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Marriage & Motherhood - How To Reconnect With Your Spouse After Kids
Motherhood changes everything, including your marriage.
If you’re a mom who feels stuck having the same arguments on repeat, disconnected from your partner, or like you’ve slipped into roommate mode filled with resentment and tension, you’re not alone and your relationship isn’t broken.
Welcome to The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast.
I’m Michelle Purta, mom of 3, marriage coach, and I help couples understand and shift the communication patterns that keep them stuck so they can rebuild connection, strengthen their partnership, and feel like an "us" again.
Each week, you’ll learn how to navigate marriage and motherhood with better communication, emotional awareness, and practical conflict resolution tools that actually work in real life.
We go beyond surface-level advice and focus on what’s really driving the disconnection like reactive cycles, emotional shutdown, miscommunication, and unresolved resentment.
This podcast is for couples who want to:
- break the cycle of repeating arguments
- communicate clearly without shutdowns or blowups
- resolve conflict in a way that builds connection instead of resentment
- move out of roommate mode and back into a connected partnership
You’ll learn the skills to shift your patterns, improve communication, and create a more connected, supportive marriage while you're knee deep in parenthood.
Because a strong relationship isn’t about avoiding conflict. It’s about knowing how to move through it together.
If you’re ready to stop having the same fight and start feeling like a team again, you’re in the right place.
Ready for deeper support? Learn more about marriage coaching here: https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity
Marriage & Motherhood - How To Reconnect With Your Spouse After Kids
Ep. 272 - How To Have Consensual Conversations With Your Spouse
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One person wanting to talk and the other shutting down doesn’t mean one of you cares more. It means your nervous systems cope differently.
If you feel like you’re always the one trying to talk things through — or you’re the one who shuts down and gets overwhelmed — this episode will help you understand what’s actually happening beneath the surface.
In this episode, I break down:
- The pursue–withdraw dynamic in marriage
- Why shutting down is about protection, not avoidance
- How to stop taking withdrawal personally
- What “consensual conversations” are and why they change everything
- How to use pacing to prevent arguments
- The Japanese concept of ma and how intentional pauses improve communication
- How to set conversations up for success instead of forcing resolution
If you're ready for personalized support to help your marriage get back on track with healthy communication, book your clarity call here!
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