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Marriage & Motherhood - How To Reconnect With Your Spouse After Kids
Motherhood changes everything, including your marriage.
If you’re a mom who feels stuck having the same arguments on repeat, disconnected from your partner, or like you’ve slipped into roommate mode filled with resentment and tension, you’re not alone and your relationship isn’t broken.
Welcome to The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast.
I’m Michelle Purta, mom of 3, marriage coach, and I help couples understand and shift the communication patterns that keep them stuck so they can rebuild connection, strengthen their partnership, and feel like an "us" again.
Each week, you’ll learn how to navigate marriage and motherhood with better communication, emotional awareness, and practical conflict resolution tools that actually work in real life.
We go beyond surface-level advice and focus on what’s really driving the disconnection like reactive cycles, emotional shutdown, miscommunication, and unresolved resentment.
This podcast is for couples who want to:
- break the cycle of repeating arguments
- communicate clearly without shutdowns or blowups
- resolve conflict in a way that builds connection instead of resentment
- move out of roommate mode and back into a connected partnership
You’ll learn the skills to shift your patterns, improve communication, and create a more connected, supportive marriage while you're knee deep in parenthood.
Because a strong relationship isn’t about avoiding conflict. It’s about knowing how to move through it together.
If you’re ready to stop having the same fight and start feeling like a team again, you’re in the right place.
Ready for deeper support? Learn more about marriage coaching here: https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity
Marriage & Motherhood - How To Reconnect With Your Spouse After Kids
Ep. 278 - Ending The Conflict Loop
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Most arguments don’t spiral because of the original issue. They spiral because couples start reacting to each other instead of understanding each other.
One partner gets upset.
The other partner reacts to their partner being upset.
Suddenly both people are defending themselves instead of solving the problem.
What started as frustration turns into a much bigger fight because neither person feels heard.
This dynamic is one of the most common conflict loops couples experience.
In this episode, I explain why this happens and how couples can shift out of the pattern so conflict becomes productive instead of destructive.
You’ll learn how emotional attunement helps partners respond with curiosity and compassion instead of defensiveness, and why regulating the emotional moment first is the key to having better conversations.
If you’ve ever felt like your arguments spiral out of control or that small issues turn into big fights, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.
Want to learn how to do this in your marriage? Book a clarity call to gain the tools so that you can end the conflict pattern present in your marriage so you can start enjoying your relationship again!
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