From Rock Bottom To Resilience: How Want, Structure, Discipline, And Grace Change A Life

www.morgansheedy.com

A third DUI, a family tragedy, and a choice that changed everything. Morgan Sheedy joins us to share how he rebuilt his life by following a simple compass: want, structure, discipline, and grace. The story is raw and hopeful, grounded in practical steps you can start today—whether you’re pursuing sobriety, chasing a promotion, or trying to get your health back on track.

We dig into why clarity of want is non-negotiable and how structure makes discipline easier. Morgan lays out the morning tactics that outpace excuses, the power of planning tomorrow before you leave work, and the Slight Edge approach that turns tiny daily actions into compounding results. We explore the Chimp Paradox to manage impulses, why “discipline crushes motivation,” and how to “feed the chimp” with healthy rewards so you show up even when you don’t feel like it.

The conversation moves from rock bottom to purpose. Morgan opens up about rehab, grief, and the moment he chose sobriety for himself. He explains why systems beat goals, how habit stacking anchors new behaviors, and the role of reflection and celebration in keeping momentum alive. You’ll also hear how volunteering led him to keynote speaking, where he now helps teams and students find their true north and win their day with simple, repeatable tools.

If you’re ready to trade comfort now for what you want most, this episode offers a roadmap. Listen, take one small step before the day ends, and tell us what you’ll start. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this with someone who needs a nudge toward their true north.

Transcript

Welcome And Wellness Theme

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Hello and welcome to the Spanish online podcast. I'm your host, Robin Hackney, and I'm so happy that you're here. This podcast is a place for conversation about balance in a healthy lifestyle and being happy. Or specifically happy for. Together we'll explore all things wellness in life. I hope you learn a little, laugh a lot, and along the way, know you're not alone on this balance, wellness journey. Ready to jump in? Pour something in your glass that makes you happy because it's time for Spandex and Wine. Hey Morgan, welcome to the show. Thanks for being here. Hi, Robin. Thanks for having me. Absolutely. I know we've been talking about this for a while. You have a great story. You have a wonderful business. So I'm excited to dive in. If you wouldn't mind, like just um give us a little introduction about who you are.

Want Versus Action And Structure

Discipline Over Motivation

SPEAKER_01 0:54

Sure. Um, my name is Morgan Sheedy, and um for the last little over three and a half years, I have been on a um journey for myself to kind of write the ship on where I was going with my life. Um, unfortunately, I was following a path that was very destructive for myself. Um, it was putting a lot of concern um into the minds of my loved ones, family, and so forth because of my abuse on alcohol. Uh so through a series of events that happened back in uh 2022, I decided I needed to change some things. And it started with um getting sober and creating a structure for myself, and then following that structure with discipline and grace. Uh, but everything all started with establishing a want. So I talk about my want, structure, discipline, and grace. Uh, if we viewed this as a compass, your want is your true north. So, whatever your want is, uh for me, it was sobriety. I had to say to myself that this is something that I have to do, but how am I gonna go about it? You know, it's it's great to say, I want that. I I want that promotion, or I I would like to achieve that certain level of sales. Well, that's great, but I don't think there's a promotion ferry that's just gonna drop down one day and just give you a promotion. Right. So it's it's great to have want, you know, it all starts there, but how are you gonna go about it? Um so I had to create a structure that I'm gonna say to myself, this is my game plan. You know, Andy Reid doesn't go into the Super Bowl and say, I really want to win the Super Bowl. Yeah, of course, Andy. Everybody wants you to win the Super Bowl. But, you know, I'm willing to bet he's got a game plan. So you got to create a game plan. Um, and once you have that game plan or your structure, it then requires the discipline. Uh and Robin, I know you know this. You know, I see you basically every day. And um, you know, I see your discipline and I see what you bring to our our our little community that we have up at the club. And um, I had to say to myself that I need to have discipline to achieve my want. Yeah. And there's a a quote that I I probably have said to nausea, but I absolutely love it, by Abraham Lincoln that talks about discipline. And he says, discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want the most. So yeah, so I had to say to myself, you know, not that I do anymore, but you know, in the beginning, you know, I I may want that drink now or whatever your um struggle is, you may want that scoop of ice cream now, but I I wanted to be sober more. You you have to want to, you know, lose that little extra five pounds more than maybe that um spoonful of ice cream. Um, you may want to leave work now, but you know what? I thought you want that promotion. Well, what are you doing for that? You know, maybe make that extra one extra phone call or you know, get your day lined up for tomorrow so that way you're not coming in tomorrow morning and having to start your day with what do I have to do today? You should already know what you're doing the next day. You should already have your game plan. You know, you don't wake up that morning of the game and say, Okay, how are we gonna how are we gonna win? You already know right, right. I think that's very important. Um, this isn't rocket science. It's simply uh uh tools that I have put together of from different things, you know, different outside sources, readings, uh, personal growth. A lot of things that I implement every day are things that I've gotten from other um authors or you know, listening to different podcasts like your own. And um one of the one of the greatest books that I've read recently is over this time is a book by the name of uh The Slight Edge. It's by Jeff Olson. And he talks about just the tiny little things that you can do every day in compound interest. You you're not gonna see it right away. You know, you you didn't gain 50 pounds in one night, and you're not gonna lose 50 pounds in one night either. Yeah, so you need to be disciplined, and you know, there are little things that you can do every day that aren't hard, but the problem is they're also easy not to do. You're you say to yourself, Well, is it that big of a deal if I don't do this tiny little thing? No, it's not, it's not that big of a deal. But not doing it multiple times will begin to add up, just in reverse. Is it is it gonna make that much of a difference by do that tiny little thing right now? No, it's not. But if I do it every single day with consistency, it will begin to build on itself. And then that's when you begin to see the results.

SPEAKER_00 6:03

Yeah, no, I 100% agree. And you know, I hear people say, Oh, I'm manifesting this, I'm manifesting that. That's great. You can manifest all you want, but until you decide I have I have to do this action to get to here, I can't just put it out to the universe. That sounds great, and it might work for some things, but you have to have a plan. And Morgan, I like what you told me the other day. Um, and I'm gonna let you explain it, but the whole chimp theory. I thought that was really good and it makes perfect sense.

The Slight Edge And Tiny Wins

The Chimp Paradox Explained

SPEAKER_01 6:32

Yeah, yeah. The uh the chimp paradox. Um yesterday was a little bit of a little bit of a battle with my inner chimp. So the chimp paradox has been around for a long time. Um, different doctors analyze it different ways, but the basis of it is we basically have three parts of our brain. We have our chimp brain, our human brain, and our computer brain. The chimp brain is gonna deal with all your emotions, uh, immediate reactions. It's it's kind of like the devil on your shoulder. Um, so the chimp brain, however, much like the physical chimp itself, is five times stronger than the human brain. So we need a little bit of the human brain and the computer brain to battle the chimp brain. So the chimp brain is going to be the one telling you when you wake up in the morning, and this is why it's important to very first thing put your feet on the ground, push them through the floor. And what you're trying to do is you're trying to wake up before the chimp brain wakes up because there's usually a little bit of a delayed reaction. Because you don't want the chimp brain waking up saying, No, stay in bed. It's warm, it's comfortable in here. Yeah. You need your human brain and your computer brain saying, no, I need to get up. Because if I don't get up, I'm not gonna start moving, I'm not gonna get to the gym, or I'm not gonna get, you know, to begin to tackle my day. And I know if I don't do these things, this is what's gonna happen because your computer brain is gonna store all your past memories, um, your your knowledge of you know what's happened in the past when you don't do what you need to do. So you need those two brains to battle the chimp. Now, sometimes you need to feed the chimp, and that you know, you can reward the chimp. You can say to yourself, you know what, I god, I still don't want to work out right now. I, you know, I'm not motivated. And you and I have talked about this, Robin. Discipline will crush motivation any day of the week. You know, motivation is great, but motivation is temporary. It's not you're never always gonna be motivated. And if you say you're always motivated, okay. Yeah, I question that. But you know, motivation is a wonderful tool to have, but you also need to have the discipline and the structure. So by feeding the chimp, you can say to yourself, All right, if I go get this workout in, maybe I'll treat myself to a coffee or you know, whatever the case may be. So what we try to do is we try to deal with that little chimp paradox, and hopefully we win more times than we lose. Um, because there are going to be those days where you just do not want to go do whatever you need to go do. And so you just have to remind yourself, and this is where it comes back to your want. What do I want more? And um, you know, for me, my situation with sobriety, um, it also then dovetailed into you know getting in a good exercise routine and doing that every day. Um yeah. So I I find that very important. Um, I I I think you know, goals are great, but goals are temporary, systems are permanent. You know, you need to have a system in place. You hear about these people who want to run a marathon, that's awesome. God bless you. I mean, I I couldn't do it. Well, what happens after you run the marathon? You know, is it over? Right. If you keep that system in place, how do you achieve that marathon? You know, you have a system that maybe you now you want to do a triathlon. Well, I achieved that goal that or that promotion. Well, that's great. You don't stop the system, right? Keep it going. Well, I I lost that first 10 pounds. Did you do it just because you what that was your goal to lose 10 pounds? How about keeping that system going and lose another 10 pounds or whatever the case may be? You know, like I said, for mine it was sobriety. Well, that system has worked for the first three months. Yeah, let's keep it for six months and then a year, two years, three years, three and a half years. So um have your want, have your structure, have the discipline, and then you know, the grace. And you know, grace is has many different meanings, all the way from the higher power of grace, if we want to get in the biblical side, to more of our everyday use of grace. And to me, having grace is really uh kindness and understanding and forgiveness, not just for yourself, but for others. You know, I I I talk about, you know, when I was going through my recovery in the beginning, I mean, I'm sure I was an absolute nightmare to deal with. I mean, I mean, I I think I'm pretty great, but no, I I did it. I I I'm sure I was uh you know, I was not easy to deal with, but you know, people gave me a lot of grace because they were understanding of what I was going through. Right. We we all need to do that because you may see someone, you're like, oh my god, he or she had they have it all together. You know what? Everyone's dealing with something, absolutely. So just try to be kind to people. Um, and I just think that's so important because you can then say to yourself, you know, I I I I'm fighting the good fight, I'm doing everything that I'm in control of. You know, don't get caught in all the outside peripheral stuff from social media to God, the news, to you name it. Yeah, just say, I, you know, I I I won my day. And you know, I I know this because I went through my list of things that I wanted to accomplish today and I've checked them all off. Make me small things. Hey, yeah, today wasn't a big, really busy day. Uh but I stayed sober, I worked out, and I got to the bank and I picked up my dry clean. Those those were what I had to do today. Yeah, and if you did it, you can sit back and say, I won my day.

SPEAKER_00 12:23

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 12:24

Um, that's that's an expression a friend of mine who's been sober now for 32 years used to say, just go win your day. That's all you can do. Yes, that's all you can control.

SPEAKER_00 12:33

I love that. I love that. I love all of this. And I think that uh some of it starts with how you start your day, exactly what you were saying, but mentally too. Like if you wake up and you're like, oh, I'm just dreading the day, and I not another Monday, not another blah, blah, blah, not another meeting. So I think it's important that you start with a positive attitude and you're like, today is going to be a good day, even if you have to just keep saying that over and over until you believe it. And I also believe in how you end your day is important, having a sense of gratitude, looking back at those things that, yes, like you're saying, I accomplished this today, or I am grateful for this today. I think that is so important. And I want to get to um, I want to talk about this business that you're building with your personal team. But first, if you don't mind, like take us back and tell us a little bit of your story and how you got to where you are today.

Systems Beat Goals

SPEAKER_01 13:25

Okay. Um so in January, uh January 17th of 2022, I was involved in a single car accident uh because of the result of a um drinking and driving. Uh unfortunately, this wasn't my first. This was my third DUI. The two previous ones happened almost 15 years before this. But it brought to light um the concerns of my drinking. Um, so begrudgingly, I uh agreed to go into what was referred to as a 30-day inpatient rehab, or as I like to call it, camp. And halfway through uh rehab, my older brother Paul um suffered a heart attack. Yeah. And uh had to come home. Uh Paul was declared technically brain dead, and there was nothing we were able to do, or he he wasn't going to be getting any better. So we obviously had to make a tough choice as a family to uh take him off life support. Uh yeah. And you know, fortunately, Paul was an organ donor. Uh, and we found out later that his organs helped over 137 different families. Everything from his, yeah, it was it's we get letters every now and then from someone who said, Thank you for, you know, Paul's. We got one recently about uh a ligament that helped a guy who wasn't able to walk because he needed this particular ligament.

SPEAKER_02 14:58

Wow.

Gratitude And Owning Your Day

DUI, Rehab, And Family Tragedy

SPEAKER_01 14:59

Yeah, to his eyes, to his skin for skin grafts, ventricles in his heart, and so forth. Well, when this happened, uh I was at a crossroad and I had to decide what I was going to do regarding um going back to rehab because I was only halfway through. And I could have very easily had just stayed home. My family needs me here, which was true. My mom needs me here, which was really true. Uh, but after talking with my family, they knew that I needed to stay the course and I needed to go back and finish. So I went back and finished. Um unfortunately, I I didn't, I at the time I didn't want to be sober. I I just really I really just wanted to finish rehab. I just wanted that certificate saying I did it. Here's the judge. Give it, you know, hand it over to the courts. Hey, I'm I'm taking my drinking seriously. I'm I'm appeasing everybody. Yeah. I didn't have the want. I did not want to be sober. Yeah. Um, and and I still didn't want to be sober right when I got out. I really just wanted to stay out of jail because my sentencing had this underlying sentence where if I had violated, because I had to call in every night to a UA line, if I violated any of this, I'd have to go to jail for the remainder of one year, depending on where it happened within the year. So if I got in trouble day one, 364 days. If I got in trouble day three, 64, one day in jail. Well, one day in jail is enough. I had done my two days required and I did not want to go back. So my want was to stay out of jail. Sure. It a byproduct of that was being sober. So my true want of being sober really didn't start until October 14th, of which would be 23, because that was the first day where I had no restrictions. I didn't have a UA line I had to call. I didn't have a probation officer I had to go see, and I had the I had the probation officer of all probation officers. It's the one that they they're like, I hope you don't get her. Um, so I I I had nothing. I mean, I I could have gone out that day and blown it out. And but that's when I now I had already said to myself before because I could see the the the light at the end of the tunnel when I was coming to the end of my probation, and I had to sit down to myself and you know, I did my Ben Franklin tea chart of pros and cons of alcohol. Well, obviously it's not a very hard list. I sit there and I write down the pros, which I think was maybe one or two, and then I had this long list of negatives, Robin, and I'm sitting there looking at it, and this was the easiest decision ever. I mean, if you're just being truly honest with yourself, you're just looking at this, you're like, why in the world would I continue to do this? Yeah, you know, every time I drank, something bad didn't happen. Because that would be really, really, really depressing if that's true. And I can tell you with 100% certainty that every time something bad happened to me, and I'm not talking about the the passing of a loved one or you know, my brother or my dad, I'm not talking about things that I was in control of. Every time something bad happened, alcohol was involved. Yeah. So I'm sitting there looking at this, going, you know, you're smarter than this. You know, why why is this that hard of a decision? Um, and I'm not saying it's easy. Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying it's easy to stay sober or whatever your plight may be, but I I that's when I established my true want. That's when I truly wanted to get sober, was when I had said to myself, okay, you know, there's no reins on you anymore. You you can go back to being how you were before, unhealthy, uh, very overweight, uh, masking your problems uh uh with alcohol. And I just is like, you know, I there's a better version of me out there. And it and it's not this.

SPEAKER_02 19:00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 19:00

Well, I I liked what the last year had given me. I was beginning to feel better about myself and more confident and you know, seeing the improvements. Um, but you know, I really didn't get into the whole gym and rejoining the club until uh I guess it was May of 23. But I had begun to put down the um building blocks for it. And so it just made though that little tweak or adding that little thing to my structure a little bit easier. But first thing I had to do is I had to get sober. Yeah, and I had to want to be sober. I've said this a thousand times. You have to be the one to want it. I don't care what your one is, but you have to be the one who wants it, not Robin, not not your mom, not your dad, not your wife, your husband, your kids, or the law. You have to be the one to want it, otherwise it won't work. It will not work. And if you want to talk about uh on the sobriety side, uh you know, I've come across people who are like, Oh, I went to this really bougie place out in Malibu, California. Well, that's great. Are you sober? Yeah, no, no, and I've tried five different rehabs. Well, until you want to be sober, and I'm not trying to, you know, run down any rehab places across the country, but until you want to be sober and you want to be the one who wants it, you're wasting your money. Yeah, you have to want it. Um, you know, once I established that, uh, I've been sober now for a little over three and a half years.

SPEAKER_02 20:30

Congratulations.

Choosing True Want For Sobriety

SPEAKER_01 20:32

Thank you. Thank you. I I don't miss it one bit. Okay. Um, I I'm not anti-alcohol. I can I can go to places, I can still go to my old jaunce. Um, you know, I just drink a Shirley Temple now or maybe a ginger ale. I mean, yeah, you you can make fun of the Shirley Temple's. I figured I liked it when I was a little kid. Why wouldn't I like it now, right? Absolutely. It's just that alcohol is not for me. It's just it's not for me. I'm I have nothing against it. It's just it's just not from Morgan. And um, I like this version myself better.

SPEAKER_00 21:01

Yeah, oh gosh, yes, absolutely. So, do you do you struggle like when you go to those places? Is it hard? I mean, you said you can be around it. Was there a time where you couldn't be around it because you were like, no, this is too tempting?

SPEAKER_01 21:15

Um, no, uh fortunately, I I I wasn't because I think in my inner core, I'm also a very social person. And so I think a lot of it for me was the connecting. You know, we talked about our our book there, Robin, that which may be on your desk still, the five voices. Yeah. And I think my foundation voice is more connector. So I I liked more of the social aspect that drinking brought. It had nothing to do with the buzz, so to speak. It's just that I like being around people. And um, and I think sometimes where the struggles happen is those times when you're alone. Um, I you know, I can't speak to what it's like going through recovery of being married, but I I can tell you there are parts of going through recovery when you're single that are difficult because the alone time, the alone time is hard time. Um, days that I struggle are like maybe a long Fourth of July weekend when you have that extra day in the week where you're like, wait a minute, it's a Thursday, and you know, it's a holiday. I mean, you can only go to the gym so many hours a day. I mean, I I can't be up at the club, you know, for eight hours a day. I know what would happen. So uh I have to be able to fill those, uh what we talk about, those witching hours. Yeah. And those are the times where your mind can go adrift. And when your mind begins to go adrift, then that's when you start to have irrational thoughts and you kind of get in your own head. And then for me, my rabbit holes have rabbit holes. And so um those would be that what I would consider the struggles that I have. But as far as like being around it, you know, different holidays and uh parties and you know, being at different, you know, restaurants and bars, I that that never bothers me. I actually I'm in my element then, because then I'm you know I'm socializing with people. It's when you're not in that element. Um, for me, that's when I have the that's when I struggle or that's where it's hardest for me.

SPEAKER_00 23:16

And I think sometimes um when you put yourself in that setting and you're not drinking, you can almost see, like you're like, how did I did I act like this? Do you know you think you're like, really? Do you guys see?

Social Settings, Triggers, And Support

SPEAKER_01 23:30

Yeah, no, you're 100% right. And I'll I will tell you this with 100% certainty that um come midnight, if you are in that situation, I could almost guarantee you that you are gonna be the smartest person in the room. Yeah. Um, because you're sober. And uh not that's it, not I'm not saying if you're drinking, you're not smart, right? Um, but uh it is kind of nice to be able to sit back and be like, you know what? I don't have to worry about doing anything stupid. I don't have to worry about, oh yeah, that one time I did that. Well, that's not gonna happen again because I wasn't very smart. Um, yeah, it it does, it it makes you feel good. And you know, I've had a wonderful, wonderful support system from my family to all my friends, uh encouraging me, um, you know, yourself, you know, when we have our talks about this. That helps. I mean, everyone likes to hear, you know, positive things. And, you know, you know, that keeps you going. Um, you know, in the end, it still has to be you because you know you're the one who, you know, an honest man's pillow is his peace of mind. And I believe that. So you're the one who has to, you know, when you go to bed at night, it's just you and you have to think about your day. And what did you do that day? Are you get are you ready for the next day? Do you have structure for the next day? What are you gonna do to implement your plan? You know, are you gonna maintain your discipline? Um had have you made an impact? Have you made a difference? Are you trying to help people? That's all we can do. Yeah, that's all we can do. Because you know, really in the end, I think all of us are are looking for that peace of mind. And, you know, you just want to feel good about yourself. Um, everyone has different wants, and some people's um peace of mind may be um accomplished by less. Some people's peace of mind they need a lot more. And that's fine. You I mean, you can have multiple wants. Um, you know, you don't only have to have one course, but it all starts with, you know, what is your true north?

SPEAKER_00 25:27

And, you know, that's your looking for a speaker who inspires real transformation. Morgan Cheedy is a resilience coach, entrepreneur, and keynote speaker who helps individuals and teams rise after life's toughest challenges. His powerful comeback story and practical tools empower audiences to rebuild confidence, purpose, and momentum. Book Morgan Cheedy for your next event at morgancheady.com. All right, so speaking of your true north, that is part of your logo. So let's talk about this business that you've built of public speaking, how you're giving back to others. I think it's phenomenal. I have loved talking with you and watching you and seeing you at different venues talking. It's just been so exciting to watch. I love any entrepreneur. So let's talk about your business.

Peace Of Mind And Daily Readiness

Sponsor Message: Book Morgan Sheedy

Building A Speaking Business

SPEAKER_01 26:22

Well, thank you. So uh about six months ago, I had um decided to kind of get into giving back a little bit more. Uh, for about the about a year and a half ago, I got into helping uh two young boys down at Kansas City International Academy who were in the process of going to Rockhurst High School. And I was looking to do some type of volunteering, and my first attempt didn't work out because uh the where I went, I I my recovery was under a different methodology called smart recovery, which is a little bit different than AA and the 12 points or the 12 steps. Because the fact that I wasn't taught in the 12 steps, I wasn't able to help out this certain organization. So in my frustration, I was venting one day, and this uh friend had listened to me talk about this, and she's like, you know, I wonder if you would be interested in doing this with uh KCIA. Turned out the person who was in charge of it was a friend of mine from high school, and it was a small world, and I got in touch with her, helped out these boys, and did everything, you know, from giving them rides, um, helping them with the process of making sure that these are the dates that you need to be hitting, making sure they hit those dates, to taking them shopping before school so that way they had all their clothes for their freshman year. So I got the bug, I got the volunteer bug, and then I got certified to be a facilitator for our recovery meetings each week. So that kind of began to steamroll. You know, you taught you mentioned something earlier, you know, Jeff Olson talks about the power of momentum and you know, power of momentum, your power of completion, power of reflection and celebration. So, you know, when you start to get these things and you you you you begin to feel it, it begins to feed on itself. You know, I completed my task today, great, take that into the next day. Um, you know, your power of reflection is sitting back at the end of the day. Okay, what did I I got? I got everything I needed to do today. I should feel good about that. Celebrate that, be be proud of yourself. I don't care if it's every single day. It doesn't have to be, I'm not saying go out, you know, it doesn't have to be Marty Girl, but I mean celebrate yourself a little bit. Yeah. So uh I decided that I wasn't that inspired to be selling insurance. I mean, I have my insurance license and I renewed it just in case there's a family member or friend who needs some help, but I wasn't inspired to sell insurance. And I knew that I had a story to tell. Um, it was a little bit a unique one. And I'm not I'm not saying that someone's story out there isn't um more challenging because I'm sure there are, but there is something unique about what happened to me, and um I had a message that I wanted to get out there to people, and I believe that I had put together a uh map or a game plan on how to help with whatever your one is, like I said, in my situation of sobriety. So I got into the keynote speaking space. So I've established my own website, morgansheedy.com. Um, and so now the goal is to speak to different groups and organizations, schools, you name it, that are looking for some type of help and guidance on living a balanced life and how to be victorious with your day and the ways to go about it. You know, we talked about our want structure, discipline, and grace. Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_02 29:56

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00 29:56

Oh, that's amazing. Like I said, it's been so fantastic watching you. And I, you know, I came in on the end of it because we've we've been friends now, let's say I guess it's been like six months. So every day at the gym, I'm so impressed with your discipline. Um, I can just I can see that this is going to be something huge for you. It's already growing exponentially. So congratulations on that. Um so is there anything that we need to know um as far as little steps that would help the person, or not even little steps, it would be a big step. Any step is big, right? That is listening, that they're like, I might have a problem. Or I would like to get in contact with Morgan. Let's kind of go with a couple of different things there.

Volunteering, Momentum, And Purpose

SPEAKER_01 30:40

Oh, sure. Well, one, if you if you ever need to get in contact with me, it it's really simple. It's morgancheady.com is the website, or you can also email me, MorganSheedy at MorganSheedy.com. Um, I will tell you that if you are looking to um change something, whether that be uh get into some form of recovery, or if it's you wanting to maybe lose that 10 pounds and so forth, I am by no means I am not a uh physical trainer because that's that's not my wheelhouse. But whatever it is, start small. Just start small, you know, and accomplish that little thing. Um begin to create habits. You know, we talk about um James Clear has a book, Atomic Habits, and he talks about habit stacking. So, you know, have an old habit tied to a new habit. So say to yourself, you know, every time I take the trash out, I'm now gonna add a new thing. Okay, now when I take the trash out, I'm gonna do you know 10 wall push-ups. I don't know. Yeah. Um, but something, you know, something has to change because you know, it's not gonna change on its own. Like I said earlier, the promotion fairy is not gonna just drop down from the sky and give you that promotion. Right. Whatever you want is just start small. There's a there's a story in the Jeff Olson Slight Edge book. It talks about this little water hyacinth. Water hyacinth is a tiny, tiny, tiny little flower. Well, the water hyacinth wants to get to the other side of the pond. Well, the water comes over and laughs at the little water hyacinth and it's like, you're too small. You're never gonna get over to the other side of the pond. Well, what the water didn't know is that a water hyacinth is one of the few plants that actually doubles in size every day. And it doesn't send its seeds out into the wind like a lot of our plants and flowers do. It literally can place the seeds right next to itself. So it literally doubles in size every day. So the tiny little water hyacinth that may have been the size of your fingernail begins to double. Well, three days, four days, five days. You're still barely barely even noticing the water hyacinth pad on the pond. But by day 29, it's taken over half the pond. I mean, on day 30, it's taken over the entire pond because it literally doubles in size. This is where we talk about our compound interests. So it's tiny, tiny little things. Once again, these are not hard things to do, but they're easy things not to do. So it can be the smallest little, you know what? Begin to create a habit of I'm gonna lay my clothes up every night before I go to bed. You don't think that's a big deal, but you know what's the smallest thing you have to worry about in the morning because you have your other things that you want to accomplish. Just have that structure. Um, structure in of itself is persuasive. So have structure, it makes the discipline easier. And you know, treat discipline like a muscle. The more you use it, the easier it'll be. Um so just stay, stay with it. You know, sometimes you can just do little tricks for yourself. Um, you know, oh, maybe that one extra rep, I don't know. Whatever it is, but just be small about it. Don't try to eat, and I know it sounded very cliche, don't try to eat the elephant all at once. Just right by light. That's all you have to do. Yep.

SPEAKER_00 34:01

Yep. And the analogy that you were saying, I think that goes both ways. Because if you don't make the choice to make those better choices and to plant those habits, it's going to go the other direction. Your bad habits will grow and feed on each other instead of your good habits. So that I mean, that's a really good analogy. Thanks for sharing that. So if someone's listening and they want to book you, how same thing, they would go to MorganSheedy.com. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 34:27

Yeah, yeah. So they could just go to MorganSheedy.com and when you go to the page at the bottom of it, you would see um a submit page where you can um request uh a proposal from me and then uh we could we would just talk. Okay. Um so right now I I do it through myself. I do have a uh speaker bureau that I use, but if you wanted to just deal with me directly, you could just go through uh to the website and then I would respond to you. And then we talk. You know, you know, you you can get me what you can get me in the beginning here while I'm cheap, I guess.

SPEAKER_00 35:04

Oh, that's great. Now I I I can see this, like you said earlier, um, with schools, with different organizations, um, with I mean, obviously what you do is you you talk to people not just about a problem that you might have, but how you build the discipline and the want that you were saying and creating those action plans. So anyone can benefit from that. It doesn't have to be someone that's trying to be, you know, get sober. So I think what you offer is just amazing. I think that you're amazing. I love talking to you every day. I love seeing you. I love your discipline. I think what you're doing is fantastic.

Practical Steps And Habit Stacking

SPEAKER_01 35:39

Well, thank you, Robin. And I know I've told you this, but I'll say it again. You know, your encouragement um is it means a lot to me. And uh your help um is much appreciated. I I love talking with you. You know, when you came to the club, um things are new, you know, there's change. Um and it's it's been it's been wonderful, and everyone is very, very happy with you know the job you're doing, and it's been exciting. And um I'm uh pleased to call you a friend. And I I'm glad I'm very grateful that we got the opportunity to do this.

SPEAKER_00 36:16

Yes, me too. Me too. Thank you for taking time out of your schedule.

SPEAKER_01 36:20

Thanks, Robin.

SPEAKER_00 36:21

Okay, bye, Morgan.

SPEAKER_01 36:23

Take care.

SPEAKER_00 36:29

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