The Feed My Health Podcast
Welcome to the Feed My Health Podcast, where we redefine what it means to thrive as a modern woman over 30.
This is your space to explore sustainable health, balanced nutrition, mindset shifts, and habits that actually fit into real life—kids, careers, and all.
Hosted by Rosalind Tapper, a high-level coach and mentor for women ready to take the lead in their own lives, each episode is packed with expert insights, practical strategies, and inspiring stories to help you feel unstoppable💫
Whether you're navigating perimenopause, balancing family and work, or simply trying to find you again, this podcast will empower you to:
✨ Build a body and mindset you’re proud of
✨ Break free from yo-yo dieting and quick fixes
✨ Balance health with the joys of life, guilt-free
It's time to make yourself a priority without sacrificing what you love. Let's do this together. 💪
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The Feed My Health Podcast
The Truth About Your Lack of Results
Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of starting and stopping your fitness journey? You're not alone. Beneath the surface-level excuses like "I'm not motivated" lie deeper, more complex barriers that keep us from showing up consistently for ourselves.
In this honest, transformative episode, we dive deep into the real reasons you might be struggling to maintain a consistent workout routine. From guilt about prioritizing yourself to perfectionism that prevents imperfect action, from decision fatigue to legitimate physical limitations—we unpack the hidden blocks holding you back. These aren't signs of laziness or lack of commitment; they're valid challenges that require thoughtful solutions.
But we don't just identify the problems. I share practical, life-changing strategies to overcome these barriers: granting yourself permission to exercise imperfectly, making it easy to win with doable workouts, starting with what your current body needs (not what worked years ago), scheduling movement as non-negotiable self-respect, and building consistency through identity rather than discipline. The most powerful realization? Confidence comes from taking action, not from waiting until you feel ready.
Whether you're starting from scratch, returning after a break, or simply trying to create more sustainable habits, this episode provides the perspective shift you need. Your body deserves movement that serves it where it is today. Your fitness journey doesn't have to look like anyone else's. And most importantly, small, consistent actions create far more powerful results than sporadic perfection. Listen now and discover how to create a fitness approach that truly works for your real life.
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Welcome back everybody to another episode of the Feed my Health podcast. Happy 1st of May hold on. What day are we on? Let me think about this logically it's the 2nd of June. Happy beginning of June. I hope you've all had a fabulous start to your year and you're excited to head into the summer months.
Speaker 1:If you're not quite where you want to be physically, then this episode is really going to help challenge some of the beliefs that you probably hold and that are evidently holding you back. So strap in and let's go for it. So if you've ever felt like you should be doing more, should be exercising more, should be working out more, but somehow it never actually happens or you start and you stop over and over again, then this episode is going to be for you. And even if you are somebody that you know works out consistently every single week, you know exactly what you're doing. You're following a structured program. I'm not going to lie to you and tell you that this episode isn't for you, because at some point it still will be, and it's probably for somebody in your life right now. So you definitely should be sharing this with people, because you can pay this forward right. You can offer them something that you know could ultimately change their life. Just a few perspective shifts can actually change a lot of people's lives, and so you have that power. So use your power to your advantage.
Speaker 1:I am somebody who never used to work out consistently. I would try things, here and there I'd dabble in things. Then I started working out very, very consistently, but I was doing the wrong kind of things. I was basically going for it, never seeing any changes, and evidently burnt out from that. Then I started dabbling again, trying to find that magic pill, that thing that really, really worked for me, and when I did find it, I was very, very consistent with it, and I think it's very, very important that, whatever you do A you're getting a result from it, but B you can be consistent with it. We'll talk about enjoyability later on in this episode.
Speaker 1:But even if you find something that you absolutely enjoy and that you can be consistent with, there could potentially be a time in your life just like has happened for me where you can stop that consistency for various reasons, because your life is not actually linear. You go through different seasons and phases in your life and it's important that you learn to adapt and you don't see those changes as challenges that you then sack in everything that you've been working for or that you believe in. I see lots and lots of women. Maybe they get a new job, or they get a promotion, or their work life situation shifts, maybe they have to care for their relatives or anything like. Imagine any scenario that maybe you've experienced or you're finding your friends are experiencing, and what's then happening is they're unable to learn how to pivot, or unable to know how to pivot to still do all of the things that they want to do in their lives, and that's a real big challenge.
Speaker 1:And so this episode, I really want to challenge a lot of your beliefs around exercise and working out and being consistent, but also also show you that you know your life is your life, regardless of what's going on, and we need to learn how to pivot and adjust and be resilient. And when you can do all of those things, you're still able to show up as the person you want to be, regardless of what's going on in your world and to different levels. Totally fine, okay, so let's go into this. I want to get really, really honest about all the real reasons why you aren't working out, Not the surface level stuff, not just the I don't feel motivated nonsense, but the real, deep, true stuff that I know is sitting heavy in the back of your mind and, more importantly, I want to walk you through what to do about it. So no quick fixes, no shame. No, you know, gym bro stuff, just real, simple, practical shifts that will actually work for your life. So we're gonna get straight in.
Speaker 1:So while you're not working out here's the thing you already know that working out is good for you. We all know this. You know it's good for your joints, you know it's good for your energy, your mood, your body. You want to feel strong, you want to feel confident, but you're not doing it. And I want you to hear me when I say this. This doesn't mean that you're lazy. I hear a lot of women say to me oh, maybe I'm just lazy. It means that there is actually a block and that block is valid. We all have lots of different blocks. If you're struggling to progress in particular areas of your life, you're afraid of things, it's usually because there is a block. So that's really, really normal.
Speaker 1:Now I want to break down the most common reasons I see with my clients. So number one is guilt. You put everyone first your kids, your partner, your work, the house and you tell yourself you'll do it later. But then later never actually comes. And deep down you feel selfish that taking time for yourself is just not okay, that taking time for yourself is just not okay, even though logically you know that showing up for yourself helps everyone. And the thing is you don't realize it right now. If you're at the beginning of your journey or you haven't even started yet, it can be very, very difficult and probably not even in your mind that it's gonna help everybody else. It wasn't until I was kind of in the thick of my journey and seeing progress in how I felt and how I showed up that I realized that that was helping everybody.
Speaker 1:Number two is perfectionism. You believe that if you can't do it perfectly whether that's a full hour, the full plan, the zero interruptions, you have to wear the perfect gym outfit, you have to have the best trainers that it's not worth doing it at all. So when life evidently throws a spanner in the works, you just stop and then you've got decision fatigue. You're overwhelmed, you don't know where to start, you don't know what works. So you scroll, you save workouts on social media, you overthink it and then you end up doing nothing. And because you've done this before, you've joined something you've dropped off, you've lost trust in yourself.
Speaker 1:Number four pain and injury. So perhaps your joints hurt, your body feels sore, your body feels different, maybe you've gone through menopause or you've had a different difficult season with your health and movement now feels really, really hard and actually even scary. So the best thing for you to do is avoid it, but not because you're uncommitted, but because you don't want to make it any worse. And then number five is the all or nothing mindset. So you believe it has to be five times a week. You believe you have to be lifting super, super heavy every single time and making progress every single time. You believe that your sessions have to be lifting super, super heavy every single time and making progress every single time. You believe that your sessions have to be long. You believe that you should be seeing big results or it's not worth it. And so when you can't go all in, you think, well, I won't bother at all.
Speaker 1:Number six you are exhausted. You've been running on empty for so long that the thought of adding one more thing feels overwhelming, exhausting and impossible. And your body isn't the problem here. Your nervous system is absolutely fried, and so actually I know you're going to hate me for this, but working out, exercising, is going to really start the ball rolling to cure that. And number seven you just don't see the point. You've tried before, you've not seen results. You're scared it won't work again, and so now it feels safer not to try at all. Does any of this sound familiar to you? I bet at least one of these things hits home for you, so I want to talk about a better way. Here's what you need to do instead.
Speaker 1:The first thing I give every single woman inside Feed my Health is the permission to do things imperfectly. You don't need a plan that runs your life, you need one that fits your life. This is not about making excuses, by the way. This is not about saying, well, I've only got five minutes so I can't really work out. You've got to be true to yourself. You've got to be realistic. If you want a specific result, if you want extraordinary results, you have to start doing extraordinary things, and for you that's going to be very different to your friend down the road or your colleague. So comparing other people to your situation, it can be a really dangerous thing, but you do need to find something that fits your life. So if the current plan that you are following means that you have to show up to you know Pilates three times a week and you have to drive to the Pilates studio and then you do the session and then you come back and it's like a two hour round trip, is that causing more stress and aggro in your life or is it really fitting into your life beautifully? Is that something that you can consistently do?
Speaker 1:Number two is make it easy to win. Working out should feel like something that you can actually complete, and that's why I think it's important to have short, effective workouts If you are the kind of person that just finds it so easy to avoid doing the hard thing. Look at where the friction is. Some weeks, the friction will be different from others. Some months, I feel incredibly energized and incredibly excited to put on a really cute outfit and drive to the gym and just be in a space around people that are all gunning for the same vision, which is the best version of themselves. Sometimes I feel great about doing that. Other times, I know that I'm going to struggle to be consistent with that and so, rather than thinking, well, I just won't bother, or I will begrudgingly get in my car and begrudgingly get to the gym, I make it easier, I adapt it and that's why I have perfected the art of the home workouts Short, effective. I can do it in my PJs and I can still get amazing results. And it's so much better to be consistent at something like that than just to not do it at all. It builds momentum and that matters so much more than intensity. It matters so much more than you know the quality of the gym that you go to or any of that nonsense. That's just logistics, that's just fluff.
Speaker 1:Number three is start with what your body needs now, not what it used to need 10 years ago. A lot of people, when I speak to them, will reflect back on a time when they loved who they saw in the mirror, and they will go back to that time and try to replicate what they did. That can work for some people, but for the majority, especially for women over 40, it just doesn't work like that. It just doesn't work like that. And then you get frustrated because what used to work doesn't work anymore. Well, go figure, you aren't the same person you were 10 years ago. Your body isn't the same that it was 10 years ago. Well, you now need to start considering hormones. You need to start considering your joints. You need to start considering your energy levels, your injury history, your lifestyle now. Your lifestyle now isn't the same as it was 10 years ago. Your energy now isn't the same as it was 10 years ago. You've probably got hormonal shifts that you aren't even aware of, and then you need to build the plan around your reality, and that's what will actually work. Long term for you is learning how to. I want to try and use a funky analogy, like learning how to steer the ship in what direction it needs to go in. At the moment, if you're going back time and time again to, oh, I'm going to start Slimming, well, because it worked for me 10 years ago, you're going back to a time that no longer exists in your reality and expecting the same results.
Speaker 1:Number four is to schedule it like a non-negotiable. This is not about punishing yourself or being strict with yourself, but actually respecting yourself, respecting your body, respecting your time, respecting your future. You are not someone who comes last anymore. You are someone who follows through, even if the kids are off school, even if you know you're on holiday, you still care about your health, right? You still care about your health when your kids aren't at school. You still care about your health, right? You still care about your health when your kids aren't at school. You still care about your health when you're on holiday. So schedule it like a non-negotiable.
Speaker 1:If you are prepared to brush your teeth twice a day and not see, you know, every single day, beautifully shiny, straight, white teeth, you're doing it to maintain them. You're doing it every single day to maintain them. It's exactly the same with workouts. You do it. You do it not every day, but you need to do it consistently enough throughout the week to maintain the body that you have. And yet we're very quick to sack off a workout because we can't see a result next week. Workouts aren't about that. Workouts aren't about a quick win. They're about winning small over time, and once you kind of get that locked into your brain, everything will change for you.
Speaker 1:Number five is to build consistency through identity and not through discipline. You don't need to be more motivated. You need to become the kind of woman who works out by proving it to yourself in small, doable ways every single week, and that's really important. That's what we do inside. Feed my Health is we get confident by taking action, and action doesn't have to be an hour long workout session in a gym, in a gym environment that frightens you. It can be as simple as here's one exercise. Let's start with that, let's get you really, really good at that, and then let's move on and let's progress you. It's so important that actually, you realize that just by committing to that one exercise, you're becoming the kind of woman that you truly want to be. That makes you proud of yourself.
Speaker 1:If you're someone who keeps saying I need to get back on it or I need to do something, then this is your sign, because you don't need any more guilt. You don't need to keep guilt tripping yourself. You don't need to add more pressure to your play. You need a plan that actually works for your life and helps you feel like the version of you you want to be. And if this episode is speaking to you and you're finally ready to find something that works for you, find something that works with your hormones, your lifestyle, in your real life, then this might be the thing. It might be, might not be, but you know what you know, and I always one thing that really kind of stuck to me.
Speaker 1:I was listening to a podcast I think it was Rochelle Humes and she said something along the lines of if you know 50% of the information that you need, or if you have 50% of the information that you think you need, that's enough to make a decision. And that was actually a real game-changing statement for me, because I used to believe that I needed to know all the facts. I needed to know 100% that this was going to work for me before I even did anything. And whilst I'm busy trying to gather 100% of the details, my life was passing me by, because you're never going to know 100% of the details until you're actually doing it and you give it your chance, give it a go and you take yourself out of your comfort zone and you do things that you've never done before and you stop waiting to feel confident and you realize that taking action is what gives you confidence. You don't get confidence from sitting there trying to gather more information, trying to feel ready, trying to justify or rationalize with yourself. You gain confidence from taking that first step, and I just want to tell you a little story very quickly before we end today's episode.
Speaker 1:My husband used to work for a sports shop company back in the day when I was in my late teens, early twenties, and he was quite high up in the ranks and I think it was very comfortable for him. He knew the job very, very well and he was very good at the job. And he was quite high up in the ranks and I think it was very comfortable for him. He knew the job very, very well and he was very good at the job and he had a lot of respect from the staff. And on paper it's not like I'm in Love Island. On paper it was the perfect job for him to continue doing evermore.
Speaker 1:What I witnessed was him being in his comfort zone and I genuinely believe that if things hadn't turned out how they had turned out with that role and I won't go into details about that that he probably would still be working for that company. Now, as it turned out, he was given no choice but to find a different job and he was applying for lots and lots of different jobs that he did not have any qualifications to do. And I remember saying to him look, apply for the jobs. If you get an interview. You show up to that interview like you know exactly what you're doing, like you've done it before, Like you, you know, own the shop, basically. And that's what he did.
Speaker 1:And I think he was very unconfident in his own abilities because obviously you know he hadn't done it before. He didn't know what he was going to have to do. Yet you know he was basically going for a job that somebody else probably was more qualified to have. But if you have all the qualities of a person that can do the thing and you step into that role, can do the thing and you step into that role and then you embody that person who gets the result or does well in the role or does well in the thing, it's amazing what you will be able to achieve. And as a result of that, he's had multiple roles now, um, in lots of different companies, but roles that he is not necessarily, on paper, qualified to do, but he's flipping good at them and he's got confident from doing the thing, not from sitting there waiting to feel confident, or sitting there waiting to gather information, or sitting there waiting to get all the qualifications to be able to then apply for the job.
Speaker 1:So I want this to be kind of a lesson to you is that if you want something in your life, don't wait to feel ready, don't wait to feel confident, don't wait to feel qualified. Jump in, jump in and figure it out later. What's the worst that's going to happen, and I can guarantee as well that if you are the kind of person that is brave enough and convicted enough in what you want, to jump in, you'll make it work, guaranteed. Anyway, I'm going to leave you with that. I hope you have a wonderful, wonderful week. Brave enough and convicted enough in what you want to jump in, you'll make it work, guaranteed. Anyway, I'm going to leave you with that. I hope you have a wonderful, wonderful week. I hope you've enjoyed this episode. Please share it with your nearest and dearest. It really, really helps to get the message out to other people, and I think it's just a wonderful, wonderful thing to do for others, to support others. So, yeah, keep feeding your health guys.