Accepting Your Body AND Losing Weight at the Same Time

My hope is that this podcast teaches you that you can have both, Acceptance AND Weight loss, forever.

You can't hate yourself to a thin body, not if you want to stay thin.

This podcast is a love letter to my clients, and to you.

Life is too short to be frustrated, disgusted and disappointed with yourself while you are trying to eat better.

Happy Listening....

Interested in working with me? Find my website here: https://courtneygraycoaching.com/workwithme

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Music. Welcome to Modern body, modern life, the podcast for women who want to lose weight permanently, feel in control around food and learn how to stop obsessing about their body and food, a modern way of thinking about your weight, your body and your life includes mindset. I'm body and life coach, Courtney Gray, and each week I'm going to teach you the mindset tools that are necessary for changing the way you eat forever. We will uncover why you're eating when you said you were going to stop, what to do when you're really craving something, and how important it is to decide what you want to believe is possible for you. I believe we can get in the best shape of our lives at any age, a modern body, a modern life, all starts in your mind, and when you learn how to manage that, losing weight permanently becomes so much easier. Welcome to the Podcast, episode 54 accepting your body and losing weight at the same time. This podcast is coming to you on Tuesday, December 3, and it is a big week. Enrollment is officially open for my January small group coaching program, are you joining us? I hope you are. I hope you know that fixing this area of your life is totally possible for you. This weekend, I sent an email to my email list with a testimonial from one of my clients, and I directed them to my website, as I have so many, so many testimonials of past clients who have gone through my program and lost weight permanently. And I wanted to tell you, I also, this last week, got an email from a woman who hasn't worked with me in about two months. She ended my program in about two months, and I'm sure she's listening to this podcast, and it just it made me cry, and she talked about how she has continued to lose weight ever since she ended the program and just how she also went on to give some examples of how this work has amplified and enhanced other areas of her life. And it just made me feel so good to have a check in like, Hey girl, things are still going really well. It just it makes me so happy. So I would love to have you join us in the January small group coaching program. Enrollment closes on the sixth I know the women who have already joined are feeling so good already, I know they are finally going to learn the tools to feel in control of their eating and also be in a program for the first three months of the year to have support. In fact, when you join my program, within a few hours of me getting your payment and everything, I send you a video that gives you an optional pre work. So sometimes these women start losing weight right away because they want to do the pre work, and sometimes they don't. Sometimes women are like, I just feel good knowing in January I am ready to go. And it's just like a peace of mind that they have until the program starts. Did you know that 90% of people give up their January diets by January 12? What? It's what the Google says. Let's go, my friends. Let's get this done. So if you are interested, head to Courtney Gray coaching.com, and click the work with me button to see all the details and join me and the other women who have already made this powerful decision to join my small group coaching program. Okay, this podcast is a message that you all need to hear, but it's also a love letter to my current clients and past clients. I know that you guys listen to the podcast every week, and I know you are flooding your life with this work, and I'm so happy to be working with you, but I have a message that you've heard and you cannot hear enough. I want you to accept your body where it is right now. I know that's hard. I know that a lot of times, one of the reasons why we want to lose weight is because we are really not happy in our bodies right now, and we are frustrated, and we're kind of down on ourselves about about it, and we don't want to accept it. We think that in order to move forward, in order to lose weight, we have to rage against it. But that's actually not helpful. What I want for you is to accept where you're at right now, to love it right now. And I know you know when I talk about loving your body right now, I know that you love yourself. I know that you think you're a good person and all that. But I want you to actually love your body right now, like how your maker loves your body, whether you believe in God or universal energy or whatever, how your Creator I want you to love your body like your Creator loves your body right now, I want you to love your body if you have a child or a spouse or a boyfriend or a girlfriend. I want you to love your body the way they do right now. I know you guys have all probably heard this story, if you've been, if you've been a radical listener of the podcast, but there's this, this story that I've told before about when. I was not where I wanted to be in my body, and I didn't know how to feel in control around food. Was not a coach. Had never done coaching, and was definitely probably raging against my body. And I had the counter washing dishes, and I had my pants, my like cozy sweat pants on, and they were cinched around my waist, and I was muffin topping over them. But I was at home, you know, so I kind of didn't care. And my little guy, Ryan, came up to me and from behind, and he was probably, like, three years old, and he put his hands up, and he, like, started rubbing my muffin tops with his little hands that fit right over my muffin tops. And he started rubbing. And I remember being at the kitchen sink, washing dishes. And I kind of froze, like, what is he doing? And and if you're thinking most, most of the times I'm thinking, like, if anyone else were to do that, I'd be like, Oh my god, stop touching me. But this is my sweet baby touching me. And he goes, What is this? And very quickly, I said, That's my love. And he goes, I like it, and I got very emotional because I said, That's my love. But you know, I didn't believe that. I was just trying to, you know, I was trying to show strength and show love of myself in front of my kids. I would never say anything bad about myself in front of my kids. But I didn't feel that way. I didn't feel like, that's my love. I felt ashamed by it, and he said, I like it. And it just made me say say to myself, like my kids have no problems with my body right now. And so I want to say that to you, the people that love you, the people that adore you, the people that think you're beautiful, even if you don't, they accept your body where it is right now. Now, if you want to get healthier, they're probably on board, because they love you and they want you to be healthier, and they want you to live all the days and all that, but they accept you right now. Can you accept where you're at right now? Love it right now and want more for yourself? It's the both. Sometimes I think we think we have to have it be one or the other. We either don't accept where we're at, we rage against it, and we've decided we're going to lose weight, or we just accept where we're at, and we don't lose weight, we're like, it's fine. I'm in midlife. This is how it's supposed to be. We're supposed to gain weight around the middle. We're supposed to be, it doesn't have to be one or the other it's not or it's and so often people and for some reason, I really think, especially women, rage against where they are now while they try to work towards their future body. So what does this specifically look like when I think of most of my clients, I think this looks like thoughts like, I can't believe I did this to myself. Yes, you You've lost weight, but you're still a mess, or you still have so far to go. You should have figured this out by now. Why is this so hard for you? Which is a funny one, because it's hard for so many people, but yet we tell ourselves, why is this so hard for you, as if we're like unicorns, we're the only one, right? And this is not me. It's like we all that is so rage against accepting yourself now, and it just creates misery for us. It just creates misery now, I have had clients make progress even while being in this state of unacceptable of of not accepting themselves in the moment, but it's just painful, and when you're frustrated and you're pissed at yourself for your body right now, it's not going to be as sweet as you think when you reach your goal weight, if You are mentally whipping yourself and raging against yourself on the way to your goal weight, I promise you you're not going to get there, and the clouds are not going to open up and rainbows are not going to flood your body. It's just not going to happen. What I want for you is I want for you as you continue to lose weight, I want you to constantly be talking to yourself nicer and nicer and nicer, loving yourself harder, harder and harder. In one of my coaching calls this week with my group, one of the women, you know, I was telling her, I'm like, You need to think about her thought. And she I said, What thought Do you want to think? And she was struggling to come up with a thought. And I said, I've got one for you. And she laughed. And she goes, what is it? And I said, I'm a badass. That's what you should think. You should think I am a badass. And she's like, I knew you were gonna say that. And I'm like, But you are a badass. And so my hope is she will hear this podcast. She knows who she is. All of you remember that coaching you in my group, and I wanted that for all the women of your group. I said all of you should be telling yourself you're a badass, because you are going to make the process to your weight loss so much sweeter by telling yourself you're amazing and making yourself feel like you're amazing and feel content and feel loved. And let's think of the energy. Of all of this, what we focus on grows, it expands, it magnifies. And if we are constantly focusing on how where we're at is, we should not be where we're at, that is what is going to magnify and grow? What I want you to do is, I want you to focus on the fact that you are completely valuable and worthy right now and then that is going to grow while you lose weight. What I want for you is to accept where you are right now. You're exactly where you supposed to be, and that might be hard for you to hear, but what if that were true? You are exactly where you're supposed to be. I love that thought for you and you, we can say this about most areas of our life, any areas of our life, if you really think this is where I'm supposed to be, because it is where you are accepting where you are supposed to be. What I want for you is to accept where you are right now you are exactly where you're supposed to be. What if you actually believed that was true? What if you actually looked in the mirror and you said to yourself, Okay, I'm a little bit frustrated because maybe I'm at maybe I'm at the biggest weight that I've ever been, or maybe I feel like I'm more out of shape than I've ever been, but you know what, I'm actually supposed to be here right now? What if you actually believe that. I think it just takes a little pressure off the acceptance calms you down a little bit, and then you can say, and now I'm ready to lose weight. I think there is a misconception that if we accept where we are now, that we're gonna just get the fuck it's and eat all the things. But I actually disagree. I think if we accept where we are now and love ourselves now, it will make the journey to your new weight even sweeter. Accept where you are now. You're supposed to be where you're at right now and now we move forward. You don't have to hate yourself and mentally whip yourself to move forward. So your homework is this, every time you have a shitty thought about you, I want you to back it with a lovely thought. You're going to have to become aware of all these shitty thoughts because they're just coming from your primitive brain. Your primitive brain does not want you to lose weight. Your primitive brain does not want you to go to the gym. Your primitive brain does not want 2025 to be your year. Your primitive brain wants you to say 2025. Is going to might be my year again, and once again, make it not your year. That's what your primitive brain wants you to do, because in the end, it really is safer. It's known it's safer. There's no risk involved. And so you need to be aware of the shitty thought and then back it with a lovely thought, and your homework is going to be to choose the lovely thought now, so you're ready to go. So when all of a sudden you catch a glimpse of your butt in the mirror, and you're like, Oh, my God, you're a weight, and you have your lovely thought. And you've heard me say this before, if your child came to you, or a child you love came to you and said, God, I should have figured I should have this figured out by now, or like, I cannot believe I let myself get to this point. What would you say to them? You wouldn't say to them. Yeah, you're a mess. You wouldn't say that to them. You would say something supportive and uplifting and empowering and lovely to them. So here are some thoughts for you to consider, to back that negative thought up, this is my time. So you your primitive brain might say you're a mess or you shouldn't be this are you? You shouldn't have let yourself get this far. And you can say, this is my time. This is the perfect time for me. You can say, I'm finally ready for this. I'm finally ready. We can find evidence for that. Maybe your kids are now left. Maybe your kids have left home. Maybe you've just retired. Maybe you have one more year before you retired. Maybe one of my clients is a new grandmother. Maybe there is that you've got to be able to find some evidence in your life that now is the perfect time that you are finally ready for this. You can say to yourself, you know what, I've done my best, and it hasn't been quite good enough. Now it's time to do better. You could say I'm lovable right where I am, but I just want more for myself. I'm better than this. How about I'm going to lose weight just for fun? What if this could be amazing? Well, a lot of times, I think that people in general fit when they think of weight loss, they think like, okay, here we go. But what if this could be amazing. In my program, it is amazing. It is transformative. It changes every area of your life. It is so much more than just weight loss. So choose a thought that when your primitive brain gives you a negative thought, you're going to come back with a you know what? But this is going to be fun. I'm good right now, and for shits and gigs, for the fun of it, I'm going all in on my body. All right. That's my little love letter for my clients today. That's my little my little love letter for all of you today. Listen to the. Podcast. It's actually Thanksgiving Day, and I am just finishing up the bread pudding I'm making for Thanksgiving Day. I went for a run this morning, and I thought, You know what? I am so grateful for all the people that are listening to my podcast. And I really love being here and producing these podcasts for you, and I really appreciate all the messages that I get from people telling me how much they love the podcast, how they've already lost weight by listening to the podcast, and it just means so much to me. So I am grateful for you today, and have a great Tuesday. If you are ready to lose weight and keep it off permanently and feel confident and at peace around food, I invite you to head to Courtney Gray coaching.com to learn about how to work with me. I work with women privately, one on one, and I also offer small group coaching. There is a link to my website in the show notes. You.