Giving Up Good for Great

In this episode of Modern Body, Modern Life, I’m diving deep into what it really means to go from good to great — in your body, your business, and your life.

Maybe things in your life are fine right now. You’re comfortable, successful, even content. But deep down, you know there’s more. You feel that nudge that says, “I’m ready for something greater.” The truth is, staying “good” often keeps us stuck. Growth and transformation require courage, discomfort, and a willingness to let go of what no longer fits — even when it’s still working.

I share my own story of transitioning from my successful handmade jewelry business into my dream career as a Body and Life Coach, and how that shift required me to release something good to create space for something truly great.

If you’ve ever felt called to reinvent yourself — especially in midlife — this episode will inspire you to trust that pull, take bold action, and create the next version of yourself with confidence and intention.

💡 In This Episode, I Talk About:

• The “curse of being good” — why comfort and complacency can hold you back from your next level.
• The beauty of hitting rock bottom, and why it’s often a catalyst for personal growth.
• My journey from stay-at-home mom and artist to six-figure entrepreneur and full-time coach.
• How to handle other people’s opinions when they don’t understand your transformation.
• Why doubt, fear, and uncertainty are normal parts of the growth process — and how to move forward anyway.

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Transcript

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Steve, welcome to modern body, modern life, the podcast for women who want to feel powerful, healthy, strong and confident, inside and out at every age. On this podcast, we talk about becoming a woman who is fully in control of her eating and movement, so weight loss, strength and energy become permanent. We also talk about something bigger, becoming the woman who takes her deepest desire seriously and goes after more in every area of her life. I'm body and life coach Courtney Gray, and I believe you can get in the best shape of your life at any age, and when you do, it becomes a catalyst for everything else, your relationships, your confidence, your joy, because when you feel like you and your body, all of life gets better. Let's get started. Welcome to the podcast episode. 103 giving up good for great. This is going to be Halloween week when this comes out. This is going to be our first Halloween that we are not going to be home, which is so weird, and I'm kind of bummed about it, because even now that we don't have kids at home, I love the kids ringing the doorbell and and I find myself not even getting annoyed when I have to keep getting up and up and down and up and down, and then I finally just turn the lights off. But it's just so fun. Halloween was one of my favorite holidays as a kid, so I love seeing it through all the eyes of the kids when they're little, and seeing my adult boys still show me costume their costumes from the parties they're going to, but it will be fun to go watch my son wrestle instead. So this podcast I'm really excited about, first, I want to tell you a story. So I, years ago, went to a Tony Robbins conference. I went to an Unleash the Power Within conference, if you ever have the opportunity to go to one in person, I highly suggest it. I know that they also now stream them online, but I'm telling you to go to an immersive event is really so powerful, and can be very like a great kickstart, and can be very like just powerful and changing. And so he said something. Well, he said so many things that I really resonated with. I took so many notes when I was there. But he said one thing that I was I'd never really heard this concept before in the way he said it, and I'm going to now deliver it to you in my own words. So he talked about, almost like, the curse of being in, like the good meaning when things are going good in your life. And if we think of our life like as a pie chart, we think of all the different areas of our life. We think of our finances, our relationships, our hobbies, our work. If we do work, our maybe our children can be a big part a piece of the pie. If you have kids, maybe your spirituality. I mean, you could, you could. You can slice up your own pie of your life in any way. But if you feel like you're looking at your pie of life, and you're feeling like, you know what, I'm pretty good in most areas, sometimes he says, and again, these are my words. Sometimes he says that, like, it can be a bit of a curse. And so he I remember him talking about, like, the beauty of hitting rock bottom. And that's very much, obviously, in contrast to being good living in a good being in a good place. And so he talks about what happens when you hit rock bottom, and the way it's actually beautiful and it can be a gift, is that it really is a catalyst for going the only direction you can go. And that is up when you have hit rock bottom, you know that it's only going to just get better. Think about any area of your life, if you are really not doing well, you are ready to scratch and claw yourself to a better place. There's so much motivation and so much drive to do that. But if you're good sometimes, and I think most people just settle for the good, they just can stagnate in the good. Because if things are going good, it can be harder to want to do what it's going to take to get to great. Because I believe in order to get to great, a lot of times you're going to have to give up the good to go to great. And there's going to be difficulty, and there's going to be failure involved in getting to great it's so much easier to stay right where you are now. It always is, that choice any at any moment is so much easier to stay right where you are right now. I had, I had planned to do this podcast this morning first thing, and I was into I was on zoom with one of my best friends, talking with her. We had such a great time talking, and we talked longer, and I wasn't able to do my podcast in the morning. That's my favorite time to do it, because I'm the most energy energetic, even though I have lots of energy right now. But there was a part of me that was like, Oh my God, to do a podcast at three o'clock. I don't know if I want to do that, right? It's hard. Sometimes it's hard to give up even just the good of like, oh, you know what? I can just do the podcast on Monday, but I know that I'm gonna have a better weekend if I get my podcast done now, I know I'm gonna be so proud if I get my podcast done now I have, I've had spent time planning this podcast for you. It's fresh in my. Mind. So really, doing this podcast right now is the great for me. It would be good if I did it on Monday. It would be fine, but it's great if I do it now, this is what I truly want. So I want to talk about the pain of giving up the good for the great, and why I definitely, highly suggest you do it because of the pleasure it will bring when you get to the great not only just the confidence and feeling powerful and having it just make you have a higher sense of pride, but also just the evidence you create to like, oh my god, I did something that I didn't have to do just because I wanted to do it, and now I have all this evidence that I'm capable of a lot more than I thought. So much pleasure can be derived from those kind of feelings. I love talking about the sometimes oftentimes painful realities of growth, because for you, when you are going through the painful realities of growth, you'll understand what's going on, because often not understanding what's going on, what's when you're in that kind of unraveling, beauty in the process, pain in the process, type of moment when you don't know what's going on. Sometimes we end up self sabotaging. Sometimes we end up thinking, well, oh my God, what's going on? It shouldn't be this way. And so we give up the plan. We almost think sometimes something has gone wrong. And I'm going to give you some examples later, with clients that I worked with this week, and I coach them on this very thing. But before I dive into that, I want to give you the most exciting and powerful example of giving up the good for great. So this was a really exciting week in my household. For many of you that know me and maybe we're friends, you know a lot of this, but it'll still be fun for you to hear but I know I also have a lot constantly having new people finding me and joining the podcast. I'm so glad you're here. So I want to just tell you kind of a little bit more about me than you might might not know before I was ever a coach. A long time ago, when I was newly married, my husband and I decided that when I had when we had kids, that I would be a stay home mom. I wanted to be a stay home mom. Even though I went to college, I knew that I always wanted to be a stay home mom, and my husband was on board. It was great. We were totally on the same page. First time out the gate, having babies. I had twins, which was just absolutely amazing. I'm an identical twin, and I ended up having fraternal twins, totally natural. So, I mean, magical in every way. They were huge. They were eight and 611 they were these huge, healthy babies. I mean, I just could not feel more grateful and blessed, because I know that that that I was very lucky in that way. So I had these babies, and when I would backtrack, when I was in college, I took classes at the local craft center, and I learned how to fuse glass, so it's in a you melt the glass together in a kiln. So while my babies slept, I would make fused glass bowls and platters, and it was just kind of a hobby for me. And I started a business because I was like, wow, this is kind of fun. I think I should start a business. I went to a local flower shop. They bought jewelry for me, and I remember my first like, kind of entrepreneurial thought. I remember the moment I became an entrepreneur, and I thought, what if I can make $200 a month and pay for our cable while being a stay home mom and please take me seriously when I say this. I said this while I was sobbing to my mother. Okay? It was very, very exciting. So I started building my business. I started building, you know, a collection of platters. And then I went into my first kind of big product, if I have to quote, unquote, say what my big break was, it was nightlights. I probably over the history of my business. I sold over 10,000 night lights. I was featured in a few magazines like Rachel Ray and a few of the Good Housekeeping magazine like spin off called kids rooms. I don't even know if they make kids rooms magazine anymore. Anyways, Patrick Dempsey's wife bought a a race car night light for their remember, long ago they had twin boys, so they brought a nightlight for me online. Very, very exciting. So at one point early on in my business, I got into like 15 different stores with my nightlight selling wholesale to them. And when I started this business. I didn't even know what wholesale meant. I didn't know what profit margin meant. I didn't know anything. I started following Gary Vaynerchuk. If you're an entrepreneur, you know who Gary Vaynerchuk is? If you don't, it's no problem. But basically, he teaches entrepreneurs how to make money. He's fantastic. And so I started just down this path on learning how to be an entrepreneur. It was never my intention, but I did it while my kids slept, and it was fun, and I started making more and more money. I was in about 15 stores, and I had this moment where all of a sudden I had a thought, because I was spending so much time making product for these stores that I didn't have time to do. What I really had the inkling to do was build a. Website and start getting people to buy direct from me, because, again, I started understanding profit margins, and I realized, if I can get someone, if I can have a beautiful website, and I can have someone buy a nightlight from me online, I make way more money than I do selling a nightlight to a store. And so I was thinking a lot about this, and I started putting time in helping, you know, I had a guy make the website for me, but I had to upload all the products, so I he kind of did the outline of a website for me, and then I did a lot of the work also on the website. But I had this moment where I just thought, I think I need to give up this good situation I'm in where I'm selling to 15 different stores, and instead of trying to keep going with that and get in even more stores, I think I'm need to be willing to give this up to build a website and build a community of people from really all over the United States to buy my nightlights and my platters, which were on the website at that time. And I did it, and it was it wasn't the biggest thing for me, because there wasn't a lot at risk. If I'm being totally honest, I was, at this point, making $20,000 a year. It really was a fun side hustle. I was making way more money than I ever I mean, I wasn't even my intention to make money, so the fact that I could be home with my babies and make this money was absolutely amazing. But I was willing, in that moment to give up the good for the great, for the, let me just say, for the potential great. And I built a website, and I started sending product to magazines. I almost I got so close to getting into Oprah. They were lovely and talk with me, but it didn't end up happening. I got so close to being I eventually started making jewelry, and I got so close to eventually getting into Sports Illustrated swimsuit, because they do feature jewelry on the models so close and but, and I had some big breaks and some little breaks and all the things, but I was willing, in that moment, to give up the good of being to selling to stores for the great of building an online business, because I felt like that would be it for me. I felt like that would be where more money and more flexibility would be, and I ended up building a multiple six figure business out of my garage. It started in my apartment, it's then it went into my dining room, and then it eventually went into my garage. While I was a stay home mom to my boys. I got to go to all the, you know, field trips. I got to do all the soccer and baseball and football and all the things while I build this big business. I ended up hiring two beautiful employees. And when I say beautiful, I mean they are beautiful, but I mean just, I love the word beautiful for just everything about them, you like, they're amazing, I guess is the better word for these employees. And I had heard that hiring employees was like the worst. I talked to so many businesses where they said it is the worst part of their job having employees. But I had gotten to this point where my business was good again. I write, I got I got to a point where I had 15 stores, and I was willing to give up that good for the great of building a website and building a farmers market following and an email list following. And then I got there, and I was making close to$200,000 a year by myself. And then I thought, I'm willing to give this is good, but I'm willing to possibly give this up and be having it all be on me, the security of it all being on me. Give that up to going to great to hiring some employees to help me build this out even further, and to have a little bit more flexibility, to have a little bit more rest on my body and my hands and all the things. And I remember people saying, Don't do it. Employees are the worst. Employers are the worst, and you're going to have such a hard time finding someone. And I'm telling you, it could not have been easier. It could not have been more wonderful. And I know that you're probably thinking, well, there were times you were probably frustrated. Probably frustrated and you were like, Oh, why am I doing this? No, it was a wonderful experience, having these two women come into my home and become friends and work for me. It was great. Working by myself was good. This was great. And while I went through this whole process, I hired a coach, I hired a life coach, and then I eventually joined a life coaching program, because I was always into self help, and I knew the power of my mindset. I knew that the concept of limiting beliefs. I know that sometimes we have thoughts that we can't even recognize in ourself, that we need someone else to help us uncover, and when we can uncover those limiting beliefs, and it can expand our mind in ways we can't even imagine, because we're we're sitting in the limiting beliefs. So I hired a coach, a private coach, and that was a great experience. Then I joined a monthly coaching program, and that was such a great experience, and it positively affected every area of my life. It helped me make more money in my business. I believe it made me a better employer. I know that it made me have a better relationship with my husband. It helped me certainly, with my eating and my working out and my time management and being able to get out of negative emotions and process emotions, all of these things. And so one morning, I was in the hot tub with my husband. In. And I said, I have a thought. I want to run by you. And I said, I think I would like to become life coach certified. I think I would like to pay, it was about$20,000 to get a certification to become a life coach. And I said, but this is what I want to do, kind of as my expensive hobby. I think that it's going to make me an even better mom. It's gonna make me an even better partner. It's gonna make me even more money. I just really, I really want to do this, and honestly, I just think it would be fun. And my husband is amazing. If you know him, you know he is and he's like, Yeah, I think you should totally do that. I mean, the man never questions anything I want to do. I should come up with something wildly catastrophic, and see if he questions me. He's so on board. He's so on board with anything I've ever wanted to do. He so believes in me. But he did say, Yeah, I think you should do it. He goes, but I do think you should become a coach. And I said, Well, yeah, I know that's what I want to do. And he goes, No, no, I think you should make money as a coach. And I said, Babe, I don't think I have time for that. And he goes, maybe that's a limiting belief. And I think I probably flipped him off and I laughed. And I'm like, Well, we'll see what happens. Because I really didn't think I had time for that. My kids were probably like, I think they were at 1670 we were busy, busy times. So fast forward. I become a life coach. I have this beautiful certification, and I think I really do want to help people. I really do want to coach people. So I throw it out on my Facebook, hey, I'm taking clients. And I got my first handful of clients, and if I could just tell you what happened to me when I would sit there and coach with them, and I would get off a call, and I would come out to my husband, and I would be almost like, like, I think there were probably sunbeams coming out of my head. I would just be shaking and be like, buzzing is probably the best word, buzzing with excitement for the fact that I was helping people with so many things. I think my first few clients, I was helping them in business. I had a few with anxiety. I had one with weight loss. I was helping with everything, and it was working, and they were loving the coaching. And right then I knew I'm like, oh yeah, this is what I'm doing with the second half of my life. So I started building a beautiful life coaching business, and I started slowly, very slowly, doing less and less jewelry. First I stopped doing any wholesale at all, because I eventually went back and got into wholesale. So eventually I got I stopped doing any wholesale. Then I stopped doing the Farmers Market, which was extremely lucrative, and it was such a I mean, I did the Farmers Market here in town for maybe 10 years. It was so wonderful, exhausting, but so wonderful, very lucrative for me. Built me up a huge client base that I never would have had had I not done that. And so I slowly started doing less and less as I built up my coaching business. And I really did have a vision that someday I would walk away from the jewelry. Someday I would feel complete. Someday I would feel like my coaching business has so much more potential than the jewelry ever had. And this week became that week I just yesterday, launched my last collection of jewelry ever to my website. My have a legit email list of, I think, over 4000 women who, when I say, Hey, I've got new jewelry, they say, yes please. And the launch was way more successful than I even thought it would be. And I have already started cleaning my studio and getting rid of all of my jewelry supplies, my kilns, all of the things, moving it out. And I'm telling you, it's not sad. It is so exciting. It's so exciting to be in like going through it saying I'm giving up the good of this beautiful business that I've grown for so many years for great, for something potentially greater. And so this is the first time I feel like because I've been coaching now for a long time, and because I'm so aware of my thoughts and my emotions, and I feel like I'm I'm living so much more presently. This is the first time I'm aware that I'm giving up the good to the Great. Before, I think I did it a few times, like when I decided to focus on getting one direct customers and full price customers and giving up the wholesale I didn't really know, oh, I'm giving up something good for potential. I wasn't really aware. I didn't know anything about life coaching. Didn't know anything about my thoughts and feelings and being aware, or any of that. But this time, I'm seeing myself go through this process, and I am very hyper aware of what I am doing. I'm giving up a good business, a business that one time that, at one time was great for me, but right now I know that it's now just good, and I want to build something that is great. I've actually already built the coaching business that is great, and it is getting even greater. So here is one of the. Challenges I have had to do that. I want to talk to you about you doing. If you look at the pie of your life, all the different areas of your life and your if you think that there's one that you are good and you want to go to great, or maybe you're in pain in that area, and you want to go to great, here are some things to consider. Other people's opinions could potentially get in your way when you decide to give up the good for the great not everyone around you might agree with you. You might get actual pushback, or you might think you're getting pushback. It might come in the form of comments or looks or questions or I'm concerned or just anything like that, and that can sometimes derail us. Sometimes we have this, like innate desire to have everyone agree with our decision. And I'm telling you, if you are going to keep up leveling, and you are going to go from good to great people around you. Are going to be like, what are we doing here? Why would you do that? When I started slowly making less and less of my popular designs, the ones that were more painful for my body, and the ones I no longer wanted to do, and when I stopped doing the farmers markets, and I stopped doing this, and I stopped doing this. And this is not, was not ever. I've never had anyone be rude to me with their comments. Thankfully. You know, that's nice, but it's been a lot of, oh my god. Why would you do that? I thought things were going so well. Why aren't you making those anymore? Oh my god, they're my favorite. Oh my god, I'm so sad. And all these I'm telling you every comment was said with said with love. But I think that what can happen sometimes if you're not prepared for that, is it can make you feel like you're doing something you shouldn't be doing. Now, thankfully, this is not my first rodeo, and I am very good at coaching myself and getting coached when I need to go to one of my good friends who I have coached me sometimes I didn't have to do that because I know I'm so convicted. I'm so deep in this work of knowing that I am capable of more and that I can move to my own next level, even if no one else understands. But for a lot of people, especially if maybe you're not used to going to your next level, next, next, next, next. If you say, if you, you know, tell a bunch of people, this is what I'm going to do, and they're like, oh, my god, is that really what you want to do? Oh, I don't know. Are you a bit nervous? You might think, Well, fuck should I be nervous? It might derail you. So please know that other people's opinions might get in your way and kind of go into those conversations a little bit fists up. And when I say fists up, not to punch or fight, people always defensive. Fists up. And another suggestion would be to really decide what people matter. It matters to me more than anything, what my husband and my kids think they are the ones that matter the most. When I say this is what I'm doing, they know me on a day to day basis. They live with me on a day to day basis. They know all my hopes and dreams, and I rely on their feedback more than anything. If my husband would have been like I don't know, do you think this is a good idea? I would take pause, and I would say, let's talk about this. But what I think a lot of people do is they get those comments from other people that aren't on their very small inner circle, and it derails them, and then they end up self sabotaging because they feel like maybe they don't know, maybe it's not the right time, maybe they're silly to be doing this. Who does this? I'm hoping that more and more people women, throughout their lives, as they get into midlife and beyond, start doing things radically different, radically risky, radically empowering, doing things different to the baby they've never done before. My husband and I both in the last me long a little bit earlier than him, but we have both drastically changed our careers in midlife before most people would say it was time to do so. And it is so fun, I highly suggest it. Here is another thing that you might hear from people in terms of other people's opinions. A few people that I know that are entrepreneurs, told me that I should, quote, unquote, burn the boats. So when I decided a few years ago to become a coach, and I started my coaching business, and it was going really well, they were like, oh my god, it's going so well for you, you should burn the boats. And what that means, if you're not an entrepreneur, you might not know what that means, but it's the whole concept of you need to shut down anything that is taking focus away from where you're going, your your future goals, because it's a distraction, and you want to go all in on the future. But when you've been making a lot of money doing one thing, and then you started a new thing that you. Still figuring out the thought of burning the boats on top of the fact that being an entrepreneur and a mom can be stressful, the thought of burning the boats and not having that backup plan too early can be very stressful. So I had quite a few people tell me this, like Courtney, you should just stop doing the market. You should just stop doing the jewelry business. You should just stop then. Stop. Then you're then it's going to be you really owning that you're a coach, or it's going to mean that you are really dedicated. If you really burn the boats, meaning shut down my jewelry business a few years ago, that'll mean that you're really dedicated. If you do that, that'll mean you really believe in yourself. And I really took that guidance in, because, again, this was said with love from people who I respect. But I took that guidance in and I thought, Do I agree? Do I agree at this point? You know, maybe I was, I'm trying to think maybe three years ago I'd started my coaching business. Maybe two and a half years ago, started my coaching business. I was almost to 100 and K in my coaching business, which was amazing, but I wasn't ready to give up all the money I was making in my jewelry business. I wasn't ready for the for the mental gymnastics that that was going to take. I wasn't ready to put that pressure on my coaching business. And so some people might say, Yeah, but you're going Good to Great, but that's your opinion. So what is my opinion? And so this week, I'm so excited to say that I'm so proud that I waited because had I burned the boats, quote, unquote, a year and a half ago, or two years ago, I think it would have been a very stressful transition. I don't think I would have been mentally ready. I've had a few people say, are you so sad? I'm not sad at all. I've already cleaned out half of my garage, and I haven't even started shipping the orders from that I got from my last collection launch yesterday. I'm not sad at all. I feel very excited, very empowered. It feels so aligned. I feel so complete with the jewelry. I've given up a really good business because I know I want more. I can help more. I can do more, and I can be more, building a business that was my great business for so many years was so fun, and now I have grown in that business is has been good, and now I'm ready to create great with my coaching business. I'm ready to increase my capacity. I'm ready to put more time and energy and focus into it. And this is something that I've noticed that's come up for me. I've noticed myself explaining in depth for my reasons, for this last launch, for closing the company's called gray sea glass, I've explained over and over, and people again come at me with love. Oh, my God. What's going on, whatever. And I feel this. I have felt this need to say, well, you know, it's really hard on my body, and the profit margin isn't as high, and I'm doing really well in my coaching business, and it's getting to the point where I'm actually leaving money on the table with my coaching business because I don't have enough time, and I'm explaining over explaining, over explaining, over explaining. And finally, the other day, someone said, Oh my god, I'm just so sad. Why are you doing it? And I said, you know why I just want to and it felt so good to not have to over explain myself, to not have to do what I think I was subconsciously doing was justifying it. Because I felt like I want people to really understand me, and now I've just decided, oh no, no one needs to understand except for my husband and my kids. I'm good. I understand, and it's all because I want something different. And isn't that a beautiful thing we're allowed to say, Isn't it a beautiful isn't it a beautiful thing that I started this business that I never thought I could create. I created it, and by doing that, it blew my mind open, that I thought it's possible to actually shut this business down when I started another that's already over six figures, and that is getting bigger and bigger and bigger all the time. And this next one doesn't hurt my body. It has the ultimate flexibility, because I can coach from anywhere, and it actually helps people. And I really feel and I know that this is kind of corny, I feel like it puts positive energy into the world. The jewelry was wonderful, and so many people love it. I've had people, over the years tell me that they buried their mom in their Gracie glass necklace. So I'm telling you, the jewelry has been absolutely a lovely business. But life coaching, helping someone work through something and change their lives. There's nothing like that, having someone go from so. So much anxiety they have a hard time even functioning to not having anxiety. Amazing having someone go from feeling like they have no control over their eating to feeling in control. Amazing having someone feel like they're really like in a bad place with one of their relationships, whether it's their kid or their husband, and they now feel like they're in control of their thoughts and their their their relationships. Amazing, having someone want to start a business and feel like they don't even know where to start, and they're confused and they're having doubt all of a sudden, start making their first money and growing a business. Oh, my God, amazing, because I want to. So let me give you a few other examples of what this can look like going, letting go of the good for the great. So I was coaching one of my clients this week. She's trying to grow her business, and she's also trying to drink less, and she's also trying to lose a little weight. She's kind of doing all the things. And she kept saying, like, you know, I just need to commit. You know, the problem is, is I'm not being decisive. I'm not committed. And once I know, once I lock in, and once I get committed, I'm going to be good. And so I said to her, I go, how would you know if you were committed? And she said something so fascinating. She goes, I wouldn't be questioning myself. I wouldn't be stressed, I wouldn't be having doubt. And I said, I disagree. I just absolutely disagree. And she was like, Oh, tell me everything. I said. I said, you are going from good because everything's good right now. She said, Yeah, I go to great, and I go and it's not going to be a walk in the park, or everyone would be doing it. You think that once you're committed, that you wouldn't have any doubt, any insecurity, anything, and that's just simply not true. I feel so committed right now to this last collection to stepping away and finally putting this gray sea glass business to bed. And I have doubt, and I have a little bit of nervousness around it. I'm not sure exactly the road I'm going to take to all the places I want to get, to go with all the areas of my life, but I'm fucking committed. I am determined. This is, again, one of these things, when I explained to her, is you think that just because you're having doubt and insecurity and you are having a hard time focusing all that, that you haven't locked in, that you're not committed. No, no, no, this is just part of your up leveling. Can you actually, while you're going through it, make progress? That's the magic. Have doubt. Do the thing anyways. Feel a little insecure. Do the thing anyways. Have someone say to you, God, is that really what you want to do? And do it anyways, because you believe it is what you want to do. So let me give you another example from this week. I have another client who's working on losing weight and also being more efficient, and she's also trying to up level her whole self concept she just has, she has a lot of negative self talk, and she just, she's kind of wanting to just really think differently about who she is in her life, we're working on her capacity to be willing to feel the feelings and feel discomfort and not necessarily turn to food and alcohol. And this process is bringing up all of the insecurities and doubts as it does, and sometimes it feels like she's failing and things are going wrong, and sometimes she is failing, but sometimes even when things are going right, she feels like, I don't know, this is hard, and it's it's emotional, giving up some of your old patterns, even if there are patterns you want to give up, is painful. Any kind of change is painful because your primitive brain wants you to stay the same, especially if you're good, where you're at right now, if you're good, your primitive brain is like, Why? Why can't we just stay the same? But you have to answer that question, and that's why it's so important to know why you want what you want. And I will tell you again saying the reason I want it is just because it sounds fun is a good enough reason. I'm going to give you a few of my wants for doing this, a few of my wants, besides the fact that it hurts my body and it's more profit margins, higher and all that kind of stuff, which is true, but I'll tell you more of like the magical wants for me is I believe huge things are possible for me, and I believe the more women I can coach, and the more women that I get to listen to this podcast and follow My emails and all my YouTube, all that, the more women and people I love your husbands too, the more people I get to help. I can't tell you how many people I have told me, Oh my God, I want to work with you, because I've already lost 10 pounds just by listening to your podcast. Please help me. Yes, let's do this. Or, oh my god, I started a business, even though I was terrified, I started in the evenings because I heard you talk that you were doing that, and I've done that, and I thank you so much for the inspiration. So I know that I can help so many more people. I also want more flexibility in my life, because I want to do this for a long time. I'm not looking to close this coaching business down in 10 years. I feel like I'm just getting. Started, and there's no reason why I can't be coaching into my 90s. Will I want to? I don't know, check back with me then, but there's no reason I can't, especially if I create a business that I can do from anywhere, and a business that I love, that I actually want to do. So is there an area of your life where things are good, but you really know you're capable of great, because I know I'm capable of more. I know I'm just getting started. And what feelings are you going to have to be willing to feel in order to go to great? And I'm going to give you a few, just because, if you're new to this work, I'm going to give you a few if you are feeling like things are good, but I want to go to great. You are going to have to be willing to feel a little confused. You're going to have to be willing to feel a little doubt, a little insecure, possibly a little shame and fear. Those are the five. I think they're pretty common, but let me tell you something. The key is not, let's get over all of those and then go to our next level of great. The key is, can you start taking steps in the direction while you're feeling those? That's how we build confidence. That's how we build power. Is by saying, I'm not sure this is going to work, let's go and try it, some of the most powerful things I have ever created in my life were from a good idea and high hopes and connecting to myself and my purpose and just fucking giving it a try. Here are some thoughts I want you to take away from this podcast. I believe I'm capable of more. That's a thought you can have if you choose to have it. I believe I'm capable of more. Here's another one that I love. I believe I'm pretty fucking amazing. I love that. I feel like we should all be telling ourselves that all the time. Because if you have that thought, you will probably think if I believed I was really fucking amazing, I would go from good to great. Wanting to do something is a good enough reason. The fact that everyone else doesn't agree is okay. It's okay. I don't know exactly how this is going to turn out, and that's okay too. Here's another one. I don't know the exact path to get there, and that's okay too, because you're not going to know the path. Even if someone says this is how I did it, your path is going to be a little bit different, and that's okay. Confidence and feeling capable comes from taking action. So many people are sitting around waiting to feel confident before they do that thing that they want to do. I promise you, if you want to be confident, do the thing, even if you fall on your face, you can be proud of yourself that you did it, if you learn and evaluate and try again. So I encourage you to look at the pie of your life, all the different sections, and decide on one of the sections going from good to great. It's so fun. And here's here's another last thought for you. This is your one life in this body. Why not? Why not, especially if you already know I already gave you the emotions you're gonna have to feel. You can feel those feelings. They're just emotions, and they don't feel great at first, but if you take action, you're gonna probably have some success along the way. You're gonna probably learn and edit and evaluate and keep going, and you're going to get so much more out of that. And remember that a lot of those feelings, we are going to have those feelings either way. At the very least, you'll have guilt and regret if you don't end up trying to go to your own next great level, right? There's like pain either way. There's the there's the regret of not trying and the insecurity of trying. I'm a big fan of let's be insecure, let's have doubt, let's be a little scared, and let's try. I'd much rather do that and look back and say, God, why didn't I give it a go? I really believe at the end of our life, we're not going to look back and be mad at ourselves for going all in on ourselves, especially since with a lot of this stuff, there's really not that much risk. You want to get healthier. What's the risk? The risk is it might take you a little bit longer, because you're going to have to fall in your face a few times trying to do it. Get more movement in what's the risk? The risk isn't that bad. We're never going to look back and wish we hadn't taken that risk. We're going to look back and regret not taking it. I encourage you to go from good to great. It is so much fun. Have a great Tuesday for information on how we can work together, head to modern, body, modern. In life.com, to schedule a consultation with me. I'm currently coaching women privately, and I offer group coaching programs. I.