The Transformation Series Part 1- Thinking BIG

Welcome to Episode 88 of the podcast — Thinking Big!

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 This episode kicks off a brand new 3-part series I’m calling The Transformation Series, and I am so excited to share it with you.

Here’s what to expect in the series:

• Part 1 (Today): Thinking Big — what it means to truly expand your vision and stop playing small
• Part 2 (Saturday, July 26th): Living Better, Not Perfect — a bonus episode all about releasing perfectionism
• Part 3 (Tuesday, July 29th): Intentional Joy + Purpose — how to live with more meaning in this next chapter of your body & life

This series is designed to inspire you to create your own transformation — not because everything in your life is broken (we know it’s not!), but because there’s one or two areas that deserve a serious upgrade. For many women, that’s how they take care of their body, how they talk to themselves, how they prioritize their needs — and that’s exactly what we’re diving into.

💥 Thinking Big isn’t just a mindset — it’s a skill.
In today’s episode, I talk about how to expand your beliefs about what’s possible, even when it feels uncomfortable or “too big.” 

 You’ll hear about:

• Why "just a little better" isn’t enough
• How to start imagining a bold, exciting new future — even if you don’t believe it’s possible yet
• Why your transformation might challenge what others think — and why that’s okay
• How this work ripples into every area of your life

🎉 Enrollment is Officially Open!

Today (July 22nd), enrollment opens for my signature program:
 Modern Body, Modern Life – starting this August.

This transformational group coaching experience is for women who:

• Want to feel in control of their eating, movement, and mindset
• Know they’re capable of more but need support to follow through
• Are ready to change their relationship with food, their emotions, and the promises they make to themselves

Most women lose 10–15 pounds permanently and report positive shifts in nearly every area of life — not just the scale.

This is the program that helped me stop the “start over in August” cycle. I no longer overindulge all summer just to roll into August feeling out of control. That’s the kind of transformation that’s possible.

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Interested in speaking with me about how we can work together? Click here to head to my website: https://www.modernbodymodernlife.com/ and schedule a free consultation with me.

Transcript

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Foreign Welcome to Modern body, modern life. The podcast for women who want to lose weight permanently feel in control around food and learn how to stop obsessing about their body and food a modern way of thinking about your weight, your body and your life includes mindset. I'm body and life coach Courtney Gray, and each week I'm going to teach you the mindset tools that are necessary for changing the way you eat forever. We will uncover why you're eating when you said you were going to stop, what to do when you're really craving something, and how important it is to decide what you want to believe is possible for you, I believe we can get in the best shape of our lives at any age, a modern body, a modern life, all starts in your mind, and when you learn how to manage that, losing weight permanently becomes so much easier. Welcome to the podcast. Episode 88 thinking big. This podcast, thinking big is the first of a three part podcast series that I am doing. It's called the transformation series. I'm so excited. I've always wanted to do a series. So here we go. So this is the first of the three part transformation series. The second episode is going to air this Saturday the 26th going to be a little bonus episode. I'm going to be talking about living better, not perfect. And then the third is going to be as regularly scheduled, on Tuesday the 29th and I'm going to be talking about intentional joy and purpose. So this series, the reason I'm doing this transformation series is because it is officially open enrollment for my August modern body, Modern Life program that is going to be starting in August, but I will talk about that in a moment. My intention for this three part podcast series is to get you excited for your own transformation. And when I say transformation, I don't mean your entire life. I know that you have a great life. I know that many areas of your life, you're like girl, I don't need to be transformed. I'm good, I know. But if you're like me, and if you're like a lot of my friends and clients, our body and our eating and our self concept and the way we talk to ourselves and our self care, and the way we don't put ourselves first all of those shenanigans. Need a transformation. They need an uplift. They need a makeover. They need a transformation. I want to help you get clear on what you truly desire to transform and then help you understand what it's going to take. So this three part series is truly what I wish I had years ago, when I was struggling to eat well and struggling to be consistent with my workouts and my movement and struggling with my thoughts about all of it, my commitment to all of it, I felt so out of control, and truly thought there was something wrong with me, because I knew I wanted more for myself, but I wasn't taking myself seriously, and I kept changing my mind and belittling it and saying, What does it matter? I'm in midlife. La, la, la, so when you start thinking big, which I want to talk to you about today, and you learn to live better without being perfect, and you can be intentional with your joy and purpose. You will transform this part of your life and any part of your life that you actually want to transform. And speaking of transforming your body and your life today, the 22nd of July, enrollment is officially opened for my modern body, modern life, foundational program that starts in August. This program is for women who want to learn how to feel in control of their eating and their movement, and wait for women who know they're capable of more, but they need help learning how to transform, speaking of transformation, their relationship with food, their relationship to their emotions and relationship to themselves and the promises that they make on a daily basis. In this modern body, Modern Life Group, you can expect to lose between 10 to 15 pounds permanently, and for this weight loss to positively affect every other area of your life, I have found that August has been one of my most popular times throughout the year to do this work. This has been one of my most popular launches groups, because I think often people over indulge in the summer and they're on vacations and they're over celebrating and just really not giving themselves that the self care that they need, and not taking their health as serious, and kind of making excuses for it all, which I say this with no shame. And then all of a sudden, beginning of August rolls around, and then they kind of realize that they need to figure this out before the holidays roll around. And here. Is what I want you to know. So for that reason, I think that August is an amazing time for you to commit to going all in on yourself, and I would love to have you in my program. And so here is what I want you to know, I no longer over indulge in the summer, only to roll into August needing to lose weight and needing to be more consistent with my workouts and start going to bed earlier and drinking less and starting to take care of myself. I don't have to do that anymore. I don't have to do this with holidays. I don't have to do this with special events. I I was telling you last week, I went to this wonderful wedding this past weekend in San Francisco, the week before the wedding. I wasn't dieting, I wasn't restricting in order to fit good in my dress, I don't have to do that anymore. I have fixed this area of my life, and that is what this program does. Now, after this program, you will continue to grow. And for those of you who want to lose more than 10 to 15 pounds, you will be primed to do that. You will be eating differently, thinking differently, moving differently. And also so many women also continue to work with me because they up the bar for themselves. They lose weight, they feel in control of their snacking, control of their night eating, and they're getting more consistent with their workouts. And then the work starts impacting every area of their life, and they want to keep going. So for those of you who have already been through my modern body, Modern Life program. Check your email. I have an invitation only group that is also starting in August. It's more of an advanced group for women who have already worked with me, and that invitation is already in your email inbox. For those of you who have not worked with me, with me before, there is a link to enroll in the show notes, and there's also one on my website and on Instagram. It's everywhere. It's called the modern body, Modern Life program. I'd love for you to check it out. Now today we're talking about thinking big, not just slightly better, not just fine, but massive, bold, beautiful, big visions for what your life, or a part of your life could look like in this next chapter. And let me be honest, the idea of thinking big can feel really uncomfortable at first. It can feel like what because you're not believing it at first. It really was hard for me at first. I remember long ago you maybe you've heard me talk about how I went to a Tony Robbins conference. It was absolutely amazing. If you ever get the chance to go to go to one, it was so fun. And he was encouraging us to think big, and he was giving us time to do it, and he wanted us to brainstorm. And I was really having a hard time thinking big. And he was talking about, like, owning a giraffe and wanting to have a private island. And I was sitting there going, what, what? And so for me, in that moment, he was going too big. And so when I think, when I tell you thinking big, I do want you to think big, but I also need it to be not so big to where you totally shut down. It has to be big enough to get you thinking, I'm not sure, but that would be amazing. That's a great place to be. And so it was hard for me. At first, I was thinking private island, I guess the one of the things I was thinking of, I don't want a private island, like, what is happening? I've got, like, this is the main my kids were little. I don't want a private island. That sounds exhausting. Who's gonna take care of the island, right? But if you can think big enough, not just a little bit better, not just slightly better, but big enough that you think, I don't know if it's possible, but man, would that be fun? So it's imagining something new, something powerful and exciting that you're not quite sure is possible for you. Now we can see that it's possible for other people. It's possible for other women at your age, but you're not quite sure. I want you to think of a kind of change that, like, gets you feeling like a vibration in your body. It shifts how you would even show up in your life, in your relationships, in your daily day to day, like, if this were possible. And one of the things I think of is when we think of thinking big, it challenges what people around you might think. It challenges what your friends might think. It challenges what your family might think or expect. And that is okay. This is something you can do just inside your own little head. Thinking big is creating something new that you're not sure as possible. You're not sure it's attainable. And this is a skill that, like everything, needs to be practiced. It's easier for some people than it is for others. When I was at this Tony Robbins event, the cute girl next to me, I looked at her, and I said, a private island. What is he talking about? And she literally said to me, I'm picking out the carpet color on my private jet. I'm like, oh, okay, it was much easier for her for some reason, possibly maybe she grew up in a family that was extremely wealthy, so jumping up to private jet status maybe was an easier jump for her than for me. Maybe it's because she was younger. And she didn't have kids. The thought of that is, it was the last thing I wanted. It used to be hard for me, but it has gotten easier as I've had the audacity to do it and practice it and then started achieving bigger things. I love to think about thinking big. It starts as a small whisper. Sometimes, if you're sitting there going, I don't know what to think about thinking big. It sometimes starts as a small whisper. It's like a small baby desire that keeps coming back to us. When I started my jewelry business, like around 20 years ago, I was really just trying to do something fun when my kids were sleeping. It was literally just for fun. There was I wasn't trying to be an entrepreneur. I wasn't trying to make money. And then as I started making money, I started thinking bigger and bigger and bigger. But at first, these were just little baby desires, and it would literally I remember the first time I made money. Took money from someone. I thought to myself, Oh, my God, maybe I can make $200 a month. I could pay for our cable. I think I started crying. I was like, what is happening? This is amazing. At the time. That was big for me, because I had two six month old twins, and so that was big for me, that I could, while they slept, do something that was fun and pay our cable. That was big for me. And then I started making more and more and more money. And I remember when I actively decided to start thinking big, when I told my husband, I want to make more than you. And it was a kind of a funny joke, but it started becoming serious. It was like, maybe I could make 100,000 and then I made 100,000 and then I thought even bigger, what if I could make 200,000 like, what is happening, right? And let me tell you, what happens when you start thinking big, your brain automatically goes to, well, how are you going to do that? How are you going to possibly do that? And here's what I'll tell you, is we don't know how. Yet, if we would have known, how we would be doing it, we don't know, and that's okay. So when I decided to start thinking big and big and bigger and started achieving at a higher level. I wanted to make 100k I did. I wanted to make 200k I did. I and I started. I wanted to have assistants help me with the two assistants help me make the jewelry so I didn't have to do it all on my own. I did all of these things. It started making me go, wow, this is no joke. And then I remember one day I had hired a coach to help me make more money in my business. The coaching was helping me with my body, with my parenting, with my relationships, and I had the a little whisper saying, it sure would be awesome to like get certified as a coach. It would help my family. It would help me coach myself. I started thinking bigger and bigger and bigger, and my husband seeing all of this thinking big, and how it was getting easier for me and easier for me, and seeing all that I was achieving, said, Hell yeah, I think you should become a coach, a certified coach, and I think you should actually make money at that time. That was too big for me. That was his big but it was too big for me, but I thought, I'm just going to do this for our family. I'm going to do it for fun. And then I started actually charging people. And here we are. And as I have gone and on and on with my coaching business, I'm like, what if I could make 50,000 a year while being a glass artist? What if I could actually start doing less glass and just focusing on the coaching? What if I could actually get to$100,000 in coaching? And so I kept going, going, going, achieving, achieving, achieving, and now I'm on to my next big goal. So I'll tell you another thinking big experience for me is as my kids grew up, as I rolled into my 40s, I started putting on weight, and in this little area of my life, I was pretty miserable, and I started having whispers of wanting to live differently for my body. I wanted to age differently. I wanted to eat differently and think about food differently. Why less? And I wanted to move differently, and I decided to think big. And so once I lost that weight, once I used all of the coaching tools that I teach my clients, that I learned in my certification to help myself find peace with my eating and lose the weight I have had whispers of wanting to now age differently in all all aspects of my body and life. I'm still in the process of thinking bigger for me. Now, as I roll into my 50s, I'm 48 as I roll into my 50s, I'm like, I want to think huge for what is possible for me and my body in this second chapter, and my finances and my relationships. And so I start asking myself, what if. And so this is what I want you to do, is when you're thinking about thinking bigger, start asking, What if, and just be have fun with it. What if? When I was doing yoga, it could be easy, I started asking myself that question, and like I thought, how cool would it be if I could flow like they call it flow, but I was not flowing at first, but now I actually flow in yoga, and it is quite easy. It can be hard after, you know, 40 minutes of doing it, but very much it is a. Flow for me. What if I could feel like food is just not stressful for me. I'm going to the airport tonight, and I'm not worried at all about when I'm going to eat, and what if there's going to be food on the plane. I know I'm going to take care of myself. It's not even a thought. What if I could just maintain my weight and not always be up and down and always having to find reasons to drop five pounds and, oh, I have a wedding coming up, so I need to eat really good. What if I could not worry about that beautiful, did it? And now I'm at a place where I think, Okay, what if I could do pull ups and handstands like these girls on social media that I see doing this? What if I could? What if I could turn 50 and literally, be stronger than I've ever been. Let's go. I literally, as I'm saying that, it's making me feel tingly. It is so exciting for me now, as I think about that, as I think about doing pull ups and handstands, I'm already really working towards doing pull ups. I'm not really working on the handstands yet. In fact, the cool thing is, when you start doing this and you start thinking big, they all kind of start compounding on each other. That's the word I was looking for, compounding. It all starts compounding. I know once I actually do a pull up the muscles that are going to be there and the belief that is going to be there as well, it's going to make me go a handstand. Is going to be no problem. And I'll start doing a handstand against a wall. And then I'll just start doing it close to the wall, so if I feel like I need to touch the wall with my heel, I can and then I'll be brave enough to tell my husband, hey, I want you to stand close to me and to catch me if I start falling. And then I'll start learning how to fall well. And it'll be the compounding effect of doing all of this thinking big work. Now notice, when I'm talking about all of my health stuff, like doing pull ups, eating well, all that, I think of it as thinking big. Some people might not, and that's okay too. So permission granted for whatever it is for you that you think it's big, it's important to you. It might not be earth shattering. That's why I think when I when I think back to that Tony Robbins conference, when he was talking about an island in a private jet, it was too much for me, because I don't want those things. Maybe you want those things and go for it, if that's what you want. I'm at a place in my life where I just think my life is so great, and I know that the happiest thing for me is to challenge my body in ways that right now I don't think are possible. That is what I want for myself. I want to do a handstand more than I want a private jet. So even if it's something and that's big for me right doing a handstand for me is big. And when I do a handstand, someday, the next thing is going to be even bigger. So you get to define what is big for you. And so the beautiful thing that happens when you start making progress is you think bigger and bigger and bigger, and it really lights a fire to what you believe it is possible. It compounds. So let's talk about why it's important to think big. It's important because everything is created first in our minds, if you think about anything, if we think about the telephone, if we think about the internet, if we think about chatgpt, all of these things were first created by having a thought. Someone had a thought that this was possible. And even if you think back to like, whatever you went to college, whatever your profession was for right? At some point you thought, I think I want to be a nurse, or I think I want to be a dentist, or I'm thinking about some of my clients, I think I want to be a CPA, whatever it is. It was a thought that started first, and so we want to think big. Or if we don't think big for ourselves, we are going to be either just recreating the same body and life over and over and over, or just following along with the crowd. And I don't know about you, but I don't want to follow along with the crowd. I think to myself, right now, if I'm following along with the crowd, what I'm doing not with all women. For sure, there's many women killing it in midlife, killing it in later years of life. And there are certainly many women that are redefining aging. But I think there's also probably more people really just kind of giving up, giving into their excuses. There are many more people that are not willing to feel the discomfort in order to make the changes that they want to make. They're not willing to go through the failures and the things that we need to go through in order to create the body and life that we want to create. So I am not willing to not think big for myself at every moment in my life, I want to think I am just getting started. What can I think is possible? And can I look around me in terms of society in general and think bigger for myself than society in general thinks for itself? So it's important, because when we think big, we grow. Ourselves, we take different actions, and we change ourselves. At our core, we fail, and it's you know how it is. When we were young and in school, we were all taught not to fail. We were all taught to get the A and you don't want to fail, and there's a right and wrong answer, and you need to figure out the right answer. That's not how life is as we get older, if you want to think big, if you want to create something new in your life, it's a new way of doing things. We have to be willing to fail. That's one of the things I'm talking about on the second podcast in this series, is being willing to do things imperfectly, and what that means is failure. Thinking big creates a ripple effect in our lives and extends to others around us. I have to tell you, one of the biggest reasons why I love thinking big is because then when I create bigger things for my life, it shows my children that they also should be thinking big. They should also be thinking bigger for themselves. I'll tell you this cool story. My youngest son is a wrestler, and he went to the state championship his junior year of high school, and I remember on the way down there, he said, I want to place now. I'm going to get some of this wrong, because I'm still learning about wrestling. We're a basketball family. I'm still learning about basketball, but I might get some of this wrong, the details of this wrong, but I remember him saying, I want to place at state. And so I think in order to quote, unquote, place at state, he had to, he had to come in either 12th, you know, either first place to 12th place. That means you placed in state. If you got 1516, whatever, that's not placing in state. That was his goal. And I believe, if I'm remembering correctly, I think he got like 11th place, and he was thrilled, I think that was his second time at state, and he was thrilled for how we did, and thrilled that I got to be there. The whole experience was amazing. But then the next year, his senior year, I remember, it was a few months before, and he was, you know, doing all the hard work and all of his matches in order to get the opportunity to go to the state championship. And I remember saying to him, I said to him, what's your goal? You know what you let's think big. What is your goal? And he said, Well, I realize I made a mistake last year. And I said, Oh, fascinating. Tell me everything. I love it. And he said, I told myself that I just wanted to place. And he goes, so that meant 12th, like first place through 12th place I was okay with he goes, I realize now I need to think big and I need to go for first place. He says, I think by going for first place, I'm going to get closer to first than just having it be okay for me to just place in state. And I said, Oh my god, I love this so much. And he ended up this year coming in, I want to say fourth. La, it was last year, so fourth, I think it was fourth place, or maybe third. Oh my gosh, you guys, I'm not good with all these details, and it's been about a year now, but he did, clearly, did really well, and that's when he got offered the opportunity to wrestle at his dream school, literally right there in the second day in the middle of the state championship. It was amazing. The coach from Cal Poly came up and said, we'd like to offer you a spot on the team. I mean, it was, it was wildly exciting. But the whole gist of this story is he realized he wasn't thinking big enough, and by thinking big, saying, I'm gonna go for first place, he didn't get first place. Was he upset that he didn't get first place. He really wasn't, I mean, it. Talk about an amazing experience. He got fourth or third, I can't remember, but then he also got offered a spot on the team for his dream school. And he really realizes the power in thinking big, right? Think big. It's like that one quote. What is that one quote? Now I'm gonna have to remember it. I just looked it up. Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land amongst the stars. I mean, right? But thinking big is really an amazing thing for the other people in your life to see you achieve at a higher level, and they will be inspired. You will be an example of what was, what is possible. You will help other people that you love around you thinking big for themselves. And one of the things I love the most about when I am achieving bigger things in my life is the example it is setting for my children. I just love that so much more if you are thinking that you want to think big in terms of what's possible for you with your body and your weight and your health. I love this for you, but you might be wondering, is this thinking big enough I've tried in the past, and so my my suggestion, my coaching to you, is it all depends on how you think about it. If you think about it like, okay, Courtney, let's try this again. You can even hear in my energy that's not thinking big. If you think of it like, Okay, I really want to believe that I can do this this time around again, not thinking big. How can you paint the vision for yourself of something that you've actually never achieved? And again, if this is your if you've tried in the past to lose weight and you've gone on diets and failed and all that, how can this time be catastrophically different? How can you paint the vision of how you're going to feel when you do it differently? How can you learn some new skills by doing it differently this time? Do you join a program? Do you hire a coach. Do you immerse yourself in a way that you've never done before? So thinking big does not mean rinse and repeating and giving something another go. It means doing it drastically different, and what would that look like for you? How would it feel? I encourage you to think about getting to your best health ever, if that is what thinking big, if that's what you feel called to do, but doing it in an exciting and loving and sustainable way like this is big. This is big for you. But how can you take that desire and make it bigger, make it more transformative? I oftentimes think that when it comes to weight loss and women wanting to get healthy or whatever. I think part of it, part of the problem is we tend to just kind of make it seem like not a big deal, instead of making it seem like a transformation. And I think about women that are like, Oh, I really need to lose weight. I really need to be eating better. I really should probably drink less. Oh, weekends are really hard for me. I have a gym membership. I really want to start going, can you hear how it all just sounds like a law? Blase? Yeah, it's something I kind of want. What I want for you is I want for you to think big, create a beautiful vision of how this can transform you and how it will affect your whole entire life, and how it will be a catalyst to be an example for people around you and how it will really be something that you are doing for the last time. I remember years ago, after I finally lost the weight I wanted to lose, but more importantly, felt in control around food. And I think it was one of those nights where my husband and my kids, they were all eating ice cream, and I was sitting there, and I just was, like, almost a little emotional thinking, like, this is amazing. Like, I feel so free. I feel so like, unconnected to needing to have ice cream. I feel so like, not thinking about my body all the time. I really felt free. And I had a thought that I will remember forever, is I thought to myself, I mean, I can do anything. I had that thought, I can do anything. And that next day was when I actually signed up for a Tony Robbins conference. I remember going to my husband. I go, Hey, I kind of want to do this. I kind of want to do this conference. He goes, Oh yeah, go for it sounds amazing. It was Unleash the Power Within, Unleash the Power Within. UPW was the conference I went to, but I remember thinking I can do anything, because I felt in control of myself again. The bigness led to something else that was bigger. Because even going to that Tony Robbins event was a huge catalyst for me thinking bigger for my life. I wanted to put my dream pool in, and then I wanted to make more money in my business. And then I was starting to think maybe I could become a coach, I don't know. And it was just so so fun. It was such a catalyst for other areas of my life. I want to talk for a moment about what gets in the way of thinking big, because oftentimes when you start just even attempting, okay, let me take this one area and let me think big. What immediately will happen is your primitive brain starts going, how are you going to do that? That's not possible, right? It immediately starts going, No, no, stay the same. Where you're at is comfortable, it's safe, and so it does not want you to grow, right? You want to grow. You're thinking big from your prefrontal cortex, but your primitive brain wants no part of any of this. And so that's one thing that gets in the way of thinking big. So expect that and have it be okay when all these thoughts start coming up that contradict you thinking big, have it be okay and be like, yep, that is my primitive brain. What else gets in the way of thinking. Big is it's a skill that we've never practiced, just like everything else I'm teaching on this podcast. It has to be practice. Time has to be spent. It deserves your focus. Past failures sometimes gets in the way we think about what we want, and then we think of all the reasons we haven't been able to do it in the past, but again, we don't create from our past. We have to create from our mind. That's why thinking big is so important. Again, if we're always just going to be thinking about looking to our past like what's possible for me, let me look and see what I've done, then we're just going to repeat our lives every year, over and over and over. And so be on the lookout for saying, Well, I would do this, but in the past, I always do this. Or sometimes our self concept gets in the way. You know how you are, you always give up. That's a self concept that is getting in your way. Another thing that gets in our way of thinking big is. People around us either not leading by example, or we think that people have different circumstances or talents. So sometimes what this means is like the people around us are, all, you know, complaining about this or that. Oh, they can't make any more money. And you know how it is after you have after your kids are gone. It's so hard this, or I couldn't possibly do this, or the all these things we're hearing that amongst the people that are around us, that's why it's so important to to surround yourself with people that believe in you and think big for you, think even bigger for you, right? So that can happen, right? The people around us are not leading by example, or the people that we can point to and say, well, they're doing it, then our primitive brain says, Well, yeah, but they're younger or, well, yeah, but they don't have some of the issues that you have, well, yeah, well, they don't have that disease you have, oh, yeah. They have a huge support system, or they have more money, or they have more time. Sometimes we find people that are living the big life, the big part of their life that we want to but then we negate why they're doing it that we couldn't possibly. We kind of sell ourselves on the fact that it's not possible for us. So don't let that get in your way. Is it possible that this is possible for you, even though you have a primitive brain that's yapping at you in the background, telling you that you've never been able to do it before. It's not possible. The other people that are doing it are younger, or they have more resources than you do all of those things. And then here's the big one that gets in the way of thinking. Big obstacles are going to come up. If you have the audacity to think big for yourself. You are going to have obstacles come up. I know that on my way to be doing pull ups and handstands, I am going to injure myself. In fact, I've already done it once. I had to go to physical therapy for about 12 weeks for my shoulder, which is now beautifully healed. Physical Therapy is magic everyone, but I know that obstacles are going to get in the way. I am going to injure myself, hopefully not too bad, hopefully not too bad, but obstacles come up that are going to be in the way of us getting this big thing that we want, and so what? So what the obstacles are the way. I think that's a book. The obstacles are the way. The obstacles are there for you to solve and keep going. The obstacles are going to make you stronger. Anything that you want, that is thinking bigger than anything you've done before is going to take you, elevating yourself, becoming the next version of yourself. So are you willing to have the obstacles come up and to do the thing anyways? Are you willing to, if you're if you're going to be losing weight and you're going to be getting stronger and the healthiest version of you, you are going to have people comment on it, it is for sure gonna happen, and that is an obstacle that's really hard for some people. You are going to have people feeling like you are a threat to them because of your success, you are going to have to go back to work. Maybe you're one of my teacher clients, and it's kind of nice not being in the break room right now, because I know those break rooms at the schools have so much food, so that's going to be an obstacle for you. If you feel like over the summer you're doing well, maybe that's an obstacle. I had a client that actually surprised me by saying that summer is actually an obstacle for her, just because her schedule gets disrupted with the kids and everything like that, and she has a harder time actually dedicating her to her self care during the summer, so that is her obstacle. And I said, so this is your growth. So how do we actually think big? Take a moment to think about what you truly desire, even if it's just a little whisper of desire, it might not be big for someone else. Some, I'm sure some of you are thinking she wants to do a handstand and a pull up. What's the big deal? That's okay. That's okay that you don't want that for you, but it's what I want. It might be something that's just big for you, and even for those of women that I have in my program and listen to the podcast that really negate what they truly want, because it's only five pounds, only 10 pounds, only 15 pounds. Sometimes, those of you who don't have a lot to lose, you think this isn't big enough, but let me ask you this, if you lost it in a sustainable way, in a way that you felt like you could still enjoy yourself, and you had control, and you were you were able to go to the gym, even though you weren't motivated, and you just became the woman that this whole thing was easier and you were at your goal weight. Would that be thinking big for you? I have to believe if you're like me, the answer is a yes, and then what will happen is you're. Going to be sitting at your own kitchen table someday, and you're going to go, Oh my God, I feel so free. I feel like I can do anything amazing. So ask yourself, if anything were possible, what do I want? What would I be willing to experience in terms of failure along the way to achieve it? What negative emotions would I be willing to feel by the time this podcast comes out? It's going to be the 22nd and enrollment is going to be open for my modern body Modern Life program. And because of that, I wanted to get some pictures taken. I love the idea of having a new photo shoot for the new month of August, a new group of women starting in this program with me, but I do not like photo shoots. I've gotten a lot better at them. I used to dread them for a week, and then I'd have to literally take a huge nap afterwards because I was emotionally exhausted after doing them. So I'm better now. All right, things get easier and easier and easier, but I don't love going and having my photo taken and pretending that I'm a model and doing all that. And when there's people walking around looking at me because we're in like we're downtown, it's not my favorite thing. But I'll tell you what I do love when those pictures come back and then I get to update my workbooks with the new pictures, update my website, and it's just a fresh like new, new new, new group, new time of year, all of that. I love it. If I'm believing big things are possible for my business, I am willing to feel the discomfort of the photo shoot because I know the pictures are going to help me get to my business goals. I know their pictures are going to help you, because you might see a new picture and notice, oh, that's a new picture, and it might get you grab your attention, and then you might be alerted that something new is being offered in August. If anything is possible, what are you willing to feel? I am willing to feel doubt, insecurity. I'm willing to feel frustration and sadness when I fail, because I'm failing all the time, and it's not fun. It's not like I'm saying you're gonna feel sadness. But failure is great. It sucks, and it usually takes me down for a day or two, and my husband has to go, are you okay? Poo, right? But I'm willing to do it because I know that I'll be able to manage my mind and come out of it and get back to work until I fail again and they get back to work. So I'm going to remind you lastly of one thing I've already said, but it's really important most people determine what is possible for their future based on what they have been able to do or not able to do in their past. That is not how you create a big, exciting, free life, I want you to think big. If anything were possible, what negative emotion would I be willing to feel? And let's go. I will be coming to your podcast app this Saturday with the second podcast in this series, in this transformation series, because you are ready to transform this area of your life, I've got you have a great Tuesday. If you are ready to lose weight and keep it off permanently and feel confident and at peace around food, I invite you to head to Courtney Gray coaching.com to learn about how to work with me. I work with women privately, one on one, and I also offer small group coaching. There is a link to my website in the show notes you.