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Marriage & Motherhood - How To Reconnect With Your Spouse After Kids
Motherhood changes everything... including your marriage.
If you’re a mom who feels disconnected from your husband, stuck in roommate mode, or exhausted by the constant tension, miscommunication, or emotional distance after kids, this podcast is for you.
Join Marriage Coach Michelle Purta each week to learn how to strengthen your marriage without waiting until the kids are grown. Each episode offers practical communication tools, mindset shifts, and real conversations that help you rebuild emotional connection, navigate conflict without escalation, and feel like true partners again...not just co-parents managing a household.
This show is especially for you if you want to:
• Communicate clearly without shutdowns or blow-ups
• Reduce resentment and mental load in motherhood and marriage
• Reconnect emotionally and rebuild intimacy after kids
• Create a healthier, more connected marriage in the middle of busy family life
Having a strong marriage is all about learning the right skills, not about being perfect.
This podcast is your weekly reminder that you don’t have to choose between being a great mom and having a deeply connected marriage.
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Marriage & Motherhood - How To Reconnect With Your Spouse After Kids
Ep. 233 - The Roommate Phase: How to Recognize and Stop It
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Marriage was never meant to feel like co-managing a household.
Yet for so many couples, that’s exactly where they find themselves—the roommate phase. You’re dividing chores, trading off bedtime routines, updating each other on logistics… but emotional intimacy, laughter, and closeness are nowhere to be found.
In this episode, I share:
- What the roommate phase is and why so many couples end up here after kids
- What creates this disconnection
- Three clear signs you’re in the roommate phase (and what that means for your relationship)
- Why this phase won’t fix itself once kids get older—and what to do instead
- Small, practical ways to rebuild connection without overhauling your entire schedule
The good news? This phase doesn’t mean you don’t love each other. It just means you’ve slipped into survival mode. And with awareness, small intentional steps, and consistency—you can shift from living like roommates to truly being partners again.
Resources & Next Steps:
- Grab my free Conflict to Connection Guide to process your thoughts and feelings before bringing them up to your spouse
- Ready for a complete reset in your marriage? Book a free Clarity Call with me here!
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- Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage? Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
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- Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!