This is SO Much More than Weight Loss

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The inspiration for this podcast came from a reel I saw on Instagram.  A woman was being interviewed and said "No one is going to be talking about how you look in your bathing suit at your funeral.  Drink the wine, eat the bread!"

I agree.  However, I would like to offer a different perspective, one that I believe is more accurate and empowering.

Because often, this way of thinking feels like a permission slip to surrender.

Onward!

~Courtney

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Foreign Welcome to Modern body, modern life. The podcast for women who want to lose weight permanently feel in control around food and learn how to stop obsessing about their body and food a modern way of thinking about your weight, your body and your life includes mindset. I'm body and life coach, Courtney Gray, and each week I'm going to teach you the mindset tools that are necessary for changing the way you eat forever. We will uncover why you're eating when you said you were going to stop, what to do when you're really craving something, and how important it is to decide what you want to believe is possible for you, I believe we can get in the best shape of our lives at any age, a modern body, a modern life, all starts in your mind, and when you learn how to manage that, losing weight permanently becomes so much easier. Welcome to the podcast. Episode 86 this is so much more than weight loss. I'm happy to have you here, and I want to dive in by telling you about this reel I saw on Instagram the other day, and I was like, oh. And it really made me pause, so I created a whole podcast around my thoughts on this reel, this woman, this beautiful woman, was being interviewed, and she said something very powerful. She said, No one is going to talk about how you looked in a bathing suit at your funeral, drink the wine, eat the bread, live your life. That was the little clip. I'm sure it went on. I'm sure, was part of a podcast episode, but that was a little clip, and the comments were on fire, I tell you, like so like, hundreds and hundreds of women, really, you know, energetically, nodding their heads in agreement. And I get it, I really do. I not only do I get it, I agree. I agree with her. Life is short and no, the goal is not to have people remember us for our waistlines and for our cellulite free thighs and for how great we look in a bikini or a one piece, or how great we look in that dress at a wedding, whatever it is. But here's where I want to offer a different angle, one that I think is far more loving and far more empowering and far more relevant realistic, I guess, resonating. Because when we hear messages like I think part of us wants to agree, so we can stop trying, so we can stop caring. I think there's a part of us I know, for me, for many years, I just didn't want to care anymore. So I would hear little thoughts like this, and I'd say, yes, it doesn't matter. And then we quietly kind of give up for a moment. But here's the thing, it feels like when we hear eat the bread, drink the wine, all that, it feels like a permission slip to surrender, and not in a good, peaceful way, in more of a resigned way, in in a way that doesn't really feel aligned. So here's what it is in the moment it feels like, yes, I want to just live my life. But the problem is, when most women give themselves this kind of permission, they don't end up feeling better. They end up feeling worse, not just because of the food, but because we're not being true to ourselves. We're not really connected to what we truly desire. And so many times you've heard me say on this podcast, so many times, but so many times I would go to bed after giving myself a thought permission, like this, something to the effect of, it doesn't matter I look great. My husband thinks I look great. And then I would go to bed and I would that thought now was, was long gone, and now my thought was, oh, my god. Why do I keep doing this? Because what I truly wanted was to be healthier, to feel in control, to feel connected, to feel connected to my body, to feel connected to what I was putting in my mouth, to feel connected to my purpose, to feel like I was living in a way that felt authentic. And so many of us, I think, are continuing this cycle that leaves us feeling powerless and disconnected from our body and from our desire. When we do this, when we convince ourself in the moment that no one cares, just eat all the things, we end up feeling frustrated. We resent ourself. We resent that we care so much, and deep down, we know we're living our life on repeat, right? The same body, the same patterns, the same regrets, the same thoughts, over and over again. And so what I want to offer you today is this, it is correct that no one will talk about you and your bathing suit at your funeral. No one's going to talk about how you looked at the. At the wedding or at the barbecue, whatever. No one's going to talk about that, but you will talk to yourself about it every day until then. I'm going to say that again, you will talk to yourself about it every day until then, and not just about your body, but how you feel and how you show up and what kind of woman you are living as, how much energy you have, how free or stuck you feel, how confident you feel, or how like frustrated you feel, how you walk into a room or not walk into a room, because maybe you don't feel the way you want to feel in your body, how you avoid the mirror or look in the mirror and own it, and kind of look at yourself and love yourself, even as you're aging, even as we're getting more wrinkles, even as we're getting all of the things, the loose skin, all the things. This is so much more than weight loss. It always has been. This is about the woman you're becoming about the life you're living, and when you take your health seriously, not because you're frustrated, but because you want to live a bigger life feel amazing in your body, you really open the door to being a more powerful version of you is the best way to say it. You don't just lose the weight, you gain clarity, you gain confidence, you gain consistency and feeling empowered. I have always thought that when I started feeling in control around food, the feeling I associate more than any other feeling is freedom. And I know that that's not if you look at like a list of feelings, I don't think that freedom would be on there. I should check. I have a few different lists of free design, a few different lists of emotions and feelings. I should check and see if freedom is on there. But to me, that is what I felt and what I feel now, free most of the time I'm not dancing in daisies all the time. Sometimes my primitive brain tells me just eat the popcorn. It doesn't matter, and I have to sit with it for a minute. But I will tell you, 95% of the time I feel very free, very free. When you take your health seriously, you gain consistency and self, trust and momentum that affects every other area of your life, every single corner of your life, your relationships get better, your work gets better, your decisions get faster and sharper. Your joy takes on a new level that it hasn't ever been before your voice gets louder in terms of you feel more empowered, you feel like you can be seen. You can live a bigger life. And I know that that's kind of an abstract thought. You can live a bigger life, but I think you know what I mean when I say that, like, I feel like there's a lot of women that just want to live bigger and I think that means a lot of things. I think it means we don't want to care about what other people think. We don't want to make our decisions based on what other people think. We want to truly do what we want with no reservations, with no worrying about other people, or maybe with a little worrying, but doing it anyways. To me, that is a bigger life being authentic and true and feeling free and powerful. And when you take your health seriously, you take yourself seriously, you finally feel like you're not just going through the motions. You're owning your life, and you feel like a creator of your life. You're not at the mercy of your cravings and your past habits and your hormones and your age and your calendar and any negative emotions like stress or boredom or anything like that, you're in charge. And so that is why I do this work. Yes, I coach on food and weight, and I coach on a lot of things. I coach on relationships and anxiety and business, and I love coaching on all the things. But really, one of the reasons why I love coaching on feeling in control of your eating and feeling in control of your body and your movement is because it does affect every area of our lives. So what we're doing is so much more powerful and bigger than weight loss. We're building self trust. We're creating a life that feels free. We're creating you becoming a woman that feels like a creator in her own life. So don't stop at drink the wine, eat the bread. I want you to take a pause whenever you hear anything like that, or maybe you'll hear different iterations from people in the moment when you're at a bar and you're at a restaurant, at a barbecue, maybe you're going to hear people saying, oh my gosh, life is too short. We really need to celebrate. We really need to be in the moment. I want you to not stop at that thought and just say Permission granted. I want you to go further. I. I want you to ask yourself, What kind of woman do I want to be at the end of this year? What kind of life do I want to be living at the end of this year? What do I want my days to look like, and what do I want them to feel like? Let's make this chapter the one where you stop settling and start stepping into the you that you authentically want to be, not to impress anyone, not to get compliments, not to have anyone talk about you because you want to think and feel a certain way about you. You matter and you're not done. So I hope this was an inspiring podcast for you. I hope you resonated with hearing thoughts like that, and you get to decide what they mean, as opposed to just using them as a permission slip to continue living a life you don't want to live. Have a great tuesday if you are ready to lose weight and keep it off permanently and feel confident and at peace around food. I invite you to head to Courtney Gray coaching.com to learn about how to work with me. I work with women privately, one on one, and I also offer small group coaching. There is a link to my website in the show notes you.