Where will you be at the end of 2025? Your Body and Your Life?

Changing your body and life starts with asking yourself some powerful questions and this one is my favorite.  Here is the question...if you keep going the way you have been going, keep living the way you have been living....Where will you be at the end of 2025?

Where will your body be, and where will your happiness be?  Where will you be in your life?

Whatever the answer, I want you to feel excited, fired up, and powerful.

You can add gas to whatever you are doing that is working, or make a big decision to create massive change.

You are capable of it.  Happy listening!

Courtney

Click here for all the details of my July Coaching Experience....Ready for Change: https://mailchi.mp/courtneygraycoaching/julyreadyforchange

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Foreign Welcome to Modern body, modern life. The podcast for women who want to lose weight permanently feel in control around food and learn how to stop obsessing about their body and food a modern way of thinking about your weight, your body and your life includes mindset. I'm body and life coach, Courtney Gray, and each week I'm going to teach you the mindset tools that are necessary for changing the way you eat forever. We will uncover why you're eating when you said you were going to stop, what to do when you're really craving something, and how important it is to decide what you want to believe is possible for you, I believe we can get in the best shape of our lives at any age, a modern body, a modern life, all starts in your mind, and when you learn how to manage that, losing weight permanently becomes so much easier. Welcome to the podcast. Episode 84 where will you be at the end of 2025 we are around mid year, a little bit later than mid year, and I love a good mid year. Check in. So this podcast is going to be, hopefully, either getting you feeling really amazing about where you're headed, or it's going to be a beautiful wake up call for you, like a radical, honest, okay, girl, let's go. It's going to be one of the two, but either way, my intention for this podcast is for you to really feel like, okay, now is my time? Like, excited, either way, either way. So this is a very exciting week. I have a free workshop available this week. It is going to be called Stop evening snacking. I have done this workshop before a few times, every time it is so powerful, it really has become one of my most popular free workshops, it's going to be me over zoom teaching live. I love telling you that I'm teaching live, because I don't know about you, but in this world of AI, and in this world of just everything being automated, I really am kind of craving feeling like I am connecting with real people. Now, when you come to this workshop, your camera is going to be off, so you're not going to be I won't be seeing you, but I will be live. And there's something really I don't know. There's something really powerful, I think, in that knowing that I'm live time delivering this workshop, knowing that you can ask me a question in the chat, and I've gone back and forth with people in the chat really kind of coaching them a little bit and ask answering questions, and I don't know, I just think that when I look at my business and building my business more and more and more, I really think that showing up authentically and having people be able to access and talk to me is going to be a powerful thing. So I'm really excited for that workshop. So stop evening snacking. The reason I continue to do this one every so often is because this is the hardest time of day, is the evenings for people with their eating. And I'm calling it evening snacking, but maybe it's Well, it kind of is snacking, so I'll explain it. And so most people that I coach, they do pretty well during breakfast. They do pretty well during lunch. During the day, they're usually pretty busy, and so they can distract themselves with busyness and eat kind of the way they want to eat, or for some people not even eat that much. And then what ends up happening is they roll into the evening, meaning, before dinner, dinner, after dinner, even until late in the evening, and their primitive brain gets the best of them. Their primitive brain for those people who are not eating very much during the day, their primitive brain goes you've hardly had anything to eat. So we can have all these things. It's okay, almost kind of like permission granted to eat because you haven't been eating. That's and I see that, especially with this younger generation, where they will just have this I've seen this many times, where they will have, like their coffee drinks during the day, and they really don't eat a lot of food. And then at night, they tell themselves, Oh, well, I haven't really eaten. So then, like, Permission granted. It's actually, it's really not a good thing. And it all starts, it always starts with mindset, right? But then for many other people, they have decision fatigue. They have they kind of exhausted from the day. Maybe they're frustrated, feeling some negative emotions from things that have happened during their day, and they kind of finally get a break. They kind of get to Okay, I'm done with my day, and then they get bored, or they're already agitated or whatever, and that is why they eat. So this is what you're going to be learning in this workshop, is understanding yourself at a deeper level, and that is going to be the first step in eating the way you want to eat, so you can be in a body that you want to be in, and then you can be happier in your life. So this is going to be a really great workshop. I'm going to teach you why it hasn't been working in the past, what you're doing and where we need to get you to go, what we need you to be thinking and doing in order to fix the problem. Album of evening snacking. And for so many people, when we fix that, that is how they lose weight permanently, right? This isn't a Oh, hey, I'm going to teach you how to go on a diet for four weeks. This is Hey. Let me teach you how to change you, which will change your life. So that free workshop, there's a link, of course, everywhere a link on actually, I don't know if there is a link on my website. There's a link in my bio in Instagram, and there is a link in the show notes for that workshop. And then make sure to know that this week on the 28th so it's going to be Saturday. The 28th at 8pm is the cut off for joining my July ready for change experience. So if you have been loving the podcast and thinking about working with me and what that would be like. This is your time. And so I'll talk about this a little bit after this podcast as well, if you're interested. So the Saturday the 28th at 8pm Pacific Time is is when enrollment closes for my July ready for change group. So let's talk about how we are kind of mid year. And I love a good mid year check in, kind of like, how we doing, how we doing. For many people, they start out the year. Maybe they start every year this way, with some big plans, some big intentions, and then the year kind of gets away with them. And then all of a sudden, I used to do this too. They're rolling into summer, and they're like, wait what happened. I had such high hopes for myself. Wait what happened. I really had planned to do it differently. And so if you are in that place, whether it's you had planned to lose weight, you had planned to get stronger, you had planned to get a different job, maybe you have really wanted to be more organized or just live differently. Whatever it is, it's never too late, right? It's never too late, and a good mid year check in maybe is exactly what you need to light your own fire. So I love asking myself, Where will I be at the end of 2025 knowing we've got about six months left in the year, you can do a lot of good work in six months. My friend, you can do a lot of good work in one month. So here's the way we're going to think about this. Where will you be at the end of 2025 if you keep living the way you're living, if you keep doing the things you're doing, if you keep not doing some of the things you want to do, where will you be at the end of 2025 and we can even think to ourselves, where will we be if we continue on in a year, where will you be if you continue on in two years? I'm starting to think about turning 50, because I'm 48 right now, and so I'm starting to think that's a fun like thing for me to be thinking about is where, if I keep going the way I'm going, where will I be when I hit 50? It's a powerful question that, if you're willing to be radically honest, it will shake up your life. It will either propel you to add gasoline to what you're already doing in a good way, amazing, or it will open your eyes up to deciding that you really want to change. And so stop and ask yourself, If I continue living the way I'm living on this path, where will I be at the end of this year? That's a great place to start, and I encourage you before you keep listening to the podcast, and just like going with this, I encourage you to actually stop the podcast, pause it right here, and really answer the question that's going to be, how you make changes, whether it's continuing to add gasoline to what you're already doing, or whether it's getting radically honest that what you're doing is not going To get you where you want to go. So stop and really ask yourself and come back. I'm going to assume you did I really want. I want you to not just consume and listen. I really want you to use this podcast to amplify your life in the best way possible. So there was a time in my life where answering this question would have been enlightening, but very painful. And I think back to when there was a few years when I was not at the weight I wanted to be, where I was not living the way I wanted to be. And I wish I would have had a podcast just like this, because I think I probably would have cried listen to this podcast, and I think I would have, it would have been a radical awakening for me to say, okay, Courtney, if you keep living the way you're living, where will you be at the end of the year? I would have cried, and I would have been like, I would probably be, not only where I'm at right now, but a little worse, because I was starting to gain a little bit of weight every single few months, it was just nothing was getting better. It was getting a little bit worse. I was justifying it. I was telling myself, more and more and more, this is just what happens to me as I'm getting older. I look great, it doesn't matter. And I was on this path to place that was very painful. Yeah, and I think we convince ourselves that we will start tomorrow, that we will start next week, that we will start after summer, and we kind of in the moment, we calm ourselves down by thinking we're going to fix things that we want to fix. My dad always used to tell me that many people, they calm themselves down by making a plan. And I'm saying a plan with quotation marks, because it's never really a plan. It's usually a, you know what? I'm gonna get control of this next week, or I'm gonna start doing better tomorrow. And that little quote, unquote plan calms them down, and it kind of gives them permission to not do anything right now, to just keep living the way they're living right now. I remember my dad telling me that, and that made so much sense, you know, but at some point you have to ask yourselves, but wait. I keep not fixing this. I keep trying. I truly desire it. Desire it, but I keep trying here, trying there, but I keep stopping and starting and just not being consistent. And you know, you've heard me say many times in this podcast, we want to be able to get ourselves to be imperfectly consistent. I think for most people, they're just being inconsistent. They're not being imperfectly consistent. And there is a difference being imperfectly consistent is really being consistent and knowing that every once in a while you're not going to do it right, and that's okay. But are you creating some consistency? And we can get clear again by asking ourselves, are we headed to a place we want to be, are things getting better, or are things staying the same, or are things getting worse? So this can be a triggering question if you're not happy with how you're living and you're not happy with the choices you're making day in and day out, but man, can it be like a really beautiful wake up call. If I continue to live the way I'm living, where will I be at the end of 2025 will I be worse off? Will I be the same, or will my body and life be better? Will I be thrilled, or will I be frustrated with myself? So there are going to be women that listen to this and they get juiced about where they're headed. For those of you that are working with me right now, and you're doing this work, and you're losing weight, and you're starting to move your body more. You're feeling good in your body, which is the best, right? You're doing the mindset work, and you actually are like, I feel like this is working. Take time to imagine, I'm smiling as I say this. Take time to imagine, if you keep going where you're going to be at the end of 2025 it's going to add gasoline to what you're doing. This is how I feel right now. When I sat down this morning and I answered these questions, I got so excited about where I was headed. And so this is a really cool thing to be able to help you feel proud about what you're doing now. It helps you go whoa. I'm headed to an amazing place when I did the work to really say with my body, where am I going to be at 2025 if I keep going with my body, where am I going to be when I turn 50? If I keep going the way I'm going, and it literally put a smile on my face, and I did it for my business, if I keep going, doing the things I'm doing in my business, where will I be at the end of the year? Where will I be in a year? Where will I be when I turn 50? Where will I be in five years? So exciting, and then I even just did that with my relationships, where will I be? It's just, it's such an exciting it can be such an exciting thing. Now, if you're listening and you're not loving how you're showing up for your life, I see you, and I've totally been there, and I want to offer that you can use this moment to make a powerful decision to change. And so often, people decide to change from a place of like disgust or shame, or like, mental whipping. I get many women that they will come to me and they will be like, I am the heaviest I've ever been, and I'm like, I hear you, for sure, but they're like, from a place of disgust, like, I cannot keep going the way I'm going. And I think it's that's fine, I get it, but the first thing I try to do is tell them, let's just actually take a breath and let's settle in to be okay with where we're at right now. Let's find some sufficiency now, meaning like, let's, let's have some compassion now. Can we actually tell ourselves we're fine now and now, let the fun begin. Let the transformation begin. So I if you're thinking, Oh my God, if I keep going the way I'm going, by the end of this year, I am not happy. I don't want you to sit in the shit of that. I want you to go, Okay, can I let this be a wake up call, a beautiful wake up call. You know, losing weight, getting in your best health, getting. Stronger can either be done by mentally whipping yourself and shaming yourself that you've gotten to where you you are, or it can be done with a hey, we're totally fine. There are reasons why we are where we are. We can love ourselves to our next up leveling. It can be done from a place of excitement and self love, and you will find that when you do it from that place for the first probably for the first time ever, it actually can really be an enjoyable ride. So here is how I want you to feel right, whether you are like, Oh my god, I'm juiced. I'm headed in such an amazing place, I want you to feel excited, fired up and powerful. If you are thinking, Oh my God, if I keep going, I am not loving where I'm at, I want you to take a moment, and I want to offer that you can feel excited, fired up and powerful to change, starting right now. It doesn't mean it's going to be easy. It doesn't mean you're not going to mess it all up sometimes, but it means you can do better, and you can be excited and feel powerful and fired up for where you're heading. So get specific. Where do you want to be by the end of this year? We can do so much in a month, three months, five months, six months, we can do so much. But let's get specific. Where do you want to be with your body and where do you want to be with your life? And really, like, get specific. Maybe for you, you're going to dial in your life, and you're going to say, my house, like, I have a lot of clients that they're like, I know this has nothing to do with weight loss. I've heard this so many times. I know this has nothing to do with weight loss, but my house is a mess, or I have one bedroom that's a mess, or my garage is a mess, and I'm tormented by it, and I tell them, and I'll tell you, that the work we do to actually walk in and transform that space is the same work we do with our body and with our mindset and with our movement all. It all affects everything. And so where do you want to be with your life? Where do you want to be with your work, with your relationships? Really take a moment if you really want to get the most out of this podcast, I challenge you to take a moment, give yourself 10 minutes with some paper and pen, and ask yourself, Where am I going to be if I keep going the way I'm going with my body, where am I going to be if I keep going the way I'm going with my life, and where do I want to be? If anything's possible, even if you have not been able to do it in the past, because your mind will go to the past. That's okay. Guide it. If anything's possible, where do you want to be? And make sure in that you say, how do I want to feel? Oftentimes, we don't realize how important those feelings are. In the end, if you say to yourself, I want to be 20 pounds down, I think that's amazing. How will you feel if you're 20 pounds down, because that is what you want. Yes, weight loss is great, but this is so much more than weight loss, my friend, it always is. How do you want to feel? How do you want to feel in your body? How do you want to feel in your mind? How do you want to feel when you wake up? How do you want to feel now? What daily habits are going to get you there so often we negate these daily habits. I cannot tell you how many clients I have helped coach them, and this takes some time, sometimes to go to bed earlier. And you might be like, What does that matter? It seems so trivial. It's not trivial. And I think if you are the type of person that you keep telling yourself, I really need to get in bed earlier, you know how big of a deal this is, let's break it down. You get to bed earlier, that probably means you're eating less in the evenings because you're just brushing your teeth and you're going to bed earlier. By going to bed earlier, you're getting better sleep, probably more sleep, probably better sleep. What does that matter? Well, Google the science of sleep in terms of body and health and weight loss. It matters. And when you go to bed earlier, when you wake up and your brain tells you we didn't get enough sleep, you can actually go, Hmm, that's actually not true brain because I went to bed at nine o'clock, or I went to bed at 10 o'clock, right? So a lot of times, people wake up in the morning and they convince themselves that they haven't had enough sleep. They convince themselves that they're exhausted because they mentally know that they've been telling themselves they want to go to bed earlier, but they keep going to bed at 11 o'clock. So even if their body actually felt fine, they tell themselves, their primitive brain tells themselves, you didn't get enough sleep. And then they sleep in late, and then they are racing throughout their morning. They're not journaling, they're not meditating, they're not stretching, they're not actually taking a minute to do anything they really want to do. I. Ironically enough, oftentimes they are hitting up tick tock. They are hitting up Instagram. So it's ironic that we don't have time to do the things that are really going to change our life, but we do have times that to do the things that aren't helping us in any possible way, that are actually making our life worse. Then we are racing throughout our day. We're shaming ourselves because we're telling ourselves we really need to start getting to bed earlier. We really need a better morning routine. We really need to food prep, because now we don't know what we're going to eat, and we're rolling in hot to everything. And can you see in my voice, what a chaotic day we're creating for ourselves, and then how this affects the rest of your day is we come in hot to everything, and then by the end of our day, our work day, oftentimes, or by the when we finally get a chance to sit down, going back to snacking in the evenings, we're fucking exhausted, right? And so then we're telling ourselves, we just need to relax. We can't make any more decisions. And then we end up staying up later into the evenings because we don't like the way we eat. We feel shame, and then we overeat, and then go to sleep late again. Can you see how crazy all of this is? Can you see how when I have a client that they say, I really want to get to bed earlier, and I take that extremely seriously, and I say, let's get you to bed earlier, which is going to get you up 15 minutes earlier, which is going to transform your life. So when I say to you, what daily habits are you are going to get you to where you want to be in six months? Can you see how going to bed an hour earlier is going to get you there? Can you see how brushing your teeth and not snacking at night is going to get you there? Can you see how waking up in the morning and being able to have your primitive brain say, oh my god, we're exhausted. But then you to be able to say, wait a minute, brain, we got to bed an hour earlier. I think I'm just going to jump out of bed. I've had enough sleep. And by you able to do that, it is going to transform your morning. It's going to transform the what you eat for lunch. It's going to transform what you say to yourself as you roll into dinner. So when we dive into what daily habits are going to get us there? These are not hard things. These are not over complicated things. They're very simple. But you need to know how to get yourself there, and it's a skill you might not have. It's why people want to be able to have the skill of taking a pause before they decide whether they want to eat a muffin that someone at work came and brought them, having the skill of being able to tell yourself you're going to go for a walk right after dinner is a powerful skill. So what daily habits are going to get you to where you would delight in being at the end of 2025 Where do you need your focus to be? And do you even know what I mean when I say that what you focus on, meaning what you guide your mind to thinking about, matters more than anything when you are the master of your mind when you understand mindset, when you understand focus, where you on, when you understand thinking intentionally. That's how you are able to change your life. When you have the skill of being able to get home from work and taking a minute and going, okay, Courtney, this is what I ended up having to do, okay? Courtney, you know how you are. You've stopped working. You've got really nothing planned. It's raining outside. You're tired, your hamstring hurts, you're annoyed at your kids. But where do we want our focus to be? We want to do it differently, and here's how we're going to do it differently. Here's how we're going to support ourselves. Here's what our primitive brain is probably going to say to us, and here's what we're going to say back when you have that skill, you can eat the way you want to eat. You can fit in your clothes the way you want to fit in your clothes. You can live the way you want to live. You can treat the people around you the way you want to treat them. You can treat yourself the way you want to treat you. So where do you need your focus to be? What you focus on, what you give energy to, is what is going to get better in your life. And unfortunately, for many of us, we focus on not liking how we are showing up, especially for our bodies. Sometimes our life is great, but we don't like how we're showing up for our bodies. We don't like the way we look, we don't like the way we feel, we don't like the way we eat and we shame ourselves. And so there's a lot of focus there, but it's not the right kind of focus. It's not the focus of self love, self compassion, self like figuring it out, right? Have you ever said to yourself, Oh, love what's going on with you? Why are you thinking that? Why do you feel like that is going to help us? I wonder what's going on with you. Have you ever had that conversation? I had that conversation just the other night. I don't drink anymore, and the other night my. Primitive brain says, tonight you should have a cocktail. And it made me a little bit like emotional, and I and I literally put my hand on my chest. I was in the middle of my kitchen. I'm getting emotional even talking about it. I put my hand on my chest and I said, Oh, love. What's going on with you now, listen, guys, there is nothing wrong with the little vodka in your in your club soda, but since I'm not drinking, it was warning bells in my head, what's going on with me, that I think I need that again. There's nothing wrong with a little vodka, but since I've made a decision that I don't want to drink vodka, my prefrontal cortex, the real me, said, whoa, whoa, whoa, what's going on, what's going on, the fact that we think we need that. So I said that, oh, why is that my focus? Why is my focus on? We need a little vodka. And I put my hand on my chest, and I said, Oh, love why do we think we need that? And I got curious, do you have the ability to do that? It's a beautiful ability. It's a beautiful skill. And I figured out in that moment why I was feeling a little bit overwhelmed. I addressed, oh, I'm feeling a little overwhelmed, and this is why. And then I thought, Oh, how do I want to turn this around? How do I want to get out of overwhelm? How do I want to reframe this and realize there's no reason for overwhelm. My primitive brain is just trying to take over because I'm a little bit tired and because I have a lot on my plate right now, I wanted to focus on something different, and I was able to, in that moment, say, Oh, we're getting off track. Let's redirect your daily behaviors, create your life, they compound to create your weeks, and they compound to create your months, and then they compound to create your years. And oftentimes we negate these little things. We think, Oh, it's just a splash of vodka, oh, it's just staying up a little bit later, oh, it's just scrolling on social media, oh, it's just hitting the snooze button, oh, I'm just gonna skip a workout. Oh, it's just a muffin. We negate all these things. And all of those things in themselves is not a big deal, but the compounding effect of all of those things is getting us to where we're at right now, and it's going to get us to where we're going to be at the end of the year, and in the same token, say being able to say no to staying up late, being able to say no to hitting snooze, being able to say no to the vodka, being able to say no to the dessert, having it every single night, being able to say, I'm going to have a little less of this or a little less of that, or I'm going to wait until I get a little hungry for a change, or I'm going to enjoy myself at this party and not have it be about the food, or I'm going to go to dinner and I'm going to really make it about meeting my son's girlfriend for the first time. Or I'm going to be about having connection with my parents, and I'm not going to worry about the food so much. All of those little moments have a compounding effect, and they're going to dictate where you're at at the end of 2025 so your daily behaviors create your life. I encourage you to take time to journal on this. And the question again is, if I continue living the way I'm living, where will I be at the end of 2025 and do I love this for me? Do I love this for me? And if you do, then keep going. And I'm so excited that I've been a part of that in some way. But if you don't love where you're going, I want to invite you to join my July group. Ready for change. It is for women who want to feel better in their body, feel better in their life. For you, for a lot of you, that's going to be losing weight, or it's going to be getting stronger, or it's going to be feeling more in control of your eating, but whatever it's going to be, it's going to be from a place of sustainability, from a place of knowing that it's not all about the weight loss, it's not all about the food, but man, does it feel good to feel in control of it. In this July group, we will work together for the month of July. Every week, you creating massive change in your life. I have women in this group from all around the world. I have some women that are going on a vacation in July and they might miss one or two of the calls, that's okay. You can watch the replay. You can still do this work. I love to think of the women who are in my June group and the women who are in my going to be in my July group as having the best summer of their life because they are learning the skills to be able to take control of their minds, so they can take control of their lives. So I invite you to do this work with me. There is a link on my website, there is a link in the show notes, there's a link on Instagram to join my July group, ready for change, and if you're interested, and if you're on the fence, then come to my workshop. My. Stop eating, snacking, workshop, and toward the end of that workshop, I'm going to talk a lot about this July group and exactly what you're going to get and exactly why it's such an amazing opportunity for you to work with me with a bunch of amazing women all over the world. I hope you have a great Tuesday. If you are ready to lose weight and keep it off permanently and feel confident and at peace around food. I invite you to head to Courtney Gray coaching.com to learn about how to work with me. I work with women privately, one on one, and I also offer small group coaching. There is a link to my website in the show notes you.