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Marriage & Motherhood - How To Reconnect With Your Spouse After Kids
Motherhood changes everything, including your marriage.
If you’re a mom who feels stuck having the same arguments on repeat, disconnected from your partner, or like you’ve slipped into roommate mode filled with resentment and tension, you’re not alone and your relationship isn’t broken.
Welcome to The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast.
I’m Michelle Purta, mom of 3, marriage coach, and I help couples understand and shift the communication patterns that keep them stuck so they can rebuild connection, strengthen their partnership, and feel like an "us" again.
Each week, you’ll learn how to navigate marriage and motherhood with better communication, emotional awareness, and practical conflict resolution tools that actually work in real life.
We go beyond surface-level advice and focus on what’s really driving the disconnection like reactive cycles, emotional shutdown, miscommunication, and unresolved resentment.
This podcast is for couples who want to:
- break the cycle of repeating arguments
- communicate clearly without shutdowns or blowups
- resolve conflict in a way that builds connection instead of resentment
- move out of roommate mode and back into a connected partnership
You’ll learn the skills to shift your patterns, improve communication, and create a more connected, supportive marriage while you're knee deep in parenthood.
Because a strong relationship isn’t about avoiding conflict. It’s about knowing how to move through it together.
If you’re ready to stop having the same fight and start feeling like a team again, you’re in the right place.
Ready for deeper support? Learn more about marriage coaching here: https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity
Marriage & Motherhood - How To Reconnect With Your Spouse After Kids
Ep. 300 - How To Stop Being So Reactive To Your Partner's Emotions
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Most arguments don't escalate because of the issue. They escalate because of how you react to each other's emotions.
If your partner gets upset and you immediately get upset too, you're not solving the problem. You're mirroring their emotional state.
In this final episode of my miniseries: "Why You Keep Having the Same Arguments", we're talking about one of the most overlooked communication patterns that keeps couples stuck: emotional mirroring.
When your partner raises the temperature, do you raise yours too?
If so, you're not alone. Most people were never taught how to stay grounded when someone they love is upset. Instead, they react, defend themselves, shut down, or attack back.
The problem is that two dysregulated people rarely create a productive conversation.
In this episode, you'll learn:
• What emotional mirroring actually looks like in marriage
• Why your partner's emotions trigger your own reactions
• How conflict becomes a competition instead of a conversation
• Why emotional regulation is one of the most important relationship skills you can develop
• How staying grounded can help de-escalate arguments and create emotional safety
If you want fewer exhausting arguments and more productive conversations, this episode will help you understand the role you play in the cycle and how to start changing it.
Resources Mentioned
Conflict to Connection Guide
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