsletter. You can also check out the show notes. That's where you can sign up for the newsletter and also get access to the Breathwork Resource Library. So I hope that you have an incredible rest of your week. I hope you have an incredible rest of your day, and I will talk to you soon. Thank you for being here and tuning in to Somatic Healing for Wellness Focused Women Podcast. If you were moved or inspired by today's episode, please take a moment to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. It truly helps the podcast grow and helps more people find me on their healing journey. Make sure to check out the show notes to sign up for the monthly newsletter, links to more resources, opportunities to work with me, and ways that we can stay connected. 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