The Feed My Health Podcast
Welcome to the Feed My Health Podcast, where we redefine what it means to thrive as a modern woman over 30.
This is your space to explore sustainable health, balanced nutrition, mindset shifts, and habits that actually fit into real life—kids, careers, and all.
Hosted by Rosalind Tapper, a high-level coach and mentor for women ready to take the lead in their own lives, each episode is packed with expert insights, practical strategies, and inspiring stories to help you feel unstoppable💫
Whether you're navigating perimenopause, balancing family and work, or simply trying to find you again, this podcast will empower you to:
✨ Build a body and mindset you’re proud of
✨ Break free from yo-yo dieting and quick fixes
✨ Balance health with the joys of life, guilt-free
It's time to make yourself a priority without sacrificing what you love. Let's do this together. 💪
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The Feed My Health Podcast
Why You Keep Falling Off Track - And How to Break the Cycle for Good!
Are you tired of constantly saying "I just need to get back on track" with your health? That frustrating cycle of Monday motivation followed by weekend surrender isn't happening because you lack discipline—it's happening because you're using the wrong approach entirely.
In this eye-opening episode, I break down the real reasons women over 40 stay stuck in health cycles despite their best intentions. Drawing from my own journey of being five stone overweight while juggling three young children and a business, I explain why traditional approaches to health transformation consistently fail midlife women.
The problem isn't your willpower. You demonstrate incredible discipline managing careers, families, and countless responsibilities daily. The issue lies in three critical misunderstandings about change: relying on motivation (a fleeting mood) instead of systems (reliable strategies), following plans that don't accommodate real life's chaos, and attempting to change from the outside in rather than through identity transformation.
Through client success stories, including a 57-year-old widow who lost over 35kg and completely transformed her relationship with food, I demonstrate how profound change happens when you shift your approach. You'll learn four powerful strategies that form the foundation of sustainable health change: starting with one daily promise that builds self-trust, anchoring habits to your actual reality, addressing nervous system regulation, and focusing on identity transformation before outcome goals.
The path to freedom from this cycle begins with compassion, not restriction. It starts with rebuilding trust with yourself through one small, consistent action that aligns with the person you're becoming. Join me for a free "Midlife Body Breakthrough" workshop this Wednesday at 7pm—message "workshop" on Instagram to save your seat and learn how to drop your next 10kg without stress, guilt, or quick fixes.
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Welcome back to the Feed my Health podcast. I hope you're all doing well. My name is Rosalind, if you are new around here. I'm the owner and founder of Feed my Health Online Coaching. We're flipping amazing. We really really are. Myself and the entire Feed my Health team help women over 40 who feel lost and stuck in a body that they don't recognize rebuild their self-esteem and health without any deprivation, and we do it all very holistically, so we factor in everything about you as a whole stress, sleep, hormones, lifestyle choices you name it literally everything. So, in a nutshell, that is who we are. If you are new around here today, today's episode is for you.
Speaker 1:If you have ever said, either out loud or in your head I just need to get back on track. I know that I've said that so many times in my life and I have definitely said it to myself more times than I care to admit, but we're going to dive into the cycle of this and why so many women over 40 are stuck and saying this constantly, and what typically happens is that you will do well for a few days maybe even a week actually if you're like super excited about something or you've got an occasion where you want to look great, but then life happens and we fall off track again. So if this sounds familiar, then keep listening. I hear this a lot from some incredible women and incredible women that end up joining feed my health. Incredible women I speak to on Instagram and, like I said, I used to be one of them, so it's really really, you know, really resonates deeply for me. Here's the thing the reason why you're falling off track is not because you lack discipline, it's not because you're lazy and it's definitely not because you're broken. And the reason why I want to stress this early doors is because you have to show up as a disciplined human being. In your life, you have to show up and do things that you don't want to do pretty much every day, I'm sure. So if you weren't disciplined and you did lack that kind of get up and go and you were lazy, you wouldn't get half of the stuff done that you do in your life. Today, I'm going to show you what's really keeping you stuck and how you can finally break this cycle for good. So I want to take you back a few years Before Feed my Health was born.
Speaker 1:I had three very, very young children. Life was happening all around me as it does to everybody else. And at the time I had a completely different business. Actually, I've had quite a few businesses, if I'm actually honest with you, but at the time I had a business, different business actually, I've had quite a few businesses, if I'm actually honest with you, but at the time I had a business where I taught people to sing in the evening. So I'm a trained professional singer.
Speaker 1:The thing with being an entrepreneur and I would say that this is the same for anybody who has a vision, who wants more for themselves, whether you're employed or not is that you are constantly thinking about, you're constantly looking at ideas, you're constantly juggling all of your own thoughts, plus the kids, plus how to be a good parent, plus your normal life, being a good friend, being a good family member, and it was very, very easy for me and myself, my being to be pushed bottom of that list and I didn't know how to change that. And I remember waking up most days actually, but usually on a Monday, most days waking up with all of the best intentions, intentions. Even now, in the mornings, I will feel so much more enthused to do certain things than if I was to leave it till later on in the day. That's just me learning who I am. But back in those days I would plan to eat, well, I'd plan to do a workout, whatever that looked like. But then something would come come. Something would come up, somebody would need me. A child was misbehaving that day. A child had decided they didn't want to wear the spotty shorts that school had requested they come into for a particular whatever day, and so there was a whole massive meltdown. There was always something work might run a bit later. Maybe some clients would show up, you know late for their session, and then that session would run into into the night and so I didn't get to bed. Dinner was a little bit chaotic because I needed to eat before my first students came through the door.
Speaker 1:I was constantly tired because kids like to get up in the mornings. You know, I'm, I was very, very strict, like I was very firm and had boundaries on what the children were allowed to do, you know, in terms of bedtime routines and things. So they were never allowed, never allowed, to come into our bedrooms. They, we, we went to them, essentially, um, and that worked really, really well. But but nevertheless, you know, you still, they still wake up early and you're still on your toes all the time, even if you're sitting down. You have to have your wits about you, especially with little children, because you're constantly seeing what are they doing, what they're getting into, and it's quite emotionally draining. So, like I said, I was tired a lot and I fell into the trap that so many women do, where they seek comfort in food. They seek comfort in chocolate and fatty foods and things that you think bring you joy and in the moment you think, well, it's just one meal, it's just one situation, it's just one scenario. But those scenarios build up, they add up over time and before you know it, before I knew it, I was five stone overweight.
Speaker 1:If this sounds familiar to you in any way, then please keep listening, because I really want to help to break down this cycle. I would start strong. I'd lose momentum, usually by the evening, but typically by the weekend. If I was having a good week, I would feel like I knew what to do, because I would be googling things and getting lots of information, but I would actually struggle to stay very consistent with. It Turns out, the information that I was getting was not the right information, and that's a lesson for everybody here is there's a lot of conflicting information out there and it can feel exhausting just to kind of cipher through it all and figure out what you need to not need to be doing.
Speaker 1:It's really important that you align um with the values of the said thing that you're wanting to do, and I spoke about that on a previous episode, I think it was two or three episodes back. So if you haven't have a listen to that, because that will really change the game for you, um, but you're exhausted from being on it or off it all the time, like for me, it's just it was just a constant thought in my head, a niggle all the time. I can't have this because I'm being good, I can't have that because I'm oh well, I've had that one thing, so now I'm off it again. You know, and you start to wonder if change is even possible for you, if it's even worth it, because it all just seems like such an effort. So I want to unpack why this happens, because it's not about you failing. Here's what's really going on.
Speaker 1:So the first thing is you're relying on motivation instead of systems. Motivation is a mood, it's an emotion. Systems, however, are a strategy. Motivation will get you started. Remember, it's a mood, so you'll feel motivated, but your system will keep you doing the thing. It will keep you going. So if your health relies on you being in the right mood, it won't last. I use this explanation a lot, but it's like you know, when you get married you're in a little bubble, you're really happy, you're like it's like the best thing in the world, your partner's the best thing since sliced bread. You're going to live happily ever after. But if your marriage relied on your mood, on you being in that bubble forever, it wouldn't last because that mood won't last because you're not a robot. But when it comes to motivation with regards to health, suddenly we start to expect to feel motivated and it just doesn't work. So we have to scrap this. We really have to scrap this.
Speaker 1:The second thing is that your plan doesn't work for your real life. Most programs are not built for women who are juggling jobs, kids, grandkids, hormonal shifts, emotions. And the reason why this is such a struggle now is because when you're doing something that's restrictive or unenjoyable or doesn't really fit your values, it's going to be okay to follow that when life feels somewhat okay, somewhat calm. So let's say Monday, you know you've packed your lunch the night before, you're feeling great, you've made all the great choices, but then Tuesday happens and somebody in the household gets ill, or you feel ill, or you've got this awful cold that you've got to deal with, and it's kind of ruining the day and your mood and all the rest of it. You will decide to forget all about your health because that real life situation happens and it's absolutely imperative that you learn how to look after your health whilst those things are happening, whilst the chaos is happening, whilst you are quote unquote busy, because if you can do it, then you can do it when you have a plane sailing Monday morning.
Speaker 1:But the critical thing is your plan that you're doing. The thing that you're following has to align with you and it has to work for your real life, because if your plan expects you to be perfect, you will fail by default and you will feel crap. Honestly, and when I say your plan expects perfection, what I mean by that is if you take an example of, like a shake diet, in order for that shake diet to work, you have to follow the rules. You have to follow the rules in their entirety. Therefore, you have to follow things perfectly, but it's not a realistic, sustainable method. Realistic and sustainable means you can eat this way for the rest of your life.
Speaker 1:You are not. You are not going to be wanting to eat shakes on Christmas day, are you? You're not going to want to eat shakes when it's your child's 18th birthday party and everyone is having a gorgeous buffet and a piece of birthday cake. You aren't going to want to do that. So, really, really think about, try and zoom out of what you're asking yourself to do and ask yourself, like, like, am I setting myself up to struggle with this? Okay, success will happen when your habits fit into your chaos, and everybody's version of chaos is different, and that's and that's why it's so important to have something that is personalized and tailored and works with you. It's not something that you should be trying to escape.
Speaker 1:Okay, number three is that you're trying to change from the outside in. So here's the big one. If you still see yourself as quote unquote the one who never sticks to it, you will keep proving that belief to be right. Why will you do that? Because it makes you feel comfortable that you're right. This change that you want to make will be challenging, and the only way that you will ever change in your life. It could be a small change. Maybe you've got a couple of pounds you want to lose. It could be a big change. Maybe you've got three, five, 10, 20 stone to lose.
Speaker 1:Irrespective that, change will be challenging for you and it will be hard for you, and that's normal and necessary in order for you to progress. You will never change without challenge. The two things do go together. And yet we think, oh, in order for me to feel like this is working for me, I have to love every single second, and it must never feel hard. That is delusional, absolutely categorically delusional. You're trying to make your life seem like it should be one, easy. You're sitting on a floating cloud, getting from point A to point B, and that's not what change is. That's not how change works. Anybody that's ever been successful in any area of life has become successful because they've challenged themselves. They've done something that scares them. They've done something they've never done before.
Speaker 1:But if you see yourself as the one who never sticks to things, then you will believe that until the cows come home, you will continue to prove that to yourself over and over and over and over and over again. Why? Because that belief that you're right is serving a purpose for you. It's keeping you safe. It's going well. I'm right. I told you, see. I told you you never stick to anything and you've proven it over and over again. So you're right. What's the point? It's too hard. Until you shift your identity, nothing else will ever stick.
Speaker 1:You can have the best laid plan in the world, you could have a personal chef pull up to your house. You could have a PT doing the workouts for you while you sit and eat grapes from your sofa. You could have what you may consider the best blade plans in the world, but until you shift how you see yourself, it won't matter. And that, by the way, is the number one reason why people who are doing weight loss jabs purely for weight loss nothing to do with the diabetic side of things I'm not just going to leave that one to the side. Totally different scenario right, the reason why they will put it all back on again is because they don't shift the identity of who they actually are. Big problem, okay. So what can you do instead? What do you do Like, oh okay, this is, this is great, roz, I totally get that, but what am I supposed to do about this? I need to change. I want to change. So here is what we do inside Feed my Health and what I recommend to every single woman that we coach.
Speaker 1:Okay, so one daily promise start with one daily action, something simple, something repeatable. So that's not going to be. I'm going to eat perfectly every single day this week. It's not going to be right. I'm doing five workouts this week. It's just one daily promise a walk, a great breakfast, drinking your water.
Speaker 1:Because consistency builds trust and trust builds identity and your self-esteem will absolutely skyrocket if you continue to build that trust with yourself. When you start to show up every single day as the person that does what they said they were going to do, you will build that trust, you will build that consistency, you will build your self-esteem and it will build your identity. However, if you decide right, I'm going to do three workouts this week, not going to miss one, no matter what. And then you miss one and you maybe do two or maybe you don't do any. Guess what's going to happen to your self-esteem. Guess what's going to happen to your consistency. Guess what's going to happen to your self-trust. Guess what's going to happen to your identity. You go ah yeah, see, told you you couldn't do it. You lose trust in yourself. So pick one tiny thing that is so simple and so repeatable and continue to do that, remembering what I said earlier about motivation being a mood. Continue to do it, even when life gets challenging. And that takes a whole load of other skills that I'm not going to talk about today. That is the sort of thing you would need to learn inside our program.
Speaker 1:Number two is to anchor habits to your reality. So I see a lot of routines and things like that on social media. It might be what I eat in a day, it might be my morning routine, and I think they're fantastic for inspiration and just giving you a little bit of a boost. But if you start copying them, you're expecting somebody else's routine that fits into their life to fit into your life, and it's just not how the world works. You are an individual, you have an individual family set up, you have an individual set of skills, right? So you need the routine to fit your life. Yes, you need to challenge yourself inside that routine. So I'm not saying we're making excuses here, I can't do, I'm too busy, but we need to create a routine that fits your reality. So if you work late and have kids, your habits need to honor that.
Speaker 1:So, going back to what I just said about not making excuses, by the way, if you are busy and you have very limited time in the evenings, maybe you're playing taxi for your kids, or maybe you've got lots of clubs that you like to go to, or whatever else it might be, and you want to make sure that you're eating better in the evenings. Well, there are lots of solutions to that problem. One of them could be that you batch make dinner and you have it in the freezer and you take one out in the morning and then you come home from work and you have the dinner. That could be one solution. And you might be thinking well, I hate batch cooking, but do you love the body that you're in right now? What do you hate more? Do you hate standing in the kitchen and prepping, you know, a couple of dinners so that you can eat healthily, so your kids can eat healthners, so that you can eat healthily, so your kids can eat healthily, so your husband can eat healthily, so you can save yourself time overall. Or are you gonna stay where you are? You have to choose your heart and, like I said, change isn't easy. There are going to be things that you need to do, that are required of you, that maybe you find quite challenging.
Speaker 1:I've had clients, actually, that started with us and some of the habits that were required of them, that were absolutely necessary to get them out of really chronic, dire situations. They came in thinking, oh my goodness, I can't do this because Because their self-trust was so low, their self-confidence was so low. But guess what? Some of these clients have gone on to do incredibly, incredibly brave things Get promotions in jobs they never even dreamed that were possible, get pregnant when they couldn't get pregnant for years. What else have we had? Um, do a photo shoot, you know, do a photo shoot when that probably was never even a consideration in their mind as things that they wanted to do. And all of that happened because they built consistently over time, trust with themselves and self-esteem and confidence.
Speaker 1:So what you think that you don't like, all of the things that you're saying yourself oh, I'm not going to do that because I don't like that. Those areas that you're saying that, they're typically the areas that if you pushed past that, your success would come out the other side. So that is the thing your success, your results, they happen on the other side of your discomfort. They happen on the other side of your discomfort. They happen on the other side of your panic and worry and stubbornness, if you will, to do the things that you think you don't like or that you've tried once or twice before and have just written off. Fourth thing. Fourth thing no, where are we? Third thing there we go. Address the nervous system. Third thing there we go. Address the nervous system. When we regulate, we then change.
Speaker 1:If you are constantly stressed, overwhelmed or depleted, willpower will not work. You cannot out-discipline a dysregulated nervous system Cannot. So if you are not focusing on getting a good night's sleep every single night, monday to Sunday, but you think that you can go for a run, you know, three times a week, and go to Pilates and do all this stuff anyway, you're basically stacking these things, these quite stressful things on the body good stress, but still still stress nevertheless onto a dysregulated nervous system. That's not going to serve very well and I have to admit like the thing that I found for me that helped me change the most in all areas of my life was when I got my sleep under control. My sleep is the most precious thing to me, and when I don't get sleep, for whatever reason oh my goodness me, do I know Like? Does everybody know? My food choices change? My energy levels, obviously, are down. I don't move as much as I want to.
Speaker 1:It's so important that you find a way to regulate your nervous system. Again, this is what we do inside Feed my Health. So this is why we build in small, simple, daily nervous system resets. Four identity first, not outcome first. Instead of I want to lose three stone, for example, I want you to ask yourself Instead of I want to lose three stone, for example, I want you to ask yourself who do I need to become to live in a healthy, vibrant body and then actually maintain it If you've never maintained a fat loss result for a year, two years, three years, whilst eating a good amount of food? That's the piece of the puzzle that you absolutely categorically need to learn and you need to fight. What is that phrase? Nail and tooth, nail and tooth? I don't know. You need to fight very hard to get to that position where you can actually learn that, because that is a skill. It's a skill that is absolutely imperative if you want a great quality of life, food, freedom, all the rest of it so important. But, going back to what I was saying, you need to ask yourself who do I need to become? And then the actions, behaviors, habits of that person fall into place very, very easily and you're no longer battling with yourself to do the thing, it no longer feels like a chore, because it actually matches up with the person you want to be, and that's an incredible thing.
Speaker 1:So I want to tell you a little bit of a story about a client. When she joined, she had lost her husband and she said this is the time I have to do something. And she spent all of her adult life being the bigger girl, being the chubby one, being the funny one, being the confident one, but always the bigger girl. Food was how she relaxed, how she, she enjoyed, how she socialized, everything it was comfort, wine was involved, gin was involved, and she never, ever thought that anything would ever be any different. Because if you spent I mean she was 57 when she joined feed my health, um, she's now 60. If you imagine, you've spent that many years of your life identifying as this person and having a routine that involves coming home, sitting on the sofa eating food, drinking gin. It's going to be very, very challenging to think that anything could ever be any different. But if we fast forward to now, she she is oh my goodness, she is absolutely transformed herself.
Speaker 1:So, off the top of my head, she was over 100 kilograms when she joined. She's now just above 65 kilograms. Right, that's an incredible amount of weight to lose. But what's even better about this is that she is more confident than ever before. She's eating food that she loves, as a self-proclaimed foodie. She's wearing clothes she never thought she could wear. She's wearing shorts on holiday. She's wearing bikinis on holiday.
Speaker 1:Food is no longer a crutch. It's no longer something that brings her her all her joy and all her comfort, because she's learned to block out that kind of food noise. In fact, it's not even blocked out. It's gone away, because actually, she ate the food that she loved whilst losing that weight, and she learned what foods nourish her, what makes, makes her feel great. And it's not just about food. It's because her identity has now changed. She no longer sees herself as the bigger girl. She's now this incredible woman who has transformed her life massively, improved her health. I mean, can you imagine the health implications of being over 100 kilograms and what that's done to have lost all of that weight An absolutely incredible thing.
Speaker 1:And you have to change your identity in order to get a result like that, and it doesn't always happen straight away. This identity shift doesn't happen. Let's just say, for example, you have a call with me. I'm not expecting your identity to have changed before you have this call with me, but what needs to happen is that you are open to it, and if you're open to it, the world is literally your oyster.
Speaker 1:So, closing thoughts, if you've been stuck in this cycle of the all or nothing, the I'll start Monday of guilt of shame, of starting over, thinking that you should know better, I want you to know that there is a way out, but it has to start with this. You need to stop blaming yourself. You need to try to earn your worth through your behaviors as opposed to through trying to be perfect. You need to start choosing one thing that builds the identity of the woman that you are becoming. Does that all make sense? I hope it does Now, very, very last minute. But special announcement is that on Wednesday, this Wednesday, so if you're listening to it on the day this came out, which is Monday, the what date is it? I should know this off the top of my head Monday, the 9th of June 2025.
Speaker 1:I am going to be running a free workshop on Wednesday at 7pm, and it is called the Midlife Body Breakthrough. In this workshop, I am going to teach you how you can drop your next 10 kg without stress, without guilt, without quick fixes. We're going to be diving into all things nutrition, training, mindset. We're going to cover as much as we possibly can in that hour and I would love for you to join me if you are open to learning something. Okay, feed my health is a very science backed process. We meet you exactly where you are and we create personalized tools to get you where you want to be, and I'm going to teach you, on this workshop, a little bit of an insight into how we do things and how you can immediately start to see some results of your own, which is very, very exciting.
Speaker 1:So if you would like to join, send me a message on instagram with the word workshop and I will send you the link for you to register and save your seat. Um, I will be taking people. As long as we have capacity, I'll be taking people through to save their seat right up until the last minute on the Wednesday, but please do make sure you get a rig along. And so, yeah, I hope you enjoy this episode. If you feel that it's benefited you, then it will definitely benefit somebody in your life as well, somebody that you love and care about. So please share it with them and, if you can, if you're a new listener and you've enjoyed this, please leave a review on Spotify. I I would be eternally grateful and remember the most important thing that I want you to remember from all of this is to keep feeding your health.