Before May: Tell the truth about January through April

You can’t “fresh start” your way into a different life if you never pause long enough to tell the truth about what’s been happening. As we head into May, we’re doing a real self-check and we’re keeping it simple: less planning, more honesty, and one clear move you can follow through on.

We take the pressure off perfection and borrow a framework most of us already understand: the work performance review. At work, results matter, and you don’t get to skip the review. So why do we let ourselves slide in our personal life? We walk through a quick personal accountability exercise that helps you evaluate how you’ve been showing up from January through April, not what you meant to do. You’ll break life into key categories like finances, relationships, mental health, physical health, career, business, and spiritual life, then rate each one fast without overthinking.

The big moment is the choice between comfort and change. It’s easy to focus on what’s working and ignore what’s off, but that’s how May through December ends up looking exactly like the first part of the year. We challenge you to pick one area you already know isn’t working, get honest about the pattern you keep repeating, and choose one small shift to make this week. If you want more clarity, motivation that lasts, and real personal growth, press play and do the exercise with us. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a review with the one area you’re choosing to change.

Transcript

Using Work Reviews As A Model<br>

Break Life Into Honest Categories<br>

Comfort Versus Fixing What Is Off<br>

Write It Down And Score It<br>

Pick One Area And Change One Thing

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Hey. See, I'm not even gonna hold you long today. I just want you to think about something. We are getting ready to walk into the month of May, and I had to check myself on this, so I'm checking you as well. Have you actually looked at how you've been showing up the last four months? And I don't mean what you plan to do, I mean what you actually did. Because I've realized something. We do this thing where we go month to month talking about new goals and fresh starts and the things that we want to do, but we never actually stop and look at what's been happening, like for real, having real conversations with ourselves. And yes, it's okay if you talk to yourself. And what made it click for me was thinking about work. Because at work, we don't get to skip over our reviews. See, we sit down, we have to talk about it, what went well, what didn't, where we showed up, and where we didn't. And then we even sometimes have to review ourselves before our supervisor or manager does the actual review. And you don't skip it. Like you have to face either what you've done or didn't do and move forward. But when it comes to our lives, we don't do that, we just move on. We tell ourselves we'll do better next month and keep going. Like, how are you gonna fix it? And I had to ask myself, what not what? Why am I okay with being held accountable in one area, but not holding myself accountable in my own life? So that's what I'm doing right now, and what I want you to do with me. Nothing fancy, just real. See, we need to start breaking our lives into pieces, our finances, our relationships, our health, both mental and physical, our workplace, careers, business, our spiritual lives, and we have to be honest about it. What's actually going well and what's not, and don't rush past that part because that's where we usually start explaining things like, I've been trying, or I got a lot going on. Okay, but still, what's actually happening? And then this is the part that hit me. See, some areas are good, but some I already know they're off. And instead of dealing with them, it's easier to focus on what is working. So now the question becomes am I about to actually work on what's off, or am I about to stay comfortable in what I already know how to do? And that's really it. That's the conversation. See, you don't need a whole plan right now, you don't need to fix everything before May, but you do need to be honest about where you are so you can decide what actually needs to change. Because if nothing changes, then let's see, May through December is going to look the exact same way as January through April did. And we're not doing that. So before you go, do something with this. Don't just listen and move. First, write it down. Not in your head, actually write it. Break your life into those same areas: finances, relationships, health, mental and physical, your career, your business, your spiritual life, and write them. It can be one through ten, real quick. Don't overthink it. Your first answer, y'all, is usually the honest one. And then pick one. Not all of them, but one area you already know is off. And ask yourself, what have I been doing in this area that I already know isn't working? Be real about it. Who you gonna lie to? You? That is crazy. Because you already know. And this is the part that really matters. What's one thing I'm going to do different this week? Not a full plan, not a long list, just one shift. Something small enough that you can actually follow through. And that's it. Because this isn't about changing everything overnight, it's about walking into another month, doing the same thing and expecting something different. Uh last time I checked, that's the definition of insanity. So yeah, that's it. Check yourself, like for real, and then move accordingly.