Redefining Pleasure and Fun

I’m talking about something that can completely change the way you approach weight loss, movement, habits, and even your mindset:

Pleasure. Fun.
Not the “vacation” kind… the kind you’re choosing on an average Tuesday.

Most women don’t associate pleasure with what it takes to reach their goals. They associate change with:

• hard
• exhausting
• restrictive
• frustrating

And that disconnect is exactly why so many women feel stuck.

✨ Why this topic matters

Here’s the truth:

On an average Tuesday, you’re choosing pleasure all day long.

And the pleasure you’re choosing might be:

• helping you build the body + life you want
   OR
• quietly keeping you stuck

The goal of this episode is to help you see those choices clearly, and learn how to redefine pleasure so your goals start feeling exciting again.

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Transcript

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Steve, welcome to modern body, modern life, the podcast for women who want to feel powerful, healthy, strong and confident, inside and out at every age. On this podcast, we talk about becoming a woman who is fully in control of her eating and movement, so weight loss, strength and energy become permanent. We also talk about something bigger, becoming the woman who takes her deepest desire seriously and goes after more in every area of her life. I'm body and life coach Courtney Gray, and I believe you can get in the best shape of your life at any age, and when you do, it becomes a catalyst for everything else, your relationships, your confidence, your joy. Because when you feel like you and your body, all of life gets better. Let's get started. Welcome to the podcast episode 116 redefining pleasure and fun. End of January is a fun time for me. I feel like sometimes at the beginning of January we're trying to, trying to kind of wrap up the the last year and work on goals for the new year. So I love the end of January, and this week has been especially fun for me, because first of all, my nephew is coming back into town, and he has been he's in the Marines, and he's been stationed in Okinawa for years, so I have not really spent a good chunk of time with him for years. I'm really excited that he is back in the States. He's going to now be in San Diego, and he's visiting us. We're having a big family barbecue this weekend. I'm really looking forward to that. In fact, he's getting together with his cousins. My twin sister and I, our kids are extremely close, and they're going to get together tonight and have a big bonfire, and I'm making a bunch of appetizers and cookies to take over there, so that is so fun. I love spoiling them, so I'm going to do that today. And this week, my modern change group started. We had our first group coaching call together, and it was wonderful. And I'm so excited to begin this journey with these women learning how to feel in control around their eating and their mindset and their movement. It is so fun for me. I'm like, excited for them, but I'm excited for me. And so let's dive in. Let's dive into redefining pleasure and fun. So what you're going to get from this podcast is just the concept and the awareness that we don't associate pleasure with what it's going to take to get the body and life we want when we think of making any kind of changes, right? We think of our goals, whatever there are. They are. We think about what it's going to take often to get there, and we're like, oh, we don't often get excited about the growth and the failure that it's going to take and the challenge and the the learning. We don't associate pleasure to it. And this is a problem. And so what I want to teach you today is how to really redefine pleasure and fun. And I have to thank one of my clients. She'll know who she is when she listens podcast. One of my clients really was the inspiration for this podcast. I had another podcast in mind, but I'm like, Ooh, I have to talk about this. So on our call this week, she told me how great she's doing in the program, and she started sharing all her different wins and all the different things she's learning and her growth and all the different moments she made better choices in the moment. And she told me at one point that she had a moment where she normally would have gone for something else, for like the chocolate or the carbs, whatever, but she said in that moment, I actually chose fruit as kind of like a treat for myself. And I was like, Yes, and I was so excited for her because she did it, and she's like, and I felt great. I felt great with that choice. I felt great after I did it, and I just everything about it was I just felt so powerful. Now, it doesn't mean that she's not eating chocolate, it doesn't mean that she's not eating chips and all those things at times, but she had a moment where normally she would have made a choice that didn't align with her goals, and instead, she made a better choice and took pleasure in it. And I even told her this. I said there was a time where if someone would have told me that as a treat they had fruit, I would have literally wanted to punch them in the throat. I would have been like, shut up. But I have gotten to the point where I do this too. Sometimes I just eat fruit because I want the fiber and I want the vitamin C, whatever. And sometimes I will choose fruit because I kind of want something sweet. I kind of maybe I'm a little hungry, and I think, oh, fruits, the better choice. And I will make that choice, and it's pleasurable, and it just also aligns with my goals. It's a beautiful thing. And what my client is doing is she is redefining pleasure for herself. She's not saying, okay, while I work with Courtney, I'm not eating any sugar, and I'm going to lose weight by eating fruit for, you know, six months. But what she's doing is she's learning how to become the woman that sometimes gets her pleasure from fruit as opposed to chocolate. And here's the beautiful thing is, when you can get yourself to make a choice like this and get pleasure from fruit, not only in that moment, are you like, oh my god, this feels really powerful. I'm really glad I'm making this choice. But then look. Pleasure continues, because then that night, you lay your head on your pillow and you're happy with your choices. Then when you step on the scale, you feel like, oh, wow, I can see the choices or ending in results that I really like. And then you also have evidence that in the future, when you have a craving, you can turn to fruit, and that's going to work out for you. So she is redefining pleasure for herself. Oftentimes, when we think of fun and pleasure, we automatically go to like vacations and hobbies. We think really big, like, Oh, what do you do for fun? We don't think on a day to day basis of what we do for fun. We think more. We think about vacations and girls trips and Hawaii and like our hobbies, like pickleball or tennis, things like that. For the sake of this podcast, for the sake of your life, I want you to think about pleasure and fun, like on a daily basis, like on an average Tuesday, on an average Tuesday, I want you to start seeing that you are choosing pleasure, and I want you to get really specific in understanding what that pleasure is that you are choosing. I want you to see it as a choice. I want you to know that there's so many different options for you that there's people all around the world living drastically different lives, take making different choices for them, and you really seeing are these everyday Tuesday pleasurable choices creating the body and life I want. So you might think to yourself, Okay, on a Tuesday, I'm going to get up and I'm going to work and I'm going to make dinner. I'm going to watch TV and I'm going to go to bed on like for a lot of people, for an average Tuesday, but you are choosing pleasure and fun throughout that average Tuesday. And is that pleasure and fun helping you, or is it hurting you? Is it moving to you towards your goals, or is it stifling you? But first we have to see it as pleasure. So when I think back to myself years ago, before I was in control of my mindset, before I was in control of my eating and my movement, and before I was really hyper aware of what I was choosing in my life, I had a lot of ways I was choosing pleasure that I was very unconscious of. And here are some of them. So I would sleep in until I had to get my kids up. That was a choice, and that was a choice I made, and that was a choice I made because it was pleasurable to me and in the moment, I really didn't think of it as a choice, and I certainly didn't think of it as a choice that brought me pleasure and fun. I would drink coffee and creamer and sugar, and I would drink a lot of it, and that was pleasurable and fun for me again. Did I realize that? No, I just was like, This is what we do. This is what most people do. This is what adulting means. I would eat Eggo waffles with peanut butter, and I would sometimes put banana and I would have, sometimes I would have two or three. No, I liked them, but did I think I am choosing this as pleasure? No, but I was, there were so many other things I could have been eating. I could have been eating an egg white omelet. I could have been intermittent fasting. I could have been having oatmeal with some flax seed. There's so many different options, but I was choosing Eggo waffles with peanut butter and banana, and I liked to tell myself that it was a healthy choice because the Eggo waffles were whole wheat, so silly, right? I would check Facebook. This was even way before Instagram. There wasn't even Instagram, and I would check Facebook, and that's when my probably like for you, is that's when my kind of obsession a little bit. I mean, I don't think a lot of people like acknowledge that they're obsessed, but I think a lot of people are obsessed with social media. And I think when we when we look at the analytics on our phone, we can see the obsession because we spend a lot of time on it. And that's when it started for me. And I remember when I think about the house we were living in, and, you know, we didn't have Facebook on our phone, but I would go into my computer and I would check and I would even wait for it to connect. I would wait for the Internet to connect and be like and I would wait for it to connect, and I would check Facebook. What's everyone doing? What's everyone saying? What are my high school friends doing? Who's having a baby that was for pleasure? Did I think, oh my gosh, I'm so excited to to like watch Facebook today and check in with Facebook. No, I just did it. I didn't see it as pleasurable, but it was. I would spend a lot of time, long ago, researching and consuming so I would spend a lot of time on Pinterest and make creating Pinterest boards with inspiration. I would listen to books on tape, or I would read books. I don't know that I really listened to pod. I don't know that podcasts were even a real thing then, and that's something I wouldn't listen to. But I would do books on tape, and I would do spend a lot of time consuming, like letting other people tell me, this is how you're supposed. To live. This is how you're supposed to do this. This is how you're supposed to do that. Now I'm gonna I got a few more to tell you, but I just want to stop and say none of this is wrong. Like there's no shame, as I'm presenting all this, even when I'm laughing about myself, like saying that I go waffles were healthy because they were whole wheat, and I would eat three of them. I'm not shaming myself. I love myself. I i I get it, but I would spend a lot of time consuming. I would be learning a lot, and I then at the end of the day, would tell myself, I didn't I wasn't having enough time to get done what I wanted to get done. I wasn't spending a lot of time creating and making I was spending a lot of time researching and having other people's advice on what to do, I would make an appetizer before dinner. A lot of nights. I thought that that was fun. I knew that my husband would walk in and go, ooh, and so he i That would be fun, that he would be excited that I was such a great wife and I was such a great cook, and so that would be fun for me. We'd have an appetizer and then we would have dinner, but I would eat a lot of that appetizer, and then I would eat a lot of the dinner, and then I would make a fun dessert. I would make some tapioca pudding, and then I would make some cookies, and I would have special chocolate sauce for the top of ice cream. And then after my kids went to bed, I would be like, Oh my god, this is so fun. The kids are now in bed, so it's time for you and I to my husband to watch TV, and we're not just gonna sit here, we're gonna eat so maybe it's another Eggo waffle, maybe it's more dessert. All that, I did not recognize any of this, really, as pleasure, except probably for the dessert. I think at the time, I knew the dessert was a pleasurable choice. I think most people in the world can think of eating dessert as pleasure, but the rest of it, I didn't think of as pleasure. I didn't think, Oh, I'm having another piece of pizza because this is pleasure. I didn't think I'm making this appetizer because this amps up the fun for the night. I was not aware of how much power I had over my habits and my schedule and my choices. I was not aware that I was choosing pleasure at every moment of my life. I was frustrated with my body. I was frustrated with my choices. I was frustrated with my lack of being able to make a plan and stick to it. I thought I didn't have enough time. I thought if my kids were a little bit older, I'd have more time to make more money. I thought I was fairly healthy, so I made a lot of excuses, like, life is meant to be lived. I'm fairly healthy. This should be good enough. Why can't I just be happy? I wanted to feel better in my body. I wanted to make more money in my jewelry business. I wanted to work out more I wanted to end the day feeling like I was in control of my day. I wanted to feel like I was in control of my life and that I was not simply being pulled along. But I had no idea how to do that. I thought I actually was excelling more than most people. So I kind of, I just felt like I can't even imagine another way I was really not aware that I was choosing pleasure throughout my day. I thought I was just living my life, but the pleasure I was choosing on these random Tuesday Wednesdays, in the little habits and the little daily choices were not helping me so step number one, I wish I would have had this podcast talk about consuming. I'm so glad you're consuming this podcast, because I wish I would have had this podcast. I think it would have blown my mind. Because here is step number one, how, if you recognize yourself in any of that here. Step number one, recognize the pleasure you are choosing. It's in your daily habits, and even if you're not going yippee, this is so pleasurable. You are getting pleasure from it. Where are you choosing to focus your time and attention? And can you see that as pleasurable? And remember, we have a primitive brain that doesn't want you to do anything new, doesn't want you to do anything hard. So even if you're doing something that doesn't feel pleasurable, I want you to recognize it as pleasure, because it's important to recognize that we are constantly seeking pleasure by avoiding pain. We are seeking pleasure by avoiding pain. Our primitive brain wants us to stay the same. Our primitive your primitive brain does not want you to change up any of your habits. Your primitive brain does not want you to recognize that on a random Tuesday all the things you are doing, even though you keep telling yourself you're going to stop doing those things, your primitive brain does not want you to realize that that is actually you giving yourself pleasure. Your primitive brain does not want you to buy into this podcast, because then you might change, and there's risk involved. You going to your next level is risky. There might be failure, there might be negative emotions that come up. You might physical. Hurt yourself or alienate people that are in your life. And so take a moment. It might be worth it to you to take a moment and pause this podcast and think about your day to day lives on an average day, and where you are choosing pleasure, and in that specific moment, ask yourself, Okay, if I wasn't choosing pleasure in this if I was actually willing to get uncomfortable, what would I choose instead in this moment? So if I look back all the way to myself and all the examples I gave you, if I would have said, Okay, Courtney, I think I really am choosing pleasure with the egg of waffles and the peanut butter and justifying and all that, that is pleasure. If I'm willing to say, Okay, this is pleasure. If I really do want to lose weight and get healthy all the things, what would be a better choice in the moment? And maybe I would have said, You know what, I'm just going to have one Eggo waffle, right? We don't need to be perfect in that moment. I could have said, I'm going to have one Eggo waffle, and maybe I'm going to have one or two cups of coffee with a little less cream and sugar because I was having like, four cups of coffee. That's a doable, but better plan than what I was doing. And part of me would have said, but that doesn't sound fun. It's more fun to have the pleasurable waffles. It's more fun to have as much coffee as I want with as much sugar. You know, it's basically a milk shop and milkshake and a cup of coffee. That's more fun. And now the work is, can it actually be pleasurable to make a healthy choice? Can it be pleasurable to eat in a new way that is aligned with your goals? And afterwards go, I'm so proud of myself. There is pleasure in that. We have to redefine that as pleasure. So can you eat a little bit better, and then right away go, I'm so glad I did that. That was really hard, and I'm so glad I did that. And then when you go to bed that night, go, Hey, I'm really glad I did that again. So then you're not only getting pleasure in that moment from being proud that you did something different. You're actually giving yourself pleasure that night. And if you start giving yourself in the moment, being willing to do the harder thing in the moment, give yourself some pleasure by being proud of yourself, and you keep doing those little actions throughout the day in the moment, even though it's less pleasure initially, you're actually getting more pleasure over time. We are so obsessed as human beings, because of our primitive brain, of giving ourselves pleasure in the moment, and all these little hits of pleasure in the moment is creating so much misery overall. So I talked to my clients about something I call pleasure swapping. And so that's what this is. It's the thought of like, okay, can I swap the pleasure around? Can I get a little bit more less pleasure in the moment by maybe, usually, what I'm putting in my mouth, and then I'm going to have more pleasure overall. And then what we can do is really redefine what pleasure means. Pleasure means doing better in the moment, being really proud of yourself as you're doing it, and then throughout the day, acknowledging that you did it and really being able to stack on more pleasurable habits. So what tends to happen again is when we think of making better decisions, creating better habits, we decide that it's not pleasurable. We look at all of these things as hard and exhausting. We look at waking up early as hard. We think about not eating quite as much as frustrating. We think about moving our body more as exhausting as scary, sometimes we think about drinking a little bit less as sad or not as fun. We don't associate pleasure with what it's going to take to get the overall pleasure in the body and life that we want. We associate any kind of eating better, getting in our best health, making better choices, as exhausting, as hard. I can't tell you how many women I've had come on consults and say, you know, one thing you've said on the podcast that I really resonate with is that this process of me losing weight and becoming a woman that lives differently can actually be fun and exciting. So I'm saying it again. If you redefine pleasure, this can be fun and exciting. There was a time when I was in college where I would work as a waitress, and I would get off at like 11 or 1130 and then I went to the bars. We would go to the bars, and we would dance until they shut the bar. What is it like 2am or whatever, and that was so much pleasure for me. That sounds like hell. Now it sounds like hell to me. Now it was so fun in the day, but that sounds like hell. I have redefined pleasure for myself, and it serves me. Now that served me. Then this serves me. Now you get. Decide at any moment what you want to think as pleasurable. Can something that is new and challenging and scary be pleasurable for a lot of women, a lot of probably people in general, but I've seen this with a lot of women. Is the thought of investing in themselves, whether it's time, money, effort that sounds hard and exhausting and not pleasurable. Can investing in yourself be so much pleasure? Can it be fun when someone says, What are you up to? Can you say, I'm getting in the best goddamn shape of my life? That's what I'm up to. How fun is that? When someone says, What are you up to? You know what? It's been really hard. But I'm actually getting up an hour earlier every morning, and I'm finding it's so exciting. It's so fun for me. At first, it wasn't at first in the moment, I'm like, This is really hard. But I started right, right. Even after waking up, I started going, Okay, that was I'm up. This is so exciting, and it all comes down to the way you think about it. It all comes down to what you intentionally choose to think about it. You can wake up in the morning and say, This is exhausting. Why am I doing this? I don't want to do it. I need more sleep. I didn't sleep. Well, menopause is making this harder. Or you can wake up and go, Dude, this is hard, but I've got this. I am going to my next level. Oh, my God, Courtney, would be so proud. Please say that, because I would be so proud, right? You can sit, you can start saying, I'm going to be so glad in about 10 minutes, I'm going to be so proud of myself. So the way you talk to yourself is going to be what creates pleasure, and that's why this narrative is such a bummer, right? When we think to ourselves to get what we want is going to be so hard that's not pleasurable. The other day, I found a couch that I want to buy, like patio furniture for the patio, and it comes with white patio covers, like the pillows are white. And I'm like, well, that's not gonna work. Because even though there's no kids that live with me anymore, we have a lot of kids over at the house, my kids, other people's kids, we host a lot during the summer. I'm like, that's not gonna work. And I thought I'm going to need to get cushion covers made. And all of a sudden I had this thought, I'm like, oh my god, I really did. That was my thought, oh my god, I should learn how to sew, and I should make these cushion covers. I was like, Yes, I'm gonna do this. It'll be such a fun hobby. I've been looking for more fun hobbies to do this sounds amazing. And then when I kind of did a quick little Google on, like, how not Google YouTube on how to make cushion covers. I started watching this girl, and as I'm watching it, I'm like, Oh, that looks hard. Oh, I have no idea how to do that. Oh, okay, I'm gonna have to buy that. Oh, I don't know how to do that. It was, you don't know how to do this. You don't know how to do this. This this is going to be hard. You're going to have to learn new this is going to take time. It's probably going to be expensive. Whether you do it yourself or someone else does it. All of these thoughts came into my mind, and so I said to myself, Okay, Courtney, you need to make a decision, and you have time to think about this. You can either have someone else pay someone else to make the cushions easily, or you can decide that you're going to make the cushions. It's going to be hard, because I've never sewn. And, I mean, I think in sixth grade I learned how to sew a pillow, but my God, that that content is out of my head. And so I thought, if I do this, it is going to be hard. My primitive brain, for sure, is going to be like, Why didn't you just have your mom do them? Why didn't you just pay someone else to do them? But I am going to decide, if I decide to do the pillowcases myself, I am going to decide this is going to be hard and this is going to be amazing. I am going to create pleasure with my thoughts. I'm going to be thinking, Oh, my god, yeah, I don't know how to do any of this, but I have all the time in the world. And how fun. On the weekends, I'm going to be able to spend a few hours making pillowcases, and if I fuck one of them up, I will start again. And my mom knows how to sew. I'll ask her what to do. My niece knows how to sew. I'll ask for some advice. So it is going to be hard and it can also be very pleasurable. I'm not ready to make that decision yet, but I'll tell you, either one is going to be pleasurable, either one is going to be hard, because if I have someone make them, I'm going to have to pay so this couch is going to be more money, because I'm going to recover these shares. There's going to be some, oh, that's that's more money than I wanted to spend. Wanted to spend. There's a little bit of pain in that. And there's also a little bit of pain in me doing it for myself. So I get to choose pleasure. Either way, it's going to be pleasurable, and I'm going to spend the money with delight, not going to spend the money and go, Oh my god, things are so expensive these days. And oh my god. I'm going to spend the money with delight supporting another woman business, or I'm going to spend the money and learn a new hobby and have that be delightful, although I know there's going to be moments that are going to be frustrating. So Can something that is new and challenging and scary be pleasurable? Can something that you used to tell yourself a story is really hard and not fun, be pleasurable. So think about something that you've been wanting to achieve. When we think about this thing that you want to achieve, this change you want to make, what pleasure Have you been choosing that is keeping you from that thing? I'm going to say it again. That was a lot of words. Okay, so think about something you've wanted a change you want to make, something you want to achieve in your life, money, weight loss, strength, health, whatever. What is the pleasure that you've been choosing that's keeping you from getting it? And it might not just be one thing, it might be a few things. Is it possible that you could change your story, around that pleasure, around that habit, you have to do something different in order you to reach your goal. So like me, back in the day, if I would have said, You know what, okay, I'm getting a lot of pleasure from this coffee Eggo waffle combo, but that's not serving me. Is there a way to get pleasure in the mornings with my breakfast routine that is actually going to help me? Could I have less coffee, a little bit less creamer and sugar? Can I have one egg a waffle, little less peanut butter? Or maybe, can I have have an egg white omelet? And can, can I find pleasure in that? Now, changing your mindset is amazing, but it's not going to be like, Oh my god, this is so great. I wish Courtney would have made this podcast years ago. No, you're gonna take a bite of that new thing and go, I'm not feeling the pleasure. Courtney, right? We don't want to gaslight ourselves into believing that this is as good as the other thing, especially when it comes to gaslighting our taste buds. You kind of can't do it, but can you do it and say, You know what? I'm doing this. I'm doing it in a non perfect way. Don't get too diety. Don't get too all in. Don't literally start doing, you know, a 10 mile run every single day when you've only been, you know, running one mile, right? We need to start slow, because we want, we want to build upon our successes. But can you say, Okay, this isn't as good as what I was doing yesterday, but is it helping me towards my goals? Can I be proud of myself in this moment? Can I get used to the flavor and the the new hit on my taste buds? Could this be pleasurable? And I will tell you, it can. When I started drinking my coffee with less cream or less sugar, I started doing it slowly, slowly, slowly, slowly. And now I drink my coffee black. When I started adding less sugar to my iced tea, at first, it wasn't quite as fun, but now I love iced tea with no no sugar. So it's going to take time. But can you, in the moment say You know what? This is worth it, and give yourself the pleasure in that moment from the way you're thinking about yourself for even doing the thing. So the pleasure comes from our thoughts about what we're doing. Your primitive brain is going to tell you that none of this is a good idea right now. You're probably like, yeah, you're excited about this, but when you go to implement what you've learned on this podcast, your primitive brain is going to be like, nah, nah. You've had a hard day, Sister, this is not the time to do this. But can you do it anyways? Can you say, oh, there is my primitive brain, but I'm going to do it anyways, and I'm going to be really proud of myself. Your brain, your primitive brain, is going to say, it's not that big a deal what you just did. You're going to give up by within a few days. But can you say, No, I'm not. This time is different. This time I'm going to have fun. This time I'm going to let this new habit be the pleasure. I really want you to open up to the idea that what you know you want for yourself in any area of your life, that is the ultimate pleasure getting that is the ultimate pleasure and making your way towards that the success along the way is pleasure. It's way more pleasure than anything you could put in your mouth, any kind of excuse you can listen to by not working out and moving your body. When we start seeing ourselves achieving at a higher level, that is the ultimate pleasure, when you start seeing yourself become a different person, look at things differently and manage your mind enough to create different day to day habits on a random Tuesday that is pleasurable, going to bed earlier, eating smaller portions food, prepping, meditating, watching TV without food, sometimes eating half the amount of dessert. Sometimes. Making a powerful decision about something that you've been waiting on is pleasurable, much more pleasurable than any fucking thing you could put in your mouth. You get to choose what pleasure and fun is like, and I suggest you redefine it, because I see most people and in the world going for the pleasure in the moment that's not really pleasure. Because the pleasure in the moment is not getting us where we really want to go. It's not real pleasure. So let's redefine it. Let's redefine what real pleasure is for you, and in the moment you doing something that's a little hard to me, is the ultimate pleasure talking to yourself in a loving way is the ultimate pleasure doing what you keep telling yourself you want to do is the ultimate pleasure and seeing yourself change and grow. I mean, I think that's what life's all about. So I told you at the beginning of this podcast, I started my group this week, a modern Change Group. I'm so excited to be working with these ladies. If you have been wanting to make these changes, if you're listening to this podcast and you're like, oh my god, I really want to do this work. I work with women privately. So the step is to schedule a consultation with me. A consultation is so fun is so pleasurable. It's an hour with you and me, and you are going to, by the end of the hour, know exactly what needs to happen in order for you to make permanent changes in your life. You're going to have awarenesses you didn't have before. You're going to have insights you didn't have before. It's it's a gift to yourself. So head to modern body, modern life.com, and schedule a consultation with me. I would love to offer you one, and I hope you have a great, pleasurable and fun Tuesday for information on how we can work together. Head to modern body, modern life.com, to schedule a consultation with me. I'm currently coaching women privately, and I offer group coaching programs I.