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Marriage & Motherhood - How To Reconnect With Your Spouse After Kids
Motherhood changes everything, including your marriage.
If you’re a mom who feels stuck having the same arguments on repeat, disconnected from your partner, or like you’ve slipped into roommate mode filled with resentment and tension, you’re not alone and your relationship isn’t broken.
Welcome to The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast.
I’m Michelle Purta, mom of 3, marriage coach, and I help couples understand and shift the communication patterns that keep them stuck so they can rebuild connection, strengthen their partnership, and feel like an "us" again.
Each week, you’ll learn how to navigate marriage and motherhood with better communication, emotional awareness, and practical conflict resolution tools that actually work in real life.
We go beyond surface-level advice and focus on what’s really driving the disconnection like reactive cycles, emotional shutdown, miscommunication, and unresolved resentment.
This podcast is for couples who want to:
- break the cycle of repeating arguments
- communicate clearly without shutdowns or blowups
- resolve conflict in a way that builds connection instead of resentment
- move out of roommate mode and back into a connected partnership
You’ll learn the skills to shift your patterns, improve communication, and create a more connected, supportive marriage while you're knee deep in parenthood.
Because a strong relationship isn’t about avoiding conflict. It’s about knowing how to move through it together.
If you’re ready to stop having the same fight and start feeling like a team again, you’re in the right place.
Ready for deeper support? Learn more about marriage coaching here: https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity
Marriage & Motherhood - How To Reconnect With Your Spouse After Kids
Ep. 280 - Why Calm Conversations Aren't Enough To Feel Connected In Your Marriage
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Staying calm in conflict doesn’t mean your conversation is actually working.
If you’ve ever walked away from a calm conversation with your partner and thought…
“Okay, but nothing actually changed…” — this episode is for you.
In today’s episode, we’re talking about the missing skill most couples were never taught: collaborative problem solving.
Because the truth is—
You can regulate your emotions, say things nicely, and still end up stuck in the same patterns.
In this episode, I share:
- Why calm conversations don’t automatically lead to resolution
- The difference between explaining vs. collaborating
- How couples unintentionally argue like they’re in court instead of on the same team
- The role of vagueness in creating repeated conflict
- How to ask better questions that actually move conversations forward
- Why overexplaining keeps you stuck (and what to do instead)
- How to use the P.E.A.C.E. Method to turn conflict into connection
You’ll also hear a real-life example of how misunderstandings happen when couples aren’t clear—and how small shifts in communication can completely change the outcome.
If you’re tired of having the same conversations on repeat, this episode will help you start creating real change.
If you want help turning your conflicts into productive, connecting conversations:
- Download the Conflict to Connection Guide
- Book a Clarity Call to get personalized support
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