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Spandex & Wine
Spandex & Wine is a podcast for finding balance between being healthy & living a happy life. Hosted by Robin Hackney, a 23-year veteran in the fitness industry & wine consultant, this is a place to be our authentic selves as we have real conversations exploring wellness and all things wine! Subscribe now so you don’t miss an episode.
Spandex & Wine
The Anniversary Episode: Stories From a 36-Year Marriage
Love, laughter, and lasting commitment take center stage in this heartwarming anniversary episode. For the first time in the podcast's history, host Robin Hackney convinces her husband Dave to join her behind the microphone to celebrate 36 years of marriage through stories that reveal the authentic journey of their relationship.
The couple takes listeners back to 1986, when they first met in high school study hall—Dave noticing Robin in her memorable red sweater. Their first date was prom night, though not without drama, as Dave broke another date just days before to ask Robin out. Within weeks, he boldly declared his love, and three years later, they were married in a whirlwind 15-minute ceremony followed by a Cancun honeymoon that showcased both their youthful naivety and resourcefulness. (They had to return a bag of Fritos at the hotel gift shop just to afford their flight home!)
Through hilarious mishaps and heartfelt reflections, Robin and Dave reveal how communication challenges shaped their relationship. There's the time Dave let Robin painfully sand a ceiling with a tiny block rather than reveal he'd purchased a more efficient tool—all because they weren't speaking to each other. Or when they painted their living room blue twice because neither wanted the color but thought the other did. These relatable moments demonstrate how even the strongest marriages navigate miscommunication and growth.
What makes their relationship work? While they don't claim to have all the answers, their stories reveal mutual respect, shared humor, and the ability to weather difficulties together. As Robin puts it, Dave is truly "the wind beneath my wings," supporting her countless ideas and adventures through the years. Whether you're newlyweds or celebrating decades together, this intimate conversation offers both entertainment and insight into the beautiful, imperfect journey of partnership.
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Hey everyone, welcome back to the Spanx and Wine podcast. As I am recording this, I hope you can hear all the background noise. I'm using my phone. It's usually pretty good, but I hope you can hear the rain, the birds chirping. It's just an amazing morning and I'm sure you can guess where I am. I am on my screened in porch. I absolutely love it.
Speaker 1:This is how I love to start a day whenever I possibly can, which typically is just the weekends. But this weekend is a special weekend. We are celebrating our 36th wedding anniversary and the day that this is going to be released it'll be the actual day of our anniversary. So I thought what I would do for this episode, just make it totally different, and it's going to be little snippets, just throughout the weekend, of things that I think of, maybe just little tributes to Dave and our relationship and whatever the heck else I can think of. Okay, so thanks for joining me today and let's just jump in. And when I say snippets and tributes, what I mean are funny stories and things that have happened to us over the years. To grab a glass of wine, cup of coffee, whatever you like, whatever makes you happy, that you pour in your glass and I'm excited for this episode.
Speaker 1:Hello and welcome to the Spandex and Wine podcast. I'm your host, robin Hackney, and I'm so happy that you're here. This podcast is a place for conversations about balancing a healthy lifestyle and being happy. More specifically, happy hour. Together we'll explore all things wellness and wine. I hope you learn a little, laugh a lot and, along the way, know you're not alone on this balanced wellness journey. Ready to jump in, pour something in your glass that makes you happy, because it's time for spandex and wine.
Speaker 1:All right, I am super excited. I know that you're not. It's our anniversary. So happy anniversary, dear you too. Okay, so I've been doing this podcast for a year and eight months and it took our anniversary for you to say yes on coming on, and I know that you are not the most excited about being here, but you'll loosen up, don't worry. He's already had a Bloody Mary and a Goose Island. I told him that he was allowed to do that, so I will probably be hitting the explicit button just in case. Probably a good call. Okay, so I say we start with how we met. Do you remember the very first how we met?
Speaker 2:I just remember the red sweater and study hall.
Speaker 1:Okay, there's a good start. Yeah, we were in Miss Daly's study hall together. Veteran study hall. Okay, there's a good start. Yeah, we were in.
Speaker 2:Miss Daly's study hall together, spring semester. Yeah, do you still?
Speaker 1:have that red sweater. No, I can't believe I gave it away. I'm sure it went to goodwill years and years ago. But yes, I loved that sweater too, but I have a picture of it. I put it on your desk a couple months ago. Yeah, yeah, all right. So our first date was prom and your best friend at the time had a crush on me and he had invited a friend of the family to go to prom with him, so he felt like he could not break his date and ask me. But you had a date as well, and a week and a half before prom you you broke the date and you asked me to go.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I can't believe you did that.
Speaker 2:She didn't like me anyway. I can't believe you did that. She didn't like me anyway.
Speaker 1:I can't believe your mom would allow you to do that, and I do remember calling her and asking. I just feel so bad for her. Like she had her dress, she had her shoes, she had her purse, she had everything. In a week and a half you broke her heart, I doubt, I told my mom.
Speaker 1:Oh, probably not. Yeah, you're right. So anyway, she's still doing good, do you? Are you still in contact with her? Yeah, so anyway, yes, prom was our first date because his best friend had a crush on me and that totally backfired because we started dating right after that yeah, and then we didn't invite him to the wedding I know I feel so bad.
Speaker 1:So, rick, if you're listening to this, thank you so much for the introduction. Clearly it worked. I guess he didn't introduce Um, okay. So yeah, that was back in 1986. Prom was our first date. We went to Skye's restaurant. We both had prime rib. It was fabulous, um. And next spring we'll be celebrating our 40th anniversary of our first date. I know I know you hate it when I remember all the dates, yep.
Speaker 2:Yep.
Speaker 1:Yep, yep, and do you remember the first time you told me that you love me?
Speaker 2:Couple days after prom probably.
Speaker 1:It was actually a few weeks. Yes, we were probably with Rick again, but I remember you had a big two liter of Mountain Dew and you were drinking Mountain Dew and I think we were at a park or something like that In my pinto.
Speaker 2:Oh yes, With the white fuzzy dice.
Speaker 1:Yeah, your brown pinto, yeah, and I just remember you saying that you love me and I laughed at you. Yeah, I laughed at you and I said, oh my gosh, how do you know? And you just said, because I know it was so sweet, well, hey, and you knew, I'm just honest. Yeah, good for you. And then let's see what was it three years later. If there would have been a pastor or a preacher and an altar at the gymnasium of where I graduated high school, I would have gotten married the same night. Otherwise, it was like 21 days later that we decided to get married and our wedding was so fast it was maybe 15 minutes, would you say?
Speaker 2:Yeah, it was perfect.
Speaker 1:It was really fast and I was thinking about I asked you the question earlier this weekend when we were celebrating if you would have the same people in the wedding and our lives are just so different. Now it's hard to say, but you had one guy that came straight from the ACTs. That's how young we were.
Speaker 2:Yeah, one guy didn't have socks, so he wore his white gym socks.
Speaker 1:Yep.
Speaker 2:A bunch of knuckleheads.
Speaker 1:And then, uh, so we were going flying out to Cancun the next morning and so we stayed at the Marriott by the airport. Um, and I remember getting drink tickets and we were 18 and 20, and we were too afraid to go down to the bar and use our drink tickets because we thought we would get carded and they wouldn't give it to us. Do you remember that?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I would have carded, us.
Speaker 1:We had to look so young, yes, and then we just took the money from the envelopes from the wedding. We had no credit card, we had a few traveler's checks and we went out of the country. Yeah, we did and we had a great time, except for was it the day before we were getting ready to leave?
Speaker 2:Yeah, the night before.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we went to Chichen Itza that day and it was wonderful, but I made the mistake of having a Coke with ice and I got sick. Yeah, and you felt bad. Did you go down to the gift shop or did we get it out of the mini bar? Did we get the we had?
Speaker 2:a Fritos, I had to take it back to the gift shop.
Speaker 1:Well, we, we, we, we. So Fritos, a bag of M&Ms and a Sprite I think is what it was because I wasn't feeling well and when we went to check out of the hotel we were 75 cents short and we still had a bag of Fritos, because we just ate M&Ms for our last meal. And so, with the Spanish that I knew from Mrs Bush or not Mrs Bush, mrs Booth Thank you, mrs Booth we went to the gift shop together.
Speaker 2:Spanish. I didn't know from Mrs Booth.
Speaker 1:You had Miss Daly, didn't you?
Speaker 2:No, mrs Booth, she didn't like me.
Speaker 1:Oh, anyway. Anyway, so we exchanged or we returned those Fritos, and somehow it was like a penny over or something like that, but we got returned.
Speaker 2:Isn't that crazy. I returned a bag of Fritos so I could fly out.
Speaker 1:That is so crazy to me.
Speaker 2:I can't believe that we would go out of the country without some type of credit card. That's horrible or stupid.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, oh my gosh, we didn't know any better. We did not. And here we are 36 years later. Not that every moment's been great. We've had our ups and downs yeah, mm-hmm, more ups than downs. When we have a down, it's usually sucks. Yes, I remember one down that at the moment I didn't realize how down it was, which one I was going to tell about. The one at the old house when we were scraping all the ceilings.
Speaker 2:I love this story and if you ever see me out and about, you can ask me cause. I'll tell you again, cause I love telling it.
Speaker 1:Okay, then I'll let you tell the story.
Speaker 2:Okay, so we were redoing the basement, we had to paint, you know, scrape the ceilings and all that. When we scraped the ceilings, we had to sand it so we could paint, and we were out doing something. We went to Home Depot and I don't even remember what we were arguing about.
Speaker 1:I don't either remember what we're arguing about I don't either but something, something probably stupid I was all huffy and not speaking and yeah so she wouldn't talk to me and I wouldn't talk to her.
Speaker 2:And she had bought this little like I think it's like four inch by two inch little sanding pad that you hold in the palm of your hand. And well, earlier in the week I had bought a big long pole with a big sanding pad. To make it easier I'm like I'm not hauling the ladder around so I put it outside out in the garage on my four-wheeler. Well, she got home that night and we were she, she was pissed and I was pissed.
Speaker 2:I went upstairs and watched a baseball game. She went downstairs and I hear her down there sanding and she's just sanding her ass off. I'm like that's weird. So I went down there. I went down to the laundry room and acted like I needed to do something in the laundry room. I went down there to see what she was doing and she was working her ass off with that little four inch sanding palm sanding thing. And I'm like I could tell her there's a big long pole and a big sanding pad right outside that door. But I said, no, we're just going to let her sand. So I went back upstairs and watched the baseball game and laughed and smiled the whole time she was down there.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, my shoulders hurt so bad and my fingers, like it was big enough for my index finger, my middle finger and my thumb. I can't believe you did that to me.
Speaker 2:I used to say you know, shouldn't have stopped talking to me, I would have told you where I was at.
Speaker 1:Okay, that reminds me of another story that I even forgot to mention this weekend when we were talking about it. Do you remember sleeping in the Jeep in the garage?
Speaker 2:Oh my God, yeah, my toes are still cold.
Speaker 1:So it was New Year's Eve and it was cold, it was snowy that night, yeah, it was super cold, and you drank way too much, way too much. Maybe, maybe it happens and we got home and he was basically, we'll say, asleep, but I'm going to say, passed out in the passenger seat. I was asleep and I just remember being so upset I don't remember if we had to leave the party early or what the deal was but I thought I'm going to show him, I'm going to leave him in the Jeep and he can just sleep right there. But I did pull it in the garage. That's not like I left you out in the cold. I mean, it was cold in the garage. So I do feel bad about that, but it was freezing cold in the garage. Well, it had to have been at least 40, 45 degrees inside the vehicle, probably more. So you're fine, you're fine. Oh, and then the time. Okay, so we moved to our current house. This wasn't really. This wasn't a tiff, this was. We were painting the living room.
Speaker 2:Lack of communication.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I don't even know how this happened because, for whatever reason, we both thought the other person wanted the living room painted blue and we went and picked the color out and we're both like, okay, yeah, yes.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and so we painted it one coat. I think we painted two coats and we went around and we got to the end of it and both of us were just sitting in silence and we're both like, okay, what's wrong? What's wrong with you, what's wrong with you? And it was because we both hated the color and we were just doing it for the other person.
Speaker 2:We painted the goddamn living room twice because we didn't talk about it.
Speaker 1:Yes, it's true, I know, I know. So communication is something that we've learned over the years, not that we have mastered it, because that was just five years ago, oh gosh, oh. And just recently, oh recently, oh, my gosh, okay. So sometimes I can get just a little worked up with technology, or if it's not instant, that's probably more my issue. I'm not a patient person, so I want something done right away and I want it done right.
Speaker 2:It's painful.
Speaker 1:This was a painful moment for you. Yeah, so we're driving down the highway and any of you that are in the Overland Park area with all the construction right now at 135th and 69, we're driving through all of that while this was happening. I was supposed to have wine delivered on Thursday and I was home all day Thursday. And those of you that get wine delivered, you know you have to be there to sign for it. And then FedEx sent me a message oh, your delivery is delayed.
Speaker 1:So I had the grandsons that I was watching on Friday and we stayed at our house as long as we possibly could and, seriously, on the drive, the six minute drive over to their house, fedex came and I'm like, oh my gosh, if I would have waited just a few more minutes. So then Saturday we were in between the one of our grandson's birthday party and Cornhole and we're driving up in that construction and they're at our door and I'm like, oh my gosh. And so I got on the ring camera and I'm like, if I just send you a picture of my driver's license, will you leave it? And the guy's like, yeah, well, I could. My phone was running so slow I could not get the picture to go through fast enough, and he kept messaging me I can't wait, I can't wait, I can't wait. And so here I am, just like pounding on my phone, because pounding on your phone makes it work better, and Dave was getting so mad at me.
Speaker 2:Do something I'm like I am. I'm dodging the fucking cones. Do something I'm like I am I'm dodging the fucking cones Beep.
Speaker 1:So then he told me later he was going to grab my phone and throw it out the window.
Speaker 2:I almost chucked it out the window.
Speaker 1:And then we didn't yeah, what about a happy?
Speaker 2:moment. I'm still regretting that decision, by the way.
Speaker 1:Because now we're using it for the podcast. Oh my gosh, now that would have been bad. All right, okay, how about a memorable moment? What's your most favorite vacation that we've gone on?
Speaker 2:Black Hills was cool.
Speaker 1:It was cool.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that was really cool, but in true, yeah, we just do it, just like we do every other time. We just take off with no hotel, no plans, no nothing. We rented a car, packed the tent and just drove to Black Hills and figured, we'll figure that one and get there.
Speaker 1:And I mean we knew we were going to camp, but I mean hindsight, seriously. We went in summertime, we went June and every campsite could have been full and we had no plan. We ended up on a primitive site, which that was okay with us.
Speaker 2:That's cool.
Speaker 1:Yeah, which takes kind of a special relationship to do that too, because we couldn't shower for days. And I remember one of my favorite stops there. We went to get gas and we walk in this gas station. It was teeny, tiny and there's a bunch of guys sitting there with a let's like a makeshift bar and they all have a beer in their hand and they turn and look at us and then we look over to the right. There's a little casino like three slot machines or something like that, this little bar and the gas station. So we frequented that a few times, but we did stumble upon a shower a few days later. Yeah, thank God. Yeah, that was good. Yeah, we weren't allowed in there, but we took turns and watched the door for the other person. No, I would say that that's probably besides our honeymoon. That was probably one of my most favorite vacations as well, yeah, but we have a good time no matter what we do.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we figure it out.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, it's been good. All right, let's go. Oh, that was the other thing. When we got married, we decided that we made a contract with each other that we were going to give it 75 years and then I'm out. Then we're out if we decide like we can decide to stay together too. So you will be 95 and I will be 93 when that happens.
Speaker 2:Look out, ladies, I'll be free at 96.
Speaker 1:Yeah, cause you'll have to have a couple of minutes or months to recover. Yeah, yeah. Well, dave, see that wasn't so bad.
Speaker 2:No, all right. Well, I haven't listened to it yet, though, either.
Speaker 1:It's going to be good, it's going to be, good. Anything else you want to share, any advice or anything like that, anything that I do that annoys you?
Speaker 2:That's going to have to be a different one.
Speaker 1:Okay, besides all the coffee mugs rolling around in my car and the stuff hanging on the doorknobs.
Speaker 1:And the goodwill in the back. Oh my God, yeah, yeah, well, I won't get started on your things either. Okay, okay, all right, I love you, I love you, okay, okay, you guys, that was truly so hard for him. I felt bad for him. He was really nervous and he kept saying I know how your people feel when they ask for a list of questions before the podcast starts, because they should know what you're going to ask. And I did give him a general idea of what we were going to talk about and there are stories, right, so we should know those stories. Although he did mention he's like when I stopped recording, he was like, oh my gosh, that's so hard.
Speaker 1:Typically, typically, when you're telling a story, you can read the other person or the people that you're telling it to, and then you know no, should I emphasize this more? Should I do this? It makes you realize, like storytelling, how much you rely on your audience and how I just you know you're just talking to a phone or you're talking to your microphone or whatever it is, and you hope that everything goes well and it's received well. So big thanks to Dave. He's just a special guy. He's put up with a lot from me. You guys know that I have so many crazy ideas and have tried lots of things and he's just there. He's just. You know that song Wind Beneath your Wings, he's just. You know that song Wind Beneath your Wings, he's definitely. He's definitely. Wind beneath my wings. Yeah, I would say that All right.
Speaker 1:So I hope you guys have a wonderful rest of your day evening, whatever time of day it is, that you are listening to this, and I appreciate you taking time just to to pause and listen. Thank you for listening. If you're enjoying this podcast, be sure to follow Spandex Wine so you don't miss an episode. To do this, just go to the podcast and click subscribe or follow. Wherever you're listening, look for the plus sign or follow button. This is one of the best things that you can do for the podcast. If you'd also be willing to give a five-star review, that would be amazing and much appreciated. Lastly, please share an episode with a friend or five to keep the love going and join the Spandex and Wine community in our private Facebook group by searching Spandex and Wine. Feel free to reach out to me at any time by emailing info at spandexandwinecom or text me at 913-392-2877. I appreciate you. Thank you.
